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I'm a 17 year old female. I didn't have my first boyfriend until earlier this year...first kiss, first many things (still a virgin though). I was a late bloomer. There's nothing wrong with me, I was just very shy and wasn't LOOKING for a boyfriend. I'm now single again, and interested in finding someone else. I'm not NECESSARILY looking for a new relationship, though. I'm perfectly happy just hanging out and making out, basically. :] But whatever happens, happens.
I've been interested in this guy I work with, "David", for about a month and a half. He was obviously interested in me even before he met me because he asked people about me, trying to find out what he could, and talking about being interested in getting to know me. When I started working we flirted and hung out, nothing big. Then he told a friend of ours that he likes me, but he's not ready to be in a relationship right now. Well, I'm cool with just getting to know him, but he has a little trouble calling me back when he says he's going to. I don't know whether he's no longer interested or what his deal is, but it pisses me off and I'm done trying so hard so early. I'm putting too much of an effort and he's not even trying, so I'm not waiting around for him if he doesn't even care enough to make an effort to talk to me.
I've been on vacation for almost two weeks and have only talked to "David" a few times. He told me he was going to call me and never did TWICE. I'm not going to make a nuisance of myself, so I'm not going to call him again, but I will see him when I go back, considering I work with him.
Well while I've been gone, I've been talking to two other guys, "Sam" and "Ray", on the phone. I met them on MySpace but they live near me and I've been talking to them on the phone for a little while. They both want to hang out with me, and they both seem cool so I will. "Sam" works a lot, is very responsible and respectful but still knows how to have fun. We just talk about normal stuff on the phone and he seems really cool. The only thing is that he's a typical southern boy (rebel flags and all) and like I said, he's ALWAYS working. "Ray" is a typical guy and obviously thinks he's going to get to fool around with me. He asks me lots of personal questions and then says he doesn't want me to think he's "perverted". He's really funny and cute, but not boyfriend material at all.
I'm not looking for some serious commitment, so it's not like these guys have to be husband material or anything. I just want to hang out and have fun, so I'm going to hang out with both of them after I get home.
"David" gets jealous when other guys hit on me or are into me. It's like he's keeping me on hold until he's ready, which is not cool. I like him SO much, but the phone problems really make me second guess it all. He's the only one of the three that I could actually see myself dating, but it's just too much work. I guess I'm just asking for thoughts on all of this. Should I hide the whole "Sam"/"Ray" thing from him or put it out in the open to show him that I'm not going to wait around for him? Also, should I let him know I was pissed about him saying he was going to do something and then not doing it TWICE or should I act like nothing ever happened? Should I play hard to get or still try to hang out with him and be the only one trying at all?
I just want opinions on my situation and what YOU would do.
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Kinda long there lol. I have a boyfriend currently, love him with all my heart and he loves me just as much, but he sometimes forgets to call me when he tells me he is. I know for a fact almost EVERY guy forgets things like that. Us girls will be saying "oh my god i cant believe him what a jerk" but it's just a guy thing. He could be nervous or shy to call you as well.
Don't get caught up in this guy if you don't think anythings going to happen to soon. If i really liked this guy and i didn't think it was going anywhere i'd either ask him straight out if he wants to go out with me or leave it. Even if he's said hes not ready for a relationship theres always a chance he'll say yes.
These guys seem a bit..fishy to me. Frankly, you can hang out with whoever you want but if your going to hang out with 2 guys you havent met in person before bring a friend along just incase and meet in a public area.
Who you hang around is YOUR buisness. If your talking to him and you want to tell him, then go ahead. You could be at work and just causally bring it up like "i'm meeting up with these guys on the weekend what are you doing?". You and him arent an item so you dont have to tell him everything about your personal life.
If you wanted to, you could invite him along when you meet these two guys.
i think you should just relax and enjoy yourself. If hes to much effort, then dont bother! If its meant to be, it will happen.
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i think u shuld tell him
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