Hey! I'm Andrea.. my cousin has a column here, DarkChocolate794.
I've been giving advice here for a long long time. I've been through more than you'll know. I've managed to stay normal thanks to Jesus.
I'm nowhere near perfect. I'm a busy girl,so I don't have much time to get on as I used to. I'll hit you up immediately if you inbox me.
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ahhh! ok i am such a bad person!
i've been in love with the same guy for 2 years, and all along ive been trying to hack his email account to see if he has any emails from his gf's or about me or whatever! (i know! wrong wrong wronggg!) but here's the thing, his secret question was "favorite historical person" and ive been trying to guess it or years, guessing eveything from spongebob square pants to eleanor roosevelt, and then while doing my daily "try-to-hack-him" thing, i decided to google "favorite historcal person" and the first thing that came up was "Jesus" and im a christian (who sins a lot, even though i try not to..) but he's not, so i was like "pssh he doesnt have that as an answer, and if he does I WILL NOT HACK HIM" and guess what? i tried it - and it worked! and i wont to go in and read his emails so bad! but i did say i wouldnt do it if his answer was Jesus! I don't know WHY i did it, but i guess i feel it would be wrong doing something WROOONG using Christ's name.. so help me! i will not let go of it and just forget it! i will think about it every day, every imnute until i do it! ive considered sending him a anonymous email saying "change your secret question" so if im tempted i still cant do it.. but i want to! so badly! HELP PLEASE! maybe if you could help me find bible verses that can help in situations like these when you'r etempted to do smething bad? and just incase.. (incase i do it, like now..as soon as ive asked the question) could you help me with ohw to ask for forgiveness and maybe make sure it doesn't happen again?
help me please!! thank you! (link)
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You didnt think the answer would be Jesus and it was. No coincidence there. its God were talking about. He could've easily made it been Bob or something. He made it be Jesus to tell you something. this something is that you shouldnt hack this boy anymore. I dont know any Bible verses to show you but theres this station TBN-Trinity Brodcasting Network, and Joyce Myer said "If you want to do something that you feel you may regret later, dont do it. you'll never regret not doing, but you will regret doing" thats all i know to tell you
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Is it appropriate for my 12 year old 7th grade sister to wear a little makeup for when she cheerleads at football games. If so, what kind? (link)
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of course its fine. foundation, neutral eyshadow colors, sheer lipglosses and little mascara is all she'll really ever need. if you dont like mascara just get an eyelash curler. makes natural lashes look real pretty. if she ever wants to try eyeliner it has to be a black brown, and pencil, because liquid is way to dramatic, and pencil is light when used correctly. no need for blush or lipliner, or bold colors.
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Hi. Im f/13. I am 5'7". I weigh 103. Do i need to gain? lose? are there charts that you can show me with healthy weights for girls my age? what signs (other than your lbs, coz bone size and stuff differs) show you are under or over weight? thank you. (link)
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well imma bout ur age and ur height and i weigh about 40 pounds more than you. i am still a normal weight. your underweight for your height, so you need to gain about 20 pounds. 25 to be safe. there is no such thing as a healthy weight for your age, because people are different heights. safe thing is to not be too close to 100 pounds, and not be too close to 200 pounds either. there is not much bone difference. there is no such thing as being big boned, because were the same height, and i can guarrentee our bones are the same weight and thickness. I just have more fat than you.
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i sent a message to someone by accident. is there a way to delete it before they can read it? thankss (link)
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nope. just say sorry i guess
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Ok This Guy At My School Asked Me Out About 2 Weeks Ago And He Said He Loved Me And Would Never Break Up With Me That If We Were Gonna Break Up I Would Have To Do It. Well He Broke Up With Me A Couple Days Ago And I Really Want Him Back. But I Tried Asking Him Why He Broke Up With Me And He Said He Couldn't Tell Me So Wat Should I Do ??? (link)
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He's messed up. you shouldnt want him back. why? because he lied to you. he doesnt love you because he would tell you if he did. you should ask him why he broke up with you again and if he says he cant tell me, bring up what he said when he asked you out. use the guilt trip "if you loved me you would tell me" if you have to. if he wont tell after that forget about him. he might be cheating on you, or his good friend likes you and hes handing you over. he doesnt seem worth it to me though
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I found an absolutely disgusting website, www.truechristian.com. Among other things, it says that women are unclean and should be shut away during their period, that if a girl is raped it is her fault for not screaming loud enough but she can be saved if she marries her rapist. It also says the n word several times. I have nothing against christians but this website is horrifying, in fact I'm sure real christians would agree with me. How do I get this website shut down or deleted? I mean, even the kids page is awful: http://truechristian.com/kidzlot1.html I can't find the name of the host anywhere, so I don't know who to contact. (link)
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dont worry i totally agree with you on this. i have no clue how to shut it down. dont worry though. if the owners dont take it down themselves, they probably go to hell. God will bring them down.
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how do you let a boy know you like him? (link)
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You have your friend go tell him, or while talking to him you can tell him, but not in a freakishly serious way because if he doesnt like you back it will be sooo humiliating. like if ur paying him a compliment like, ha your too funny, be like ha your too funny thats why i like ya so much. something like that. id just have a friend go tell him
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last year i had sex with my boyfriend and i lost my virginity, im not allowes to do this. my parents would kill me if they knew that i lost it please help me how can i do the revirginatio surgery i would like to know the price, how long does it take? how much is it ? and i would like to have lots of info. about the surgery
thank u
please help mee (link)
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I have no clue what your talking about. All I know is you dont need it because your hymen can break for many reasons. no need to cover it up. it can break while exersizing tampons horesback riding and you can be born without one. it will probably cost alot. dont do it. your parents dont need to no unless r pregnant.
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OK me and my friend have told eachother everything,
and secrets? never told to anyone.
So one day she asks me, Can I tell you a secret and I'm like sure, and she's like you cant tell anyone.
But one her other friends gave her two ciggartes! and I asked her "Are you gonna use it?" and she's like I dont know. But you have to do it with me. she said and I didnt say anything. I dont know. Shes like so will you and i said SURE!! why! I DONT KNOW! I was stupid! b/c Im not the type of person who stands up for hreself very often. I mean its just a ciggeret. it wouldent hurt me to have just one? would it?? (link)
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uhh ya it will hurt u. say buhbye to 11 minutes of your life. its that bad for you.
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hi,14/mif it helps. well yesterday my friend accidently told me that she liked this guy that she used to go out with. the thing is, he treated her really bad, as in cheating, and makin her cry. and after that i never really liked him much, until a lesson we were made to work together. and we were kind of talking and then a couple days later(yesterday) she tells me that she likes him again. the thing is, im just so frustrated about the fact that she still likes him after how he treated her. Im really angry at her, even though i know she cant help her feeling. what do i do? (link)
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her feelings arent about you, so you shouldnt and dont have reason to be mad at her and you know that. You need to talk to her and ask her why she likes him again, and tell her to rethink everything about him. she shouldnt make a move on him so you should tell her that. if he ever becomes interested in her and says anything about it to you tell him to straighten out his attitude before he does anything to her cuz shes not going to put up with any crap from him.
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PLEASE HELP IS NEEDED AS SOON AS POSSIBLE.
14/f- lives with mom, aunt, grandma, grandpa, dog.
today i went over to celebrate my 2 month anni with my boyfriend. we were going to go swimming and then out to dinner at the mexican resturant guatalajara. my mom dropped me off about 11am. about 2pm we get a phone call at his house saying that my grandpa was mad and wanted me home at 5:30. i asked if i could stay later so we could eat dinner. he said flat out no and that he was going to pick me up right away. i was lke then can you wait til 5:30. he said no. my mom came to pick me up from his house in tears. he had pushed her out the door to pick me up. once we got home, we yelled an cussed at he which led up to him hitting me, my mom, and my aunt, who had to separate me from my grandpa. he hurt my aunt and broke 2 of my mom's fingers. the reason he is so mad is cuz i was out with a boy. just that. nothing else. he yelled at me and told me to move out. like he wants me out on the street without a home.
does he have the right to hit me like that? why would he be so mad that i was out with a boy? what should i do? should i tell someone that he hit me, enough to possibly cause a bruise? what should i do? (link)
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you need to tell somebody cuz this is abuse and your grandpa needs anger management help. he has no right to hurt anyone. you need to talk to him, especially if this isnt the first time, and if it was the first time, who no's? it could happen again.
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I had my boyfriend over one day. We were watching a movie. And I can't stay still during a movie... that's not of my interest.
And besides that, my dad suddenly got into a discussion with him about speakers.
And it seemed like they're rather talk alone... So I left the room for a few minutes to go on the computer.
Later, I found out that offended my boyfriend. He wanted to hold me and when I suddenly left to go on the computer. He somewhat felt the computer was more important than him.
What I did ... was that really rude?
I apologized, but I don't know...
What else could I do?
He means everything to me.
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you werent rude. just tell him what you've told us and how you didnt mean to offend him. he wont leave you or anything so you wont lose him so honesty is the best policyy
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Is lipgloss, lipliner, eyeliner, eyeshadow, mascara, foundation, and concealer too much for a 10th grader?
I haven't seen other girls wear this much makeup.
Is this too much makeup for my age? [15]
It's not caked on or anything... I'm just wanting your opinion. (link)
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ohyah thats way to much and way too unnatural. makes people wonder how old their trying to be and why they're trying to hard, maybe for some guy who could care less. thats what i think. sorry if this applies to you though
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Much of this is an opinion question, so anybody and everybody feel free to answer, please. You don't need to know much about frogs, at all.
I am now the proud owner of two frogs. One African Clawed Frog. One African Dwarf Frog. Water frogs; not to be handled. I have determined that they are not to be put together, due to the potentially harmful claws one of them has. Right now they are each in their own aquarium. Problem is, I only have room for one aquarium, and I do not want to give the other frog up.
--What I am wondering is, if it would be alright to put them in the same aquarium WITH a thick piece of plastic separating them. I would make sure that the plastic is stuck in place and can not be moved, so the change of them getting to one another would be virtually impossible. Space would not be a problem for either of them. They would each have plenty of room.
(Here is where anybody can help:)
IF I do separate them with a thick piece of plastic, should it be clear plastic or colored? Do you think it would distress them if it were clear? Do you think they would feel like it's a whole new world infront of them that they can't explore? Or do you think it would be a GOOD idea, because they could almost have a playmate?
I guess the way for me to find out would be to obtain clear plastic and see if the clawed one attacks the glass, but even if he doesn't... will that stress either of them out? Does anybody have any clue, thoughts, opinions. I'll appreciate anything!! (link)
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i think it will be fine, but if its two males it may be a problem. two females is fine i think. a male and female is fine too in my opinion. but two males whos stronger whos weaker who could get a girl frog lol may be a problem, then i would suggest a tinted barrier. or keep them together for a day and see what happens. all i no about frogs i learned in the 1st grade..
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uhmm, what the heck? okay so my crush recently asked me if i liked carrotcake or not, and i was like "uhh, what kinda question is that, you're so random!" and he was like "no i think you can really learn alot about a person by asking that question!" SO WHAT THE HECK? is it like a trick question? is there a special answer guys expect when they ask this to a girl? or is my guy just a weirdo? (haha) so im just thinking.. instead of answering the question, i'd like to make a joke out of it, or just randomly move away from the subject instead of having to answer that question were i might get the "wrong" answer.. you know? maybe its something he's made up in his mind, like "if the girl says YES, she's the one for me, if no.,. shes not" or vice versa..
so i dont wanna ruin mu chances here (haha i know its dorky) but seriously.. can you make a joke out of this? or should i just be like "hahha, you're so random!" and not even answer.. or can i make a joke of something else he wrote in that email and not bother replying to that part at all? maybe i can comment on the fact that he's trying to get to know me.. through carrotcake. haha, he's so weird!! but seriously, what do you guys think?? (link)
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i heard from a chainmail that certain desserts you like can tell people about yourselves. it worked for me but its just chainmail..idk, maybe he knows about it. carrot cake was one of the options. some guys ask beetween to foods to know whether 2 two have the same, or good taste. maybe hes just trying to make conversation. what i think you should say though, "ive never tried it."
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whats the big deal with 60's music. my perants are always saying how that music was so much better and all the artist back then are the best and people now just lip sync and dont write thier own music and suck. same with the public. all the best ratted songs and albums and artists are old songs and artists.
i just don't know why that music is apperantly so much better, people are saying that now people don't write thier own songs or play thier own insterments or lip sync but lots of artist did the same thing like elvis and the supremes and many girl groups and the monkees and cher and it's just kindof enoying. can anyone please explain to me why that music is better or why it's more popular.
thanks
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Your parents will obviously think your music is worse than theirs. the only thing is back then everything was new. now were using those old songs to make newer songs but with curse words and people half naked. back then the original things were best, people who got signed to record deals could sing without a backup track, like they had more skill and could sing better. i wouldnt say its more popular now. think about half the people out today. most of them have been caught lipsyncing but back then it wouldnt happen. people can get signed if they have the least bit of talet now. back then you had to be really good. just the quality and originality was better then than it is now, and most people are biased to the music they listened to
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i have been hearing about bed bugs coming to the united states and it's really freaking me out.
so i want to know; how would i know i had bed bugs?? like what would it look like??
--thanks
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uno that saying "good night dont let the bedbugs bite?" its by benjamin franklin. he lived in america. there already here. common matresses now i doubt would have bedbugs, but beds back then were made of lesser materials. you would know you had bedbugs because they would bite you, and it would hurt. there are some weird creatures in pillows too, but i think bleach might kill them, and some pillows just dont get them. thats all i know
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16/f
i saw the movie the 40 year old virgin, and at the part where that blonde girl goes in the bathtub and masturbates with the bath hose thing, it made me want to try it to see what it felt like but i don't have one of those in my bathtub. so i tried doing it with an empty bathtub and letting the water run normally out and it was the most arousing feeling i have ever felt. however, i have done this a few times now, and my stomach feels bigger. is it possible that the water entered my body and cannot come out? please help, i'm scared! (link)
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No thats definetly not what happend. water thats naturally not there will come out. i have no clue why your stomach feels better
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last christmas my mom got me a gift certificate for a pedicure. i haven't used it yet because i have 2 huge warts on my middle toe and i'm embarrassed to have a pedicurist trying to paint around it...my mom signed me up for my pedicure this tuesday. i told her i was embarrassed and she told me that people who do pedicures have seen everything, and that i shouldn't be embarrassed. i know she's right about them seeing everything, but i'm sure they will still be grossed out. any words of wisdom??? (link)
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uhh...Good luck??
haha no. when I got a peducure for whatever reason I had so much crap under my toenails and the guy took it out and looked at me funny so im just like "man do your job" then he continued doing my nails. fricken male manicurists... but your moms definetly rite. they've seen fungus stinky, dirty feet, and theres not much you can do about warts so just go and if you get any crap about them dont tip them, and tell them to do their job.
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Hey!
Im 14/f
I have this prolem where people keep pointing out that i have rather large boobs. It is really embarassing and it makes me feel very uncomfortable. I am a 34B.
So i guess i want to know if there is any way to appear smaller or make my breats less noticeable.
I wear a lot of polos and dont really like very baggy clothes.
Thanks so much! (link)
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Don't wear padded bras. otherwise theres nothing you can do. its pretty useless to hide them when they arent really large and 5000000 other girls would kill for a big chest
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