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OMG GOOD CHRISTIANS HELP ME! = moral decision
ahhh! ok i am such a bad person!
i've been in love with the same guy for 2 years, and all along ive been trying to hack his email account to see if he has any emails from his gf's or about me or whatever! (i know! wrong wrong wronggg!) but here's the thing, his secret question was "favorite historical person" and ive been trying to guess it or years, guessing eveything from spongebob square pants to eleanor roosevelt, and then while doing my daily "try-to-hack-him" thing, i decided to google "favorite historcal person" and the first thing that came up was "Jesus" and im a christian (who sins a lot, even though i try not to..) but he's not, so i was like "pssh he doesnt have that as an answer, and if he does I WILL NOT HACK HIM" and guess what? i tried it - and it worked! and i wont to go in and read his emails so bad! but i did say i wouldnt do it if his answer was Jesus! I don't know WHY i did it, but i guess i feel it would be wrong doing something WROOONG using Christ's name.. so help me! i will not let go of it and just forget it! i will think about it every day, every imnute until i do it! ive considered sending him a anonymous email saying "change your secret question" so if im tempted i still cant do it.. but i want to! so badly! HELP PLEASE! maybe if you could help me find bible verses that can help in situations like these when you'r etempted to do smething bad? and just incase.. (incase i do it, like now..as soon as ive asked the question) could you help me with ohw to ask for forgiveness and maybe make sure it doesn't happen again?
help me please!! thank you!
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You need to tell him. If you loved him, you'd trust him and not feel the need to hack him. Relationships cannot succeed without honesty, trust, and effective communication. By hacking him and then keeping it a secret, you have destroyed all three elements and are on a path to destroy your relationship. If you love him, respect him enough to be honest.
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You didnt think the answer would be Jesus and it was. No coincidence there. its God were talking about. He could've easily made it been Bob or something. He made it be Jesus to tell you something. this something is that you shouldnt hack this boy anymore. I dont know any Bible verses to show you but theres this station TBN-Trinity Brodcasting Network, and Joyce Myer said "If you want to do something that you feel you may regret later, dont do it. you'll never regret not doing, but you will regret doing" thats all i know to tell you
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The internet really brings out the worst in us, huh? ;)
If the answer wasn't Jesus would you have continued trying to figure out what it was? By your question, it seems like you would have. If you really did consider what you were doing as wrong, you wouldn't have said well "if" it's Jesus I'll stop and "if" it's not then I won't. You should have decided not to continue at all. So, all that said, this isn't a moral decision now, it was always a moral decision. You already made the mistake of doing something wrong. It's not wrong now that Jesus has come up. It was wrong from the start. The Jesus thing just helped you realize that.
A lot of people in your position would have done the same thing. I'm not going to sit here and say that I've never tried to hack into someone else's e-mail account. It's actually kind of fun. Try not to overthink sins and religion. Everybody sins. You're not going to and should not expect to live your life without sinning. We're not judged by God by how many sins we commit or why we commit them. We're not even judged by whether we can ask for forgiveness or not. All we are judged by is whether or not we believe in Jesus. I'm not saying that this means you should, or are warranted in being a bad person. You'll live a very unhappy life if you are. There will be a lot of pain and guilt. Trying to please God, letting Him help you with your problems, and asking Him to forgive you for your sins will make you a happier person. Sinning usually feels good at the time, but afterwards it never does. Nowhere though, does it say that you can't sin and that if you do, you're going to hell.
Now, back to your actual issue. Is hacking in wrong? Yes. Should you do it? Of course not. What are you going to get out of it if you do? Probably just sadness. You're going to be reading a bunch of e-mails about how he loves somebody else. Do you really think he's going to e-mail someone and talk about you? Not very likely is it? Things that he says to you that may make it seem that he likes you are probably just perceived that way because you like him and you're looking for them. Hoping and wishing doesn't make anything happen. Trust me, I've looked at other people's e-mails and it usually just upsets me and makes me feel very guilty.
My advice would be to send him the anonymous e-mail telling him to change his question. That will take away the temptation and will probably make you feel very good even if you are a little disappointed. You can find so much more out by talking to him. You can't tell how someone really feels by reading something they wrote. It's hard to detect sarcasm or lies in an e-mail. That's just my advice though. Look at the answers given to you on this site for guidance, but also ask someone that can really help you with this: God. Good luck. :)
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Right, I'm not a Christian at all but I have a little bible and in the front it didn't have any sugestions for temptation like this, but I found this it recomended on a page for self control:
"Blessed is the man who persevres under trial, because when he has stood the test, he will recieve the crown of life that God has promised to those who love him.
When tempted, no-one should say, "God is tempting me." For God cannot be tempted by evil, nor does he tempt anyone, but each one is tempted when, by his own evil desires, he is dragged away and enticed"
James 1: 12-15
I'm not a Christian but I do English Litriture and got an A grade at GCSE in RE(religous education) so this is what I make of that. God is not tempting you, your own evil desires inside you are tempting you (in this case you gave into them and tried to find out his password).
However that doesn't mean you have to give in to them anymore. Do the right thing and God will love you for standing "the test"
I know that doesn't tell you much about what to do, but as a Christian I think you can see it tells you to do the right thing and not to give in to your temptations, and you will get into heaven.
In this case does your bf need to know? I'd say thats for you to decide but you definatly shouldn't go on his emails because you have to withstand the temptation so you can become a better Christian, then you "will recieve the crown of life."
I hope that actually helped, it gives you a bible perspective on temptation even if it doesn't tell you excactly wot do to. I can give you my personal opioion if you like but as you asked for bible quotes I've done my best, I hope it helps!
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The devil tempts you with so many things.. He doesn't know what you are thinking but if he tempts you with little things and you go and do it then he knows your weakness. you need to stay strong.with every temptation god provides a way out. pray..and know that doing the right thing is plesaing to god
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Once you've done it, you've done it. There's no going back and changing it, but you can fix it.
The best thing to do is just ask for forgiveness and go on with life. Make a promise that you won't do it again, and don't do it. Ever.
Go ahead and send him an e-mail telling him what you did, or that he should change it [however you want] and if he wants to he can.
If this is the worst thing you've ever done or do then consider yourself lucky!
=] Evy
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