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does anyone know where to find information on how many countries modeled their government/constitution after the US?
thanks so much!
and also: if anyone has any reasons why they think the US government is exceptional (that's what i have to write my paper on) then that would be great too! (link)
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Well I cant help you to much but maybe this will throw some more ideas in for you to think about. Firstly I'm English stuying History and university and part of it is about the history of the US from 1800 to 1917.
One thing I have learnt that I think is significant is your bill of rights. We dont have anything like that written down in our country (the constitution isn't even written!) so no one really knows our rights, at least no in the same plain written down way you do in the states.
Also another thing is that the way your elections etc are set up seems to involve so many more people... people from all levels of society are so much more involved in poltics then they do seem to be over here (and I suspect the other "old" european powers).
Like I said not really much help to your question, but from the perspective of an outsider studying your country I hope is gives you some things to think about!
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I'm 15/f. my bestfriend is 17/m obviously haha. weve known each other for about 4 years. weve helped each other through so much like when his dad committed suicide, I was his only family, and hes my support system because ive been through a lot with anorexia/bulimia. theres a lot more too. we publicize on myspace and everything that were bestfriends. about 6 months ago it was kinda unsaid, but it was kinda obvious he liked me. but i ended up dating this other kid for like 5 months. but lately hes all i can talk about, think about, the only one i want to talk to. we text until like 12am every night and he always end with 'i love you' do you think i have feelings for him more than just bestfriends? (link)
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Do you love him? No probably not, because love is far more complicated then liking someone or not... its about getting thru things no matter what and about caring for someone no matter what happens.
Do you have feelings for him? Quite possibly. Id say if he did "kinda obvious(ly)" like you and is still texting you to that time of night then chances are he still likes you. Whether you want to pursue a relationship thou is a far bigger question, dont rush into anything and listen to what your heart says.
If your worried about your friendship etc then ask yourself this; can you really continue to have a "normal" friendship if he likes you and you like him? Maybe its worth taking the plunge and seeing if theres something more;-)
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This girl has her top friends shown. And you know how normally its like 4, 8, 12, etc. Well she has only 3 shown. And she didn't like go edit them and crap. It has the normal "Blah has 343 friends" & "View All" and stuff. I already tried to put 3 then put Tom as the 4th one, then delete him, but it didn't work...it just put someone else in his place. So ya, hahah, how did she do it? (link)
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Probably had one of her friends delete their account. I had 11 friends for a while cos someone deleted theres. Duno if that has been fixed in an update or something but it worked about 6 months ago.
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What is the difference between having you penis circumcised and uncircumcised? And why is it done? (link)
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To be circumcised means too have your foreskin cut off, in a nutshell.
The foreskin is the "extra" skin around the head of the penis. It is removed often for relgious and cosmetic reasons. For example it is comman practice among Jews too circumcise boys when they are babies. The exact reasons for this I'm not sure about this, but it is an ancient practice that they have been doing for years.
Also you will find that many women in the USA have their children circumcised just because its "the done thing." In recent years it has been in decline, but I'm sure its ranked as the most carried out cosmetic procedure in the US.
If you still confused excactly what the foreskin is (which is unstandable if you have been circumsied, or are a girl lol), or just havnt seen that many other guys penis's then just google it if your prepared too see some graphic images lol. Hope I helped.
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me and my boyfriend has safe sex. we even use a condom. but while we were doing it. the condom broke, he said it didn't break when he stuck it in me. he said it broke once he took it out. which means it broke near my vagina. and there was no cum, skeet, or semin on the condom or when the condom broke. i'm just nervous, am i pregnant? i just have to make sure. (link)
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If it broke, but there was no cum etc in the condom when it broke, you are probably safe. Chances of getting pregnent are slim, but not immpossible.
If this only happend today, I'd recommend getting a morning after pill just too be sure. Are you on the pill or anything else?
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Ok, so i play guitar regularly and i currenty have a Fender Strat. I am looking for an acoustic electric guitar to play because i play in the youth band at my church, I usually play electrick but i need a good acoustic. I need one that is a very good quality and in the price range of $200-$400 dollars. An help would be good. Thanks! :) (link)
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Dean electro-accoustics are definatly worth checking out. I got one earlier this year for £260 (so about $500 I think, but I'm sure they would do some good ones slightly cheaper) and am really happy with it.
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I plan on giving blood at my school on December 14th. I've never given blood (I only just turned 17, the age required to give). They told us to eat foods with iron and to drink lots of water so we don't pass out. I have a few phobias and two of those include needles/shots and seeing blood. I already know that if I don't pay attention to what is going on I won't be affected mentally by it, but I'm worried physically. I don't want to pass out or get sick or anything like that, so I was wondering, for those who have given blood or have worked in a setting of the such (health experts, etc.) what are some good foods to eat, beverages, anything to keep me from getting dizzy/sick, passing out, etc.
Also, if I were to pass out from it, how long would I be out? Just a few seconds? I guess it's not that big of a deal, I'm going to do it no matter what, I was just wondering.
I'd rather you not answer this if you haven't given blood before or if you're not somehow medically aware. I'm not going to get upset or something if you aren't aware - I'd just feel more comfortable with someone more experienced with this. (link)
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In my experience, the food you eat won't make great difference. I'm sure someone with more medical knowlegde would argue otherwise, but I have given blood on a full stomach, and an empty one.
I think most of the problems you will face come from your own anxieties. Eat enough so that you are confortable, if you don't want too see the needle of the blood, then don't look at it.
I will tell you this aswell, the pain is noting too worry about. The pain you do experience, is strange... You are told too squeeze and release your hand every few seconds, and so yes, while giving blood does hurt, YOU are in complete CONTROL of it, so just don't worry about it is my advice too you.
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First of all, I like guys...a lot. I have a boyfriend who I really like.
But I'm really comfortable with girls too. I mean I'll go to a club and dirty dance with girls. I have no problem with girls sitting on my lap or anything. I've kissed a few girls too, just for fun I guess, I was out partying with friends. And I'm totally okay with all of this. I guess I'm a bit bi-curious, but I'm definetly straight.
Is there a word for that? (link)
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I wouldn't even say you are bi-curious, you just sound like a straght person whos confortably with her sexuality:)
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when people talk about sex and everything they talk about four play.
My question is what is four play?
Another question is does it hurt to get fingered? (link)
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Foreplay is the bit leading upto sex. Generally it includes alot of kissing, getting naked, and touching:)
Its kinda, like warming up before sports lol, it can also include things like fingering and oral sex too.
And no fingering doesn't hurt if its done properlly. Some people will enjoy it more then others. Some people will find they love it, others that it just does nothing for them. Its one of those things you learn as you grow up and experiment with your body, buts its nothing for you too be affraid of :)
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Ok,my friend really likes this guy who used to liek her too(he still might but were not sure) anyways...then went out on a date a while back and it went well and they saw eachother all the time afterwards. he totally led her on and then when she asked him if there was gonna be something more he said he just wanted to stay friends which broke her heart. Anyways then they didnt talk much for a little while and they just started talking again and she asked him what happened with their whole situationa and he told her why he said friends instead of something more. He said he was scared or something because of his past relationship and he didnt kow what was going to ahppen but he apologized for it and everything. He is a very sweet guy and she really likes him but he likes someone else now but she wants to fight for him because she thinks there is still something there. She keeps asking me if she should fight for him or if she should just move on! what should i tell her? because i told her if you really like him thne u should fight for him but he did break your heart so maybe you should just move on. plz help.
thx! (link)
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Ok, I know these situations are not the same, but I want too tell u about something that happened too a friend a few months ago. (sorry... this gets long)
Right a year ago, he really liked this girl, but found out it he had no chance. She kind of led him on, but unintentionally. He finally got over her and was well and happy again.
6 months after this they started talking loads and hanging out, and his feelings resurfaced. This was increased by her telling me and her other friends (who are also his friends) that she did like him and "knew someone like him would be good for her." She also said she was scared too comite because of a previous failed relatonship.
Well this carried on for about a month, when she finally told me "I've decided I'm 17, I shouldn't worry about things like this and I'm gona go with the flow!" I took that too mean she would just see what happened with my mate and roll with it...
Well that night they both got a bit drunk and ended up kissing... alot. The next day they went out and it was so awkard... She told him she just wanted to be friends. It broke his heart.
This is a friend I've never seen throw a punch, or show any sign of anger. It affected him deeply, he became very angry for weeks and very emotional. Tbh I don't think hes over it yet.
So in answer to your question, tell your friend too be careful, she may find that having her heart broken a second time is 10 times worse then the first. If she likes him and has a chance then go for it, but don't lay her heart on the line again unless she is prepaird too take whatever comes her way.
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ok well i need help on what to get my boyfriend of 4 months for his birthday in a few weeks and then something for christmas.
he's not really interested in anything and i was gonna get him a picture frame with a picture of us in it but we dont have any pictures that i could do that with. soo any ideas?
i want it too be special and $50 or less please but nothing really cheap.
please help
i need as many ideas as possible.
thanks in advance.
auto 5 for answers :) (link)
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I think the picture idea is good. You can always get a good picture for it. With a gf I had a few years ago I did something similar, just pull out a digital camera and say "smile" lol.
If not are you sure he has no interests? Music? Sport? Books? I'm sure there is something.
Just not socks! No one likes socks for christmas!
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what do guys prefer a shaven or non shaven vagina? (link)
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Everyone is different. You really will not please everyone with your choices "down there." And really, you shouldn't worry too much about other people, just make sure you are happy.
However, in my experience, most guys I know would agree with me on this.
Most guys really dont care aslong as its not too "wild" so to speak. At the same time, many people don't like the completely shaven look, think 11 year olds before they hit puperty :|
Just go with what you prefer, and if you really care what other people think just keep it trimmed and tidy:)
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how easy would it be for a guy to get hard while freaking? (link)
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To be honest in my experience this really Isn't an issue.
Most of the time you find yourself dancing in this situation you are either out relaxing and drinking, or with a partner you know and are relaxed with. This max the chances of this embaressing situation less likely too happen.
I'm assume from the question you are worried about this, trust me its not as bad as you think. Just let yourself go and don't worry about stuff like that:)
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if this gets long, im sorry, but i need some good mature help and need to give some background info. my boyfriend and i have been together for one & a half years. i turned 17 a little over a month ago he is going on 18. already we get in delimmas involving money. im a waitress making $2.20 an hour + tips, which can be pretty good or really bad. grant you i have saved money up and have roughly $1500 in the bank. he makes $7ish an hour and works more than me, however has nothing saved. we both are taxed heavily. ive worked 9 months, hes worked at his current job for 7 but had a previous job where he was not taxed at all. yet he still never had money. he just got a car a week or two ago and is paying $160 every two weeks on it, plus gas and insurance and whatever he wants to buy, he has to buy it. i do the same exact thing except i dont have car payments because my mom traded one of her cars for mine. but i still pay gas and insurance etc. we both live about 15 minutes from town [coming from opposite directions] where movies, food, etc is. the thing is, in all the time weve gone out, weve HARDLY done ANYHTING. we'd sit at his house and watch tv. there has been a few times once in a blue moon that wed go out.. sometimes he'd pay "if he had the money". other times id suck it up and pay simply because of the fact that i hated just sitting around. now that hes moved farther out than he used to be, and got his car and is making payments, that situation has gotten so much worse already. hes paid biweekly, and after he pays car payments gas etc, he doesnt have much left, which i can understand, but he thinks he can put all the financial strains on me. we were going to go to a breakfast buffet one day this week, but now we arent because "he has no money". we can never go to eat or anything now unless i pay it. grant you we didnt do stuff every weekend or whatever before, it was seldom we actually went out to do stuff. he sees this situation as, i have money saved up so why cant i pay for our meals, movies, etc if i want to do something? fyi: yes it usually is me that wants to go out, he can stand just to sit at home, which is ok sometimes, but not every freaking time i see him. were very serious with each other, even talking about gettin married later on. my mom says if he cant even pay for us to go out to eat now, how will he be able to support me later in life. its not that im selfish with my money, but i agree with my mom and im kinda old fashioned. i do think the guy should pay. maybe not every single time but you know. he sees the fact that i want him to pay, or have to help support me later on as dependent on him or a gold digger. i love this boy so much, i dont know what id do without him, but this drives me crazy and i just dont know what to do. i realize he doesnt have lots of money to throw around right now, but i dont think the whole load should be put on me. any advice? =[ (link)
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Hes taking the piss.
Sorry but someone has too say it. If he is earning more then you, which if he is paid more and works more I asume he is, then how comes you still save money and he never has any?
He is being very selfish, he's spending his money on himself and then just expecting you to foot the bill after when you want to spend time with him. I'm not saying he shouldn't spend the money he works hard for, but if he is prepaird to accept yours all the time he should be willing to cough up aswell.
Its not about being old fashiond or anything like that, its comone deceny.
I don't know what advice I can really give you here. If he is quite happy just sitting around all the time, and doesn't wana motivate himself to go out now, then it might never change. Is this really the situation you wana be in for the rest of your life? Its hard too see at such a young age, especially when you have been in a relationship for so long (I know, comeing out of a 2 year relationship at the start of the year myself)... but sometimes love blinds us too the truth.
Take along hard look at where you are now, and where you wana be. Is he really the guy who will help you get there?
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i have no idea what to do. there has always been this boy who i have a history with. i've never liked anyone as much as i like him and its been like this for about a year and a half? well after hooking up [just kissing in and out of school] i told him that i liked him a lot and he really never said anything. so i gave up and moved on.
at my 16th birthday i slow danced with this guy i've always thought was really cute, and i didn't know anything about him so a mutual friend kind of hooked us up. we talked in and out of school and then we became bf and gf. we've been together for like 8 days and i'm not happy. i mean hes so sweet, my mom ADORES him, hes smart, and hes religious and kind but i don't knmow if i like him anymore. i get mad when he walks me to and from practically EVERY class and i have to make conversation. i roll my eyes when i see him. thats how bad/mean i am getting.
i like the other guy. i know i do and always have and i just want to be free to do what i want. i don't know if i should break up with him, cause i would literally crush him. i'm his first kiss & gf and all my friends would be upset because hes a sweet guy and thats what i need.
people say i should stick it out, but theres vaca break soon and only mon. and tues. there's school. i could be with the other guy at his house for the remainder of that week because thats where i want to be.
idk should i break up with him? (link)
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You can not lead your life ALWAYS trying to please other people. Sometimes your have to put yourself first, would the guy your with really be happy if he knew how unhappy you are?
He will get over it, you've gota take some risks and grab what makes you happy otherwise life will slip through your finger tips.
(that sounds a little too dramatic reading it back but the principles of it stand lol, you can't put yourself through misery just too please someone else)
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Has anyone on here ever made a fake ID? I really want one, (NOT TO DRINK...) but I don't know and I kind of want to make it myself. If anyone has here, please tell me! thanks!! (link)
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www.fake-id.co.uk
As far as I'm aware the sites listed there are legal, because they are for "novelty" purposes only (uhuh... yeah lol).
However, I think even that is ileagal in the USA, so if thats where your from, sorry but you might be out of luck, at least from those sites.
I don't know how legal these sites really are thou, so don't that my word for it, but it should be a starting point for you, and some of them do sell fake id kits.
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my boyfriend and i have been together for over year and we got so serious, when we started dating he used to make me feel really good , he sends me amazing messages and i knew i loved him but now he doesnt show me he really cares and he does alot of things that make me feel like he doesnt care, he tells me he looks at porn and i see it on his computer, i thnk he doesnt love me because he looks at porn, we have sex then y is he interested in lookin at other girls and im attractive, please tell me wat to do and if how im thinking is wrong. (link)
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You've gota understand how a guys mind works. If a guy looks at porn it DOESN'T mean he doesn't find you attractice, and it DOESN'T mean that he doesn't love you or that the sex isn't good enough.
Porn is just porn, to (most) guys its just a tool that helps them get off. Now you may say "well we have sex he shouldn't have to" but (assuming you are both teens still?) guys have different sex drives to women. When guys go into puberty they masturbate all the time, and I mean ALL the time. Anyone who tells you otherwise is a liar, or not normal.
Thats the porn thing out the way, I just wanted to make that clear that its normal and nothing to do with anything your doing.
Now about him not showing you that he cares, well it sounds like you need to have a talk about it. Try to find out wot got you into each other in the first place and rekindle it. Relationships just go stale for periods sometimes. With a bit of effort, if you loved each other like you said you did, I'm sure you can both be happy again.
Good luck:)
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well i have diz b/f right...i met him like a week ago n we barely started dating on wednesday.well i went 2 his house on thursday and he asked me to give him a hicky.the point is that i dont know how to make hickys!! can somebody please tell me how to make them. i know that you suck on the neck or wherever your gonna make it but my question is how!! plzz help! (link)
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Thats it... seriously theres nothing to it, you just suck on a part of skin for a short amount of time. It probably varies from person to person before u ask how long, I'd guess no more then 10 seconds would be need for anyone thou. Obviously thou the longer and harder you do it, the longer it lasts.
It only works on certain parts of skin to, I'm sure there is some science reason for this but I duno it. Just dive in there, you will only learn by trying, theres not really a techinqe to it.
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Hi. I'm fifteen years old and i'm a female. I've had my naval pierced for about a year now, and I have my ears pierced twice in both ears. Now however, i'm wanting to get my tongue pierced. I've been wanting it done for about 3 months now, and i've done my research. I know the positives, the negatives, and all the care needed. I've done so well with all my other piercings, and I know I can take care of my tongue if I get it pierced. The problem is, my mom won't allow it. I don't understand why? She was ok with all of my other piercings and I don't understand why this one is any different. My question is, what makes this piercing any different, and what can I say to her to make her change her mind?
Thank you all in advance. (link)
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I'd point out aswell that the navel is actually one of the hardest piercings to heal, because of where it is and all the movement it receives.
The tongue on the otherhand is one of the easiest because all the enzymes and such like in your saliva will clean the piercing and therefore its REALLY hard to get it infected PROVIDING you follow the simple cleaning intructions and go to a reputable piercer who knows what he/she is doing.
You probably already know this if you've done your research but its a good thing to point out if shes worried about it geting infected.
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OKay, so about....3 or four weeks ago i slept with a guy...at a party. We used protection, and he didnt actually...'come'
but, ive now skipped my period...its like a week late and i am really worried i am pregnant. should i give it a few more days...or should i take a test and find out?
Also, if i am pregnant...what can i do? do abortions cost money?
thank you so much for your help
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What is this? This person asked for advice not for your views on abortion or how "imature" people spell cum.
In awnser to your question I'd recomend having a test just to be sure, but as someone else has already said being stressed and such can (and does) cause your periods to be late. Chances are you aren't pregent as long as you used the protection properlly.
If you are pregnent what can you do? Well you either have the child, put it up for adoption or get an abortion, thats about all your options.
If it gets that far (I stress IF) you need to see someone from a family planning clinic and decide on the next step. And yes they can arange abortions which don't cost anything (at least here in the UK they can).
Sorry if I sound blunt and harsh but I felt no one else really gave you awnsers you were looking for and most just tried to force their views on abortion on you.
Its not "evil" to have an abortion, its a personal choice that only you can make.
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