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fight or move on?
Ok,my friend really likes this guy who used to liek her too(he still might but were not sure) anyways...then went out on a date a while back and it went well and they saw eachother all the time afterwards. he totally led her on and then when she asked him if there was gonna be something more he said he just wanted to stay friends which broke her heart. Anyways then they didnt talk much for a little while and they just started talking again and she asked him what happened with their whole situationa and he told her why he said friends instead of something more. He said he was scared or something because of his past relationship and he didnt kow what was going to ahppen but he apologized for it and everything. He is a very sweet guy and she really likes him but he likes someone else now but she wants to fight for him because she thinks there is still something there. She keeps asking me if she should fight for him or if she should just move on! what should i tell her? because i told her if you really like him thne u should fight for him but he did break your heart so maybe you should just move on. plz help.
thx!
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My answer to your question is:
Tell her not to fight for him. If he does see something in her (he should because good things come every once in a while and your friend might be that good thing)(again that is HIS choice) hopefully he won't miss it. Another reason not to fight,I am sure you both don't want him to see her this way as; A GIRL WHO IS DESPERATE even though I am sure she isn't he might think other wise. Let him come to her. Since I don't know him and he might not be like "most guys", then most likely he'll see that lack of interest and wonder what's up and come see her(especially if she avoids him completely). And if she finds someone else and he wants her tell her not to dump the other guy unless he really becomes a pain in the butt(that way they're even)(even though revenge isn't the key to everything.
Hope I could help. Ask me any other questions.If you want
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Ok, I know these situations are not the same, but I want too tell u about something that happened too a friend a few months ago. (sorry... this gets long)
Right a year ago, he really liked this girl, but found out it he had no chance. She kind of led him on, but unintentionally. He finally got over her and was well and happy again.
6 months after this they started talking loads and hanging out, and his feelings resurfaced. This was increased by her telling me and her other friends (who are also his friends) that she did like him and "knew someone like him would be good for her." She also said she was scared too comite because of a previous failed relatonship.
Well this carried on for about a month, when she finally told me "I've decided I'm 17, I shouldn't worry about things like this and I'm gona go with the flow!" I took that too mean she would just see what happened with my mate and roll with it...
Well that night they both got a bit drunk and ended up kissing... alot. The next day they went out and it was so awkard... She told him she just wanted to be friends. It broke his heart.
This is a friend I've never seen throw a punch, or show any sign of anger. It affected him deeply, he became very angry for weeks and very emotional. Tbh I don't think hes over it yet.
So in answer to your question, tell your friend too be careful, she may find that having her heart broken a second time is 10 times worse then the first. If she likes him and has a chance then go for it, but don't lay her heart on the line again unless she is prepaird too take whatever comes her way.
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i think love is something you should fight for even if it has its limits
reach for the stars and go beyond your limits<33
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if he doesnt like her. she should back off, maybe if she keeps talking the flame could respark. haa, if he likes her, fight for it.
dont make desciions for her!
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