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Hey. I don't really know where to begin. I am 15 years old and I go to this private school. In fact it is an excellent school and almost everyone goes to the top colleges afterwards. Well, I just transfered here in September for the start of 9th grade. I like the teachers (most of them anyways) and it has so many amazing things. I have learned so much and my grades are excellent. I am on the honor roll too. But, the problem is I don't like the students. I have a group of people who I hang out with at lunch. They are 2 other girls, one in 8th grade and another in 7th grade. But, I am in 9th grade you see. In addition to that I am friends with this other girl in my class who I have known for years. I don't really have many friends because I am still new and I just don't care for most of them. I used to be part of the "popular" girls, but to be frank with you, they were bitches sometimes, so I dumped them as friends. So I am also pretty quite and I keep to my self since I am not really comfortable around them.
I told my parents I wanted to switch schools. So I got excepted into this school where almost all my friends go and it is great, except the school isn't that good. And then I am applying to another, but I don't like and I don't know anyone there
So what should I do? Pick friends over academics?
Or academics over friends?
I know I am suppose to be learning and preparing for college, but shouldn't I be able to experience this with my friends? (link)
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Well, in my opinion, I really think you should spend it with your friends. Im not saying that theyre more important then your accemdemics, and imnot saying vise versa either. If you have your friends, then they provide a good environment for you to learn in, i mean honestly, do you really want to be doing great in a school, but miserable socially?
If you have your freinds, it makes it alot more fun and a positive attitude can make your grades all the more better.
I know this sounds bad, but trust me it helps.
Just dont get too obsessed with your friends that your grades drop.
Then thats a whole other problem.
Good luck and i hope u make the right choice
:)
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ok well i know its possible to be in an unhealthy relationship because the couple is like obsessed with each other but i dont think my bf and i are like that. we are best friends though and extremely comfortable with each other. we have a serious relationship that is beyond what our ages are. im 14/f and my bf is almost 16/m. we are in love and im moving soon so we are trying to make the most of our time. my mentor thinks it is a bit worrying how comfortable we are and how serious our relationship is at such a young age. and also what will i do when i move? how will i live without him? i already only see him once a week! please help...i will rate :] (link)
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Thats tough, it deppends how far your moving away. My bf and i go to a different school and we have web cams to keep in touch. I know its not the same thing as seeing each other in person, but its better then not seeing him at all right?
You guys should arrange to meet somewhere once every two weeks or something.
Hope i helped :)
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im going out with this guy jared
and hes in seventh grade and im in ninth
hes really supposed to be in eighth though.
anyway people at my old middle school are talking bad about me and seem to think im 'desperate' cuz hes not the first 7th grader ive gone out with.
But im not desperate! i actually really liked these guys and how dare them judge me. Jared and i love eachother and nobody can stop it.
we say it over the fone, IM, text, on dates.
But my 7th grade frends think its gross, cuz nobody liked him last year.
I certainly dont think its gross because hes really sweet.
I dont know why my 7th grade freinds are talking bad about us behind out backs, especially me. Im fourteen and hes thirteen. Only one year!
Why do these poeple care so much about my life anyway??!
Dont say its becuase theyre my friends because my friends wouldnt talk behind my back like that.
They USED TO be my friends.
what would you do if you were me?
By the way its not like i have no life.
ive had other bfs, who are older then me!
haha (link)
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whoah
i had the same problem
haha
who cares you guys are in love!
your other frends understand in your HS right?
i think its sweeet
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14/f
ive been best friends with this girl for 4 years. we do everything together. we are on the phone everyday and there are no boundries to what we tell each other.
we entered high school in the fall, and we both met new people and made new friendship, which was expected..but there was definitly something up between us.
then, in october i realized i had a HUGE crush on her. she already knew i was bi but she didnt know who i liked. i tired to not let her know, i knew shed get wierded out.
we grew apart, then together then apart then together and recently we got together and we got alittle tipsy. the other person there knew about my feelings for her, and warned me before that i might tell her,but i told her not to worry about it.
i dont remeber much of that night but last week the girl who i have a crush on handed me a note.
i opened it and read bascially this: im sorry but i dont want to be friends anymore.i felt like you were hitting on me when we last partied. you havent treated me very nicly lately and i just dont want to be friends.
i really dont undersatnd because she came out as bi to me awhile ago and it kinda endeed but i thought out of everyone i am friends with, she woukld understand the most.
just can someone give me some insight on what she was thinking??? (link)
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well did she TELL you she was bi?
Because if youre assuming your assumptions cant always be right, you know?
so maybe this was scaring her,maybe your coming on too strong.
That was mean of her to say that she just didnt want to be friends, instead of passing a not like that, she should have talked to you about it. Do you think you were hitting on her?
because if you were trying to then that may be a problem.
Just...talk to her, see what happens, you guys can always still be friends
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I'm in the 7th grade there this 8th grader i really like and he alway talk to me so i wanted too know should i tell him i like him or wait please and thanks (link)
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Okay, i think you should tell him how you feel. If you have a screen name, sometimes its better to talk to people online. text messages, whatever. If not, then you have to be strong, and brave and tell him you like him in school or something. because, i know from experience that if you wait, things become . . . . bad.
Just trust me on this and im sure youll do fine!
(:
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14/f
i went out with this boy for two months. lets call him richard? alright, well he was my first real actual boyfriend. and i was his first real actual girlfriend. i was his first girlfriend like ever. usualy i cant keep a bf for more than 2 weeks because i get really annoyed of them. so i found richard and he always said he loved me and that he wanted to last through highscool even though we are going to two different highschools. but he said he liked me that much.
PROBLEM:
at two months he broke up with me for my best friend. it really hurt. at first everyone kept saying he still liked me he just didnt want to go out(but he liked my best friend too). so i still like him to this day (about a month later) and i hadnt heard of him liking me. so as much as i still liked him i knew there was no chance. i mean we still talk all the time and we are good friends. but we arent dating like that..but today my best friend told me that her boyfriend (richards best friend) said that richard would go out with me if i still wanted to. and richard asked me to hang out this weekend..
what should i do? im so in love with this boy..(despite my age) and if i go back to him, i would think he would just know i would always be there..no matter what he did to me..like i was always a last resort? but i dont know if he actualy feels that way..because i guess he really likes me still?
if you were in my position what would you do? and this weekend..what would you say to him and just any advice you have on this situation ill take.
thanks soo much and i apologize for it being so long :\
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If i were you i would go out with him, have fun, but dont show any emotions toward a relationship. Be flirty be loose, but at the end of your "date" look him in the eyes and ask him if he likes you as much as you like him. Because it will only hurt you more if you guys go out again and he breaks up with you right away. If your best friend did that to you she should have talked with you about it first!
thats exactly what my bff and i would have done
so talk to her first, have a girls night out or whatever and bring it up. Good luck!!!!
xoxo
hope i helped
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ok, so there was this girl that went to my school who had cancer for the part 3 years. She was the nicest person i have ever met in my life, and always had something nice to say. She was fun and so much fun to be around. Recently (1-14-08)after going into remission 3 times, she passed away. I'm not saying that i was like best friends with this girl, because i wasn't, but i did know her. We sat together in Chemistry and always talked, and were even going to be lab partners before her cancer came back. I'm having a really hard time dealing with this loss. I just can't handle that this great person is gone and i'm never going to see her again. I cry really easily and everytime someone really bring up her death in school, or there is an announcement made about her, or they show a powerpoint on her life, i start to cry. I went to her viewing today, and just completely broke down. it was just hard to see this person who was so full of life and fun just lying there dead.
I was really just wondering if anyone could give me some advice to help me cope with this loss or anything like that. Thanks (link)
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woah it seems like youre going through a really tough time.
i had to deal with the same situatuion in third grade when my best friend died. I know shes not your BEST friend but you still have to let go of the past. and dont think of all the good times you had together, honestly, that just makes it worse. But its okay to cry. its how you express yourself. Maybe do it in the lonesome of your room would make matters, not better, but easier. its so hard to see someone you really care about and were friends with, just all of a sudden leave you like that.
talk about it with your other friends if it makes you feel comfortable. If you dont let your feelings out youll eventually explode!
good luck!!!
think happy thoughts =D
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hey 14/m i want to dress like a rockstar on a daily basis--u no like way different from most people and it still looks great--things like cool shoes, skinny jeans, etc. what do you think looks awesome that most people dont wear and will make me look like a rockstar? (link)
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okay maybe you could go for the avril/hannah look
take a trip to hot topic, get some chain necklaces and funky hair stuff
maybe a cut plaid mini with some cool leggings and a rock teeshirt?
also remember to have style while doing it =D
hope i helpedd!!!
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i have a lot of guy friends and think they all rock. four of them happen to like me, but im a senior and moving to texas to go to college so there is no point in dating you know. but what if i dont find a hot guy in texas. how do i get to meet people and be well liked. (link)
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well, do u like any one of the guys back?
Dont date just for the sake of dating
if you really like someone, then long distance (although it way be hard) can be pulled off.
How do you make new guy friends?
Be yourself and at how you did around other guys at you old school.
Eventually, some guy will realize he needs you in his life. I learned the hard way.
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13/f
okay so 3 people r in my problem.
me,w, and c
k.
me and w go to the same school but dont have n e classes together. last year she was new, i was her first friend. i only c her in the halls.
last year we were best friends this year we r struggling. me and c have always been good friends but not best friends. all of a sudden w and c start being best friends. then we all 3 r best friends. c doesn't go to our school n e more.
but lately w and c have been hanging out with each other a lot.
some times with me, mostly not.
yesterday i saw w in the hall way and asked her if she wanted to do sumthing tonight/weekend.
she said idk.
she said she would call me.
she didn't call.
i had to call her.
she still didn't know.
i asked her she had talked to c and she said yes, i said well what happened. she said that c was gonna spend the night. [now she didn't even ask if i cud come over]]
i asked if i cud come over and she said she didn\'t want me to.
she just came out and said it just like that.
is it just me or is that really mean??
she made me cry for 20 minutes which resulted to a few scratches on my arms.
(dont educate me on that^)
i mean i asked her first if she wanted to hang this weekend! not c!
i really need help cuz im bawling.
kthanksbye.
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Okay,
this is nothing to freak out about, take a deep breath (RIGHT NOW).........
Okay, now listen to me, when your freinds dont want to hang with you its not the end of the world, yes that was exremely mean what she said, but atleast she was being honest dude!
I mean, i would cry to, but of you guys dont hang out as much as a group anymore maybe they just wanted the two of them. Your probably considered their tag along (not an insult, because you probaly have a life).
But i would talk to them and ask them why they didnt want you, they camer up and said they didnt want you to come, now you be straight up and ask them!
I was sort of stuck in the same sitch when id call my neighbors when i was like 9 and id be like "wanna play?!" and they'd say "No i dont feel like it"....the truth...but mean!
Haha, so if you want this to work out.....DONT STRESS! stop cutting yourself it will only lead to more stress, and i think honestly your over reacting! Its only a sleepover!
why dont you try getting closer with them, and if they still treat you the same, ask me another question!
Im here for you, understand you and am on your side
XOXOX
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i like this guy...and im pretty sure he likes me (keyword: PRETTY sure..so not 100%) i dont know how to ask him if he likes me because its just really akward, i cant ask his friends because 1)i hardly know them, 2)they are like 99% always with him, 3) his friends would be like WTF!! and i cant get my friends to talk to him because i am sooo sure he would say no..even it it is a yes. i cant ask him myself..because that would be really akward since we get along good as friends right now, so how do i figure out?? like ,is there any signs? or something? ANY advice would be so much appreciated!
Thanks:) (link)
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Well just be the honest girl you are and tell him you like him! Theres no ther way then straight up, i know its really hard. but guess what?
Im doing it as i speak to you! Just go for it, maybe try to get to know him a little better, talk to him and find his interests if you keep him in suspense hell get the meggage you dont like him anymore and move on.
"Better get a move on or all the good ones will have gone!"
Yes thats a line from harry potter, ron weasley said that =D
Hope i helped and leme know how it goes!
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hi im allie and in 17. ok so this summer i stayed with my cousin for about a month or two. and during that time she hooked me up with her boy friends best friend so hey what could be better. he was really cute, shy at first, but then just amazing. we clicked and it worked. we really liked each other. well at least thats what i thought. well we had a fun time and when it was time for me to leave he told me he would call me or message me or something. ( just to key you in im not one of those nieve girls who falls into puppy love and let guys do whatever and are all clingy and everything) well turns out he never did so when i went back down there liek 3 months later, we hung out and once again we clicked and had a great time. but then i went back a month later and he came over to my cousins house one night and i was all excited to see him. turns out it was an akward night for me. he was flirting with my cousin!! and she of course was just ignoring it and talkin with him like usual but i just kinda stood there. i tried to have a convo with him but he was just interested in talking to her. i was honeslty crushed. i realllly like him. im going back for xmas break and i really wanna see him but idk if he wants to see me. like we'll hang out but i kinda want more than that. i REALLY like him. what do i do? (link)
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Wow, tough sitch. I would just say to talk to him. tell him how you feel about flirting with his best friends girl. Text him if easier. Then talk on the phone. But this is hard he showed that he was really into you at first, then ingored you?? Id say hes showing some mixed signals. So i owuld say hang out with him on christmas break and see what he does. If hes a jerk again, well id say there are more fishies in the sea. But if you guys click again, talk to him and ask him if he feels the connection. Hope i helped
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16/f okay so there is this boy who i am really falling for. and he is one of those boys that you know you shouldnt like and he doesnt hit my usual criteria but for some reason he is wrong in all the right ways. so there are alot of people that are against me and him (arent going out yet, supposedly asking me out tomorrow)...anyways alot of people are against it(younger sister,friends,best friend) cause he doesnt exactly have the best reputation with girls. i guess you could say he was somewhat of a player. But i see him diff. then everyone else. i truly feel that he likes me. and yes i know that i am taking a risk and that i might end up getting hurt but i am willing to take that risk for some odd reason. i know i will regret it if i dont do this and i feel like i need to. but my question is am i a total idiot??? i mean i tried not to falll for him .....I TRIED SOOO HARD. but i couldnt help it. i love the way he holds me and kisses me and truly listens to me. any advice????!!! thanks for reading (link)
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Well, i would trust your heart if you do anthing, trust it, and follow it, if this guy if for real youll definatley feel it, and i guess you do. So I say go for it. Talk to your friends and little sister and tell them exactly what you told us, maybe then they'll understand. If not, you guys stay strong.
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Ok, so theres this guy i like, and im having a holiday party. I am going to get him a gift, but i dont know what to get him. (Im 14/f)and i dont want to pay a million bucks, or look like i did, but i want something special, that kinda shows i like him, but not so obvious its weird. What should i get him? (link)
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omg my friends always ask me the same question! Get him a teddy bear or candies or (my suggestion) make him a mix of some cool songs and ONE lovey dovey song. you dont want him listening to that stuff the WHOLE cd
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hey! i'm hailey. i'm turning 16 in a week and all of my friends keep asking me what i want. i can;t think fo anything =/ I am a very indesisive person. Any siggestions on cool gift ideas i can tell my friends to get me that won't put tooo much of a dent in they're wallet. thanls soo muchhh (link)
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Maybe a cute prada bag
or a giftcard from someplace
money?
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Ok,my friend really likes this guy who used to liek her too(he still might but were not sure) anyways...then went out on a date a while back and it went well and they saw eachother all the time afterwards. he totally led her on and then when she asked him if there was gonna be something more he said he just wanted to stay friends which broke her heart. Anyways then they didnt talk much for a little while and they just started talking again and she asked him what happened with their whole situationa and he told her why he said friends instead of something more. He said he was scared or something because of his past relationship and he didnt kow what was going to ahppen but he apologized for it and everything. He is a very sweet guy and she really likes him but he likes someone else now but she wants to fight for him because she thinks there is still something there. She keeps asking me if she should fight for him or if she should just move on! what should i tell her? because i told her if you really like him thne u should fight for him but he did break your heart so maybe you should just move on. plz help.
thx! (link)
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i think love is something you should fight for even if it has its limits
reach for the stars and go beyond your limits
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Okay, i don't know if this is the right category or not...but oh well. Alright, my Semi Formal dance is coming up and I have no idea what to wear. :S I need suggestions and I don't really have a lot of money to spend...so i'm not too sure. any suggestions are great! =)
thanks in advance.
P.S im female, 15 (link)
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Is there a dress code?
If there is, then wear a cute dress, and heals.
If there isnt, then rock out the jeans.
But im assuming since its a semi-formal, that u need to look decent in a dress. Light peach, light green, black maybe, and some cute matching heels
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Okay so I had this boyfriend, Adam. He cheated on me. I'm really angry at him, but I'm going to forgive him eventually; it's just going to take time. Now there's this really nice guy I just hung out with recently, Ryan, who I kind of like, and I'm not really sure if he likes me. But, one of my best friends likes Ryan, too. Now, I'm not sure what to do. Adam is aware I like Ryan, my friend knows I like Ryan, but Ryan doesn't know I like him. Part of me thinks that I shouldn't even be be trusting Adam; what he did was so stupid and hypocritical and just really hurt. But I don't even know if Ryan likes me, and my other friend really likes him, so maybe this whole thing with Ryan will just mess up my possible second chance with Adam AND my friendship. Would I be a horrible friend if I were to ever date Ryan? (which is totally hypothetical because it just seems like he likes me, I don't actually know) I don't know what to do... advice? (link)
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I would have a talk with adam and ask him what you guys should do: Break up for good and move on. or give your relationship another chance. Then ask your best friend if its okay that you ask ryan out, or tell him you like him or whatever. Then its up to her from then on. But if you feel dating ryan is the right thing to do, like i said before, clear it with your best friend first. Because then if you dont, she'll be crushed (remember your not the only one who likes him) and your friendship staus will go down. If you do those things you wont be a bad friend.
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Hello I've got a story. Well, I was with this guy for 4 months, then we had to break up because of his parents,(they didn't like the fact that i was 13, 14 now, but he was 17) and so..we broke up. A month after, we got back together, he told me "I don't care what my parents say." so it was a month there, then broke up because of this girl. She didn't know we was going out, and she randomly brought up that he was all over this girl. So finally, I told her we was going out, and my boyfriend didn't want me to..so see I'm confused, he said "she starts stuff." and now I see that she does, but I know he would NEVER cheat on me, he even told it to my face, but when we when out the 2nd time, he never had time to call me, cause he was so busy with school, work, football, ect.
So what do I do? I want him back, but I don't know if I should ask him or not..I asked him the first time, but we kinda both agreed. But the girl that knows we broke up..wants me to go with this one guy, but I'm still in love with my ex..it's so hard to talk tohim now, and he just says "ttyl, bye" and not I love you.
But this new guy, we talk everyday on the phone for hours, and makes me smile, laugh. The sad thing is, me and my ex never had anything to talk about..even tho it was 4 months, we just had nothing. But now I'm not so shy and I have things talk about. I mean, we talked, but just not like me and this new guy talk, but now it'll be different.
So what do I do? Go with this new guy? P.s., he likes me! So yeah.. Think I should give him a chance?
Sorry this was long, I'm just so confused. (link)
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No offense, but your ex seems like a real jerk! Hes ignoring you, face it! Definatley give this new guy a chance, he sounds sweet. =)
Hope it works
Leme know how it goes!!
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there is this group of people that i sit with at lunch. one, "s", is the one i talk to because no one else talks to us. i thought i was frends with "b and j". "b" is all about including everyone. so the rest of the table are b and js frends that im not rlly frends with and they are always going out and not inviting me and s. and it feels terrible because we are the only ones.i went to the mall with "b and j" and some other people that dont sit at our table. i did a play with "b and j" as well. but then i also have these random frends who invite me to go places with them but i dont even sit with them. i dont really know anyone at this new high school, but i want to get invited out with these girls. they live 45 minutes away but my mom is willing to drive!
what should i do??
(sorry its long) (link)
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Im really outspoken and speak whats on my mind alot like if someones bothering me ill be like "Please....can you just leave me alone!" So if i were you i would just hint to them. Don't tell them: cuz then they'll look down on you. Or you'll look desperate. Slowly lure them into your trap. Pay attention to what they like, then ask them a question about it. But don't be a stalker or change yourself for them, in that case, their just not worth it. So, talk to them more, include "s" in this plan too. Also, its not a terrible thing to have other friends that invite you places besides these chicks, don't get greedy! Lol, kidding. But if this scheme doesnt work, havent you ever thought of making new friends (lightbulb ON!)
Lol, hope i helped!!
Leme know how it goes
YOu know you love me,
xoxo
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