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Will this totally mess things up?
Okay so I had this boyfriend, Adam. He cheated on me. I'm really angry at him, but I'm going to forgive him eventually; it's just going to take time. Now there's this really nice guy I just hung out with recently, Ryan, who I kind of like, and I'm not really sure if he likes me. But, one of my best friends likes Ryan, too. Now, I'm not sure what to do. Adam is aware I like Ryan, my friend knows I like Ryan, but Ryan doesn't know I like him. Part of me thinks that I shouldn't even be be trusting Adam; what he did was so stupid and hypocritical and just really hurt. But I don't even know if Ryan likes me, and my other friend really likes him, so maybe this whole thing with Ryan will just mess up my possible second chance with Adam AND my friendship. Would I be a horrible friend if I were to ever date Ryan? (which is totally hypothetical because it just seems like he likes me, I don't actually know) I don't know what to do... advice?
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Ok well first Adam he really needs a realty check he does not deserve a second chance if he cheated on you once then he will do it again i help teens with getting over people that have hurt them by cheating on them and i really dont like it and if your friend is really truely your friend she will understand that you like him and is going to try there is a old saying that goes love is in only in the heart of the beloved which means love will only be with you if you choose to chase it down and grab it even if it takes alittle sacrifice. I really understand how you feel after he cheated on you i was cheated on alot of the time but you know i was about to give up and something told me not to give up and a week later i waited and suddenly i got a call from one of my family friends and she asks me if i would like to go to the mall and movies with her and her cousin which i didnt even know she had and i knew her my whole life and didnt meet her cousin until then and now her cousin is now my fiance and we are so in love and i guess you probaly didnt want to hear all of that but all im saying is dont guide your heart let it guide you and if you need any more advice just ask.
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I would have a talk with adam and ask him what you guys should do: Break up for good and move on. or give your relationship another chance. Then ask your best friend if its okay that you ask ryan out, or tell him you like him or whatever. Then its up to her from then on. But if you feel dating ryan is the right thing to do, like i said before, clear it with your best friend first. Because then if you dont, she'll be crushed (remember your not the only one who likes him) and your friendship staus will go down. If you do those things you wont be a bad friend.
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Okay hun listen up. Any man that cheats on you has got to go. I know people talk about second chances, but honestly, do you really want to be with a guy who thinks about other girls when you're not around? Even if you guys were back together, he WILL still look at other girls, maybe he won't do anything with them, but he'll picture it in his head and that's just as bad. He should be thinking about you, and you sound like a normal girl, you deserve someone who respects you.
As for this Ryan character, you should know by now that you never go for your friends' crushes, even if she says its okay, she's lying. I think if you did decide to date him, your friend would SAY it's fine, but inside she'd feel jealous and betrayed. Besides, you don't even know if he likes you. It's definitely not worth it.
And so what if you lose both guys. If you love your friend that much, she'll mean more to you than any of those guys.
And by the way, if you have 2 guys in the picture at one time, losing them won't be a big deal! Obviously it doesn't sound too difficult for you to find a man who is interested in you. It won't be long until another cute boy comes around the corner, and when you meet him, you'll be glad you left the others.
Yours Truly,
ThisGirlRocks AKA
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