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Death of a friend
ok, so there was this girl that went to my school who had cancer for the part 3 years. She was the nicest person i have ever met in my life, and always had something nice to say. She was fun and so much fun to be around. Recently (1-14-08)after going into remission 3 times, she passed away. I'm not saying that i was like best friends with this girl, because i wasn't, but i did know her. We sat together in Chemistry and always talked, and were even going to be lab partners before her cancer came back. I'm having a really hard time dealing with this loss. I just can't handle that this great person is gone and i'm never going to see her again. I cry really easily and everytime someone really bring up her death in school, or there is an announcement made about her, or they show a powerpoint on her life, i start to cry. I went to her viewing today, and just completely broke down. it was just hard to see this person who was so full of life and fun just lying there dead.
I was really just wondering if anyone could give me some advice to help me cope with this loss or anything like that. Thanks
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my advice would be try and get people (including yourself) to be a lot nicer. Smile and say hi to kids in the halls. It might also help you think about how much you appreciate life. I know that this might not really help if you aren't religious or anything but, sometimes praying makes people feel better. I'm not really religous or anything but when I get scared or sad sometimes I pray and it makes me feel better. It's not like you have to be at a church but like before you go to sleep, while your laying down. You can say a prayer in your head and stuff. Maybe talk to your principal about starting a fundraiser to find a cure for cancer. Idkk maybe it would help. I'm kinda new to this sooo...
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i am so sorry. i know you feel. ive lost some family member and its sad.
i don't know if you are religious or not but let me say this. sometimes God gives us these situations to remind us that life is short and that it can end anytime and you can't expect it.
my advice would be to become someone like her. to become nice and kind. become a fun person to be with. the reason im saying this is because, think of how much you miss her and how she made a normal day a happier one. become a nice, knid person so that one day when you die, you have people behind you thinking of how nice you were.
(im not trying to make you more sad, honestly).
your saddness will pass and there will be random times that you will remmeber her, but thats life.
everything will be okay. take a deep breath and smile :)
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I'm really sorry about your lose. I understand that this is a really hard time for you. It is really hard when we loose somebody close to us. It's natural for all of us to grieve death, even when we feel strong.
Remember all of the fun times you spent with her, remember that she had a fun life and remember that nobody is ever truly gone when we hold that person in our hearts and memories.
I hoped this helped and once again I'm sorry for your loss,
triquetra
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I am so sorry to hear of the loss of your friend. It is natural to be so weepy and sad, and to cry at the viewing. What you need is to be able to talk to someone about her and all the times you shared together. If your parents cannot sit with you perhaps you could approach your school counsellor.
It might also be worth asking around her friends to see if you could all get together and have an evening of remambrance to share your memories together.
It will take time to get over her loss regardless of how well you knew her. It is hard to come to terms with someone so young dying before she had a chance to really live. She was obviously a great person and you have the chance to continue her goodness yourself. Be nice to everyone you meet, be open with them and pay a compliment if you can. Smile when you think of her and one day you will remember her with happiness and not sadness.
Please don't think it is wrong to feel the way you do. I wish you all the very best and hope that I have helped in some way. Take care.
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woah it seems like youre going through a really tough time.
i had to deal with the same situatuion in third grade when my best friend died. I know shes not your BEST friend but you still have to let go of the past. and dont think of all the good times you had together, honestly, that just makes it worse. But its okay to cry. its how you express yourself. Maybe do it in the lonesome of your room would make matters, not better, but easier. its so hard to see someone you really care about and were friends with, just all of a sudden leave you like that.
talk about it with your other friends if it makes you feel comfortable. If you dont let your feelings out youll eventually explode!
good luck!!!
think happy thoughts =D
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