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I'm a nineteen year old girl whos dreams are to help the world. But for now, I'll start on Advicenators :)I can't say I can relate to every question that comes my way (probably most though!), but I guarantee I'll understand. And sometimes that's all you need...a little understanding :)
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people say that you can't really be in love until you've tested each other, till you've hit your lowest points, till you've been there with each other throw everything, till you've really wanted to just leave, but would do anything to not let that person go, and still survived. but other people say that you shouldn't have to fight for your relationship, you should want that person and be happy together. but how do you know when to draw the line? when you're really not meant to be together? when you should just let go? or when you should keep holding on?
we are in love, and we hardly ever fight, but over the weekend, we hit a pretty rough patch, and now we dont know what to do. we thought about a break, but we're scared to lose each other forever. we want to be together, and he said he'd rather force this to work than to lose me. i dont wanna force this though, that'll only lead to a worse, future break up. i think we should be together because we wanna be, and we do wanna be. but... i just dont know what to do. we've lost each other once and we dont want that again. but we have things to work out if we stay together. we've talked about getting married, living together, everything. how do we if it really is our time to throw in the towel, or if we should give our all to this relationship?
Sounds like love to me! :)
No, you shouldn't have to fight for relationships. That means one person should not be fighting with another to stay with them. Getting through things and fighting for a relationship is completely different. Getting through IS what makes relationships stronger.
What your trying to do is fight the decision that you truly want to make. You BOTH want to stay together for all the right reasons. Don't fight the right decision.
me and my bofyriend are on a break..
anyways idk i have never broken up really or stuff like that im not good with it or know the best way to act what to do but this is a long relationship and my first almost 2 years and were 18..
idk any tips?
im hoping this will make him realize more of me and how much he needs me
cause he started to take me for granted and i dont like that
so any ideas?
any personal experience
i will love you if you help me out, share stories hgive advice anything thank you!
Every relationship has it's own story, however, there are a few things each one MUST have in common in order to be a healthy, loving relationship. First thing is respect for one another. With out that, you don't have love.
If you feel like your not being appreciated enough then he's probably not respecting you like you SHOULD be respected.
When someone loves you, respect isn't even an issue.
There are SO many people in situations like this. Where people feel like their not getting the respect and feeling the love like they should BUT they've been in the relationship for so long their too afraid to get out.
This break may be what shows your boyfriend how much he loves you and hopefully things will change, but if they don't, that's ok. It wasn't meant to be and some day someone will show you why it never worked out with anyone else.
I've been with my boyfriend since the 7th grade. We're now in 11th and everyday we love each other more and more BECAUSE we care about how the other feels. I appreciate him so much. He's constantly showing me everyday that he loves me. And so am I.
How can you make money fast? i need like 300 dollars but i have no job. HELP!!
Do small side jobs. Depending on wear you live...you could shovel snow, mow lawns, walk dogs!, pet sit (like babysitting for people who are on vacation, which would be good about now considering Spring break is coming up)
Once you can think of other side jobs to do, good advertising methods would be to of course have your friends/family spread the word around, post up flyers at your local grocery store, ext., If you have a myspace or something of that sort you could advertise there.
Hope this helped! :)
ive had a cold for about a week
and ive been blowing my nose ALOTTT.
cause its soo stuffy.
my cold is going away but today i was blowing my nose and then like all of a sudden i cant really breathe out of my left one.
i feel all the snot and stuff (gross i know) when i like suck it upp. but when i blow nothing comes out?
i dont know how to explain it but its reallllly annoying me.
and im scared causae i just read something and it said if you blow your nose too hard and too much you can have an anurism (sp?) and you die from those..
I highly doubt you have an aneurysm. What you just described is exactly why they call it a STUFFED nose.
Nothing to worry about. Just the common cold :)
ive known this guy since like 8th grade..and he was in 7th grade, and i didnt know him like REALLLLY SUPER WELL. But we talked and such, but i moved on to high school and didnt see him for a year. And now hes a freshman and im a sophomore. And we started talking again and we both want to hangout sometime =D we talk everyday..but sometimes i think the convos get boring..any ideas or good ways to talk to him? or bringing up topics to talk about and not get bored about it? We usually just text eachother..but i see him once a day after a class for a couple of minutes. He's sooo sweet! But I dont know how we should hangout? Like I know him, but not incredibly well. And he has freshman friends and idk if he'd be comfortable or it wouldnt be fun for him if me and him hung with my friends..i'd probably feel the same towards his. But I'm pretty sure this guy is gay, but he's the sweetest guy! I dont know what to do with him..we live like 15-20min away, but i live near a park. I want to get to know him better, but i dont want it to be awkward..especially since this will be the first time we'll hangout AS JUST FRIENDS, obviously. So what should I do with him? He's super friendly. Should I hangout with him alone, or with someone else tagging along? And where should we go? Or do???????? im 16/F thanks.
hmm. Since you mentioned your pretty sure he's gay, I'm assuming your intentions are being friends and definitely not hoping for this friendship to turn into something else...
SO advice for ideas on how to hang out with a hopefully good future friend! :D haha
First off, I would tell him to bring ONE GUY friend and you bring ONE GIRL friend. With that in mind...
You could:
A) Go to Starbucks and just hang out/talk. It's always a good idea when trying to get to know someone plus, with four of you, I'm sure conversation won't get boring.
B) Have a movie marathon at your house! The rest will just go from there. You'll probably end up going to that park by your house or something.
C) OR you could have a small get together with a couple friends and invite him and tell him to invite some of his friends.
D) Just have him come over to hang out. Have some food, movies, games, ext.
There is this guy that I really like a lot. The thing is i've never met him. He lives a state over. Anyway I told my friend that I really liked him, and i'd talk about him and how great he really is. Well when I showed my friend his picture, she wanted to talk to him. So they started talking, she has nick names for him, they talk more than him and I do. I just don't get it, she flirts with him all the time, everytime they talk. She says that's just how she is with guys. Also she has a boyfriend. So i've pretty much hit rock bottom with what happened tonight. They were talking and she told me what part of what they were saying because it was funny. She said he needs to go to bed, and he said she needs to go to bed, then she said alright father, and he said i'd rather be your mother. At first she didnt get it either until she thought about it, and then she got what he was saying. He said that because the other night when they were talking he said something about being her mother and spanking her all the way to her bed or something. When she told me about that, I almost just broke down. She does that all the time. She talks to him and flirts with him and then reads me what their saying. I just can't understand any of it. She didnt want to talk to him until she saw his picture. I mean she knew that I liked him a lot and yet she still just flirts with him right in front of me or reads me their conversation. I guess what I wanted to know is, what do I do about this? Do I just forget about him, and move on? Do I...gosh I dont even know what I should do. He really is such a great guy. I just can't stand the fact that my best friend does this. She flirts with every guy she talks to whether she knows I like them or not, she even flirts with other guys in front of her boyfriend. And one time when we were at the movies I saw a really cute guy and I just wanted to point out that he was cute and she just says yeah he was staring at me. I just..I dont know what to do. She's my best friend really my only friend. Please just tell me what you think about all of this, and what you would do, or some things that ou could do in this situation. Any answers are greatly appreciated. Thank you in advance.
Think about this. She's your best friend. You told her you liked a dude and her reaction was to start talking to him. But it didn't stop there.
She PURPOSELY tells you things they flirt about. A girl who does this has a low confidence. Pretty or not. She constantly feels the need to feel pretty and she does this by trying to flaunt things boys say to her that make her feel pretty.
She wants you to envy her, but sadly, its making her look like a crappy friend. She doesn't sound like a very nice person, but you on the other hand sound like a friend I would like to have. You need to break away from that friendship. If you want help doing that, just message me! :)
There's this new foreign-exchange student in my Spanish class. He's from Argentina (haha ironic, I know) and is living here with his cousin for three months. When he first came, all the girls flipped out because he's really cute, and the guys talked to him, too. However, now that everyone's used to him, not many kids talk to him. My teacher asked me to strike up some conversations with him because she know I'd be friendly. I also want to be friends with him. I've talked to him almost everyday that he's been here, but it's hard to do. I want to speak to him in Spanish so I can get better, but I don't know what to say! When I talk to him in English though, I feel bad because it's so much harder for him to talk to me in English, and he doesn't know some of the slang. What questions can I ask him without having him feel like I'm prying into his life?
Well, he came to this country to learn and make some friends. Be a true friend to him. Not a "I'm trying to talk to you to be nice, but the whole your from another country thing is still in the back of my mind!"
So, try to be a friend...talk to him like you would any other person. Do this:
Be like, hey, I'll make a bet with you! I'll help teach you American slang, if you help me with my Spanish! And you can make it like...an inside game you two have with each other. Trade it off...1 day you both just speak Spanish with each other and he can help you with words you don't know. The next, just English.
Basically, me and my best friend have slowly become a little more than just that. friends. We're slowly doing the little flirting signs and dropping the hints to each other. We both really want to give US a chance, but at the end of our school year(we're in eighth grade) I'm moving to the other end of the country, and even if I stay he's going to a different school. We want to give dating a chance, but we're both really afraid we're going to get hurt when the summer comes, and we're aying goodbye.
I guess I just really want to know if we should give it a chance,get our hearts broken, but have had the good 5 months together, or don't risk it.
When it all comes down to it, eventually you know you two will give it a chance anyway. Why waste time? Just do it now!
When you move, chances are, you won't last. You'll be starting high school. Lots of new people, new boys! And that's ok.
But make the best of those 5 months :)
Does it look Really Really fake ? or orange ? or does it look natural ?
It depends on the persons skin tone when they get the spray tan.
Some turn orange...for some it looks natural...others fake
If your thinking about getting it done, go to the place and talk to them about which color they think would look good on you with out turning you orange. Their usually pretty good at it :)
My mom got one last week and it looked good, if that helps! :)
ok, i've been a server for two years but the place i have worked doesn't serve alcohol & i just recently turned 18 in september anyway. well, im quitting that job and going to another restaurant which DOES sell alcohol. i applied for several jobs, and got interviewed at one where it was a "scored interview". one of the questions was along the lines of you have a table where a customer has had multiple drinks but reaches for her keys to drive home, what should you do? i answered that i would ask another member of her table if they could drive home or if she'd like to call someone to come get her and drive her home. well i guess i didn't score high enough because i didn't get that job but i got this one instead. i start this weekend and i'd honestly like to know what i should do as a server in that situation. or in any other alcohol-related situation. if the customer seems to be getting quite drunk but keeps ordering drinks what should i do? as far as i know i have no right to deny drinks to a customer right? for anyone who has been trained to serve alcohol can you please tell me all you know? im not sure if they'll explain this to me when they train me or not but i'd like some tips from someone who has served and experienced this first-hand. thanks!
If ya really want to know the answer, I'd call up another restaurant that cells alcohol, or better yet, go to the place and ask for the manager. I personally would explain to the manager that you were asked that question at a job interview and you replied with _______. Then ask, "So, I was just wondering, what SHOULD you do in that situation?"
Or you could make up a story as to why you want to know...
Okay, so first in gym class I'm the only freshman in power volleyball, cause typically its a class that only upperclassmen get into, but im one of the few freshman on JV (no freshie team) so i convinced the gym teacher to let me do it. So on the first couple days there was this guy who was acting like a dick to me. like he'd become one of the team captains who picks people, and he'd say he was gonna pick me but never did.. and liked he'd be like motioning for me to come and then i'd start walking and he'd be like "not yet" and then by that point people had already picked like 5 people on their team so the teacher divides the rest.. so he never picked me for 2 days and I'm like.. and the 2nd time I fell for the thing again and like some other kids chuckled.. is this just cause im one of the 5 girls in this class and im the only freshman? and then like now.. a few weeks later that guy is like saying hi to me in the hallways and stuff and its awkward cause its like.. is he making fun of me? i mean in 6th grade i was gullible so like once i fell for it when some guy was like "i love you" and he was just kidding cause nobody had like done something like that to me before.
once someone does something like this.. i dont trust their true intentions of when they talk to me. i dont want to be made a fool of again like back then so i guess its like my natural reaction to situations like that.. to put a border up. or was he just messing with me and actually wants to be my friend? hes like a sophomore i think but hes pretty popular.. should i just let it go or not trust him cause of that? cause like if i think he just maybe wants to be friends and i act friendly when hes really making fun of me.. i'd hate that. how to tell btw if this isnt enough info?
& another time, actually today, this one girl in my class was like saying she saw this info about me on some site.. like my nicknames.. even ones some of my good friends know. she said she saw it on a website her friend showed her and im like.. what the heck cause she was like it was on a dance or volleyball site and i never posted something like that on a site like that. like today i went looking for where this info could be.. but i cant even find it! when i type my name on google nothing shows up. but she said she wasnt a stalker or anything and i dont think she is but thats just creepy.. and idk if she's making fun of me too sometimes.
ughhhh i honestly wish i could read minds to know peoples true intentions. that would make life so much easier and i'd be able to kid around with certain things easier. like i take certain things seriously and hold grudges a bit and thats annoying but like i said before like i dont want to be made a fool of or something. idkkkk i need help. btw sorry this is mucho long
I'm like that. It's one of those are they laughing at me or with me kind of things???
Well, your 2nd story with the girl...I don't think she was making fun of you. It was probably just one of those conversation things. Think about it...what exactly is there thats funny about that situation? If it's because your worried she thinks your nicname sounds dumb, well that's just silly. Nicnames are suppose to sound stupid and crazy!
Your 1st story. Well, honestly I can't tell you for sure if that boy is true or not, but I can tell you this. Don't put a guard up in that class. Doing so will make you seem biotchy and the upperclassman will just want to pick on you more. Kid around with them. Say hi and smile when you see them. Since he's already "lied" twice now about picking you for his team, next time he tries that, just be like uhh I'm pretty sure I'd rather be on the winning team ;) lol But say it in a kidding way!
im a 16 female. and hes a 17 male. he acts normal but sometimes it seems like hes losing interest. just the other day he told me hes not having 2nd thoughts on us. so im not sure. but this girl txtd me and told me today that he told her last week that we broke up.well he plays around alot. and idont know if that was meant to be a joke. and sometimes he acts like hes going to breakup with me like if i ask him he goes along with it then says hes kidding. please help me! i really dont want him to break up with me. but i dont know what to do. please and thankyou in advance. oh. and if it means anything. weve been together for 2 months... since xmas eve '08
Well, I've always heard there always a little truth behind every just kidding. And if you think about it, that's true.
The key to a good relationship is COMMUNICATION. Once you lose that, your basically screwed. That's when couples start getting pissed off at each other because emotions build up that weren't let out when they should have been.
You should talk to him. Tell him you really don't like when he kids like that so would he please stop. If he does, good. A 1 out of many more to come obstacles you have already concurred together. If he doesn't, then he's not ready for a relationship and basically what I'm saying is, get rid of him and find someone who IS.
i have a bf
i went on vaca, and i like this guy nw
he lives like many miles away but we talk all the time
and i dont think i like my bf anymore
but weve been together a long time liek 7 mths
and now with this new guy i noticed i could do better
and the new guy lieks me back
and i wold be willing to do long distance w. him
but idk waht i should do , is it worth breaking up?
should i keep living a double life utill summer when ik i can easily b/u w. him
help pls any advice possible
16/f
I'm a very blunt advice person on here. First things first, get off your high horse. Saying you could do better is wrong. You basically just said your better than him.
Break up with him. It's the least you could do. Live a double life? Why? Because you get satisfaction in saying you've been dating one boy for such a long time. No. Relationships don't go that way. TRUE ones at least.
So yeah, I think you need to end it with that boy and tell him why, too.
ohkayy so i'm adverage i'd say.. and well i want to be a little bit skinnier.. so i do the basic workouts.. like.. situps leg ups push ups and running... but its not going anywhere... so help?
The keys to losing weight are exercise AND diet.
Think of a good diet plan and exercise plan and STICK WITH IT! :)
hello. do you know if you have to be 18 or older to purchase a dietary supplement like Hydroxycut? If yes then is there a dietary supplement that people under 18 can purchase ?
You have to be 18 to purchase it and no, there is none anyone 18 and younger can use.
So, I'm assuming your a under age female with the thought in your head "I need to lose some weight, and fast!"
Heres a few tips for ya:
1) Take the long way when you need to get somewhere (unless your on a time limit of course! :] )
Examples: Take the elevator, park farther from the door when you go to the store, ext.
2) Do some sit-ups during commercials
3) When your thinking about eating that extra piece of cake, think theres a hair in it, or it feel on the floor, or something really gross that would make you lose your appetite
I probably have more, but there ya go :)
paris hilton is my rolemodel! i idolize her! everyone makes fun of me because of it. they say shes aslut and everything. but im reading her book and its really telling me awesome advice. like how to be confident and stuff. i think she is a good rolemodel. what is you guys' take on her? do you think she is a bad rolemodel? why or whynot? thanks in advance
Honestly, I like Paris Hilton. People judge her by what they see on tv because that's all the media shows you. How she constantly parties and blah blah blah. Well guess what, people who aren't famous party just as much! People just make it a big deal for her because she's famous.
And people who judge her for that are ignorant. From the good I've seen of her, she seems like a very caring person to me. I think her intentions are always in the right place.
THAT'S what you should be looking up to her for. For being a good person.
14/f
I'm a freshman and I didn't do too good in middle school. Well I pulled it all together at the end and promoted to high school. I'm so scared that I'm gonna fail. Everything is easier said than done. But seriously, I've been so stressed out because of math. Mainly math and biology. If you look at me, people think I'm an A+ student. My grades aren't THAT bad but still. I had A's in PE and health. And English and French I had B's. But math and biology I have D's. I'm barely pulling this off and if I don't get this together I'm so afraid. For one thing, I'm afraid of my future. That's what scares me. I don't think I'll be able to amount to anything. I have low self esteem but I don't really feel like getting into that. I would talk to my teachers and everything but its just so confusing. I'm in the basic math, algebra, and second semester is always harder. I have these headaches and I'm pretty sure its coming from stress at school. I think I'm overreacting but everybody in school talks about their future, what they want to be, college, ect. I have no idea whatsoever. I don't know if I can make it to college. That's what I'm scared of, if I don't go to a college that my life wouldn't be as good as it could be. I know I'm in 9th grade but I don't want to go to summer school. I would try tutors but I never have the time. I have issues at home and really wouldn't make it after school. My biology teacher is so confusing, even if it was one on one I couldn't get it. Please help, thanks. I'm stressing too much over this.
Those same kids who have their minds set on what they want to do out of high school will change their minds. Trust me. I'm 17 and a junior in high school. I wish when I was in 9th grade someone would have explained to me exactly how high school works. First things first, goals.
There are different kind of diplomas you can earn when you graduate. Each kind of diploma, however, has different qualifications. That is where goals come in. Sign up to talk to your counselor and ask him/her about the diplomas you can earn. Pick a diploma and work hard to earn it.
Once you know exactly what your working for, don't stop working! Your Freshman year is the easiest. Sophomore year, just about 85% of students go through what we call a "sophomore slump" In other words, you tend to slack off that year. DON'T be one of those students.
Junior year is when things get serious.
That's the year when you will start looking back on the previous years before. You'll either have 2 things in mind when you do think back. A) I'm proud of what I've done and I can't wait to get out and start my career! or B) I can kick myself in the butt for not doing my best. Then you'll worry about grades being good enough for college
ALWAYS work for the A's. ALWAYS. Never receive a progress report with C's and think eh, not the best, but that's ok.
Like I said, talk to your counselor about diplomas and such. KNOW what your working for!!! Make goals and work for them!!! That's the key. Don't wait till your junior year to start goals. It doesn't work that way because then it's too late.
If you want help with Algebra, Biology, or any other subject, message me. I can help if you need to. We can talk on AIM, myspace, yahoo, msn, whatever :)
Well basically my junior prom is on March 28, and out of the blue one of my good friends (who I happen to have a huge crush on!) asked me to prom. I was SOOOOOOOOOO Excited but then his friend named Sarah got really jealous of me because he asked me and he did not tell her that he would, so she was crying and shiznits... Sarah was my friend as well but now she is acting really fake and Mike (the guy who asked me) is fed up with her because she is trying to own him and she tells everyone about the conflict she made and tries to make me look bad. She still has a crush on him even though they had been friends for since 6th grade. Now she is spreading rumors that I'm a whore and Mike just wants to use me and stuff. First of all, I haven't even kissed a guy before (I know its sad...) and Mike is the sweetest guy in the WORLD!!! She is the one who tries to control him. I do not know what to do. He tries to assure me that he will handle it but I'm right about to curse a B out if she does not stop. Should I let him handle it or should I "handle it" by the way-- she doesn't know that he asked me to his girlfriend today so what should I do???
Let him handle it. Make sure you tell him that you don't want her talking to you unless she has something nice to say, too.
anyone have a extra sims 2 activation code not registered to TheSims2.com(used for downloading new sim products), apparently mines been used and i have no idea how because i didn't use it. i dont know how to get a new one so if anyone has a unregistered one i'd be really greatful. PLZ&THNX
Call the Sims place. Here's a number.
(650) 628-1900
This is weird, but something Ive always wondered about. Ive kissed and made out with plenty of guys, but usually no longer than like five minutes. I hear about people making out for like hours and stuff. Seems like you would run out of breath and stuff. Is that an exaggeration? Doesnt it get boring? Maybe its just me, but I dont get it.
I thought so too. "Whooo in the world can make out for hours on end?!" But then I got with the right guy and I totally get it now. haha
My boyfriend and I can go for five hours.
It's not continuous. It's like, stop for 10 seconds, then back at it.
When you get the right guy, you'll totally understand.