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Ugh Jealousy...
Well basically my junior prom is on March 28, and out of the blue one of my good friends (who I happen to have a huge crush on!) asked me to prom. I was SOOOOOOOOOO Excited but then his friend named Sarah got really jealous of me because he asked me and he did not tell her that he would, so she was crying and shiznits... Sarah was my friend as well but now she is acting really fake and Mike (the guy who asked me) is fed up with her because she is trying to own him and she tells everyone about the conflict she made and tries to make me look bad. She still has a crush on him even though they had been friends for since 6th grade. Now she is spreading rumors that I'm a whore and Mike just wants to use me and stuff. First of all, I haven't even kissed a guy before (I know its sad...) and Mike is the sweetest guy in the WORLD!!! She is the one who tries to control him. I do not know what to do. He tries to assure me that he will handle it but I'm right about to curse a B out if she does not stop. Should I let him handle it or should I "handle it" by the way-- she doesn't know that he asked me to his girlfriend today so what should I do???
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Let him handle it. Make sure you tell him that you don't want her talking to you unless she has something nice to say, too.
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You should just tell her that you did not intentionally try to hurt her and that Mike may have or maybe he didn't. That I do no know but if you've had a huge crush on him and she was a friend then she should be happy for you. It sounds like you and Mike have not declared yourselves as a couple and if so then she has no reason to be jelous, even if you two do become one.
She should be happy for you and Mike and even though Sarah thinks she can control him, she will eventually find that she cannot. One of my favorite quotes is "Jealousy is all the fun you think they had" by Erica Jong. She is probably just wishing she was you, like many girls do in this world, and maybe she had fantasized dancing in circles or having him as her knight-in0shining-armor. I'm not sticking up for her but it is possible that her feelings for him are as genuine as yours and she is expressing herself now that he has asked you to Prom.
So just take a breather and talk to Sarah, let her know what you think and let her express herself. If she yells, let her, don't stop her but do not encourage her, let her get it all off her chest and ramain calm with her. But before you do all this, take some time to think about everything I (and others) have said and advised.
Hope I helped...
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Well, That sounds so childish on her part. Really he should be the one to take care of the whole thing. You shouldn't worry your pretty little head about someone who has no life.
Honestly the people who know you best know what kind of person you are. And the ones who don't know you probably don't take her seriously anyway. She is clearly jealous of you. If she does not know that he ask you to be his girlfriend she does not have to know, you owe her no explanation.
If she says anything rude directly to you then make sure that you have a few friends around and ask her what the heck is her problem? Let her know how irrelevant she is to you and how much you don't think about her. Tell her the worst thing she could do to you is get over you!!(that is only if she tries to say anything mean directly to your face)
I think that you have nothing to worry about. Your guy should be the one to take care of the situation.If she keeps bothering you then try to ignore her, (sounds easier than it really is)people are gonna start to see that she is just hating on you. All you have to do is stay in school, get good grades and be pretty. There will always be haters!!!! Good Luck
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You're right about the jealousy part, gosh she's infected lol... Well, I would say you handle it, but not in a bad manner. Sit down and tell her what is up with her attitude.. You know why, but maybe she'll pour her feelings out and will feel better.. If push comes to shove, just leave her be.. don't even waste your breath.. and if Mike doesn't succeed in handling it she obviously isn't a good enough friend to be happy for you two.. good luck!
Uniq =]
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