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I'm Christina, and I'm 27. I tend to be brutally honest when I give advice or an opinion. I don't tell people what they want to hear but rather what they need to hear. They don't always appreciate it at first, but I usually get a thank you in the end.

I have 15 tattoos, and 8 piercings. I'm married and just gave birth to a baby boy in May. I'm currently a SAHM so you can find me taking care of my son and binge-watching television while he naps.

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I'm 17/f and starting to think about where I want my first tattoo. The places I'm considering are my foot, ankle, ribcage and possibly near my hip. I'm planning on becoming a navy nurse and don't want any that are visable in uniform.
I'm worried about fading and which place would have the least ammount. I also don't know if the ribcage option is a good idea if/when I decide to have a kid because I don't want it to stretch with the pregnancy. Thank you.

In all honesty, tattoos are made to stretch with your body. They adjust to your skin. Ever notice a guy with tattoos on their arms? Their tattoos can stretch based on how they have their arm positioned or how they move it.

I wouldn't worry about the tattoo stretching because it's supposed to do that with weight gain or pregnancy. If you're thinking of spots, I would try either your hip, shoulder, foot or back. Those are the best places to hide a tattoo. I put my first tattoo on my hip.

id really like help, im wearing a beautiful navy dress to a party, but what coulor of shoes do i wear? alot of people say navy and red go perfect but i just dont know.

any suggestions would be helpful and thankyou
xx

I think red would go perfect with your dress. :) You could also try white, but they'll get dirty quicker. Red is your best bet.

So i just got a new phone and was wondering where i could get free ringtones and wallpapers and games.

Thanks in advance =]

www.myxertones.com

They have what you're looking for. :)

i've been looking for the LG Ice Cream phone everywhere! i know it only works with certain phone companies and i need an unlocked one. anyone know where i can buy one? i've already looked on ebay, anywhere else? thanks!

Try craigslist.

can u masterbait while your on your period? as in "fingering"

Yes but it's disgusting.

Those chain messages that are all over youtube, facebook ect, why do people actually believe them and pass them on, are you one of those people?
I've been wanting to know for a while now since they seem to be everywhere. ones like this...

THIS REALY WORKS!
1. PUT BOTH OF YOUR HANDS ON YOUR CHEST!
2. THINK OF SOMETHIN YOU WANT!
3. TOMMORROW YOUR WILL GET A SUPRIZE WITH THE THING U WISHED 4!
HERES THE CATCH U HAVE 2 POST THIS TO 5 QUIZZES!

Because people are naive.

For future reference, don't put this here.

How many ammendments are there and what do they all stand for?

ok so i've had this boyfriend, M for 6 months today. and i just found out hes been going behind my back, and telling my friend A, stuff ive been saying about her.

it all started when i was mad at one of my friends and chewed him out, and he got upset and so A bitched me out about it, and that made me mad. so a few days later, i was on aim with M and one of my other friends, N. M, N and i were in a 3way chat. and A had logged on, and i was still mad at her. so i started bitching about her to M and N. and suddenly, A started bitching me out about stuff. and by the way she was yelling at me, it had sounded like she had heard what i was saying about her. so i asked N and M if they had told her anything, and they both said no. they both swore on their lives they hadn't said anything to her. although i didnt want to think it at the time, i had a feeling M had said something.

so tonight, A and i worked out our differences and we're friends again, but then she told me that she got mad at me that night because M had said "watch out, L(me) is mad. here's what she said, dont tell her" and she got mad, and thats why she said what she said.

so NOW, i know that M had lied to my face about not saying anything, AND that he had betrayed my trust and told her what i said about her!!

how am i supposed to handle this? because right now i just want to f**king kill him!! i know thats not the way to go, i really want to work it out and see what he has to say, but how can i bring it up and how can i keep myself from acting like a total bitch and ruining our relationship forever?

Maybe if you told this girl everything to her face instead of behind her back, you wouldn't have this problem.

Don't talk shit and situations like this will prevent themselves.

i put some pictures on one of those blank CDs that you buy at walmart..and i was wondering how i can take those off??

You can't. Once you burn items to a cd, it's there forever.

hi there, im 13 nearly 14 y/o. i've never been a confident person and i was wondering if my penis is big for my age. im 7in hard so i was hoping you could tell me if im big or not for 13. thanks =].

5 inches is average for a guy, so you're above average, yes.

in a few days i'm going to be tagging along with a good friend of mine while he tours around the country. he is a singer and in a band, and two other bands will be with us. i'm 18 years old & i'm sooo excited. however, i'm kind of nervous. i'm not a groupie. i'm really good friends with the lead singer of the one band. & were not dating or anything, but i'm not sure if it will turn into anything. when he was back here again any where him and i went their was girls throwing themselves at him. i actually got really jealous.. he used to like me, but we couldn't date because of him touring all the time. he dropped out of high school & so all hes been doing since last year is touring, nonstop pretty much. he might even be touring again when i'm back in school. i'm afraid if i go i'll fall really hard for him. he recently told me that one of his songs is written about me "/ when i listened to the song the chorus is like "i'm still stuck on you girl" and "i'm in love for the first time" so, should i go for him? & like him? i get kind of jealous sometimes. i sometimes get mad that he won't quit smoking & we just have a lottttt of history. i just need some sort of advice and guidance. thank youuu.

I think that if you really like him & can deal with his depression and his touring all the time, then go for it.

If you can't, then I would leave it alone.

okay well i'd like snakebites.
some people said id look gorgeous with them, some said i would look not as cute.
this is 40 dollars id be paying, so i need to know what piercing would probably look good
and if snakebites are for me :D

here is my myspace profile.

http://www.myspace.com/toxic_paper_flowers

In some of the pictures I looked at, you already had one side of your lip done, so you really only need to get the other side done, unless you took it out.

But, I personally think you're cute & that snakebites would work well for you. I don't see why you shouldn't get them. :)

what job can i have that hires 14 year olds.

Not many places will hire someone at 14. Most places will require you to be 15, 16, or 17. Sometimes places won't hire til 18.

Your best bet now is just to babysit or cut the grass. There's not much else you can do until you get older.

If my cherry didn't pop the first time I had sex, am I still considered a virgin?

No. Your cherry doesn't have to pop for you to lose your virginity.

Having sex does. Since you've had sex (that's what I'm assuming) you're not a virgin anymore.

So recently i decided that i wanted to try weed. DONT TELL ME ITS BAD. i dont care. i'm going to try it. but anyways, what should i expect? im going to be with this guy that i like. i like him a lot. will i try to do what i wanted to do to him sober? (have sex)...we're going to do it in the woods. he said i have nothing to worry about. just trying to make sure, any input appreciated.

thanks,
gina! (16 f)

When it comes to sex, you have everything to worry about. Especially when you plan on having sex while on drugs or while intoxicated. You might try to have sex with him while high/drunk mainly because drugs & alcohol can make your hormones all messy.

Drugs/alcohol can cause funny things to happen with your memory & you can lose it if you're not careful. They can also make you pass out. If that were to happen, he could take advantage of you & you would probably never know.

He's lying when he says you have nothing to worry about. There's a lot to worry about. There's a chance he could have an STD or AIDS but is lying & telling you he's clean so that you'll sleep with him. There's a chance you could get pregnant if you're intoxicated and he pulls a fast one on you & doesn't wear a condom.

I don't think sex at 16 is a good idea. It also isn't a good idea when you're high or drunk, and especially when you're in the woods. I just think it would be smart to hold off on so many illegal things. It'd be dumb of you to throw your virginity away (if you are a virgin) on some guy, and then while you're not even sober. Virginity is a wonderful thing and should be shared with someone you love..not someone you have a crush on. I'd wait if I were you. It's just to be safe & smart. Don't do anything you'll regret.

I was really close to my brother when we were growing up. My brother was only like a year and a half or so older than me. Two months ago my brother committed suicide and I'm the one that "found" him. I can't seem to move on from it at all though. I think I'm depressed sometimes but I don't really know. I lie awake at night and think about it constantly. It's like I'm in this haze where nothing is real anymore and I've noticed myself pulling away from others, spending more and more time alone. I replay our childhood in my head--the laughs, the games, the memories--and I realize it's gone. It's all gone.

I was close to my brother and it hurts that he didn't share his pain with me. It hurts that he couldn't rely on me to help him through the hard times he was obviously going through. Now I'm thinking about suicide myself. I've even went as far as to Google search painless ways to commit suicide and quickest ways to commit suicide. It's stupid, I know...but I feel so lost, so alone, and so empty now.

I guess I'm looking for some sort of guidance here. I don't really know what to do next...

First off, I'm very sorry for your loss. I completely understand how you feel. I haven't lost a family member, but I did lose someone very close to me about two years ago, and I was feeling exactly as you do now. But, I also want to commend you on your strength so far. It takes a lot to not completely shut down when something this traumatic occurs.

I think you should see a counselor. Tell your mother what you're feeling (or just tell her you want someone professional to talk to) & call some places. It could take a while to find the counselor who's right for you though, so be patient. You will eventually find the one who you're comfortable with.

Getting help would definitely do you some good. You need to vent and scream, and you need to do it with someone who'll be patient with you. A counselor can give you a lot of insight on the situation and maybe help you see the other side (your brother's side). I really suggest you get help soon though before you do something you regret.

I really am sorry for your loss, and I really hope you get the help you need. Good luck. :(

I want to buy a vibrater, But i'm only 16 years old, AND i dont want to go into the sex shoppe =/ how can i get one?

You can order them online. To be honest, I don't even think you can go into a sex shop yet. Most require the customers to be 18+ to go in.

I'm a virgin, 15 yrs old & totally in love with my boyfriend. We're both ready to have sex & the only issue I have on it is do you guys like hair 'down there'? I know some guys dont mind or & some guys really do. What do guys my age like? I dont want him to be disgusted when were about to have sex cause of my hair! He's not a virgin.

I would ask him for his preference. If he prefers a shaven girl, then obviously you would shave. BUT, this is also a personal preference for you. If you feel more comfortable with hair, then don't shave. If you feel like you'd be better off without it, then shave.

But honestly, if he truly cares about you, I'm sure he won't mind. If he minds, then he's immature and you shouldn't be with him anyways.

A couple of my friends always tell me that im so gorgeous and they wish they looked like me n stuff... yeah, its flattering but it makes me feel uncomfortable and a lil guilty or something. should i do something? or what can i do so that i wont feel uncomfortable... thank u

Take the compliment. If you refuse the compliment by saying "No, I'm not." or something, your friends might feel bad. They just want you to say thank you.

You could also compliment them back. Honestly, I don't see why this would make you uncomfortable. Your friends are more than likely telling you the truth. It's not uncommon.

ok im 13/f..i have a boyfriend that wants to do "stuff" like..he wants a h/j and stuff but im not really ready..hes expecting it though like tomorrow or something. PLEASE help :'(..idk what to do..

Break up with him.

He doesn't care about you. If you're not ready, and you've told him you're not ready & he's still expecting it from you, then the relationship needs to end because he doesn't give a fuck about you.

Don't stay with anyone who makes you feel uncomfortable or is pressuring you to do stuff that you don't want to do. Clearly he has no respect for you.

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