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I'm Christina, and I'm 27. I tend to be brutally honest when I give advice or an opinion. I don't tell people what they want to hear but rather what they need to hear. They don't always appreciate it at first, but I usually get a thank you in the end.

I have 15 tattoos, and 8 piercings. I'm married and just gave birth to a baby boy in May. I'm currently a SAHM so you can find me taking care of my son and binge-watching television while he naps.

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ok. So tonight it was like 11:35 and my bf and I were making out in his car at a park. We are both 18. All of a sudden a cop comes up to the window, and to make a long story short, took our IDs and then gave them back after going to her at for like 5 minutes and then told us to leave the park. R the cops going to contact our parents?? I will be DEAD if they do.

I don't think so. Some cities have curfews so they were just checking if you were legal to be out. No worries. :) I'm sure if they were going to call your parents, they would've done so by now.

18/f.
my boyfriend is a singer and he is kinda sorta really big and famous. i mean not like all american rejects or something, he isn't on any radio stations or anything (yet!) but hes pretty good & well known i would say. hes kind of as big as the maine.. kind of, getting there. ANYWAY. i've been touring with him for a few days now & its been a lot of fun. at the end of his show, i keep finding myself jealous. i knew i would be like this, but i can't help it. all these girls that talk to him & stuff. i just get really jealous. we just started dating again recently because before me like when he was in high school he went through a really bad relationship. it bothers me that he still writes songs about her. their not like love songs their hate songs, like how shes a liar and stuff. but still, hes still thinking about her. i love him and everything, but we just have a lot of ups and downs. i don't know what i'll do when this tour is over. it ends in august and i just can't imagine not getting to see him again for awhile. he'll probably be touring again during my school year. he dropped out of highschool and ever since then hes been touring like nonstop. its hard to have a relationship when hes always gone. i know he would never cheat on me but still. i love him so much and i'm so happy were dating again finally. how do i get past these stupid insecurities?

Every relationship has its ups and downs. No relationship is perfect and everyone has their problems.

To be honest, there's not much you can do to stop the jealousy. It's normal to feel a little envious when there's girls constantly talking to your boyfriend every night. This is what comes with touring or even doing just a home show. You need to get used to it because it's going to happen no matter what. I guess the best thing to try & help you cope is to just remember that at the end of the night, he's leaving with you. He's with you and if he wanted any of them, he would've told you to hit the road by now. He loves you, and that's what matters.

As far as him writing songs about his ex, hey, look at the bright side. They're songs about how much he hates her. Heartbreak and ex relationships are good inspiration for songs. He can't help it. Good songwriters write about what they know. You can't be mad for him doing exactly that. Again, just realize that he's with you now and he loves you. If you just remember that, all the other things should just fade away and get easier. :)

My boyfriend and I will be going to hang out together tomorrow. I don't know what to do for entertainment or anything though. I really hate awkward moments and silences so we need to be doing SOMETHING so our date doesn't just die off. Any ideas?

I would go bowling. It's a fun way to break the ice and have fun. My boyfriend and I go bowling every Tuesday. It shouldn't be awkward when you bowl. :)

Hey, i have this friend and she is not liked very much by other kids @ our skool! But she dosent know this. And everyone is always asking me why i am her friend. sometimes i dont stand up for her behind her back when people ask me that because, they think i am cool when i say i dont really like her when she is like my best friend! What do i do?? i like her alot BUT no one else does? ?

What do i do?? LOST AND CONFUSED?

sincerely: MMR

You don't sound like a very good friend in my opinion. If you were really her friend, you would stick up for her no matter what people said. But instead, you're going behind her back and saying that you don't really like her even though you do.

You need to stop caring so much what people think about you. It's cooler to stick up for yourself and your friend when no one else will. You should stand up for what you believe in even if no one else likes it.

Be her friend and stop talking about her behind her back. You're being fake by doing that, and it would really hurt her feelings if she found out.

14/f

Alright i went to the doctors in december 2008 and she said i would get my period by around january-february. And now it is JUNE going on JULY and nothing. I get alot of discharge but no period. i mean i have to change my underwear alot because of it. it happens EVERY DAY ! it is normally clear but it changes sometimes. but for the most part i am wondering if thats Ok.? also im wondering id the colour of discharge but no period is normal
@ 14 going on 15?? everyone in my grade has theirs BUT i dont. even the girls who look 10 have it.?

Should i be worried or not ?? wat do i do??

sincerely, MMR

Did you ask your mom when she got her first period? Usually, a girl follows in her moms footsteps when it comes to getting her period.

I think you should be okay. Sometimes, girls don't end up getting their period until they're 16. I think you should get it within the year or within the next year. If you don't get it until 16 or after, then I'd worry, but I think you'll be fine.

As for discharge, wear pantiliners. It can stop from ruining your panties & from having to change them every so often. Without the pantiliners, you're running out of panties, and you need to do laundry more.

okay, so when you give a guy a blowjob, i know you dont actually blow, but when a guy says suck his d*ck. does it mean actually suck it? what are some tips. thanks.

my friend is the biggest liar ever!!!! she lies about really small stuff that is easy stuff to look over, to huge giant stuff that its shocking someone would even make up these stories. she makes up these huge stories. & she even just told one to me, and i'm her best friend. she told one girl in one of her classes her older brother was fixing her tv one day, and she doesn't have a brother or any brotherly figure. i keep having nightmares about this & i keep dreaming that she'll be really mad and won't talk to me. i don't really trust her with anything, and don't tell her any secrets anymore. i'm not good with talking about feelings and i don't like too. i don't know what to do. :(

I had a friend like this before, but I never called her out on it.

She seems like she's a compulsive liar. That means she lies and it's the truth to her. She knows she's lying, but for some reason, her brain makes it true. More than likely if you call her out on her shit, she'll fight with you until you give up. She's delusional and will swear everything she's told you is true.

Just ignore it. You can know she's lying, but I wouldn't say anything because it more than likely will not change.

My friend said something about a guy looking really, "Ghetto." I just pretended I knew what she was talking about because I don't want to look really stupid. I'm curious though. I want to be able to use this slang (I assume it is slang...right?) with her. Does anybody know?

Go to dictionary.com

Ghetto is usually referred to a neighborhood of lesser income and such. To refer to something as ghetto, it's usually an insult. Unless you mean to offend someone, I wouldn't say it. It's not bad, but it's offensive to some and could potentionally insult them. Don't say it.

Okay I know this HAS to be really stupid but I really don't understand it.

I was listening to the 3OH!3 song "Don't Trust Me" last night and realized I was confused about a part. haha I love 3OH!3 though and Don't Trust Me is totally my favorite song.

It says:
"Tell your boyfriend if he says he's got beef,
That I'm a vegetarian and I ain't f*cking scared of him."

What's that mean?
THNX! :D

When people have beef it means they're arguing with each other and have problems.

It just means what it say:

"If your boyfriend has a problem with me, tell him I'm okay and that I'm not scared of him."

i'm 14, turning 15 july 21st. i'm 100 lbs and i think im around 5'0 but i could be a little taller. i'm completely flat-chested and really upset about it. when i say flat-chested, i don't mean 32A bra. i mean there's nothing there at all, it's like i'm a 10 year old. i know i may be a little on the small side, but i'm almost 15. no one my age that i have ever met is flat-chested like me.
people say i could be a late bloomer, but i have hair in the places i should, so i know i've started. i don't have my period yet, though, and my doctor told me if i don't by the time i'm 15 they start to worry.
what should i do?

You're only 15. Your boobs will grow. Stop being so impatient.

14/f

Alright my friend is really nice and al but she can bug me so much. Sometimes all she talks about is her other friend who is not @ our school. She calls her her BFF when she hardly see's her and i am standing right their!!! I mean we spend every minute of the day together and tell all our secrets with each other. It is almost like we are sisters. But all she can talk about sometimes is her friend emily. I dont know if i am jeleous or if she is trying to give me a hint??? IDK where our friendship stands. When someone asks who her bff is she says EMILY :( and im right their. And also i know Emily to and she said that she is not her BFF. So do i tell her that. ?

It just dosent make sense concidering we hang out 24/7 and they do maybey 1 or 2 times a week max. IS SHE MY FRIEND OR NOT???

Sincerely, MMR

Just because she doesn't consider you her BFF doesn't mean she's not really your friend. You guys are 14 and are allowed to have different friends.

Get over it. It's not serious.

This is some lyrics from the song Build God, Then We'll Talk by Panic! at the Disco....

"Between her and the badge
She spilled her purse and her bag, and held a "purse" of a different kind."

Hahaha...yeah... I don't understand what the "purse of a different kind" means...I mean I have a couple ideas, but I want to know for sure....

It's a stupid question, I know, but I'm just wondering!!

thanks!!

songmeanings.net

Will jumping on a trampoline everyday help your weight problems? Please and thank you.

Yeah. Jumping around being active helps burn calories. But remember to eat healthy and drink water too. You can't depend on the trampoline alone.

im 13.... ummmm so like what are the odds of me getting pregnant from like not a guy. because i've been in bible school my whole life and apparently god can make you preggers? like how likely is this and what kind of birth control can i use against god? and is this blassphemyy if i use protection because like you know... it's god. you know? okay thanks!

You can't protect God from birth control.

Jesus Christ are you sheltered. :(

any ideas of what I should get done next?

I already have a belly button piercing.
and I dislike nose and eyebrow piercings.

You could get some cool ear piercings like the Industrial or the Tragus. You could also try doing your lip. I wouldn't recommend the tongue.

The next doomsday is December 21st, 2012, in 3 years, and I know it's stupid, but I'm REALLY freaked out because there's lots of proof. All I do is worry now! ( Stuff at http://movies.yahoo.com/feature/2012-roland-emmerich.html)

Can anyone help me?

If you're going to worry about what some Mayan people said a hundred (or however many long) years ago, then you're really naive.

If I'm correct, they're all dead so the world is over for them anyways. Just live your life. The world isn't going to end and just because you went on the Movies section of Yahoo doesn't prove shit.

And besides, people thought the world was going to end on January 1st, 2000. But we're still here 9 years later. That whole prediction is a bunch of crap. Mayans don't know shit.

M&M don't have eggs in them do they?

My brother had a bag of M&M's laying near his bed, so I looked at it. From what I can see, no, they do not have eggs in them.

soo im going to a public school next year and realize how little of clothes i actuually have. i normally used to wear free people ella moss juicy aqua hollister and abercrombie because i didnt need clothes for during the week. i want to get stylish affordable clothes at good prices. what kinds of brands and stores can offer that?

School isn't a fashion show, but here you go:

Forever 21.
H&M.
Delia's.
Wet Seal.
Rue 21.
American Eagle.

I have a girlfriend but i'm falling for another girl again and i really like them both what should i do?

Determine who you like more and go out with them. However, if you pick the other girl over your girlfriend, don't assume she'll be there waiting for you if things with this girl don't work out.

what does it mean when a guy asks you if you have a bfriend then tells you that he is single as well.

will a guy lie about liking you.

He's probably interested. But yes, guys do/can/will lie about liking you. Not all, but some.

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