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18/f.
my boyfriend is a singer and he is kinda sorta really big and famous. i mean not like all american rejects or something, he isn't on any radio stations or anything (yet!) but hes pretty good & well known i would say. hes kind of as big as the maine.. kind of, getting there. ANYWAY. i've been touring with him for a few days now & its been a lot of fun. at the end of his show, i keep finding myself jealous. i knew i would be like this, but i can't help it. all these girls that talk to him & stuff. i just get really jealous. we just started dating again recently because before me like when he was in high school he went through a really bad relationship. it bothers me that he still writes songs about her. their not like love songs their hate songs, like how shes a liar and stuff. but still, hes still thinking about her. i love him and everything, but we just have a lot of ups and downs. i don't know what i'll do when this tour is over. it ends in august and i just can't imagine not getting to see him again for awhile. he'll probably be touring again during my school year. he dropped out of highschool and ever since then hes been touring like nonstop. its hard to have a relationship when hes always gone. i know he would never cheat on me but still. i love him so much and i'm so happy were dating again finally. how do i get past these stupid insecurities?
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Every relationship has its ups and downs. No relationship is perfect and everyone has their problems.
To be honest, there's not much you can do to stop the jealousy. It's normal to feel a little envious when there's girls constantly talking to your boyfriend every night. This is what comes with touring or even doing just a home show. You need to get used to it because it's going to happen no matter what. I guess the best thing to try & help you cope is to just remember that at the end of the night, he's leaving with you. He's with you and if he wanted any of them, he would've told you to hit the road by now. He loves you, and that's what matters.
As far as him writing songs about his ex, hey, look at the bright side. They're songs about how much he hates her. Heartbreak and ex relationships are good inspiration for songs. He can't help it. Good songwriters write about what they know. You can't be mad for him doing exactly that. Again, just realize that he's with you now and he loves you. If you just remember that, all the other things should just fade away and get easier. :)
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Hey there,ok first off its completley normal to feel the way you do almost every girl has similar isecurities,and worries and such in relationships,the slight fear that he could still be interested in someone else or go with someone else,the jealousy of the attention he gets from other girls.
the trick is to remind yourself YOUR the one hes with now he wouldnt be with you if he was interested in anybody else.
think to yourself all those girls can try flirt with him but at the end of the day hes mine
as for the songs i really wouldnt worry to much,or put to much insight into them hes just expressing his past emotions of anger etc through his music alot of artists do that it doesnt mean he still loves her or thinks about her often trust me she just happens to be of convience for a song =]
im sure he will write one about his love and good times with you sometime too.
if your that worried talk to him explain to him how much your gonna miss him when hes gone that you worry he still thinks about his ex,it might be best to just avoid bringing it up incase it starts an un-nessecary row.
he doesnt show signs of being interested in anyone else does? does he flirt with other girls etc?
if he doesnt chances are your just being paronied so you shouldnt mention it.
sure itl be hard while hes gone and youl miss him like crazy but sometimes that does good for a relationship the whole absence makes the heart grow fonder =]
keep in touch through text etc,keep busy with your friends and school work and itl fly keep your mind on other things do this every time you have a worry or doubt about him or the relationship to side track yourself
hope I helped in any way,
good luck
much <3
Jess [15/f]
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Yeah,I know it would bother me too,just keep reminding yourself that hes yours =]
do things in front of girls like link into his arm and let them know hes taken and not to be shared. make sure he gives you as much attention as fans too.
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