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liar liar.
my friend is the biggest liar ever!!!! she lies about really small stuff that is easy stuff to look over, to huge giant stuff that its shocking someone would even make up these stories. she makes up these huge stories. & she even just told one to me, and i'm her best friend. she told one girl in one of her classes her older brother was fixing her tv one day, and she doesn't have a brother or any brotherly figure. i keep having nightmares about this & i keep dreaming that she'll be really mad and won't talk to me. i don't really trust her with anything, and don't tell her any secrets anymore. i'm not good with talking about feelings and i don't like too. i don't know what to do. :(
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I had a friend like this before, but I never called her out on it.
She seems like she's a compulsive liar. That means she lies and it's the truth to her. She knows she's lying, but for some reason, her brain makes it true. More than likely if you call her out on her shit, she'll fight with you until you give up. She's delusional and will swear everything she's told you is true.
Just ignore it. You can know she's lying, but I wouldn't say anything because it more than likely will not change.
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first of all you sound like a great friend, but your friend does not. If she was really your friend she would have never lied to you. The worst thing is you can actually tell shes lying. You should confront her in a nice way. And if she does get mad at you then:
1. she isnt a true friend
2. she isnt the type of friend you should have
3. she doesnt deserve to be your friend
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When I was young I used to have a friend that was very similar. He would lie about everything under the sun. One of his classic things would be to top your story... if you had an unusual story, he would listen and then tell you a similar one that just happened to be more dramatic.
Check out this article, it is about compulsive liars and it seems to describe your friend (and mine) quite well...
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Personally I do not believe that a person is much of a friend if you cannot trust them. Lying in general is pretty lousy, but lying to a friend is simply unacceptable (in my opinion).
I have been reading up a bit on compulsive lying on the net. The problem is that it is very, very hard to get a liar to admit he/ she has a problem. The general gist of what I read was that in most cases the best you can do is walk away.
Well, if I were you, I would make one effort to let her know that you won�t accept it. It's just that, even as I type this, I am 95% sure it will have no long term effect. But, it�s worth a shot maybe. If not, then it might be time to abandon the friendship.
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