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I'm female.
My boyfriend of four months and I want to get more intimate.
If he was to try something, would he be turned off if I wasn't completely shaved "down there"?
When I shave in that area, I shave with the direction of the hair. If I shave opposite of that, I'll get really bad razor burn and it'll bleed. I have very sensitive skin.
Do you have any shaving/grooming tips? Thanks! (link)
When you are shaving yourself, DO NOT GO AGAINST THE GRAIN. (You generally only to that on your legs and arm pits.)

I don't think he'll mind a little hair down there, make sure its trimmed. There is nothing worse than getting pubes all over your hands and face. :) (Why don't you ask him what he likes?)




so when i get fingered i get really wet and i dont know why cuz sometimes im not even turrned on, can something stop this? and do guys not like it? (link)
Guys love it.

Don't worry about it, I would consider it a blessing. I've never been able to get wet, and its horrible.

You might be physically reacting to being played with and turned on, but aren't mentally ready for it.

Try to get mentally ready for it, fantasize and see if you like it.



so when you are giving a guy a blowjob, you know you are done when he cums, but if you want to have sex, and give a blowjob, then do you blow him until he cums, and then have sex, or just blow him a little but not until he cums, and then have sex? Im confused. (link)
I would give him head, till his hips start to girate. Or you can tell he is breathing hard. Most guys have their tell tale signs that they are about to come, use that to your advantage.

And when you want to have sex, then stop and tell him to giddy up.

Make sure you're getting some love and are ready to have sex before you do.



i was just wondering where can you buy a vibrator? i am in college now and was hoping to get one because i've just dumped a two-timer and am a bit, er... horny. i was also wondering how it works exactly, do you know? thanks =) (link)
I look up "Annabelles" on line, or "Olivias" see if you have any in your area, Be sure to bring your ID.

I would buy an vibrater without a lot of bells and whistles. Buy one that vibrates pretty well.

Be sure to wash it after each use.

I would focus on the clit area, and when you start to notice that it does something for you, you can more further.



i've had sex like 7 times now and i dont feel any orgasms is that normal? when i hump something i feel really strong orgasms but when he goes up my you know i feel nothing but i want to feel it bad i want to moan for him and get into it like he does. because he feels it but i dont so its not enjoyable to me and i dont want to keep faking it. (link)
Spend some time discovering yourself. Masturbate.

I used to be a lot like you, sex didn't do anything for me, until I started to masturbate.

Try fantasizing. (EVERYONE does it)

I would also have him get you 'wet' before sex, and horny. Also consider that you just might not be ready for sex.
For some people it takes them a little longer to get into it.
Make sure you're comfortable with having sex, before you do it.

So, play with your hood/clit, before hand.
fantasize.

Stay in one consistant position until you can find your spot. (Missionary is the best for the first few times.)
When you find what works for you, stick with it till you realize what makes you tick, then think about switching positions.



okay..so..there are some tattoo's that i want to get.

i'm getting them places where nobody can see them of course.

the first one i want..is my astrological sign( aries) and then my birthdate under it.

the second one i want is a barcode with my parents birthdates under it..like i'm an item of my parents.

and then i definitly want something religious.

but i dont really know what. i kinda want something that nobody else would get. like a bible verse or something.

any suggestions?? and is there a tattoo that i mentioned that i shouldnt get?? (link)
My BEST advice about a tattoo is to get something thats personal to you, and means something. If you don't you might regret it.

With the Biblical thing, I would choose a phrase that you like, and either put it in a different language, or get a tattoo of the book its in, because the phrase is smaller and easier to hide.



15/f

about six months ago i razored my hair at home and i really really regret it because it made my hair really thin. is there any way i could make my hair thicker or at least speed up the growth process of my hair?
thanks(: (link)
By razored, do you mean you Buzzed (Clippered) it all off?

By Buzzing (Clippered) your entire head, it doesn't make it thinner, thats how thin your hair already was, you just lessened the amount of it, so yes. it will feel thinner.

If you razored it (With a hairstylists razor) then yes your hair will feel thinner, thats what a razor does, it thins out the hair.

There is no way to change how your hair biologically grows.

There aren't any pills or serums that will help your hair grow faster.
If you aren't eating well, and you are anorexic or bullemic, then yes this will cause your hair to fall out and thin because you aren't receiving the preferred amount of vitamins into your system to take care of parts of the body that aren't necessaties. (Like hair.)
Or if you are overweight, this can have the same effect.
If this is the case, consider eating healthier.


me and my ex boyfriend have been dealing for 4 weeks now. we've had sex held hands made out kissed everything a couple does.. and yesturday i asked soo.. do you want to get back together and he said no. and im like why? he's like i just dont want to. so he was just leading me on for fun and games? i dont want to keep doing the things we do if we're not together.. because while we were dealing he told me how much he loved me and then sum random girl asked him if he had anyone special in his life and he said no.. which crushed me because i tell everyone im taken maybe not officially but we're getting there so therfore i just say im taken.. was he just playing me? should i just forget about him? allt he sighns we're there that he wanted to get back together he even said he wanted to ask me out again but remeber the word was "WANTED" .. i dont know what to do (link)
Why would someone buy the cow if they could get the milk for free?

Signs a man has or is playing you,
He'll expect you to take time out of your day for him, but won't for you.

He'll say what he knows you want to hear, to get what he wants. (EX: But honey, I love you... In a mocking tone)

Will spend little to no money on you.

Either you are together or you're NOT.

So if he is saying that he isn't with anyone, then I would take the hint that he isn't taking your feelings into perspective, and doesn't care.

Does he even get you off during sex? Does he pleasure you? or expect to get right to it, without "heating up the oven?"

I would steer clear.



Hey guys, thanks for reading. I am starting a prank war with my friend. Recently he got all of my friends, and my mom's help and they strung yarn ALL over my room, and attatched bells and cute little notes all over it. I was really surprised, and I thought it was really fun!

NOW! I need to know how to get him back! I don't want it to be messy or gross, just BIG. What should I do? (link)
I just pulled a prank on my fiance,
I put cheap hair wax on his toilet seat, door handles, shower handle, sink handle, TV remote, and Bedroom light switch.

It kept surprising him, he was laughing so hard he nearly wet his pants.



I am about around 5'3 and I'm 13 and I'm about 107lbs. I am kinda worried about my weight increasing because I used to be really fat when I was younger and I don't want to be like that ever again but now I'm average skinny. I skateboard for an hour or more a day and I go to the gym almost everyday , and I play basketball for an hour a day. But I am noticing a wieght increase and fat starting to build on my stomach and thyes. When this started happening I started doing 100 situps every night. This isn't seeming to help very much. I need tips or stratagies on how to helpmy eating habbits or w/e you can do to help me loose 5 or 7 lbs
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I wouldn't worry about gaining weight. You are under the recommended weight limit for that height.

You need to make sure you aren't creating a bad personal image of yourself, this can lead to many more problems. Anorexia, bullemia, excessive working out.

I would consider speaking to a professional about what you think of your personal image.
If you feel you need to lose more weight, speak to your parents/ gaurdians, and when they know that this issue is important to you, they can help you not to take it to far, and keep you healthy.

Consider eating foods with quite a bit of protein and fiber.
The fiber is great for your digestive system, and the protein will help give your muscles some gas for when you work them out.

Your family could also speak with a nutritionist.

HTH


Alright this sounds really lame.. but hear me out and please don't judge. I'm 16 and my boyfriend is 16. Neither of us have had a relationship before. We had our first kiss and he used a lot of tongue which I didn't like. Now I never know when to kiss him. Like I think about it and it would feel so awkward and weird just to go up and kiss him. What can I say to him or how can I go about kissing him? He's too shy to make the first move. (link)
It doesn't sound lame, I know how it works... I was much like that too.

I would just take it slow, talk to him about what is bothering you.

Or when you get to the point where you would like to be kissed, tell him to kiss you. You can say it in a cute, girly way or you can say it in the seductive way.
He might be nervous about making the first move because he worries he is pushing you too far.

Once the two of you get past the nervousness of kissing it will come naturally.

When you two are alone watching a movie, and things start to get tense. Put his arm around you, and look into his eyes. Usually men take that as a hint.

HTH!



i have the original iPod nano with 2gb, and i thought that you could only have 500 songs on it, but i have 506 songs on it now, with album art, so i was wondering if you knew why. (link)
the 500 song max, is like an average. Your 506 songs with album art havnt exceeded the 2gb yet. When you open i-tunes, with your ipod plugged in, theres a bar at the bottom, telling you how much of the memory you have used, and how much you have left. Every song varies in size, so some may take up more space than others.


i want to learn korean with rosetta stone. anyone use it? anyone have opinions on it? thanks in advance :) (link)
My girlfriend has the italian kit. She says its pretty good.

Also, at the mall, they had a stall set up, selling it- you could try it for free. in my opinion, it was AMAZING...and i tried out japanese (after all, it is a very hard language to learn). Im rubbish at learning languages in college, But this uses techniques, that are similar to how we learn english as children, so its VERY easy. I still remember "boy" in japanese = Onnanoko. Girl in japanese= Okkananoko (or something like that)

VERY good...but Pricey also...worth it however.


i just graduated and have to write a million thanks yous...any ideas for a little short standard thank you paragraph????? (link)
I want 2 thank you 4 believing in me. also because you helped through these 12 years of school. And i want to thank you 4 coming 2 mi graduation.


I'm 16, female.
My boyfriend of 2 years recently cheated on me. he was at a party and had sex with a senior from my school.i broke up with him. he now says he regrets everything and wants me back.He told me he loves me and only me. So, my question is should i believe him and take him back? i mean i love him and everything, i just don't wanna get screwed over.
thanks in advance :]! (link)
I say that u should forget all about him because if he loved you he would not have cheated no matter what. But this is your call if u still want him that's you. That would be a good way of getting your heart broken again.


Hello im 18/f. I recently came up with this idea that i want to start my own business. Im not sure what kind of business. Here is some information about me: I was on the cheerleading squad for 3 years, im going to go to college for nursing and psychology. I just came up with this idea. Can anybody help me decide on some topics that i could use. Sell stuff you know. I want it to be successful but who doesnt. I know it takes alot of work but im willing to do it. I just dont wanna spend money then it be pointless. Any ideas would be helpful! Thanks! (link)
maybe like an ebay store? ask people if they want something to sell. You sell it for them at auctions, ebay, amazon etc, and take half the profit or something? Or you could do the same with unwanted items, in which case you would get ALL the money, because they dont want the item anyway.



Me and the guy I'm with will be together for 3 years this October.. I was thinking of getting him a ring.. nothing too flashy/showy.. a simple band of some sort, preferably silver... and the problem is, I dont know his ring size and I want it to be a surprise.. so how would I go about finding that out without making it completely obvious??
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does he wear rings? if so...jus ask to try one on. Then, compare it to your finger, and try to remember how big it is. When you go to buy one, try the rings on to find something similar to what you can remember. this works. i did it :)


ok im 14 and my boyfriend is 16. he wants to have sex in the family bathroom at the mall but i don't know if i should do it or not. If it helps its the only place that we can atchually meet. Thanks in advance. (link)
I hate how everyone says no.
If you feel your ready for it, then do it. Just think about it, and you will know if your ready.

Pluss, bring something like a jacket so you can sit or lay on it so you don't get dirty down there.

Have fun :]


ok, im a 14year old guy and i watch porn every day. I always wonder what a naked girl looks like , but i onlyu find 18+. is this normal for guys to be obssesed for naked girls? (link)
Haha, yes its very normal! :]
Actually, if you want, you can inbox me, if you know how, or just ask for my email, and I will send you some pictures.

Haha, sorry, I'm like really turned on right now :P

Only if you want. They can be of anything! XD


ok. im 16/f

i got on my myspace yesterday and someone had left a horrible racist comment in my truth box.

it read: ''Well...to be perfectly honest I dislike you very much. And I don't say this without reason. Your not a very good person and you fuck niggers because they are the only kind of people who will show anyone like you any attention. Seriously Jordyn just go to hell...''

sorry for the laguage but thats what it said word for word. this really upset me and i was wondering if anyone knew how to find out who sent this. its a truth box so its anonymous but i thought someone might know how to find out.
thank you so much

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Just go to http://www.truthboxtruth.com and the guy will tell you




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