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My bestest girl friend is switching schools so we will not have the same snow days, breaks, half days, and days off and the worst part i love her i don't know what i'm going to do if i don't see her on a daily basis and neither of us dont want this to happen and the school shes going to is horrible its small and ugly and shell have to wear a uniform thanks p.s were both 13 im a male and shes a female (link)
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I'm sure you both are very close and will stay very close if you have a strong friendship.
You can't change your situation, but you can make the best of it.
Hang out on weekends and enjoy the time you do have with her.
Moving around is a part of life, and you really can't help it. Just do your best to make the best out of the situation and enjoy the time you do get to spend time with her.
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When I'm looking at myself, I see myself as a normal to chubby girl, but actually I'm underweight. I can't guess anymore what's normal, what's a attractive person, what's a normal meal.
Any examples for those points??? (link)
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You just have a twisted view of yourself. I think it's pretty much society's fault. That's just how they make money.
For knowing what a normal meal is, you should talk to a nutritionist. They know everything about that and would be able to help you get to your normal weight range.
As for attractive people, that's just everybody's own personal opinion. Everybody has their own taste. But honestly, you shouldn't judge and think people are ugly because in reality, no one really is. It's just people's opinions and how it's being warped by society and the media.
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My friend has many talents, like, sing, drawing, playing instruments. Well sometimes I feel like poop because it like she better than me. She gets random people on instagram telling her how talented and how pretty she is and sometimes it's like, wow what the heck am I. And the thing is she always like my life sucks or boring or something like that, but yet she's like the most luckiest person I know. She talks to people like Diamond White on twitter and get them saying stuff like I love you and your so amazing. And I always feel like a piece of poop when she tells me stuff like that. But I want to be happy for her, but it's just hard because I want to be able to draw and have people tell me I'm pretty ( even though I already believe it) and be able to talk to famous people too! (link)
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What you're feeling is completely natural. I can't say that it's wrong to feel this way, as long as you keep it under control and don't let it ruin your friendship.
You just need to be positive. It's easier said than done. You don't need to compare yourself, because if you keep doing that, someone will always be better.
You need to focus on being happy and focus on what you're good at, not what she's better at. It's really hard when your friend is the one who you're comparing yourself to. These kinds of things end friendships and you don't want that happen.
Anyways, the luckiest people never realize that they're lucky. They always think they need more, if that makes any sense.
Just work on it and focus on yourself.
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Ok. So I was in Marching Band last year (my 8th grade year, going to be Freshman) and i met a guy (Sophomore, going to be Junior) We didn't really become friends till AFTER field season. It was at a districts performance, we started talking about a TV show we both like. After i performed (Color Guard show for me. He was there to perform with our Drumline) he gave me a thumbs up. Then at a pops concert we talked, and i bravely asked for his number. He gave it to me. I was in a weird dress for my show and i told him i felt awkward in it he said "Don't worry you look good"(We texted alot after that.) I performed and he told me I did great. Awhile later (different day) We had grown pretty close, I texted him if i dressed like a slut. (My friends kept telling me i did the day before and i was upset and wanted to talk to him) he replied "I don't think you dress like a slut your beutiful" I thought that was a sweet of him to say. I was talking to him another day asking him if he's looking forward to graduate in two years he said not really, I asked why and he said becuase he'd be leaving me. I asked why and he said I was special and that he's comfortbale talking with me and that he doesn't talk to a lot of girls. The big thing though was today. I went to a music store, and he happened to have saxophone practice today. I was talking to the owner about french horns when he walked in (I havent seen him in awhile) and he waved awkwardly at me, i did the same and the owner looked back and forth between us, shocked. He asked me if i knew him and i nodded. They boy went to go practice and i ended up being given a lesson. We left our seprate rooms at the same time. I put the french horn away (I was borrowing it for the half an hour) and was moving to give the owner the mouth piece, but the boy walked up to me and held his arms out to hug me, he said some words but i forgot what they where. I hugged him happy. I then left, smiling the rest of the day. We have never really broken the touch barrier like that before and he initiated it. He also told me this year was the best of his life so far because he joined band and got to meet me. I think I like him(I'm not sure 100%) but does he like me? I'm confused, Please don't say anything about age. (link)
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It does sound like he likes you. He is attracted to you physically and he obviously likes your personality.
I mean he is a good friend, but all good relationships start as friends so I think it's all good.
You should keep progressing this and try hanging out with him. I think he really does like you though.
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hey, for the last couple of weeks,or since school got out for summer i just got out of counseling and ever since my last time i went everyone has been calling me weird annoying and saying that i've changed and my counselor taught me alot its just that i am being more social but lately i've been wanting to just be alone like i have barely been with any of my friends this summer and i can't help but sit and think how i've changed. I used to not be able to tell people how i truly feel but i was being bullied but now i can tell someone to fuck off and say no when i want to but others are saying i've changed...i dont feel suicidal at all and i dont cut myself and i dont get bullied as much and my counselor has taught me alot of ways to help myself but i just feel like im isolating myself from everything...any help would be lovely. thanks (link)
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Just because you've changed, it doesn't mean that it's not good. There is such things as good changes.
If these people are saying that you've changed for the worse, then they're probably not people you want to associate with.
I mean you said you're more social and can stand up for yourself, you're not suicidal or cut yourself, and that's a good thing. Just because you like to be alone, doesn't mean that it's a bad thing. You don't need to always want to hang out with your friends. I think you're completely fine and shouldn't worry about what other people think.
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I'm a thirteen year old girl, slightly insane. I have a neighbor/friend named Jonathoan. He's thirtytwo. He's a conspiracy theorist, and, although his ideas might be a little out there, I don't think they are all definitely wrong. We like the same kind of music- greenday, the beatles, matchbox 20, etc. We both enjoy learning, and want to know the truth about everything possible. He's funny, and nice. He isn't some weirdo who hangs out with little kids, I'm just kind of odd, and prefer to talk to adults over kids my age. The point of my story? I have a bit of a crush on him. I, of course, haven't told him, and don't plan on acting on my feelings. (link)
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I'm not sure what you're asking. You already don't plan on acting on your feelings, which is good.
It's not wrong to have a crush on an older man. But it's wrong to act on them, and you already know that.
Are you asking how to get over the feelings? Or how to deal with the feelings? Or if this is wrong?
It is weird for him to hang out with you a lot. Although he may not be doing anything wrong, it's just weird even if you both may have a lot in common.
So just get control of your feelings. I'm really not sure what else to say because I'm not sure what you're asking.
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I have known my girlfriend for 6 months and been dating her for 5. I am 28 and she is 30 and she is american and im english.
When we first met and started talking we hit it off big time. I told her from the first day that i wanted to be completely open an honest with her, especially after i had been lied to and cheated on in both my only 2 serious relationships....this meant telling her that as of the last 3-4 years whilst i was single i had dated alot and had had many casual partner & one night stands (i dont know my actual number but i told her it was 35). At the time she was shocked and didnt know what to think of me, but i really liked her and expressed my feelings for her and explained that as of the last year /6 months i had made a concious effort to stop partying, being wild, no more casual dates and to just wait for the 'right girl' i felt i could love and trust. Furthermore, as part of us getting know eachother we both talked about our last dates / relationship. The thing with my last casual / semi serious date is that it was with another american girl. I explained all this as honest as i could and explained i didnt have an 'american girl fetish' or anything...its just co-incidence how things have worked out.
She on the other hand has only has 2 serious relationships and says she has never been the sleeping around / casual dating type..which i truly believed...she has no reason to lie. Her past relationship was very abusive and she was physically harmed and it ended badly. i dont know whether this is a result of that, but she can be a very insecure person and often needs constant reassurance id never hurt her, or cheat on her..etc etc. an im more than willing to do this everytime its needed as i truly love her and feel sorry she went through her bad past.
anyway, after we got it all out in the open, she fully accepted what i was telling her and a month later we became serious and bf/gf.
Since then we fell truly head over heels in love with eachother and ive never felt this way about anyone before...i genuinely think (thought...seen as how shes now breaking up with me) that she was 'my one' and i told her this and she said she felt the same. ive been more romantic and done things in this relationship that ive never done before...showering her with flowers, gifts, travelling with her to the US to meet her parents and suprising her for her 30th birthday etc we've met eachothers familys and friends and everything was rosey....right up until last night
She began questioning me about the previous american girl i casual saw...asking specific times and months we dated, how serious we were...etc etc. I told her again what i told her when we first met...but played it down abit more than was actually the case, as i didnt want to make think that anything i had was as serious as what i have with her now...which is honestly the case. What i didnt know was that she'd been on my facebook page and trawled back thru all my old msgs, comments and photos between me and the other american girl, which are very 'coupley' and flirty. not only that but alot of what id wrote to her was similar to what ive wrote to my now / recently broken up with gf (english - american banter etc). She WENT ABSOLUTLY CRAZY BESERK.
saying that i lied to her, i was way more serious with her then i first said, that the dates and times i orginally said didnt match with fb dates n times (they were a month or so out here and there which i honestly didnt know...i dont memorise things like that). I told her i was sorry i didnt explain all the details about the previous relationship...and in all honesty it wasnt as serious relationship as what i have with her now. She did not and can not accept that. She says im a liar..i lied about something really important.
To make matters worse...she then trawlled through even more of my fb, looking as far back as 3-4 years ago and going through every girl im friends with. As ive stated before, i did sleep around alot had many dates...so over the last few years theres alot of fb comments, photos etc...not really on my page as i deleted alot. but theres alot on other peoples. When she saw this...how i spoke to them, how i flirted etc tec...she said she didnt feel special, nothing we had over the last 6 months was special anymore, id done exactly the same as id did with all the other girls already and that she didnt really know me anymore, or who i was...etc etc.
i pleaded with her that i told her this from the start, that it was my past, that i was ashmed of it, that i was a different person as of the last 6-8 months (basically just before i started dating her)and that id that all i ever cared about since meeting her...was her. furthermore...that i loved her and id never put as much love, romance, effort into anyone else before her. I couldnt describe enough how special she is / was to me.
She didnt believe any of it though. she kept saying i lied, i was a player, i would use her, nothing about what ive done is special, i treat her like every other girl before and that she wont be just another notch on the bed post. she the abruptly ended with me. all that in 5 hours in one night after 6 months. its been a day an ive not heard from her and dont know what to do?
Did i do anything wrong? what should i have done? what should i do now?
advice would be greatly appreciated, thanks (link)
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Well you already know what she's been thinking and that she's really insecure about the relationship.
You did the right thing by telling her everything up front. I do admit that it is hard to be with someone who has a wild past. But if you haven't shown anything to make her not trust you, she needs to work on that herself.
You haven't done anything wrong. You did everything right. So just give her some time. If she doesn't trust you even when you haven't done anything wrong while you were with her, then that is her own problem and she needs to fix it. You can't do anything really except be there for her and prove you love her, which you've already done.
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what's the difference between french kissing and making out (link)
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It's pretty much the same thing. French kissing just involves a little more tongue.
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ok so my boyfriend is bisexual. which is alright with me, the other day he confessed that he and my best guy friend were curious. my boyfriend gave the guy a blowjob. he said he doesn't consider it to be cheating, and he says he would never cheat on me because he loves me. I consider it to be cheating, I mean what if he gets curious again? what should I do? I'm so confused, please help. (link)
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Just because he is bisexual, doesn't mean it's not cheating, it makes it ten times worse.
A relationship is between two people. It means you two are only being physical and sexual.
He is bisexual, he is attracted to both males and females. So it's definitely not ok to hook up with someone else.
Even if he wasn't bisexual, it still wouldn't be right.
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So say there's this guy, and he's like 23.
He's said that he has never dated anyone ever in his entire life and says that he is focusing on school. But then say you find out from a close source of him that he's a player and just wants to have fun. Not only that, he has done many one night stands and hook ups.. And that he has also one time hooked up with this girl and was seeing this girl for awhile afterwards but then that girl was already taken by another man but he knew but he still did it anyways cause he felt that she could've been the one... But it didn't work out anyways and has gone back to his old ways!
Anyways point of this question is do you think a guy like that could ever change his ways and be serious and be committed like say in the future? Getting it all out of his system ..
Or do you think he could never be changed and that if he ever did finally settle down , do you think he would cheat later on cause he would miss the wild single life ? (link)
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Well it's not impossible. But it's a really low chance.
A lot of women get into relationships with "bad boys" thinking they can change them. Then they realize that you can't change anyone, they can only change themselves.
So if he wants to change, yes he can. But he doesn't, then he won't.
If you did get together with him hoping he'll change, it's not a good idea. But if he does show you that it's different, then fine. But don't get into the relationship thinking you can help him change.
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my mother is going to jail for eight months for a financial crime. My dad asked if I want to visit her sometime because he said she would appreciate a visit and it could be an "educational experience" (What does that mean?)
I have no problem with my mother and other than this misdeed she was a good mother but I don't know if I should subject myself to go into a jail just to see her for a while. Does anyone know what it is like there and how the visiting works? I am a 14 year old girl by the way. Also, what can we talk about in the short time we probably have?
My best friend joked ""maybe it will remind your mom how it feels when she punishes you. when she comes back, things might be a little different". Even though she is joking she has a point. Kind of funny to think she is in the punishment situation now
also, my dad said I still have to listen to my mother when she gets out and even when she is jail if she calls and he wants her opinion on something he will listen. I don't understand how he can do this. I mean like I said I don't hate my mom or anything and had a good relationship with her but now that she committed a crime, her telling what to do would be hypocritical (link)
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I think you should visit her. What he means by educational experience is by visiting your mother, you can learn what it's like in jail. You and your mother have a good relationship and she's not a bad person, she's just a human who makes mistakes. So it's like a reality check that even good people make mistakes and could end up in jail.
While visiting, you just go in and sit down and talk with them.
You can just talk about how school is, just every day life and she can tell you what it's like there.
Of course you still have to listen to your mother when she comes out. She is still your mother. They are both still your parents, they still both get to make decisions together.
You said it was a financial crime, so I don't see how it's hypocritical.
I think you're looking at it the wrong way.
Your mom made a mistake and is being punished. If you make a mistake or do something wrong, you'll be punished too. That's just how life is. Nothing hypocritical about it.
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what should i do after getting asked out ? (link)
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You either say yes or no. If you want to be with them, then say yes. If you don't, then say no.
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Hi,
K so there's this guy that I like from work.. He's six years older than I am and I am 17 years old right now. When we first met I felt like he may have liked me cause he would always try a way to touch or even try to hug me several times. But ever since he found out about my age , he sorta then backed off.. Just because maybe he felt that i was just too young for him :/
So then several weeks went by before he stopped acting awkward and starter to be friendly again but like not as "friendly" as before. So then anyways the last time I saw him he said I looked pretty several times throughout my shift, and it was because I was all dolled up for grad that night after my shift and at the end he even stopped me after my shift and pulled me in hugging me saying I looked pretty again. A few days after grad he fb messaged me and asked if I was working tonight out of the blue and I said no haha and then he said u should be working !!! And then somehow he asked for my number and then he texted me late that night after his shift like at 12 pm all the way to 1:30 ish am. We talked and he said that he saw pictures in facebook and said that i looked pretty at grad and asked how it was. he also asked if i always stayed up this late and i boldly said that it was because i liked ralking to him. But when we were texting I felt like he didn't give in much to the conversation like I was always the one asking . And then him answering. He finally said that he was going to bed and that he would ttyl. Does he really mean that ? Or was he just being nice? Does he like me ? I'm so confused ...maybe I'm just overthinking. Do u think he may have been bored at our conversation ?! (link)
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You're definitely over thinking this. But of course, pretty much every girl does.
It does seem like he's into you. Guys who just want to be your friend don't normally compliment you or hug you that much. I think he backed off because you are too young for him.
We don't know if he really means he'll talk to you later, but he most likely will and I don't think he was bored of your conversation. Especially since he texted you back for that long. Normally when guys aren't interested, they won't stay up late at night to talk. Remember that.
But the age is the problem. So continue talking to him like a friend and once you turn 18, then you can get more friendly.
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Um, so basically the guy I was dating and I decided to break up three days ago. I didn't want to, but I did to make him happy. It is crazy. I'm just going through this phase where I miss him every minute of the day. When I talked to him yesterday, I was crying uncontrollably on the phone and that only because he hates himself, he's into depression and he never told me when we were together. On the phone he was just being mean, asking me to stay away otherwise I'll get hurt. Later I found out when I was crying, we was too but silently, because he couldn't say anything. The thing is, sometimes, he gets so mean to me. Everytime, I pretend to be happy, pretend to be okay, he just..it's like he becomes cold. Why does he do this? Is it possible that he still has feelings for me? I didn't contact him at all today and he came on fb and I told him my phone broke ( which it did) and that I couldn't talk for a week..until school starts. But then he replied by saying that he was sorry and he asked me to "please text or call??" But I didn't. Not because I don't want to, but because I don't know what I'll say or how I'll say that stuff again and again. I don't want to show him that I'm weak, but I miss him so much! Is it possible that he still misses me and loves me the way I do? (link)
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What was the reason you two broke up?
If you both had a good reason to why you broke up, then the break up was probably a good thing.
You guys only broke up three days ago. It's completely normal for you to miss him and want him to miss you too.
And as for this whole depression thing. Is he actually depressed, like clinically depressed or depressed because of uncontrollable circumstances and is more "upset" rather than depressed?
It's never a good thing to be with a guy who hates himself. It's obviously not attractive. Like boys aren't normally attracted to girls who don't like themselves. It brings people down. So to be with him, he needs to work on his self esteem.
And on top of that he was being mean over the phone. Even if you both were upset over this, it doesn't give him a right to be mean just to get you to stop talking to him.
He most likely still has feelings for you. I mean it's only been a couple days. You don't get over someone that fast unless you never really liked them.
It's actually a good thing that you didn't contact him. Not that you don't want to look weak, but because I think you both need some space.
He needs to work through his issues with himself and being angry and taking it out on you. It's not fair to you because you really care about him and how he's feeling. So you do need to care about yourself too. So give it some time before you jump back into talking to him again. If you guys ever work things out, make sure you work through your problems.
For now, you should just wait it out.
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I am 17 years old and me and my boyfriend were 'grinding' tonight on his bed. I was on top of him when i felt something wet down there and i asked him if anything had happened. he went to the bathroom and changed his underwear and shorts because he said that he had ejaculated. I was wearing cotton yoga pants and underwear and he was wearing boxers and shorts. i know i may sound uneducated but i need my worries to be put to rest. is there a possibility i may be pregnant? (link)
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It's really unlikely. It's actually a little weird that he ejaculated just by grinding. Anyways, sperm isn't smart or anything. So since you were wearing clothes, I don't think it could have gotten through.
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its been like a month my ex stopped talking to me, suddenly he stops, we used to talk once in a while and have long conversations and then all of a sudden when i used to say hi he would be cold lol :S , like i rather have him telling me he dont wanna talk to me instead of making me think whether i've done something wrong..
But seriously he didn't even bother wishing me happy birthday a week ago, the same way i did to him when it was his bday.. i just dont get why he would stop talking lol :/ (link)
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Ok so this guy is your ex boyfriend?
If he acts cold, he probably doesn't really care to talk to you. He probably doesn't want to be straight up and tell you he doesn't want to talk. But obviously, you're getting the hint.
Are you guys just friends? Do you still like him and that's why you want to talk to him?
Sometimes it's really hard to be friends with an ex because they're going to move on eventually to someone else. That's why most people can't handle being friends with their ex. If you can do that, great. But he doesn't seem as interested in being friends.
There's nothing much you can do but accept that he doesn't really feel like talking to you as much. If you want, you can ask him why he's being cold but I think you already know why.
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Okay so, My boyfriend will be turning 16 years old in a week, We've been together for 3 1/2 months and i really don't know what to get him, I'm also 16. I really can't get anything expensive because i don't have a job, and don't have much money, so it has to be something I can afford. Any advice on what to get a guy for his 16th birthday ? Please And thank you. (link)
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Pretty much anything meaningful would be something he'd like.
Do you know what things he's into? If he's into sports you can find something that's sports related or a team he really likes. What kind of music does he like? You could make him a CD, or get him an Itunes card.
I love gift baskets. You can get a lot of cheap but cool things and put it in a basket. For my boyfriend last year, I made him a gift basket. I went down and aisle that had little shampoos and other little things. I got little shampoos, cologne, after shave, ect. I also put candy in it and a gift card. I made a homemade card and also made heart shaped brownies and cake pops.
Boys love food, so he'll definitely appreciate some baked goods. You can make cookies, brownies, cupcakes, ect.
You could even cook him dinner.
You could get a picture frame, decorate it, and put a picture of the two of you in it.
Anyways, be creative and I'm sure he'll love whatever you give him.
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When i said something rude to a friend i thought about my bad behaviour and wanted more than anything to take it all back. I guess sometimes we all make mistakes. Boy, this is a big one. I am 58 and she is around my age. I just feel stupid. Any help please. Roger (link)
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You should definitely apologize. It really helps friendships.
Although she might not forgive you right away, but at least you did the right thing and apologized. It shows that you actually care and you do feel bad about you said. It's good for her to know that.
So don't try to make an excuse as to why you said it, just explain that it wasn't right of you and that you do want to apologize.
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A guy that I like from work finally asked for my number and we texted a bit the other night. He said that he would ttyl... Should I be the one that initiate or should I just wait on his word until he texts me ? (link)
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I think you should text him. It definitely shows that you're into him.
I was talking to one of my guy friends the other day was talking about how he likes it when girls initiate texting sometimes because it seems like girls are always the ones waiting for a text. So I think it should be even between the two of you.
Us girls should never really over think texting, it's not a big deal, it's not a phone call or something. So I think you should text him.
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I would love a guys opinion, but if you are a girl and you have ideas that's great!
I was wondering, what are some cute thing that you and your boyfriend/girlfriend do when you hang out? Like, go to the park, go on walks, watch movies and cuddle, etc. We usually do these things, but I want to do something with him that wont cost too much money or gas haha. Thanks so much! (link)
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Me and my boyfriend have done tons of things that are pretty cheap but a lot of fun.
You could try going to see a matinee move, those are cheaper than going later at night.
I don't know how long you guys have been together but sometimes me and my boyfriend would sit, get some pizza and watch home movies from when we were younger.
Then of course you guys can cook dinner together or you can make him dinner.
I've seen other couples do this, they take their camera with them and when they are on a date, they'll take pictures or have someone take a picture of them. I think it's sweet.
Me and my boyfriend read together too. We'll either read to each other or just sit together and read a book.
Baking is also a lot of fun to do together.
If you go to the park, you can have a picnic.
If you guys have a pond or lake that has ducks, you can go walk around there and feed bread to the ducks.
Riding bikes or going for a hike.
My boyfriend is into museums and he finds some that are pretty cheap so you can check that out if you're into it.
I also love board games.
Anyways, I hoped these helped.
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