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Q: 15/f--my boyfriend and i have been together for a long time but the other day i was at his house and his mom came upstairs and saw us coming out of his room (we were looking at yearbooks) and she freaked out and thinks we're having sex even though i'm not anywhere near ready to do that, and she won't even let us watch tv without someone else in the room. she used to like me a lot, how can i get her to trust me/us again?!?
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You've got to talk to her. Something must have happen to make her react this way. Sit down with her and tell her your not ready and convince her that nothing happened and if something did, you'd tell her. If you at least let her know, then she might change her ways, but your probably going to end up waiting, just ask her whats been going on.
-TheTeenGirl
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Q: I hate my life and I have a lot of problems. My dad left me when I was 3 years old and he lives in Tenneessee with his girlfriend and my half brother. I only get to see them once a year on Christmas. My half sister lives about 45 mins away from me and I only get to see her about every other weekend and on some holidays. My mom lives about 30 mins away from where I live with her boyfriend. They are getting on my nerves because she wants me to move in with them and I don't want to be away from my friends or switch schools again. I live with my grandparents. I have gone through a lot these past 2 or 3 years. I moved away from all my friends in the 3rd grade (Im in 7th grade now), but my best friend changed to the same school as me. Then She moved About 2 and 1/2 hours away in the 4th grade and I didn't even know untill about 2 or 3 days after she left and I hardly ever get to see her. Also school is really stressing me out. A few days ago I cut myself and im thinking about doing it angain. I snap rubberbands on my rist and I get bruses and scars from it. I am thinking about going goth but im probably not. I just have a really bad life. I was wondering if anyone could give my any advice on how I can try to make it better. It's ok if you can't i know it's probably hard to give advice like this. Please and thanks.
~*~Britt~*~
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I'm not very happy you rated me a 1 mister!! I gave you advice.
-TheTeenGirl
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Q: Hey, I am Leigh-Anne, I am 35 years old, a week ago me and my husband were working late, my 12 year old son was home alone, when I came home I went to his room and caught him having sex with a 17 year old girl who is a friend of the family. I was schocked. She was giving him oral sex and they immedietly stopped, please answer thanks ~Leigh-Anne
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That "family friend" has got to go, sorry, shes gotta leave, if she were a mature 17 year old women, she wouldn't have EVER done that. Please get rid of her, or you're gonna get so caught up in this you'll catch your son parenting at 12. I hope you get her out fast. Also, talk to your son about this, and I don't care if they immediatly stopped, they wouldn't have kept going and that doesn't make her any less "innocent."
-TheTeenGirl
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Q: ok..lets get to it my bestfriend wants me to smoke weed with her and i dont want to but she said she wont be my friend if i dont do it....what should i do
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Shes gone, take her out of your life, if weed is gonna stop you both from being friends, shes not a best friend at all.
-TheTeenGirl
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Q: my boyfriend asked me to makeout with him and i dont want to but i dont know the right way to tell him and he keeps asking me what should i say that woudlnt hurt him???
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Tell him you're not ready for that next step. And if he keeps pushing, hes a person who will pressure you into everything (including sex) and you won't want to turn him don because he gets all upset and sad and then you feel bad, but you're not ready, so tell him that you need more time, he will get it.
-TheTeenGirl
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Q: I have this problem, I really like having guy friends, and I can do stuff around them, like be my stupid self, and they can act the same. But if I start dating one of them, I get all shy. I hate this. What can I do to change it?
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Its a normal thing when you're shy around a guy you're dating, but soon, that will be over with, I mean, I used to be this way, but now, I have a great guy that basically showed me its ok to be my goofy, dorky, funny self. And if they don't like your true self then I say they're not worth the trouble. You want a guy to where when your around him, you can just let out a big burp, and you'll laugh at it together, lol. You just want a guy you can not brush your hair for a week and he still thinks you're beautiful. Those are the guys that you will love in the end. But for now, you just have to untie the knots in your stomach. I hope I gave you some thought.
-TheTeenGirl
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Q: k.. there's this new girl at our school named jackie.. i introduced her to all my friends.. including one named kaci. kaci's been trying so hard to make her jackie's best friend or whatever.. but anyway.. kaci says she tells me everything.. and she will always tell me anything that's bothering her.. well jackie was over at my house today and kaci called her.
you see. . kaci went out with my best friend's boyfriend like a year ago.. we all think kaci still lieks him but yea.. eric (ex) has a rep on being disloyal.. he called kaci telling her to come over anytime and he's sure his mom won't mind.. kaci goes "jackie, don't tell jami (me) or i'm gonna be mad at you".. i feel like i have to tell my best friend but i don't want jackie mad at me and kaci mad at jackie.. what am i supposed to do? help!!! sorry if it's confusing.. but i'll rate for anything
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Kaci said she would tell you anything, and will always. She betrayed you, so I think its safe to tell your best friend. And as for Jackie, you should warn her that you're going to tell her, because you don't like the fact that Kaci would do this to you, plus, she told you something Kaci told her not to tell you, (I hope I've got the story right, lol) so I think you can do the same. Plus, its not like you're doing this for entertainment gossip, its for your best friend. So tell Jackie that telling your best friend is omething you'd feel better about and if you're that afraid about Kaci being upset with Jackie, just both of you get together and tell Kaci, that you overheard what she said or heard it from Eric. I really hope I got this right, lol. If I don't, I'm sorry.
-TheTeenGirl
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Q: Me & my friends played a prank on this girl in my school that was picking on me, and she turned us in. Yesterday, I wasn't in school and the guidance conselor called all my friends down to the office, turns out EVERYONE was sayen I did it, even my best friends. I did do most of it, but not all of it. & I admitted to it. Are they real friends?
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Definetly not, you should drop them as easy as you'd drop a pencil. Seriously, that just makes me upset just from thinking its happening to a stranger. You need a new group of friends, thats just wrong. I hope you drop them.
-TheTeenGirl
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Q: my friend is always bugging me she is so annoying (im not the only one who thinks so) but when its just me and her she is so great she is really sweet and all but if there is a guy around she goes into annoying mode when i try to explain it to her she gets mad and then if i hang out with anyone knew or have any other friends she gets mad at me and i dont know what to do?
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When you see your friend being rude to you when a guy is around, shes obviously trying to impress him. And its even more obvious when she denies it and get upset when shes caught. Now you're saying annouying, I'm not sure if its annouying as in she thinks shes funny but shes not, or annouying like she just makes noises and acts stupid, but they both sound simaliar to trying to impress that guy. When you catch her in the act just say "see, you were fine before he got here, but now your being annouying again." And if she still gets upset, just be with your other friends for a period of time until she admits it and stops.
-TheTeenGirl
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Q: i have been friends with this guy lets call him john. and we have progressivly over a peroid of 8 months began to tlak more and goof around more. he's a very out going type and so am i. on AOL we talk alot and when we get together in public there is talking but not as much on AOL. and i am wondering is he justt alking to me to hummor me or is he intrested? he's kinda of a perverted kinda guy but has that sweet sensitive side to him! hes nice but can be a jerk but what guys can't be? he's been to my house and to all my parties and has offered to keep me company when ever i needed some. i dunno what to do what do u think?
thxs
*me*
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Sounds like a guy that makes you happy, and you owe that happiness to yourself, so I think you should wait until he asks you out, or even you can ask him. And you can't really find a guy in the world that isn't perverted, lol. So I still say hes a keeper! It sounds to me like he has interest in you, so I say go for it, I hope he likes you.
-TheTeenGirl
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Q: I have more of a comment then a question right now...I look at this site as a great way to make new friends and to get helpful advice so i can see what im doing wrong in my life and how i can improve it....I love asking questions and getting feedback but what i dont like is opening up answers and seeing rude remarks and dumb comments....Thats really not helpful and in some cases it makes me feel lower then i was before i asked the question...Im sure im not the only one who feels this way but i think this needs to stop...If you think its funny to make fun of peoples personal problems then go make fun of your own because you obviously have them if you feel you can say some of the things that i have seen said to people....Im open for any feedback but please i ask that this comment not be deleted because im trying to get a message out about how i feel and if you delete this then you are just as bad as those who leave rude remarks...Thanks alot...Xo~CaReBeAr~oX
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Yeah, I know EXACTLY what you mean, and the best thing you can do about that is just ignore them, and don't even rate them. They already know they're horrible at advice, and I think the only way to get the losers off is to just not even rate them. Like you never saw it, and about feeling low about it, just know that that person is going to walk through life with more problems, and then they even might try to get advice and then they'll get rude comments, and they might even feel low. But giving them a rate and a reply just lets them know you saw it and you're hurt. But theres not much you can do except say at the end of each question "I don't rate losers who give kindergarten intellegence answers, like rude comments" something along those lines. And they might back off, but otherwise, just don't even listen to them, they obviously have nothing better to do than make fun of people, meaning they rpobably have not much of a life. Some of them just like to be funny, but they'll learn omeday its not funny to very many of us. I hope I helped.
-TheTeenGirl
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Q: me and ryan* have been dating for about 6 months now. these past two weeks, it seems like he's been hitting me a lot lately. i mean, half the time we're joking.. but he's been kicking me.. we were walking down the hallway and i said something to him, a joke.. and he kicked me in the back of the leg.. i couldn't walk right the rest of the day.. he kicked my other leg yesterday before algebra ended.. and today, my friend jacki was over and he kicked me in the hip (very bony) so i started to cry and all. is he considered abusive ? what do i do ?
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I would say he is abusive, talk to him about it first, and if he said it was a joke, ask him to stop. If its not, then you better get away from him as fast as you can, now he might hug you and say he'll never do it again, but it will happen again. So don't give him another chance if that wasn't a joke, but it probably wasn't. But all girls who go through abusive relationships end up getting hurt and giving second chances. Its just like a replay of the first time it happened. So, I suggest you don't plan on him being in your life, I hope you take being abused seriously, because there is no good reason you can give me why he would even lay a hand on you.
-TheTeenGirl
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Q: This is an odd situation. Just for a little background info, I have a boyfriend. I've been dating him for over a year. Valentine's day will be 15 months.
Okay, I just got the lead in the school musical, and I have a love interest (duh). My love interest is a guy half the girls in the choir have had a crush on (except me, lol). That isn't really the point, just a bit of background.
My problem is this: We rehearsed, and we ended up practicing a scene in which we kiss. I didn't feel bad about it yesterday, but today I feel like...awkward, and wrong, and like I was cheating on my boyfriend, but it wasn't me that consented to the kiss, it was my character. My boyfriend knows about the scene, but he doesn't know we actually kissed yet. I was gonna talk to him about it today but he didn't come to school.
The thing is, the director thinks stage kisses look fake, and refuses to use fake kisses. So it was real. But I feel soooo bad about it. I shouldn't, because I have no feelings for the guy, but I do.
Any advice for me?
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Thats a pretty hard situation, because if your guy found out, he will pobably become jealous, but you do what you have to do, I mean this wasn't a choice was it? Even if it was, you wouldn't have known you were going to end up kissing him. But you just need to let him know calmly that you have no feelings for him and you wanted a fake kiss, but the director disagrees, at least you tried. And if hes somewhat upset, just try to be there for him until he knows, and don't yell at him for getting jealous if he does. I hope he doesn't, but your not wrong at all, and its ok to feel akward and a little hesitent about it.
-TheTeenGirl
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Q: Ok one of my best friends is cool in all but shes kinda of a really big flirt..and i mean i dont think she means to do it but she flirts with like every guy..and i mean she flirted with this one guy that i liked and she knew i liked him n then he stoped liking me and started to like her..it got me really upset and im over it now but now i think its happening again with a differnt guy ...shes supposively talked to him about me and he said that he liked me and that he wanted to ask me out.. but the last couple of days i have seen her go and flirt with him and she will come into our class and talk to him as if she liked him..and im like wtf i dont know what to do! PLEASE HELP ME!
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You sound angry and sad, and since your best friend has been hurting you with flirting towards guys, she needs to hear that sad and anger you've got locked up inside. You need to tell her to stop and if it doesn't, shes not worth to even call or have her as your best friend. She knows shes hurting you, nobody is that stupid, so you need to make sure she takes your anger seriously, make sure she knows that if she keeps hurting you, that means your friendship. I really consider you telling her, thats the only way to get her to quit.
-TheTeenGirl
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Q: My friend that i like .were always firlting and stuff .and he always saying nice things to me ...and next day he asked out some at school shes like my emeny and i'm so bumbed but she said yes then she dumbed him 10 minutes later ....i was kinda happy when i found out but what should i do i think he knows i hate her .should i be pissed or happy ?
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Ask him why he went out with her, and if he says he likes her, don't flirt back with him the next time he tries to flirt, then that way if he likes you too, he'll soon give her up and try to get you to flirt again. and his focus with be on you all the time, and if it turns out he doesn't like her, then its obvious their relationship was a joke, he might have been testing you. To see if you'd get jealous. So I'm not sure what your mood should really be, you control your moods, jut try saying to yourself you should be happy, because then pissed turns into sad, and thats a bad feeling to have. So I hope you guys end up being happy together.
-TheTeenGirl
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Q: okay well i have this one friend who can b really rude to me. LIke i would say hey and she would roll her eyes! If even go 2 stand by one of my friends she will be like " Why did u leave me? R u mad at me?" And she is really over reacting lots of times. Why is she always growling up in my face? Should i even try bein her friend? Please help!
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Tell her how you feel, the way I see it, shes being a hypocrit, ask her the same when she rolls her eyes or gets all rude, ask later "are you mad at me?" And when she apologizes again, just say "again?" and just say that, EVERYTIME she apologizes, "again?" she'll get it. Plus it will be kind of fun for you because you'll just have a magic word, "again?" lol. Plus, if she denies that she rolled her eyes or was rude, right when you catch her in the act say "see, right there, I saw that" then walk to your class.
-TheTeenGirl
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Q: theres this kid and he told me he wants to have sex with me. this is so gross to me! i cant stop thinking about it. i heard over and over in my head"i wanna have sex with you" its so gross i dont even like his the least bit! theres no way i can get this outta my head! please help!
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ok, I did not copy that girl, she copied me, look at the time differences, mine was 8:11, hers was 8:17, so I did not copy her! and you need to appreciate advice even if it doesn;t work, don't be ungreatful and rate people 1 just because it didn't work, or nobody will wanna even help you.
-TheTeenGirl
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Q: my boyfriend is really sweet and thoughtful of what he does. so before he kissed me, he asked if it would be ok. and i said it would. so now he wants to kiss me. but the only thing is...it's my first kiss and i don't know how. please help. it might sound kinda stupid but i need to know how. thanks in advance!
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Thats not stupid. I havn't even kissed and you know why I'm not worried anymore? Because I know that when I meet the special person I'll love, he will know I've never been kissed and he will be willing to show me. Guys love to give girls their first kiss, and they love to be the girls first to have sex with them, and if they don't love that, then hes not the guy for you, there was a first time for him too, so he should be ok with you not having your first at things yet, you should tell him that maybe, if hes sweet, he'll understand. And I hope your first kiss goes well, congradualations.
-TheTeenGirl
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Q: I starting going out with this one guy from my school at a ski lodge. He called me at midnight and kept saying how much he loved me, and he only knew me for 12 hours? I dumped him the next morning becuase i found out he was going out with TWO other girls that i didn't know about, at the same time We were going out. he also told those two girls that he "never went out with me" and "NEVER would" I completly freaked out on him at lunch and even slapped him. He denyed everythingg! I also heard of all these gurls he apparently screwed. What can i say tomorrow to him at lunch to make him spit out the truth??
x3333
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To tell you the truth, you already know the truth about him, you shouldn't even bother making him admit it, I think you should just take him out of your dating life, there are lots of other guys (Other "fish" in the sea, lol) and you should go for someone else, plus, that a bit stupid for him to "love" you in the time of 12 hours, thats certainly not love. You should get away from him before you REALLY love him that you'll just keep denying to yourself that hes playing you and you know he is. And it will be a big issue for you, and not him, because you might find out that his hobby is playing with people's minds, so it won't be an issue for him until later. I hope you don't give him another chance.
-TheTeenGirl
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Q: Ok: so i love scary movies... spook houses, and doing the ouiji board. I live down in the basement all alone and after seeing freaky movies... like Saw I can't sleep. I think that there in my basement gonna come kill me.. and even though I'm 16... i still sleep with my t.v. on all night... even though I can't stand a speck of light in the night i LOVE watchinng scary movies... but i get so scared I sometimes cry! What can I do?
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I couldn't sleep in a basement after watching scary movies, you brave little thing! But anyway, sleep on the couch in your living room and turn on cartoons, thats what I'd do, or the disney channel, not something scary. I'd ty falling asleep as fast as I could too.
-TheTeenGirl
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My name is Erin and I am now 18 years old. You may realize through out looking at my column, some of you love me and some of you flat out hate me. There's really no gray area with me I guess you can say.
I haven't given advice here in so long and it's only because I got caught up in life. But I'm more mature than I ever thought I could be.
So anyway I'm here again. It's been a long time, but I still love giving advice and still plan on it in the future.
Everyone should feel free to Private Message me for advice, I can be harsh, but I'm always trying to help someone by giving them the truth they need.
About My Ratings:
I enjoy ratings. And if I ask a question on here, I always rate the person. If you work hard to give advice, you deserve to be rated.
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Website: Gender: Female Age: 17 Member Since: January 18, 2005 Answers: 1364 Last Update: December 8, 2007 Visitors: 82335
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