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I have this problem, I really like having guy friends, and I can do stuff around them, like be my stupid self, and they can act the same. But if I start dating one of them, I get all shy. I hate this. What can I do to change it?
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I totally understand. I get the same way. When a guy and I are just friends it's so much confortable than dating him. Here's what you can do:
1) Take drama!
2) Pretend you're still friends when you're around him, that way it'll be more comfortable.
3) Don't date "guy friends"
Hope I helped!
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okay .. i really like having guy friends too . and it might sound weird but i have more guy friends than gurl friends and i feel more comfortable around my guy friends .. when you are dating one of them dont give up on being friends.. even if you date you can be best friends i dont know why you are shy but if you are best friends .. it shouldnt be a problem to date them .. if u need more advice IM me at freekaleak143 good luck
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Its a normal thing when you're shy around a guy you're dating, but soon, that will be over with, I mean, I used to be this way, but now, I have a great guy that basically showed me its ok to be my goofy, dorky, funny self. And if they don't like your true self then I say they're not worth the trouble. You want a guy to where when your around him, you can just let out a big burp, and you'll laugh at it together, lol. You just want a guy you can not brush your hair for a week and he still thinks you're beautiful. Those are the guys that you will love in the end. But for now, you just have to untie the knots in your stomach. I hope I gave you some thought.
-TheTeenGirl
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Just you have to get use to them it takes time. Thats how i am around my babe but it took time to get use to him. Even after not seeing him for a week i get shy the next time i see him. Its totally normal. Just spend more time w/the guy-trix
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Make sure you are dating someone who is your friend. Keep that in mind. The best relationships are born of great friendships. Just remember to keep everything about your friendship the same. Have the same silly jokes and the same deep conversations, even when you're romantically involved.
It can be a weird transition but try to remind yourself that friendship is the basis for a relationship and try to be yourself. :-)
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if you get to know them well enough before you start dating, you shouldn't have a prob with shyness as along as you were open to him when you were friends
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Someone once told me that dating is nothing but going out with your best friend with a kiss at the end. (Of course there are other things, but the gist is the same thing) and of course people always say that they marry their best friend.
Its normal to feel the way you do. Let me use an analogy. You're on a train. You're on one track (say friendship) and then down the trip there is a track change- its a gradual change and you may not notice it at first, but then you do realize you're on a different track. After a little while, you realize that you are still on the same train with that person, but just traveling together toward a different direction- love or what have you. You and he are the same person, and he loves you for who you are, and vice versa.
Let things happen when they happen and be the person you have always been (why change something that he already loves about you?)
Best of luck
Arun
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Rememeber you were friends first. They all like the way you are so why change? The person your with wants you for you and if you act differently it will make them think differently about you. Be yourself. Live life to the fullest.
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don't worry, this is totally normal. the reason you feel like this is because you two have reached a different level of friendship. a much closer one. these are your emotions, and the best thing to do is just take a deep breath and act like its how it used to be. dating is just a word.
hope i helped sum:)
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:-) That's perfectly normal. Because your relationship has just taken a drastic turn. You just have to get past the awkward stages...and then you'll be back to being stupid around them.
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