I am 17, living in New England.
I have a brother (6) and a sister (11) and two parents who I get along with really well. (it's not always easy!)
I like writing poetry and music. I play piano and guitar (and a little bass). I love reading, shopping, and being stupid with my friends and my boyfriend.
I like giving advice because I love writing, connecting with people, and sharing things I've learned.
Ask me anything and I'll try and help! :-)
Some areas of expertise: long distance relationships (my boyfriend is 3 states away at college!), family stuff (I have learned how to tame parents, haha!), messy breakups, makeup tips, and anything about clothes!
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Age: 17
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Ok, my best friend is having a pool party at the end of the school year. I know it's far off but there are supposed to be a TON of people there. The problem is, I don't have much of a chest. I mean there's something there, just not alot of something. I want to wear a bikini but I don't know what type of top is gonna make my chest look a little more curvy. Help, I will rate 5's. (link)
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Hey!
Anything with a v-neck or a halter top balances out a small chest. Princess seams and strong, bold colors also offer a way to use your smaller frame to your advantage.
Lastly, I know it seems crazy, but it is true that confidence is the most important ingredient. I have seen girls with teeny chests, chubbier girls, and regular sized ones all be more popular because they were geniune, smiled a lot, and were comfortable with themselves. Get yourself a halter and a spoonful of confidence and you will go far! :)
Hope this helps!
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I have this problem, I really like having guy friends, and I can do stuff around them, like be my stupid self, and they can act the same. But if I start dating one of them, I get all shy. I hate this. What can I do to change it? (link)
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Make sure you are dating someone who is your friend. Keep that in mind. The best relationships are born of great friendships. Just remember to keep everything about your friendship the same. Have the same silly jokes and the same deep conversations, even when you're romantically involved.
It can be a weird transition but try to remind yourself that friendship is the basis for a relationship and try to be yourself. :-)
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any one gotta clue where to buy low rise jeans in the mall that arent that expensive like maybe under 25ish? tell me the store and how much they cost, why thanks! (link)
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Try department stores, particularly JCPenney and Filenes. They have really awesome sales really often and their juniors departments are full of cute low-rise jeans.
Happy Shopping!
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OK-- I have a few midterms coming up. I already did one (English) and that's out of the way. I'll specifically focus on SS- since that's the next one to come up. Well, Im really nervous on how my grade will turn out on my Midterm. What are good study tips that will help me be prepared? What are ways to make myself crack down and actually study?? How can I make myself go in feeling confident?? There is a website that the teacher made with several 'midterm' quizzes, and I use that sometimes but it doesn't always help.
P.S. I really don't care for the teacher!!
Thank You!! (link)
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Use the resources you have, such as the midterm quizzes. At least give them a shot.
Make yourself flash cards, your own quizzes, and use learning tools (like remembering names or dates by connecting them to something you already know. For example, remembering that the capital of Belgium is Brussels. What might you think of when you hear the word Belgium? I always think of waffles. Then I remind myself that the capital is a food...but not waffles...Brussel sprouts! Get the idea?)
Lastly, check out this website : http://homeworktips.about.com/
Good luck!
P.S. Don't let how you feel about the teacher keep you from succeeding. This is your life and you have to live with your grade, not your teacher.
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So I havent had a boyfriend in a long time and i am thinking of giving up but im not sure what i shood do....Im not shy and im outgoing and most people would call me pretty but its like no guy ever asks me out or nething....they just see me as a piece of ass but i want to be seen as more then that....Please help...any suggestions would be great! (link)
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Good for you!
Knowing that you want more is the first step. Unfortunately, the guys who want to see you as more can be rare.
It sounds like you're doing everything right. You're friendly and interesting and you have lots of friends. Just keep it that way. Make friends who are guys and girls and don't rush the boyfriend issue. Many good things are often found when you aren't even looking.
You have the right idea. Seeing yourself as valuable will help other people see you this way. Present yourself in a way that shows you respect yourself and you want to be seen as you are inside. Sooner or later, the RIGHT guy will notice, and one right guy is better than a hundred ones in a row who aren't into who you really are inside.
Have patience and know that you are great with or without a guy in your life!
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does anyone know how to get rid of cold sores like fast ive been using herpecin L all day but i need it to go away by tomorrow for school pictures...any ideas? thanx a bunch! (link)
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Keep using the medicine, but know that it probably won't go away before tomorrow.
Use some foundation on your lips, making them skin toned and cover the sore the best you can. Go over it with a colored gloss or lipstick. This should help hide the uneveness and redness somewhat.
Sometimes schools offer retakes. Look into that option if the picture is truly terrible.
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Ok one of my best friends is cool in all but shes kinda of a really big flirt..and i mean i dont think she means to do it but she flirts with like every guy..and i mean she flirted with this one guy that i liked and she knew i liked him n then he stoped liking me and started to like her..it got me really upset and im over it now but now i think its happening again with a differnt guy ...shes supposively talked to him about me and he said that he liked me and that he wanted to ask me out.. but the last couple of days i have seen her go and flirt with him and she will come into our class and talk to him as if she liked him..and im like wtf i dont know what to do! PLEASE HELP ME! (link)
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Girls like this are a lot of times really insecure and getting guys to like them (especially if she knows you like them) gives her a good feeling, like she is important and special.
If she keeps doing it, put some distance between you two. You deserve friends who love and support you. Try talking to her about it and if it doesn't work, leave her behind. You'll be better off for it in the end.
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okay well i have this one friend who can b really rude to me. LIke i would say hey and she would roll her eyes! If even go 2 stand by one of my friends she will be like " Why did u leave me? R u mad at me?" And she is really over reacting lots of times. Why is she always growling up in my face? Should i even try bein her friend? Please help! (link)
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This is what I call a "toxic friend." Basically, she's manipulative, and she's messing up your life.
Tell her that she's being rude. Give examples and tell her why her actions make you feel that way. Tell her you're not her property and that you can do whatever you want and talk to whoever you want to. If she apologizes, then hopefully it works out.
If she gets mad, or if after apologizing it happens again, just get her out of your life. Tell her you don't want to be mean but that she isn't a good, true friend to you and you tried to be nice.
Surround yourself with people who love you for you and treat you well!
*Much Love
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im in 8th grade and me and my boyfried have been going out for a few months...but we dont rly talk on the phone.We talk ALOT in school but not on the phone and when we talk there is allways something to talk about..is this a bad thing that we dont rly talk on the phone?
help i rate!! (link)
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It's only 8th grade, so just relax and take your time. If you really want to talk on the phone, try maybe one night a week. If you talk a lot at school, finding things to talk about on the phone shouldn't be hard.
Phone or no phone, right now it's not a big deal. Just take it easy and enjoy the great friendship you seem to have going within your relationship!
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my boyfriend asked me to makeout with him and i dont want to but i dont know the right way to tell him and he keeps asking me what should i say that woudlnt hurt him??? (link)
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Let your boyfriend know you aren't ready. Just tell him gently that you care about him and think he's great but you just aren't ready for that yet. If he can't handle it, as hard as it may be, go your separate ways. You need to be with someone who respects your boundaries.
A Caution: Be careful not to let him manipulate you. If he tries to tell you that if you really liked him you would show him in a physical way, the red flag is up. This guy isn't interested in you, he's interested in what you have to offer. Tell him he's the one who doesn't care about you and find yourself a boy with "a lil bit o' R-E-S-P-E-C-T" to quote Aretha Franklin.
Good luck!
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what does git-r-done mean?? alot of guys at my school use this term. (link)
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It's a slang phrase from a movie called Larry the Cable Guy. It basically just means to get something done, and could sometimes be used as a sexual slang term for having sex with a girl.
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I really really like this guy, and he totally leads me on and he was all over me a few weeks go but he has a girlfriend but he totally flirts. it's so confusing. he always hints stuff out like he would like me but i hear so much i hear that he thinks im annoying cause i like him while he has a girlfriend but one of his bestfriends said its not true and he talks about me all the time and he likes me alot but see i dont know if that means that he likes me likes me or just likes me. and everytime he sees me in school he like talks to me or finds a way to say hi and he looks pretty much a lot..do you have any advice on how i can tell if he likes me or what i shoudld do..i am just so confused..help me, please
singed - confused (link)
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It seems like a big mess but I think it can be boiled down to one big principle: Don't be anybody's leftovers.
You say that he has a girlfriend and yet he still leads you on all the time? Tell him to take a hike. Yeah, this might seem harsh...but why do you want to be his backup girl? If he can't make up his mind about you, don't waste your time worrying about him. Let him know you're looking for someone who doesn't play mind games and is interested in you full-time.
I hope you can understand why this is really the bottom line. Respect yourself! You deserve someone who is all about you, girl. Tell this loser to get lost.
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Im 15 and this Girl that i like is 17, i will be 16 in june. she is a junior and i am a freshman, is their anything wrong with us being together? And how should i ask my parents what they think about this? (link)
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Age isn't as big of a factor as it can be made to be. In my opinion, the gap between you two is no big deal as long as you're compatible.
Remember a couple of things:
1) The reason younger guys with older girls is less common is because guys often mature slower. I'm not trying to make you feel like a loser, but be sure to evaluate how equal you both are in maturity. :-) It's a good idea for ANY relationship.
2) Her life will be changing drastically in the next couple years. She will be graduating high school, possibly going onto college or something else. Either way...it could be a problem. She will be on her own and you will still have a lot of high school left. It could make things hard, but it has definitely been done...so just assess whether you two are up to the challenge. Don't let this put a damper on things but be realistic and keep your heart unbroken if possible!
Lastly...TALK TO YOUR PARENTS! I am so glad you mentioned this, because they are there to help you out (even if it seems otherwise) and telling them is a good way to get some input on the situation. Don't try and make it a big deal, just tell them you're digging this girl and that she's a little older than you. Hopefully they will understand and have some advice or help for you too. It also is good to give them a heads-up. Parents hate being the last to know, and if they are, they will be more likely to react badly to the situation. You being upfront and wanting their consent and advice will show them that you're mature and responsible.
Good luck!
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Ok i like this girl and shes soo freekin fine..i want to ask her out but i dont have the balls to...cause i dont even think she likes me..i mean were friends and all but i think that if i do and she says no that, that could mess up our relationship...what should i do? (link)
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Well you either get some balls or you don't.
If you are too worried about ruining a friendship, don't do it. Things being awkward between you would be a natural outgrowth of a rejection, and you either take that risk or you don't. Also, keep in mind that if you do go out and then break up, you will lose a friend. It's a scary proposition but one that you have to think about.
If all that is worth it to you, then suck it up and do it. Ask her in a casual and non-threatening way to go out sometime. Tell her what you like about her (and come up with something better than "you're soo freaking fine, girl!" please!!) and that you want to date her. She says no, don't freak out. Just take it graciously and deal with your feelings later. Nobody likes saying no and she probably will feel bad about it too.
If she says yes, then consider yourself lucky!
One final word: girls like to be pursued. (in a nice, healthy, non-obsessive way) If you want to be with her bad enough, you have to have the confidence to ask her out. If you can't, you're wimping out to the possibility of rejection. Don't let that stop you. A confident guy is a sexy guy, and messing around because you're scared doesn't send her confident, "macho" vibes. Do it or don't.
Good luck!
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i just got a car so i am about to get a job because now that i have a car, i seem to have no money....
does anyone know any good jobs that pays well with flexible hours because i also have school. I have experience being a cashier at a restuarant. There is a lot of stuff around here, but does anyone have any suggestions? (link)
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If you are a girl, a job with Avon or Mary Kay is worth looking into. You can sell makeup and skin care and other products women love just during your everyday life to the people you meet.
If you're a guy or even if you're a girl and Avon doesn't appeal, try a public service place like a library. They often offer jobs with not many hours for someone who shelves books, etc. Also try places like town halls and things.
Another idea would be to start your own business. Babysitting, lawn mowing/landscaping, dog walking, shovelling snow, small appliance repair, cleaning/organizing, crafts, and house-sitting are all good ways to control your own hours and wages if you have skills in any of these areas.
If that doesn't work, try a lot of smaller, specialty type stores. They often can be more flexible. Retail at a mall is sometimes a good idea too.
There is always an employer who is willing to help you work around school and other responsibilities. Finding them may be hard, but be persistent.
Hope this helps!
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Hi,
I was wondering if anyone knew of a brand of women's stick/solid deodorant or antiperspirant that won't melt in the heat. I usually use Tom's of Maine, but it melts. I want a stick to shove in my trunk for when I spend the night out unexpectedly. I tried rock deodorant, but it doesn't do anything for me.
I live in place that gets to be about 120 degrees Fahrenheit in the summer, plus humidity.
Thanks.
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Good grief! 120 degrees is pretty hot!
Try using a really strong antiperspirant before bed. Certain Dri is a good one. More than a deodorant, it actually keeps you from sweating. It was formerly only availible with a prescription but now can be found over the counter. It comes in a white box. It's strong antiperspirant gives you no sweat for sometimes up to two days. You can find it at a drugstore and it is a great alternative for someone in a climate like yours.
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i have the hardest time doing sqaure roots...its easy if its like 9 or 64 or something like that but when ikts 47 or 128 or 90...i dont know how to do it...when the answer equals a # rad a #...if anyone knows what im talking about and can help me...please help! (link)
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Square roots suck.
The only way I've found helpful is to use a calculator. Any Texas Instruments calculator with scientific functions is good. The traditional method for finding imperfect square roots is just about impossible. Use the radical sign (looks kind of like a checkmark) and then enter the number. Press enter or equals and you will have a long decimal. There ya go!
If you are looking to simplify a radical, take the perfect squares out of it. Put them on the outside. A site that explains this in more detail is here: http://oakroadsystems.com/math/expolaws.htm
Good Luck!
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my boyfriend is really sweet and thoughtful of what he does. so before he kissed me, he asked if it would be ok. and i said it would. so now he wants to kiss me. but the only thing is...it's my first kiss and i don't know how. please help. it might sound kinda stupid but i need to know how. thanks in advance! (link)
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This is really exciting! Be glad you have such a sweet boyfriend and here are some basic guidelines to help you through that scary first kiss:
1) Relax. Remember that first kisses are hardly perfect and just let yourself ease into it. Enjoy the moment.
2) Make sure your teeth are brushed and you're not weary any lip gloss that is too gooey. Some chapstick or something is fine, just not lipstick or anything with pigment. He wants to kiss you, not get made up in the process!
3) Let him know you're ready and look for which way he is tilting his head. Go the opposite way to keep your noses from bumping.
4) Open your lips just the tiniest big and softly press them to his. Play around with the feeling of it: brush your lips together, try easing the very tip of your tongue into his mouth and see how he responds, and if you're really brave give his bottom lip a very very gentle nibble.
Kissing is something that is hard to begin the very first time but you'll find that you will very easily get the hang of it once your lips are actually touching. Just let the moment happen, remember not to droll on him (swallow ocassionally!!), and don't be too aggresive at first and see what happens!
A great site with tons of tips and other great kissing stuff is http://www.virtualkiss.com . Check it out!
Have fun smooching!
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How can I get into freelance writing? I'm going to do a journalism course, but I'd be interested to know how to move into freelance occupation. (link)
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Hi!
This is a great question.
Freelance writing is something that is hard to break into. Beginning with a journalism course to ground you in the basics is a great start and I commend you for being so pro-active in the matter!
While I am not what you would call an expert, I am in the process of breaking into published writing myself. Here are my tips:
1) Make a trip to Barnes and Noble or another bookstore that you like to frequent. First, check the magazine section for magazines devoted to writers. These contain valuable "just starting out" writer information in nearly every issue, along with opportunities to write and be published in a market index. Secondly, pick up a few Writer's Market books and perhaps one specifically on free-lance writing. The Writer's Market Edition for 2005 is an excellent resource to help you begin. It tells what companies and magazines are looking for your work, and provides help with polishing and pitching what you write to these people.
2) Decide what your strength areas are. Are you a sports oficianado? A fashion-foward trendsetter? A poet? A movie junkie? Do you have interest or experience in any arts, crafts, or hobbies? Anything and everything can come into play. Travel, health or family issues, and anything else you know that you are specifically qualified by experience to write about should all be included in this list. Once you create it, practice writing some articles and doing some research on these topics. Use what you are learning in your journalism course to "practice" and hone your skills.
3) When you feel ready, prepare an article or piece for a magazine or peridical with a very specific audience. Using the Writer's Market resource, pinpoint one that you could confidently write a piece for. Be sure to target the specific areas their listing in the book says they want to buy. Write a few drafts, prepare a cover letter, and send off your work. Use tips from books and writer's magazines to make sure your pitch and presentation are spot on, and send it off!
4) This tip is simply about persistence. Breaking into the writing world is not a feat easily acheived. You have to be able to stomach rejection letters and keep at the hard process of sending out your work. If you are truly talented, you will eventually get your first work published. From there, it becomes much easier.
Hope this helps!
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i went out with my boyfriend for 9 months, and he was my 'first person', but things happend and we broke up :( . This was about 3.5 months ago, and he has a new girlfriend now. So i dicided to move on to and now i have this guy who i like and he likes me a lot too. But i have a problem because every time i'm with him i think about my ex! i can't do it :( ... it hurts inside to think of being with any1 else. THe problem is, my ex boyfriend doesnt want to talk to me, but somtimes i know that he misses me to, but doesnt want to be with me again. What do i do? I'm so lost :( please help, ill rate. (link)
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It's very hard to break up with someone after having sex with them (which is, I assume, what you're talking about.)
Pretty much only time and distance can heal a wound that big. Don;t try to get back together with him, and vent your thoughts and feelings in a journal, that sometimes helps.
Lastly, let this hurt be a caution to you for your sexual behavior in later relationships.
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