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confused
I really really like this guy, and he totally leads me on and he was all over me a few weeks go but he has a girlfriend but he totally flirts. it's so confusing. he always hints stuff out like he would like me but i hear so much i hear that he thinks im annoying cause i like him while he has a girlfriend but one of his bestfriends said its not true and he talks about me all the time and he likes me alot but see i dont know if that means that he likes me likes me or just likes me. and everytime he sees me in school he like talks to me or finds a way to say hi and he looks pretty much a lot..do you have any advice on how i can tell if he likes me or what i shoudld do..i am just so confused..help me, please
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It seems like a big mess but I think it can be boiled down to one big principle: Don't be anybody's leftovers.
You say that he has a girlfriend and yet he still leads you on all the time? Tell him to take a hike. Yeah, this might seem harsh...but why do you want to be his backup girl? If he can't make up his mind about you, don't waste your time worrying about him. Let him know you're looking for someone who doesn't play mind games and is interested in you full-time.
I hope you can understand why this is really the bottom line. Respect yourself! You deserve someone who is all about you, girl. Tell this loser to get lost.
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I've been through the same crap..... believe me many times and i've learned that you just have to let him go. Every time i went after someone like that i only end up getting hurt and screwed over. I say that if he breaks up with his girl and is sincere to u and acts like a true man, then go for it. But if he is a complete jerk, like he sounds now, then why waste your time and energy? All im saying is to be careful with that kind of guy because they usually aren't worth it and turn out to really hurt you. well hope i helped. Good luck! *bballgrl07*
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Unless you want to be the "other girl" in his life you'd better not get to close. The question is how well do you know this guy? If he's looking at you while having a girlfriend then why do you want to be second choice? Why not date other guys and see if someone out there wants to make you their "only" choice?
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Typical guy. Just sit him down and say you have a girl friend why r u doing this? And if he says he likes u tell him that he needs to dump hos girl friend to be whith you and if he doesnt then say leave me alone then!
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The best thing that you probably can do is just to talk to him about it in private. I know that in middle/high school there is a partiuclar status quo that has to be filled, where he may say things to his friends about you being annoying or what have you, and him staying with his girlfriend. You may want to talk to him in a place where it is kina "public" so that he can't try to make a move on you. You can try the phone, however, face to face is better b/c body language reveals a lot more than just a voice.
However, I hate to say it though, this guy, from what you have said, isn't someone who can be truly faithful per se. If he breaks up with his girlfriend for you, what are the expectations? He'll have the track record of doing things like that and you don't sound like the person who would want that to happen to you. Anyway, do you want to be a rebound girl? Maybe he's been planning to dump his girlf for a while now and just wants someone else lined up? I know a lot more questions, but I just don't want you to hope too much for this and then to find out that it isn't what you expect. Go into it with an open mind and take your time- develop your friendship and slowly over time, trust will happen to. Friendship, love and trust are the major things that all good relationships need, but that always takes time.
Sorry for the long comment.
Yours,
Arun
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Look at it this way. You say he has a girlfriend, he totally flirts, and likes you. Now, imagine you being his new girlfriend. What makes you think he still wouldn't "totally flirt", and like other girls. If you are just interested in going on a date with this guy and having fun, fine. Being young and single is the time to date different people and find the qualities you are looking for in a life partner down the road. However, dont expect this guy to be your one and only and do not expect to be his.
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Well you already seem pretty conviced that he likes you, so don't worry about that so much.
Worry more about that fact, that he flirts with you so much, even while he has a girlfriend. That doesn't scare you? Let's say he breaks up with "Sharon" (his gf), and goes out with you. How do you know he won't be flirting with "Monica" when your not looking!
Maybe he just doesn't like his girlfiend that much. But until he breaks up with her, I would back off. You don't wanna look like a ho,
- MIlkCArton08
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