im 14 i go to a fine arts school and YES I KNOW I CAN'T SPELL, and my grammar sucks, but still read my column!
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AIM: milkcarton08
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Well, My friend is REALLY into this one guy. She told him she liked him on a class trip. They aren't going out but are really close. I found out a couple of days ago that he KISSED her in the copy room..*cough*. Anyway, He isn't really into her and says he likes her as a friend. But, He's touched her in places, called her hot and now kissed her. What's up with him? He says he wants to just be friends but...doesn't seem that way. It seems like either that's incorrect or..He's using her.
By the way, He's had tons of gfs before and isn't a virgin. I'm worried about my friend. He's that kind of guy that..could rape. I'm really worried about her.
Any idea of what's up?
-En Garde' (link)
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Well I think you need to talk to your friend defiently. Tell her what you KNOW, about this guy, and state facts. Things like "So he's kissed you, but he won't ask you out?" So lay it all out for her, so she hears how it sounds, then back off. Otherwise she will get defensive, and may think you are jealous, or lieing, etc. Be sensitive of her feelings, she may not want to wake-up to reality. Also when you are talking to her, avoid saying things like "I THINK, he's just using you" or "I HEARD he does this to a lot of girls." Well good luck, and I hope you can help your friend out,
- MIlkcARTon08
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A girl in my group of friends who i HATE is moving ..all my friends are like crying but i cant wait till she moves -is this wrong of me? Im kind of confused and its hard to keep it from my friend but i know if i told them i was happy theyd think i was a bitch ..what do i do?? (link)
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No nothing is wrong with you. You hate her, of course you are going to be glad when she moves away. But you are right, you will look like a bitch if you are happy, even if you have good reasons for disliking her, especially when all of your other friends are so sad. If you don't feel right, pretending to be sad to your friends, it's best not to say anything at all. Secrelty be happy, but console your friends and don't talk about the girl who is moving, because I'm sure they don't want to hear it.
-MIlkCArtON08
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one of my good friends aint gettin out of jail for a long time. its really hard for me becuz hes not the criminal type of brother, but hes always been so kind so sweet and i wanna know why hes locked up for tha next 2 yrs. tha first yr, which was last yr was struggled through and i was hopin he would get out. but he not. and i cant go seem him becuz i have no ride i dont no where it is, and i dont no what to say when iget there. its just all messed up and writin letters that hes neva gonna get aint exactly easy for me. i only got one letter from him last yr. and i still keep it. i just dont no what to do now. can somebody help me cause ifeel like crying for him. sometimes (link)
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No one can help you until you help yourself, by realizing it's not your fault that he's in jail, and while I'm sure he appreciates your empathy, I don't think he wants you depressing yourself over his problems. He obvioulsy made a mistake, and now he's paying the consequences. That doens't mean that he isn't "kinda and sweet" though. Everybody makes mistakes, and I think it's really great you are writing him letters. If he knows that he has people who care about him, it will be a lot easier for him to get his life straight.
I really think you should try and go see him. I think it would good for you, so that you can see how he is doing, and maybe it would set your mind at ease a little. I know this may not be possible though.
Whatever happens don't give up on your friend, i'm sure he needs you just as much as you need him.
- miLKCARTon08
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Ok i like this girl and shes soo freekin fine..i want to ask her out but i dont have the balls to...cause i dont even think she likes me..i mean were friends and all but i think that if i do and she says no that, that could mess up our relationship...what should i do? (link)
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Don't be so scared, the worse she could say would be no.
I doubt it will ruin the relationship if she says no, most of the time the girl feels really bad if they have to turn a good guy friend down, and will try hard to keep the friendship stable.
I say ask her out, but don't just come out of no where with it. Make sure to try and drop hints, and maybe flirt a little, to give her some clues as to your feelings. This way there won't be any surprises for her.
Good luck,
-milkCARTOn08
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i've always been like..backed away from him but im really good friends with him and i dont think he flirts with a lot of other girls..because me..haa my friends watch him for me without me asking.. (link)
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(this is from "confused", see previous post)
Well thanks for the extra information,
Yea I know how friends are, but I'm sure you don't close your ears when they tell you stuff about him, lol.
I think you should definetly stay friends with him, because you can't go wrong there. And I'm positive that with time you'll find out, if
A.he is just a flirt
B.or if he really is a faithful person, and your not just any girl he's flirting with.
I know, being that you like him, you would naturally want to belive it's the second one. Then you might be tempted to rush into something, and get hurt. Not only that, but the mess you'll make, and a lot of enemies, if his girlfriend finds out that you guys like each other. This is a really tricky situation, but I'll tell you that one of my best friends was in this type of situation a while ago. She (Ariel) really liked this guy that one of her good friends (Marcie) was going out with. The guy (Stan) she liked (Ariel) was a really big flirt, and finally my friend (Ariel) got him to break up with (Marcie)(well I mean she didn't tell him to, or ask him to, but they both liked each other, and so it happened.) Well Marcie was obviously pissed, and Ariel has mad an enemy of her for a long time. And it's not just Marcie who doesnt' like Ariel now, but a lot of other people, who see her as a "boyfriend-stealing ho."
Ariel is a really sweet girl, but now a bunch of people talk about her. I mean she didn't want to hurt anybody, but girl's get jealous. So just be careful. I hope some of this made sense, and maybe helped.
- MiLKCARToN08
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I really really like this guy, and he totally leads me on and he was all over me a few weeks go but he has a girlfriend but he totally flirts. it's so confusing. he always hints stuff out like he would like me but i hear so much i hear that he thinks im annoying cause i like him while he has a girlfriend but one of his bestfriends said its not true and he talks about me all the time and he likes me alot but see i dont know if that means that he likes me likes me or just likes me. and everytime he sees me in school he like talks to me or finds a way to say hi and he looks pretty much a lot..do you have any advice on how i can tell if he likes me or what i shoudld do..i am just so confused..help me, please
singed - confused (link)
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Well you already seem pretty conviced that he likes you, so don't worry about that so much.
Worry more about that fact, that he flirts with you so much, even while he has a girlfriend. That doesn't scare you? Let's say he breaks up with "Sharon" (his gf), and goes out with you. How do you know he won't be flirting with "Monica" when your not looking!
Maybe he just doesn't like his girlfiend that much. But until he breaks up with her, I would back off. You don't wanna look like a ho,
- MIlkCArton08
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I'm 14-years-old so I'm not looking for my life partner or anything. Well, my friends and even some people I don't know call me shallow because I only go out with guys I think are hott. And it's true but only to a certain point. Yes, I do look at looks first but doesn't everyone? I look at looks and if I think they're attractive then I'll talk to them and such. But I'll only date them if they have a great personality to go along with their looks. Personality can also make a guy hott to me so even if I'd initially think they were ugly but they had a confident, amazing personality I'd think they were hott. And like I said before, it's not like I'm looking for they guy I want to marry right now; I'm just having fun and meeting different guys. Does the way I see that make me shallow? Or is the way I pick the guys I want to go out with wrong? (link)
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Why wouldn't you turn anyone down because of looks?
I think ugly people put too much emphasis on the "inside." Your outer appeareance is just as important as your inner! Sure beauty fades, and all that, but that doesn't mean you should let yourself go and not take care of your appeareance.
And don't think you are just this awful shallow person, because your not. There are a lot worse people. But I think we are all a little shallow being teenagers.
And your completely right about how it's not like your looking to marry anyone. Just have fun, enjoy the time where you don't have to worry about if your boyfriend/girlfriend is the person you wanna spend the rest of your life with.
Hope I helped,
-milkcarTON08
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Okay. I used to go to private skool 2 years ago. Me and this guy really liked eachother and we went to the skool dance together. I now go to public skool and I like this guy. The guy from private skool sent me an email today saying that he truly likes me. But
I think the guy from the public skool likes me too. Which one should I choose?
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The one from private school, he probably has more money.
Seriously, the one you like more, duh! But you should be careful with going out with someone who doesn't go to your school, those kind of relationships take a lot of work.
-MIlkcaRton08
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I have a girlfriend.I also have an ex.I went to the movies with ex.I still have fellings for my ex.Well any ways I went to the movies with my ex
and two of her friends.I thuogh we was not going to any thing because i have a girlfriend.So i did not do any thing with her for the first 30 mins of the movie.For some reason we started holding hands then 45 mins into the movie we stated to make out and now i have mixed emotions
I want to be with my girlfriend.I love my girlfriend.I also love my ex.now i dont no weather to break up with my girlfriend to go out with my ex or stay with my girlfriend.Please help me (link)
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DID YOUR GIRLFRIEND KNOW YOU WENT TO THE MOVIES WITH YOUR EX?
Yea i'm real sure you love her. If you did, you would do what's right, and tell her it's over right now. It sounds to me that you just don't like you idea of losing your clueless girlfriend. I mean she's therefore you ever AFTER you get done making out with your ex at the movies. Stop thinking about yourself, and do what's best for both of you! Split!
Sorry if this sounds harsh.
I really hope that after you break up with you girlfriend your ex's feelings don't fade. She might of just been attracted to what, "wasn't hers." I dont' know this for certain, but that does happen.
Either way, i think you know what is right thing to do, good luck,
- MILKcarton08
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ok...my best friend likes this one girl i mean alot! and when im around him he NEVER STOPS TALKIING ABOUT HER!! It drives me up the wall! how can i tell him that talking about her is getting on my nerves without him thinking that im jeoulous?!!
~*~ paranoid! ~*~ (link)
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Well you sound like a jealous person if i've ever heard one. You friend is obviously needs help, or else he would just talk to the girl himself. Stop thinking about yourself, and how YOU feel, and be supportive.
Chances are there's a good reason why you friend keeps talking about her, and until he settles out the problem behind that reason, (and the problem could be a lot of things, the main one being he likes you, but doesn't know how to tell you, and is trying to make you jealous with this girl), you just need to try and deal with it.
- MilKCArtON08
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i have a friend that gets mad so easily..one day he called me and said he was gonna work on his car, and i said that was fine. he gets online and says hey, and i was like hey then he said he had to go and puts up an away message. well, i had to tell him something so i was like "wait.." and he goes, "i told i had to work on my car why are you still talking?" and i said "i just wanted to ask you something" and he goes "well thats too bad" then he left again..and he came back and apologized and told me he was so sorry..and he has this big problem with being all mad and stuff and he just gets like that. He said i was the only one that could help him get out of it..what do i do? im so lost:( (link)
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It sounds like something else is wrong, not just a "problem with being all mad and stuff." People like this usually,
A) like the person they're bitching at
B) have a problem they haven't let out, and are trying to get you to pay attention to them and notice that something is wrong, so that you will take interst and question them until they tell you what's wrong
C) like conflict, or like to fight, even with their friends - this people do exist
I think your comment, "the only one that could help him out" defiently points to problem B.
I think you need to take action and call him out, whatever it is, if your friendship is valuable to him, he'll stop being such a bitch. You just gotta help him!
- MILKcaRton08
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i brokeup with my boyfriend but ONLY because he lived so far away and i never got to see him (everyone thought it was because of another guy but it wasn't) and ive been an emotional wreck ever since then, it was like 2 months ago and i still cry like at night and even somtimes if i start thinking about him during the day i go to the bathroom and cry during school... i'm just really confused. i mean, i don't know if i want to ask him for a second chance cuse i dont think i can stand never being able to see him all over agagin :-/ but i really want him back, and i still love him :( what should i do? (link)
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hey!
The only reason you broke up with him was because he live so far away right? Well has he moved any closer? If not, and if having him living so far away is really important to you, then by asking him for a second chance your only going to put yourself through more misery.
The second thing is 2 months of distress, is way to much. Get your mind off him! Prolonged sadness like this isn't healthy. Is there no one else you like?
Well my advice is to do your best to stick it out, because asking him for a second chance will only make things worse. You'll end up right where you are now again.
Good luck,
-MilkCARton08
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It's only been about a week but my boyfriend and I never talk. We only talk online and hes usually joking around about how he wants me to give him head. I wont, and hes ok with that but he still jokes. I know im young, but hes one of my first real boyfriends. With xmas coming up, i dont wanna break up and not be able to give him his gift. i dont no wat to do to get him to actually talk to me in school and stuff like that. what should i do? (link)
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hey!
He Doesn't notice you in school, you only talk online, and when you do he is busy making sexual jokes... I'm sorry but this doesn't sound like a REAL boyfriend to me.
You sound like a sweet girl, but a little naive. I hope the gift is returnable!
Dump him!
- MilKCARTON08
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