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i went out with my boyfriend for 9 months, and he was my 'first person', but things happend and we broke up :( . This was about 3.5 months ago, and he has a new girlfriend now. So i dicided to move on to and now i have this guy who i like and he likes me a lot too. But i have a problem because every time i'm with him i think about my ex! i can't do it :( ... it hurts inside to think of being with any1 else. THe problem is, my ex boyfriend doesnt want to talk to me, but somtimes i know that he misses me to, but doesnt want to be with me again. What do i do? I'm so lost :( please help, ill rate.
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First of all you are experiencing what a lot of girls experience in their lives..."their First Time Syndrome". You feel this is the guy your meant to be with. Well it's not always the case. This is a lesson you need to learn. If you consume yourself with your past your putting a wall up on your future. You need to see what's out there for you before you make any conclusions. You don't want to miss opportunites that can past you by because you are afraid or feel that the same thing will keep happening. Meet new people and see. You never know what will happen unless you experience life to the fullest.
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It's very hard to break up with someone after having sex with them (which is, I assume, what you're talking about.)
Pretty much only time and distance can heal a wound that big. Don;t try to get back together with him, and vent your thoughts and feelings in a journal, that sometimes helps.
Lastly, let this hurt be a caution to you for your sexual behavior in later relationships.
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Unfortunalty for you, most people never forget their "first person" as you put it. I guess thats a strong argument for waiting for the right person even though very few of us really do. You just have to move on. Try to remember the good things about the first time and dont dwell on the loss. Try to think of it as a special moment that was shared but now its time to move on and make more and better special moments. Learn from the past, live in the present, and look twards the future.
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Obviously, you're not ready for this.
But same thing happened to me. My ex hates me, for some reason. He was a sweet guy and I wish we were friends. But we stopped liking each other al thought he's cute. It's what you and your ex and current BF and his current GF to figure out. Get together and figure something out, so you two can at least be friends...don't make the same mistake I made by totally letting go of a great (pathetic now!) guy!
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you tell yourself that your ex still wants you sometimes? thats cute, its also denial..that he hates you and hes moved on. the fact that you said "3.5," that was cute too. keep up the cute-ness and maybe your ex will finally reveal that hes madly in love with you and the reason he broke up with you was so he could work everday after school without you noticing to pay off the beautiful castle he bought for the two of you in england.
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Try to get your him off your mind. Obviously you have a better chance getting with this new guy than going back out with your ex. You both need to try to move on. I know it's not going to be easy, but it's worth a good try at it. Spend more time with this new guy and you might get the hang of it. =*
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u should just wait until u know ur completely over your ex then when your ready you can go out with other people!
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you really just need to wait til your completly over him or until you feel your ready to start dating again! hope this helps!
~Alyssa
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