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(sorry for the length, in advance, but i really want advice :)) hey! ok here's the thing. i like love this guy that i know and all ithink about is him. well until like a month ago i thought he liked me (he knows i like him, he asked me, so i told him) because he had all the signs like would sit next to me and like look at me, you know the whole "flirting" type of thing and all my friends thought he liked me and i thought so, too, i have to admit it and i'm very, uh, what's the word oh yeah modest. but then my friends told him i liked him and then he asked me so i told him and he, too, is modest so he wondered WHY i liked him (what's there to like?) so then from then on i was very shy and like a chicken to talk (i still am lol) and so we kind of drifted from talking even though i saw him everyday. ok well everyone thinks he's trying to get to know me more b/c he knows i like him. he said that youc ant like someone unless you know them well so i think hes trying to get to know me,to see what would happen. well, he started now tosit and talk like during a class and sat close. well my friend thinks that he likes me, and that he's trying to get to know me. well, she and i and everyone were wrong before and i just don'tto do. id on't know if i should believe it or what to do. please help! ANY advice of anything. even if its just simple!
(sorry about the length!)
xoxoxo (link)
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lol... wow you so could of shortened that... anyway...
Like everyone else is saying.. ask him if he likes you back. It's that simple, if he says yes... cool, talk to him, get to know him, and go out with him. Most likely he's not gonna flat out tell you NO if he doesn't like you... that'd be pretty messed up to do that. But if he is kind of stand off-ish and avoiding the question... odds are he doesn't like you... or he's really shy, but he doesn't sound like he's a shy perso from what you've told us. Good luck with it...
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I just broke up with my boy friend and I feel miserable. I feel as if the world i going to end. I thought he was the one you knkow? But he did the same thing to me just like the others. No relationship has gone good for me. Every one was a jerk and used me, or just wanted to sleep with me. I don't think that I can get over this and feel as if the only way to stop the pain i to go in eternal sleep six feet under. Please someone help. And don't tell me to get over it b/c I've tried that to many and I'm afraid that's not going to work in this case. Please will someone HELP???!!!!! (link)
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Don't listen to the idiot below... he's probably 12 and he can't even spell "Marijuana" right...
How long were you going out with the guy? Maybe he wasn't using you for sex, and in his mind he thought that it was time to move on to the next step in the relationship. But then again, this purely relies on how long you 2 have been together... if you were only going out for a couple weeks or something like that... yea he was probably using you. Sadly, sex is the only thing on most guy's minds. The boys in this world really need to grow up and start thinking with the right head...
How old are you by the way? If you're still in your teens... which i'm assuming you are... you still have plenty of time left in your life to find a new BF and get a new relationship and find that right guy. Try not to stress over it, I know it's tough, but life goes on. Don't do anything that you would regret, like attempt suicide... Not saying you would, but you did mention death being the next best thing... it's not. Life isn't all about having a boyfriend, there are a ton of other things to experience out there.
Try not to think about it, go out and have some fun with your friends, get your mind off of it.
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Alright, 4 months ago my boyfriend dumped me because he had some issues of his own to work out. In those 4 months I developed a crush on his younger brother, who is my age (15). My ex is 17. I asked his brother out and he said no cuz he can't date until he's 16, which is in a year. I know that the brother has feelings for me (his sister told me). Now, my ex-boyfriend has feelings for me, but I like his brother more than him right now. And one of my friends has a crush on him. What do I do? I have some feelings for my ex, but they aren't as strong as the ones for his brother. (link)
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That would be Fucked up on so many levels if you went out with the younger brother. That would CRUSH the older brother's ego. And being a little brother, he will rub it in his older brother's face "Haha, i got your GF, she wants me more than you" that kind of stuff. Leave this situation alone... get out of it. Get far far away from this. Only trouble will come from it.
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lately my bf has been making lots of new friends that are girls, from all his classes and stuff. its been worrying me. we've talked about it and stuff, and he says he only likes them as friends, but he hangs out with them so much, and talks to them all so much. they r great girls, reallllllly pretty, and i can see how and why he would like them. i just get so worried, and i dont know how 2 be a better girlfriend to show him how much he means to me. im really worried that he could start to like these girls! what should i do? thanks (link)
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There's really nothing you can do but have faith in him. Jeleousy is a normal thing to experience. Be open with him, and let him know that you are jeleous, but dont be pushy about it or sound angry. Just express to him that you dont like it. It's gotta be his decision to stop talking to them, and it's his job to make you feel better about this. All you can do is let him know how you feel.
if worse comes to worse and he cheats on you... leave him. Don't buy into his appologies or if he comes back and is like "i'm sorry i'll change, blah blah blah" dont buy into it. People don't change, he'll do it again if he gets the opportunity.
I hope things don't go in that direction, and i hope that the 2 of you get this worked out.
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ok...well my ex boyfriend recently told me that he still loves me--ALOT! He called me on my cell phone at 1 in the morning...and i was asleep but it woke me up and i answered and he said...what would you say if i asked you out again...and at the time i still had some feelings for him...so not thinking being as sleepy as i was i said yes...the next day when i woke up i totally changed my mind...so when i got home the next day i had 62 missed calls on my phone!! all from him!!! and then i got a text message from him asking me out again...i said we should just be friends back...but then he said you led me on...and i don't even want to be friends with you you hurt me to much. And i can see how i led him on but...i mean i was really tierd and sleepy and wasn't half aware of what i was saying...but i really want to be friends with him...hes a great guy!!! Help me!!! What should i tell him? (link)
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Just tell him you dont want to be with him like that. And please, for HIS sake, do not be friends with him. His feelings for you will never go away and he will always want to be with you, even tho you only see him as a friend. Just completely end contact with him. If you really care about him that is what you will do and end his suffering. If you become his friend, he will hurt everyday because he can't be with you and the thought will always be in the back of his mind that you will never be anything more than a friend.
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ok so I think I'm starting to like this guy! He's a really good guy who isnt into drugs or drinking or anything like that; i love it! AND i think he's beginning to like me too. Ya know how you can just kind of tell? Ok well the problem is he just broke up with his gf of 1 1/2 YEARS!!!!! I love that he can commit for that long and all but... well I hung out with her this weekend at a party and we got along really well. She's the sweetest person but shes tough and funny... if that makes any sense? Well I was talking to my other friend who is better friends with her than me, and she told me that the ex gf was still really protective of him or whatever. The Ex is going to beat up anyone who trys to get with him, even though she is all over every guy!! I know it sounds like their relationship might not be over but i think it is!
WHAT SHOULD I DO?!?! (link)
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Hook up with the guy, don't worry about that girl. If you really want to be with him, you wouldn't let something like that get in your way. So what if she tries to fight you, talk your way out of it, or just walk off. Just cuz she wants to fight you doesn't mean you are actually gonna fight. The guy will/should step in and keep you from fighting. I know that I would if it came to that.
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Hey okay ill get to da story... im going out with this kid i meet and this Dance and his friend is going out with mii cousin.. well the day after i had meet him he came over my house with his friend and my two cousins were over after awhile my one cousin left and we were all making out and my boyfriend and i started doing things together.. till it was time for them to leave... and then i guess my mom got mad and my dad did to he called my uncle and told him but c my cousin is allowed to stay with her boyfriend and its not fair and my mom told me i have to break up with mine im not going to but i dont know how i will be able to see him even tho theres a party next saturday he invited me to and i rilly want to go but im afired to ask mii parents PLZ HELP ME!!!!!!!!!!! (link)
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1.Learn to spell
2.How old are you?
3.What are you Intentions?
If you're as young as I think you are, and your intentions are what i think they are... you dont need to be going to this party and doing what i'm pretty sure you're gonna do...
BUT, you're prolly gonna do it anyway and it will prolly be the biggest mistake of your life... so i'll just help you out a little bit.
Tell your parents you dumper the guy, don't be angry about it, but seem like you're sad about it. Tell them about how your friend is having a small get together or something like that and that you want to go over there and sleep over. Make sure you dont get caught tho. If there is a lot of noise and crap going on where you are, if your parents call, DO NOT answer your cell phone(assuming you have one) go to a place where you will not be disturbed and call them back, tell them your phone wasn't near you and you didn't get to it in time.
But I still agree with your parents that you should not be out and doing stuff like this if you're underage. You'll understand when you get older and more mature.
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does anybody know any websites with diet plans on them that work...or any good workout video...im not fat but im trying to see if i can lose some weight and maybe gain some muscle but i have to start eating right and i cant seem to find any plans that work....Thanks..... (link)
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diets dont work... go to a gym....
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theres this guy who likes me (bryan) but doesn't really know me (he thinks i'm hott) and one of my guy friends (justin) who is also friends with the guy who likes me. Justin always tells bryan that i like him too and i wanna know if he can hang out on the weekend and i neevr say that stuff! justin makes it up to 'move along me and bryans relationship' but all it does is make me look desperate and bryan thinks i like him! i kinda do, but i hardly know him! justin gave my bryans number becuz when justin was telling him how i wanna hang out w.him, bryan told him to tell me to give him a call..is it dumb to call bryan up and tell him that i don't kno what justin has been telling him or something? or should i talk to justin? i already told justin to stop but he won't...pleaseeee help! SORRY SO LONG I RATE 5's! (link)
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I think that other guy got the names mixed up lol Bryan is the guy who likes you... Call him, talk to him, if you end up liking him then cool go out with him... If not you have no obligation to be with him. But if you like him, dont tell him anything that would make him think otherwise cuz then you'll never get with him even if he turns out to be a great guy.
All relationships start out with some sort of physical attraction, it's not like he can look at you and know "Oh hey she's smart, funny, etc." you get the point.
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okay 2 weeknds ago i had sex with this guy i have been wanting to get with...
Well.. we did it and now he wont talk to me at all.. I've been getting sick lately and i might be pregnant.. My older sister is goin to take me to get put on the pill... But what are some signs that will let you know if ur pregnant or not?
Ive been talking to many people and apparently no one has givin me the right answers....
Please help me....
~*~Confused!!!!~*~ (link)
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heh, that's what happens when you have unprotected sex... should of been thinking more logically than thinking about sex...
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about a month ago, i asked how to tell my best guy friend of 7 years Fredo that his evil blood-sucking cant-wait-till-the-full-moon vampiress of a girlfriend Lupitalili was going to dump him. the advice was great and it all went well, but now i have a new dilemma: i just recently realized that i have the HUGEST crush on him! what he hell do i do? this is a different kind of crush because we're really good friends...JUST really good friends (who by the way established that with each other and everyone else a couple of years ago). if i tell him, he wont totally freak out like maybe other guys, but things will defenitly be different, and i cant risk our friendship. telling other guys i like them is one thing, BUT THERE'S A TRUE FRIENDSHIP AT STAKE! I cant just hide my feelings for him either, because, like i said, this crush is just...different somehow. what do i do? there's also a whole bunch of girls who are like in love with him.i always thought of him as a brother who i couldnt love anymore even if he really was MY OWN FLESH AND BLOOD. having a crush on him changed a lot of things going on in my mind and will change a lot more on everyone else's. what do i do? (link)
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This may sound a bit on the harsh side, but i'm just being honest with you...
Look in the mirror... Are you good looking? Honestly are you?
If you're not... sorry for you, you dont have a chance with this guy if he has all these girls after him.
If you are good looking, go for it... as long as you meet his standards as far as looks go.. you're in. Guys look at all chicks and see them as "hittable" or "Not hittable" aka "Friends" There is a cut off line where if you're not good looking enough for him, you're in that "Not hittable" area and you're only gonna be a friend. But due to the situation with him just being dumped his standards may temporarily be lowered. In this case you may have a shot, but it wont last long, cuz once he gets over it he'll leave you for the better looking girl.
Now i'm not saying your ugly or anything, i've never seen you. I'm just giving you a bit of information to help you make your decision.
I'm a guy, and I know how guys think...
*EDIT*
To answer your question "Why are guys that way?"
It's simply the way the male brain works. As a guy when he looks at a female he analyzes their outward appearance, women do it to. This makes up for a BIG portion of whether or not the guy would consider the girl date-able. Next comes the girls personality, which can make up some for the looks part.
You say he's "not like that" but the truth is, all guys are like that, whether they are willing to admit it or not. It's how our brains function. It's a natural train of thought that just happens.
Sorry if you took offence to my advice, i'm not here to be nice to anyone and i dont wanna sugar coat anything. If I told you what you wanted to hear you wouldn't get anywhere and you'd think you were doing the right thing and end up worse off than you were before.
here's a scenario, in no way similar to yours, but illustrates my point:
Person1:"I cut myself, am I a bad person for that?"
Person2:"No, there's nothing wrong with that, you're normal a lot of people do that"
Sure that's a dramatization but you get the point. I hope i've helped you at least a little.
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A few days ago i spent the night @ my friends house and she has a bro so he always has friends over too! and my friends mom said that my friend (13/f) is not aloud to have friends over when her bro does cuz were getting older and everything, and my parents feel the same way! the thing is that i like going over there when her bro has friends over cuz it's fun and stuff! HELP! i rate high! (link)
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You're 13... I know your intentions... You know your intentions... Your parents are right, you dont need to be spending the night at a house full of boys.
You can go and hang out with them in an other situation, why does it have to be in a situation where you will all be sleeping within a given distance where you will be unsupervised and have the opportunity to do something you really shouldn't be doing?
Just let your parents win this battle, you'll get more opportunities to hang out with guys through out your life.
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