You could tell them to remember that no matter what happens in life, it will always be ok. And tell them that you're going to make things right so none of this will be replayed in their lives. And do try making things right, fighting never solves, you'd rather be in trouble for being a smart mouth to a teacher than hitting them. You just have to know that when kids and teachers are in battles, the teacher ends up winning half of the time because they're the adult, and remember, that is HALF the time they win. That means the rest are mostly idiotic perverts to their students and are rude. But most likey that teacher is innocent. So just spend time with your friends, when you're alone you just end up drowning your face up in tears, making it more depressing than it is, and it may seem bad right now, but just remember that what is happening to you right now is right, even if it feels like crap, so just tell your friends that its ok even when it doesn't feel like it.


-TheTeenGirl

I know what you mean. I'll let you in a little secret about that. Most people who say they want to do, don't. It is mostly attention seekers. Now there are those who are in so much misery they think that if they were gone, they wouldn't have to be so miserable, because when you're really miserable, you pretty much get to the point of where you'd do anything in the world, even if it means dying and hurting someone else, but they always think that nobody will care. But you're so right, they would be very upset about their child or sister/brother had died. But I think that the reason people think nobody would care, like their parents for instance, because a suicidal child is probably having a bad relationship with their parents, which makes them think that they don't care. Another thing is, that only so many people die from suicide, but people who had to find out that their child had killed themself is terrifying. What goes through their mind like "I wasn't a good parent, I was horrible" and then, they get so depressed. But because that child and their parent fought so much was because the poor kid was really sad, depressed, didn't wanna live, and for a parent living with that makes them go crazy, and they have no idea what to do. So what I've learn about suicide and having a suicide child is to always remind them that you love them, never yell at them for being sad, always trying to take them places, making sure my kid knows that they are my world and nothing less. But with suicide happening, the world is a very sad place. I hope I answered your question and gave you an idea.



-TheTeenGirl

Don't be embaressed for being clueless. Theres a first for everything, right? Well, I don't really suggest lip gloss, maybe just bare lips, and just linger as much as he does. A key to kissing is to let the guy lead the way, he had a first too. And usually longer kisses seem the most intense and cute, but if you don't want to kiss any longer, just stop slowly. Let me give you another key, there is NO explaination for how to kiss, this is all you and him, if you like to do it for 2 minutes, thats you, if you like to brush tongues more than rub, that is YOU and HIM. So basically, that means there is no way you can kiss the "wrong" way. I know people call others bad kissers, but you see, most bad kissers have kisses like to much spitting all over, even in public, just drooling all over, lol, I think you can kind of tell that when you kiss like that, you're just asking for that bad name. And afterward is a pretty powerful part, like in the movies, you just stare in the akward moment, but staring in this loving way. First kisses are very scary sometimes, but its normal.


-TheTeenGirl

Well, I don't have OCD, but I do have an obsession with shutting doors, if its a crack open, nope, not good enough, lol. But anyway, you should talk to your mom, instead of your close friends being expressed to with your feelings, you should start to with your mom, because the more you do it, the easier it gets.


-TheTeenGirl

You're probably not doing anything wrong here. They're probably just use to you doing things for them and when you do something for yourself it just shocks them, and they dislike it, but if they keep getting mad then remind them that you are always doing things for them, and if they're still ungreatful, then I say stop doing things for them. If they don't learn to appreciate your doing, then you should stop until they realize you're a person too!


-TheTeenGirl

well, lol, in my experiance, whatever feels good is always bad in its own sucky way, but it probably can damage your brain.




-TheTeenGirl

Talk to the boyfriend, he obviously doesn't know how depressed she is. Tell him how your mom would do anything to make things better between them. And if it looks like he doesn't care, then he shouldn't be there, if he cared, he would do something, like couples therapy, its pretty silly that he won't though.



-TheTeenGirl

I think everyone knows that running away is not the answer, you can't run away from everything that gets tough. And yes, you're going to get the answer you don't want, your parents love you even though it may not seem so. Your family is a support system! Without them, you wouldn't be here. I know it can be hard for you, but have you ever thought about how your parents feel? A suicidal daughter who wants to die, watching her go through misery, they are probably going crazy here. You need to tell your mom or a school counselor that you need a therapist, or need to be put in a institution, I'd say go with the therapist, but you have already tried to commit suicide more than once. You can't fight with your parents forever, thats probably half the reason you want to die. Because you feel unwanted, your relationship with your mom is shattered, and now without them, you have nothing, you need to get someone involved to help you gain something back with your mom, trust me, you need her, because now that you have nobody, you only have your negative thoughts, theres nobody there to tell you to not do the things you're thinking about, you need someone fast, because if you hate putting people through misery, you will be putting people through serious hell by killing yourself. And that is true. And you say that its not going to happen with talking to your mom, well, if you are willing to get yourself out of the mess you are in, it will be happening.


-TheTeenGirl

No way, its fine to be jealous, but you have got to talk to her, tell her how you felt about that, that was really rude, you and I both know that, so, ask her if you can hang out with them, and if not, I'd tell you to ditch her back, but I'm not sure if your one of those angry revenge type of girls, lol. But tell her that the setup you put for them was not a ditch. And make sure you setup a girls night, make it clear to her that Zach will not be coming, you need to talk to her.


-TheTeenGirl

Tell someone, tell your mom, shes too young for a guy at 19. You have to warn her, and tell her why you have to tell, and even if she doesn't like, you tell. You don't want your sister a mother at 16. That 19 year old is probably just wanting that one thing from her, and you have to make sure he does not get it, whether she wants it or not, you are doing the right thing, please tell someone, she needs someone more near her age.



-TheTeenGirl

Try to think about the little things first, and then as you go on in the eulogy, just have bigger things, like here.


Being with my grandpa meant laughing, and playing games he played as a kid
And as we played, he would answer any questions I had, he taught me so much, I'll always remember it
Its really hard to lose someone that meant so much to you, that meant the world to you, and for me, he was a big loss and saved my life before he lost his own

(I know he may not have saved you, but its an example, just start little, and increase.)




-TheTeenGirl

God knew I needed you, so you are here for a beautiful reason
To help us suffer, and love, and help each other as we change like a fresh new season
I know that God didn't give me air to breathe, he gave me you
As I've watched you catch me when I fell, and comfort me more than you do yourself, I know its all true
Memories are locked up inside with me to stay, and will never leave me
Sometimes, you and I are both afraid that we will move on, but then I remembered that moving on doesn't mean moving apart, the only thing that makes sense in life, is you and me
God put you on this earth so you can tell me that theres more to life than bad
and god knows that if you weren't here today with me, my view of the world would be ugly, and every season would be sad.


-TheTeenGirl

Go look in your mirror and list one thing you hate about yourself, say it out loud why you hate it, say it aloud to yourself. Then, think of if you had a best friend that looked like you, and look at yourself, and try to pretend going up to your identical best friend and complimenting them. "I love your hair, the best thing about it is its color, its length, and how beautiful it is dry." "I love your teeth, its like no matter when you don't brush them, they always are white, and they may be a little crooked and out of shape, but they would still look great with braces." Then, about your personality, if you had a best friend just like you, would you appreciate the way she treats you? Would she be there for you? Is she rude, is she judgemntal? You just need to get to the bottom of why you dislike yourself so much. Every morning, try complimenting yourself, even when you just wake up. Heck even if you don't mean it, just say "you look sexy." And when you walk away and think "yeah right" just say, "Oh thank you mind! I just love those thoughts, but I am sexy, and you can't do anything about it" just try it. (The key to being comfortable through life, and not being afraid, and not being ashamed of things is if you are full of confidence in yourself.)

-TheTeenGirl


-TheTeenGirl

Don't think about medication until you're for sure that you're depressed, my dad didn't want me on medication either, because, I guess he just felt like it wasn't important, or there was something better. But please, try your best to be undepressed, I am a depressed person, and it feels HORRIBLE when you really are depressed, it is so hard to know who you are, and you lose yourself, you just start hating instead of loving, then the next thing you know, your friends have got new friends because you pushed them away because you always wanna be alone. Lots of people want to be depressed and if they really felt it, they'd regret it more than ever. So just try your best, when those sad moments come to you, just do something like take a shower and think of everything good in your life. Like you've never felt bad before. Things that usualy help me, (I got this from a depression book)

1.Inhale deeply, hold it for 5 seconds
2.Exhale and make it to where you can hear yourself exhale, and as you do say "relax."
3. Try it up to about 5 or 10 times

I hope you don't end up like me, I wish you luck.


-TheTeenGirl

Well, I have a boyfriend and I am 14, its alright to date, but I feel its better to not, and save your heart until later, because its more painful when you're younger. But when you don't feel right about a relationship, it usually means you aren't ready, or something about that person you happen to be dating is doing something to make you feel weird. Just remember, you should do what your heart, well, I'd say mostly your mind tells you.


-TheTeenGirl

16 and over a year? Have you told anyone, its not gonna matter if you don't want to go to the doctor, if you carec about your body and yourself, and you wanna know whats up, a doctor can tell you, you have to go see a doctor, I can't even guess whats going on, I've never heard of not having a period for over a year.



-TheTeenGirl

It isn't dangerous, but I wonder why your hole school is doing it, the only thing you won't like about shaving your arms is it usually grows back thicker. But don't do it to just fit in and because everyone else is doing it, you should love your arms unshaved, its better and "cooler" I guess I can say to be you and different.

-TheTeenGirl

Well, if I spent the night with a guy, I'd feel grossed out and weird because first of all, young girls should not be spending the night with boys unless they have a baby with them. and its because it was your GUY friend, the stuff you and him did is something a boyfriend and girlfriend do, you guys should have at least hooked up, what if he was doing it just to "get some?" you never kno, he may be your friend, but you just never know. But, you should try talking to him about it.


-TheTeenGirl

Oh man, everyone has heard of the bases and talks like they know them, but actually they're made up, don't be afraid to ask people what second base is to them, they get labeled differently all the time. And talk to your friend, ask her what she did, and its actually none of your business, but your her friend, so just ask.

-TheTeenGirl

The perfect exercise would be sit ups, like 50 a day, or 20, I did about like 80 a day and in 2 days my stomach was very flat. So you should try it

-TheTeenGirl

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