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Laura/22/England



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hey im 15 and the kid i like is 16. well we have been hookin up and like i really want a boyfriend. i told him i was lookin for one. he has this whole idea that its pointless to label a relationship with bf or gf because then you dont have to go threw a brake up.he also said that is someone asked if i was his girl nd it was at that point he would be like yeah that my girl nd that he only does hookup with me. do i continue to like him nd try nd make it more or move on.
please helpp

Seems like he doesn't want to commit just now. and if that's the case, you can't make him.
It's not pointless to "label a relationship". Even if you're not boyfriend and girlfriend right now and just say you didn't want to hook up anymore, you'd still have to have a "break up", wouldn't you?
You can try talking to him again.
but if you want a boyfriend and he doesn't want a girlfriend, yet still wants to hook up with you, it's obviously more of a friends with benefits thing.. and you should move on.

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SO This guy told me he loved me last night but were rely good friends and i dont know if he was just saying that to be cute or if he rely ment it this is so hard btw i love him so much but i'm not sure if he feels the same

Noone here will know, I'm afraid.
but it's simple for you to find out.
How?
Ask him.
You can wait and see if he says it again to you and ask what he means..
OR
You can be brave, bring it up and ask what he meant.
Remember though, friends can say I love you to one another and not mean anything more by it. So don't get your heart set on it just yet. :)

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"This is a serious question and i would like serious answers"

For almost a week my boyfriend has been asking me if he could put it in my butt. I kept telling him no, it will hurt ect. but he keeps asking. Finally i told him i would let him "try" on Valentines day, and i let him down and he got mad. Last night me and him had sex and i told him i was going to let him do it this time, so he waiting till after i came, and tried to put it in there but i stopped him because the lub felt nasty. Now this morning he's calling me a bitch and saying i should die. I just don't get it. I don't know what to do about him. any advice?

What do you do? You DUMP him, right now.
No boyfriend seriously tells their girlfriend to die and calls her a bitch because she's not ready to participate in something HE wants.
Instead, he should have been understanding and told you to only ever do it if YOU want to and you're ready.
I know you only want to please him, but he just sounds like he's using you.
You know how he's behaving isn't right. and only you can do something about it.

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I been with my boyfriend for a year now and when we use to have sex i use to cum all over his bed...however i reacently had surgery and they took out one of my fa-lope-ein- tubes and now when we have sex i dont cum. I still get wet and the sex is great but i think it bothers him when i dont cum, i dont want him to think that he doesnt satafie me. is it normal not to cum during sex?

The majority of women don't, and that's normal.
but because you used to and just suddenly stopped after your surgery, it's worth talking to your doctor about. It could just be an effect from the op and things may return back to normal soon. But since as far as I'm aware there are no qualified doctors here, it's best to check with your own to see what's going on.
Just because you don't cum doesn't mean it wasn't good - make your boyfriend understand that.

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OMGGGGG please please please help me!

i had a bad accident today and one of my bottom teeth broke! i went to the dentist and all and he said we have to wait until wednesday for the gums to heal before we replace it!! please help me! i need a way to hide until then my family are being so mean and nonsupporting... i need a way to disguise it until then because i don't my friends to see me like this!

ANYTHING! please anything that i could find at home and use to disguise the missing tooth its on the side near the front two teeth at the bottom!

Awww, don't panic. Wednesday isn't long to wait at all.
You know the tooth is missing - others don't. and I doubt they will notice either, because bottom teeth aren't as noticeable as top teeth.. and you can easily smile/laugh without showing the bottom set.
If people seem to notice you're acting a bit different, you can just tell them you're not feeling too good or whatever.
As for trying to disguise it, there's nothing you can really put there that will actually work. I did a Google search and it said about using putty. but seriously, that seems like alot of hassle to make it the right shape/colour and make it stick there for the entire school day.
Remember, Wednesday is just around the corner. and it's only one tooth that's missing - in an unnoticeable place, too!
but if someone does happen to notice (which I doubt they would unless you told them), so what? Accidents do happen. I know alot of people who have had accidents like this involving teeth. It's not a big deal to make.. and if people make fun of you over an accident, screw them. They're waste.

Cheer up. Things will be back to normal soon.

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Okay so i accidentally left a half of a plastic bottle of milk in my locker... its liek a milk chug thing

its been in there since thursday and it wont come out till tuesday.... will it like start to mold and will like the stench seep out of my locker or will like (since its sealed shut) nothing happen if i dont open the container

If it's sealed shut, I doubt you have much to worry about. It may smell a little, but nothing horrific, y'know?
Plus, it is only what.. 5 days?
Bring some spray with you just incase.

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i shaved my eyesbrown, ha (ew) how i make them grow faster? eatting a onion?

An onion will not help your eyeBROWS.
Peoples hair grows at different rates. You can wait it out (possibly 2 weeks) or use a make up pencil (eyeliner/one specifically for eyebrows) to fill in Make sure you're eating healthy and getting your sleep - they help your hair :P
P.S
Never ever use a razor for your eyebrows in future!
Only tweeze or wax them.

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on msn I NEED HELP YO PLZZ i have a lot of emoticons those smiley faces and every time i send them i don see them!LIke for example the smiley :) i dont see the face i see the sign only!!PLS tell me what to do!!

Go to:
Tools
Options
Messages (the tab on the left)
Then make sure the 2 boxes are ticked.

If they are already ticked but you still don't see them, try downloading MSN again.

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i just have been going out with this guy for like a day now. and we act more like really good friends but we like each other more than that. any advice on um showing him we should act more like friends?

It's been ONE day. Just give it some time. You shouldn't jump straight into that lovey dovey crap after just becoming an item...
Hold his hand, give him spontaneous kisses, hug.. just show some affection. He might get the idea and return it.

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i just want peoples personal opinions. do you think wearing leopard or cheetah striped anything would be tacky?

I think it's alright on small things. Just don't overdo it or wear other colours that would clash with it. You can get the prints in other colours as opposed to that orange colour. (pink/blue/etc)
but hey, if you like it, wear it. Other peoples opinions shouldn't put you off what YOU wear. :)

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What is your personal opinion about myspace in general?

What do you feel about some of the perverts on there looking for 15 year old girls? I feel like it takes two to tango, but I was looking for others opinions. Thanks!

Of course it "takes two to tango", but these 15 year old girls think they're talking to guys their own age. The paedophiles grooming them are hardly going to put their real age/real pics and have "I'M A PAEDOPHILE1!!1" all over their profile.
People are so naive and stupid. MySpace is paedophile paradise, especially when they come across the millions of young teens posting half naked pictures of themselves up.
It's their own fault. If they don't know about internet safety, they simply shouldn't be on there.

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What do you do about a cut on the tounge?

If it's just a small cut - nothing. The good thing about cuts in the mouth is they heal quite quick.
If it's painful, you can put on some numbing gel, like Bonjela.
Or you could swill your mouth out with warm salty water to prevent infection and rid bacteria.
If it's gushing with blood however, you'll need to go to hospital.

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i am completely and totally in love with my boyfriend. i have never met a guy as amazing to me as he is. he is the definition of perfect in my eyes..and he says hes in love with me. he shows me all the time how much he cares for me and i know its not just some little fling..it cant be. ive just been thinking lately how long can this honestly last? we were best friends before we dated..and we have been dating for two months now..it feels like we have been together forever and things only get better. but i mean ive been worried that things are going to turn for the worse because ive never had a guy like this.. what are the chances that we will stay together? we are both 16..i know its young but i can honestly say i love him and it would kill me if i lost him..it feels so real..could it be?

Maybe.
There's no magical way of knowing what's going to happen in the future. Which is why it's bad to think about it in the way you are.
So instead of worrying about what the future holds, just enjoy the present and take each day as it comes. If you love him as much as you say you do, don't do anything that would hurt him or push him away, obviously. It's all you can do. and hope he does the same for you.

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f/17

Hi, my nipples are cracked. Whats wrong?

They're probably just sensitive and dry.
Get some cream for dry skin and see if it's any help.

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is it wrong to not eat pizza crusts?

Why would it be wrong?
Some people don't like pizza crusts so obviously leave them....

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I am a teen girl and next to wear my underwear line is on the insdie my leg i am getting like a rash, i don't know if it is from my pads (from when I have my period) or if it is an STD (i've had sex with only one guy since sept. (we'd fooled around like teased previously, but never actually had sex sex) anyways, its red, slightly raised a bit and I guess it is just worrying me that it could be an STD or is my pad just irritating my soft skin when it rubs up against it? Please answer as soon as possible, I've tried to research it but I need some advice please.

It could just be caused through irritation, yes.
If you see no signs of improvement or it gets worse after your period, it might be worth getting a doctors opinion, although I doubt it's sexually transmitted.

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i heard that eatting alot of oinion make your hair grow faster, i want grow my hair so fast and long, how? buy special shampoon or eat oinion?

I've never heard of onions making your hair grow.
These will help, though:
*Eat correctly. Getting your daily nutrients is a good start. Not just onions!
*Make sure you're getting enough sleep.
*Go to the hairdressers and trim the dead ends. Getting rid of them shocks the hair into growing faster. Get a small trim every couple of months.
*Use nourishing shampoos and conditioners. Every 2-4 weeks, apply a hair mask.

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what can do to get my love back

Your question needs to be more specific in order to get a decent answer.
What happened to the love in the first place?
My only suggestion is to talk to the person. You know what happened, so you should know what improvements need to be made and the right things to say. Ask for one last chance to prove you can make it right.

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Um I haven't been excercising at home due to the overload of work at school and it's a new semester; gym was brutally devastating and it's only been the second day. From when it was over til now when i woke up, my left toes, my stomache, and my whole left arm hurts when I move in any way that could activate it, which is basically just moving. And I turn a lot when I sleep so I know I'm not hungry or something because when I turned, my stomache hurt so bad I was going to cry! And I can't raise my left arm into the air, it only goes as far as elbows and up when I try to lift my arms.

What do you think is the problem and do you know any way that I could fix it?

Sounds like you over exerted yourself big time. Did you do a PROPER warm up and cool down? If you did, you've obviously pushed yourself too hard, and it was a shock to your body because you haven't exercised lately.
The bad thing is, you're going to hurt for a while.
but to prevent it happening again, try to exercise through out the week so it doesn't come as a massive shock to your body - and don't push yourself so hard, especially since you're not used to it. but within time, your body WILL get used to it.
For the pain, just take painkillers if it's that bad. and it'll gradually go within a few days.
If there's that chance where you think it might not be gym related, or if it keeps happening, talk to your doc.

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I am a 17-year old girl about to go to college. I absolutely love my family. However, recently my dad has been acting harshly towards my mom, but not in an abusive way- he doesn't specify where he's going when he's going out, for example, and expects her to take it. They've been married 26 years, but he doesn't show her a lot of affection -and she has complained to me about it. Now I have proof that he is having an affair. The only problem is is that this proof is his text messages - things I shouldn't be looking at. I couldn't help myself, and I know it was wrong. However, now that I know should I do and/or say something? I am absolutely heartbroken and shocked, but more than that is the fact that my mom doesn't deserve this. Is there anything I can do? Please help me.

I'm sorry you're in this position.
Of course you're mum doesn't deserve this - nobody does. but you don't deserve to be the one who breaks the news to her - If you are certain your dad is cheating, he should be the one to do it. Which is why if I were in your position, I'd talk to him. Tell him you know you were wrong, but you read his txt messages... and see what he says.
If your mum is complaining to you about him, she's obviously sensing something. It's down to your mum as well - she may suspect it already, but just wants to ignore it until he comes clean.
but as I've said, if you can, talk to him. Once he sees you are now involved, the only decent thing for him to do would be to admit it to the rest of his family.
Best of luck.

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