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I'm Christina, and I'm 27. I tend to be brutally honest when I give advice or an opinion. I don't tell people what they want to hear but rather what they need to hear. They don't always appreciate it at first, but I usually get a thank you in the end.

I have 15 tattoos, and 8 piercings. I'm married and just gave birth to a baby boy in May. I'm currently a SAHM so you can find me taking care of my son and binge-watching television while he naps.

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A lot of celebrities died recently but I'm not sure if I caught everyone. I know, I know...it isn't really important or anything but I'm just curious. Michael Jackson's face is splattered all over the magazines so you can't really miss that. Billy Mays was a BIG shocker since he's been doing all of those infomercials for awhile. Farrah Fawcett died the same day as Michael Jackson so it was a little covered over with the news of the King of Pop passing away.

Anyway, what other celebrity died this past week or so that I may have missed? ... or was that it?

Steve McNair died. He was a former NFL player who was most famous for his time spent playing with the Tennessee Titans. His death has been confirmed a murder-suicide. His "girlfriend" killed him before she killed herself.

Ed McMahon also died. He was best known for being on the Tonight Show with Johnny Carson. He also did Star Search if I'm not mistaken.

Karl Malden died as well. He was an actor. I've never seen his stuff, but my father has. I'm not too familiar on who he is, but I'm sure there's stuff you can look up on him.

Allen Klein died too. He was the manager for The Beatles. He died of Alzheimer's disease at age 77.

I'm sure other people may have died, but these are the people besides Michael Jackson, Farrah Fawcett & Billy Mays who have died within the past couple of weeks. Millions of people die everyday though, so we shouldn't just be paying attention to the stars.

I want to buy the Michael Jackson's song and video Thriller. I totally love Thriller and was wanting an actual copy of it that I could throw into the DVD player if I wanted to (or my computer). Can you buy Thriller or do I have to, like, download it and burn it to a CD disk? Help?

You can always buy it on Itunes.

I heard that Paris Jackson made an appearance on TV during the big Michael Jackson Memorial. She supposedly cried and talked about how much she missed her father. I just wanted to see Paris Jackson and all and see how heartfelt her words were since I missed it earlier. Where could I see this at?

MySpace was showing the memorial. I guess they had videos. She comes on stage towards the end to give her words about her father.

It's really sad, I cried. :(

well im 19 yrs old and im pregnat im probably like 2 months my boyfriend doesnt want anything to do with me or the baby i talked to his mom and she said she would support me. i kno i could just abort and get ir over with it but im against abortion idk what to do.

Do not listen to the person below me. They are suggesting that you watch a tv show for advice on how to handle a baby. TV shows are usually strictly fictional, and should not be intended for real life. HOWEVER, they do give a warning at the end of the show about teenage pregnancy.

I think you need to talk to your mother. Your mother can help you see other options besides abortion. You can always keep the baby, but then put it up for adoption once it's born. You could also just keep the baby to raise.

All 3 of the options are hard. Most women who adopt end up regretting it or feeling bad. Same deal for women who have abortions. As for keeping the baby, it takes a lot of willpower and struggle.

There are a lot of people you can talk to about this for support. Your family, your friends, your boyfriend's mom, and maybe you can even go to a group having to do with teen mothers.

i wont to die

See a psychologist. Obviously you have problems that need to be worked out.

how did michael jackson get the name "the king of pop"? i read it somewhere in yahoo news but now i cant find it. i wanna know who FIRST reffered to him as the king of pop.. thankss

Elizabeth Taylor gave him the nickname. It just kinda stuck, and I think it fits. The dude is a beast when it comes to music.

does anyone know what the average pay is for one of those girls who dance in the most of the rap videos? i was just curious to how much they get paid for dressing like a skank and shaking their ass in a camera lol.

I'm assuming they don't make much.

And most of the time, they're sleeping with the artist to get ahead in the entertainment business.

May seem like a nice career while you're sitting at home on your couch but to be actually put in the situation would probably suck, no pun intended.

Yeah, we all know that throughout the years Michael Jackson slowly became a white man. Everyone knows Michael Jackson started as a black kid, right? Remember, the Jackson 5...

Anyway, I know some years ago he claimed he had some sort of skin disorder that caused his skin to turn white or lose pigment or something, but nobody really believed that.

I'm just curious, I guess. How did Michael Jackson change his skin color? I am assuming that the disorder he said he suffered from was false...right?

If he did have some disorder that caused his skin to turn white, I never knew about it.

I always heard that he bleached his skin to become lighter. It's actually gotten kinda common where people of a darker skin tone will bleach their skin to appear lighter. Most do it for personal reasons, but some also do it because they're shallow & insecure.

But whatever reason Michael had to do it, I'm unsure of. I could be wrong though so don't take this as a for sure thing.

My mom says she thinks I have social anxiety, one of my close friend said she agreed, and I think my psychologist might agrees although she hasn't said so to me directly. I have always disagreed and think I'm just fine but recently I have started to wonder. I avoid people at all costs, even my friends because I'm afraid of doing something wrong, saying something stupid, or otherwise embarassing myself. I hate meeting new people and I can barely talk to people I don't know, its hard enough talk to those that I do know. I can't even bring myself to go up and talk to anyone outside my immediate family (my mom and two sisters)without being poked and prodded. I don't like leaving my house and I try not to because I'm afraid I might look stupid or act stupid and people will laugh at me. I'm always worried people are thinking I'm stupid in their heads. I can't even call my best friend about asking to stay the night because I'm afraid of saying something dumb. It isn't normal, I know that. But is it really social anxiety? I kind of want another opinion.

You fit the symptoms of social anxiety to a tee.

http://www.webmd.com/anxiety-panic/guide/mental-health-social-anxiety-disorder

I would look through that, and I'd go see a psychologist. I suffer from SAD too, and I'm about to go start Cognitive Behavior Therapy so that I can overcome it before I start school in a few weeks.

is it risky to swallow sperm does it really digest and its only gonna be with one guy

I'm sure you'll be okay if you swallow. I don't really think anything happens.

Kay, so my boyfriend openly talks about girls he thinks are hot, and it sort of makes me feel awkward.

I wouldn't mind if he put it another way (e.g. 'I think *this girl* is pretty' or 'I think this girl is attractive) but he says it along the lines of "*THIS GIRL* IS SO GOD DAMN HOT" and it makes me feel awkward. He'll just bring it up too when it had nothing to do with the conversation...

e.g. I mentioned to him how I was always scared to bring home boyfriends because of my sister's good looks. He then said something along the lines of 'Oh she sounds hot' when he asked for a description of her. He also randomly went on about how "god damn hot" his friend's sister is... and just before I mentioned I lost my keys and he went on about how Alicia Keys is 'hot'...

Am I being out of line? I don't mind if he thinks other girls are attractive, just because he's with me doesn't mean feelings for others change. But I think he could either just discuss it with friends, or word it better when discussing it with me.

I'm sort of sensitive to this stuff, because my ex boyfriend did this, but ten times worse (he would constantly bring how much he wanted sex with other girls and that sort of stuff into it as well) so I feel as if I may be scarred from that experience, but it's taught me to deal with this stuff early on.

I don't think you're out of line at all. My boyfriend & I have no problems admitting who we think is good looking (it's usually along the lines of celebrities, but can sometimes go into everyday people), BUT we don't say "OMG THEY'RE SO HOT I WANNA DO THEM LOL WOW."

Tell your boyfriend how this is making you feel. If nothing changes, dump him. You don't need to put up with that shit.

ok so my puppy shes is a toy fox terrier she is about 6 months old
so about 3 months i noticed a lump on her head under the skin i didnt think it was anything but after a bout a month or so the fur on the bump was gone and it was like a white flaky scab it got a little bigger and yellowish and a little scabbier i doesnt bother her
i put peroxide on it it didnt fizz i put bactine on it and neosporin it didnt go away
now it is just a crusty tear drop sized(thats how big it has always been)
now she is getting another one on her head my bf wants to take her to the vet but i dont want to waste the money if its nothing
does anyone know what this is?

I would go to the vet. If may not be something serious, but there's always the off chance that it is. I don't think it's a waste of money to go & check if your dog is healthy or not. In my opinion, it'd be animal cruelty not to. This is your dog. Treat it like a member of your family.

how I can dress like the girls on seventeen and teen vogue and celebrities for cheap. just really cute stuff for not a lot of money.

:)

There are a lot of stores you can shop at that have cheap clothes, but that are good quality & really cute!

Wet Seal, Forever 21, and H&M are really good stores. They almost always have a sale, and their stuff is really cute. You can also try American Eagle, or Aeropastle. :) Their stuff is cute too, and really not that expensive.

If you don't mind shopping at a thrift store, there are places like Plato's Closet or Out Of The Closet that sell stuff. I'm pretty sure if you have one of those near you that you're bound to find something you like. :)

can I do this summer. I want a long list of stuff i can cross off to do this summer. i cant do much because im pregnant but i already have like boating swimming camping and the basics down and i cant go to a concert cause i cant find any good ones out.
Thanks :)

http://www.discoverfun.com/freeinfo/500fun/summer.html

I went there & it has 500 fun things you can do this summer. Obviously since you're pregnant, I would pick & choose wisely, but I'm sure there's a lot you can do.

i wanna site model on myspace,
people said i can have real
patential but i just don't know
how to exsactlyy haha, and iv'e
done actual modeling also so i know
what im doing with the pictures and
all but just how to get hired and stuff.
so please help me (: kthankyoubye.

If someone's looking for a site model (such as contest sites, or layout sites) you just ask to model for them.

Just take pictures & that's about it.

Recently I've noticed that I seem to be carrying excessive things in my handbag or missing some vital things, so I'm just wondering; what do you, girls, keep in your handbag that you take with you wherever? The things that you always have in your hand bag?

Thanks :)

Things I keep in my bag are:

- Sunglasses
- Keys
- Wallet
- Cell Phone
- Make Up
- Medicine
- Hand Sanitizer
- Lotion
- Hair Clips
- Hair Ties
- Body Spray
- Gum/Mints
- Pens
- Some form of paper
- A snack

So on August 28th its my sixteenth birthday... I have no idea what to do!
I don't want to do anything too expensive... I want quite a few people there, but not too many. I have a pool and a hot tub.... but I'm not sure if people would actually use them. IDEAS PLEASE!!!!
And good ones... :D

Why don't you have a pool party? I'm sure people would use your pool regardless if you had a pool party or not, but just tell them to bring their bathing suits & then take it from there.

Here are some ideas I found online for an inexpensive sweet 16:

http://www.sweetsixteenhelp.com/ideas.html

The ideas on that site seem kinda pricey, but I'm sure there's a way you can do at least 2 of those without it costing you too much.

http://www.birthdaypartyideas.com/html/sweet_16_party.html

&

http://www.life123.com/holidays/birthdays/16th-birthday-party/sweet-sixteen-birthday-party-ideas.shtml

That link is more for parents, BUT it still has good ideas that I'm sure you could look at. :)

well, i need some new songs and bands. Some of the ones i like already are:
RBD
Tickle Me Pink
We the Kings
and some songs i like are
Rascall Flats - Here Comes Goodbye
Moulin Rouge Soundtrack - Le Tango De Roxanne
Jamie Cullum - I Only Have Eyes For You
Goldfrapp-Felt Mountain
Five for fighting - Superman
Dj tiesto - Forbidden Paradise (Deep Trance Mix)
Buckcherry - Crazy Bitch
Billy Porter - Time
All Time Low - Dear Maria
All Time Low - Poppin' Champagne
Cradle Of Filth - Vampire
Crash Romeo - Die in your arms

Well, you said you like All Time Low & We The Kings, so I think I can give you some bands that are similar to them that you might enjoy. :)

Sing It Loud
Forever The Sickest Kids
Valencia
Anberlin
Mayday Parade
Paramore
Hey Monday
This Providence
Cute Is What We Aim For
Hit The Lights
The Academy Is...
Acceptance
Mae
The All American Rejects
Boys Like Girls
The Cab
Cartel
The Color Fred
A Cursive Memory
The Dangerous Summer
Envy On The Coast
Every Avenue
Fall Out Boy
Cobra Starship
The Friday Night Boys
Stereo Skyline
The Bigger Lights
Hellogoodbye
The Higher
The Hush Sound
Jack's Mannequin
The Rocket Summer
The Maine
Matchbook Romance
The Morning Of
Motion City Soundtrack
New Found Glory
OK GO
Person L
The Starting Line
PlayRadioPlay!
Plain White T's
Say Anything
The Sequence
Saosin
A Kidnap In Color
Spill Canvas
Take The Crown
Taking Back Sunday
There For Tomorrow
VersaEmerge
The Years Gone By

I would check those bands out. They're pretty good & I think you'd like them. :)

So I was in this relationship with this guy.
He was perfect, but we ended it.
We barely saw each other.
The day we broke up, he went to his friend's house,
because he was upset.
His friend, who is a girl, confessed her feelings for him, which continued with him asking her out.
They had sex that night, as well.
I don't believe in pre-marital sex,
yet, he does.
very, very much so.
Anyways, we got into another right because
he kept saying how amazing she was compared to me,
and blah blah blah.
So we stopped talking.
On my birthday, he texted me.
And we became friends, again.
We talk on the phone every night, since then.
Later the next day,
his girlfriend broke up with him.
She wanted to be single for the summer.
(What a hoe, right?)
He was pretty upset,
so while we were talking that night,
he was venting.
He told me he loves me, but doesn't want me.
And he doesn't love her, but wants her.
I'm still in love with him, and he knows.
But, What should I do?
I'm so confused.
HELP.

I'd forget about him if I were you. He isn't sure about what he wants and you can't keep waiting around for him to make up his mind.

And you really shouldn't judge this other girl. If she wants to be single for the summer, why does that make her a hoe or a slut? Lots of people stay single for the summer. There's nothing wrong with meeting new people & seeing where things go. You shouldn't judge just because someone doesn't believe in the same things you do. Not everyone believes in waiting for sex like you do.

But seriously, forget about him. I'm sure you can find someone else that you see a lot more & that believes in the same things you do.

im 24 years old and have been with my boyfriend for about 3 years now. he has beaten me up in the past and even broken my thumb before. i know abuse is a cycle and it has to be broken but i of course thought things might work out and i stayed because i have nowhere else to go either and no one else in my life to help me right now. he knows he has total control because i dont work right now so he controls everything in my whole life. if things dont go his way then he just hits me. i do want to leave but i have no one and no im not going to a shelter and he knows that so he just keeps doing what he wants to. the point is what can i do to get out of this besides going to a shelter. if i leave and go to a shelter then i need to leave my dog behind and i dont even know if he will care for her or not when i leave and like i said i have no one to help me and im starting to think he likes it that way. what should i do?????????...

Where are your parents? Do you have any siblings? I understand you said you have no one, but where are they? I'm sure they'd help you.

If I were you, I'd either go to family, or I'd go to the shelter. Being in a shelter is better than getting your ass beat everyday, am I right? Take your dog to a shelter, but say you're coming back for her (so that she doesn't get sold, & they'll take care of her) and go to the shelter until you can find out what to do.

Call the cops though. Don't put up with his crap. Get his ass behind bars, and let him rot there.

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