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my boyfriend beats me up..
im 24 years old and have been with my boyfriend for about 3 years now. he has beaten me up in the past and even broken my thumb before. i know abuse is a cycle and it has to be broken but i of course thought things might work out and i stayed because i have nowhere else to go either and no one else in my life to help me right now. he knows he has total control because i dont work right now so he controls everything in my whole life. if things dont go his way then he just hits me. i do want to leave but i have no one and no im not going to a shelter and he knows that so he just keeps doing what he wants to. the point is what can i do to get out of this besides going to a shelter. if i leave and go to a shelter then i need to leave my dog behind and i dont even know if he will care for her or not when i leave and like i said i have no one to help me and im starting to think he likes it that way. what should i do?????????...
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Where are your parents? Do you have any siblings? I understand you said you have no one, but where are they? I'm sure they'd help you.
If I were you, I'd either go to family, or I'd go to the shelter. Being in a shelter is better than getting your ass beat everyday, am I right? Take your dog to a shelter, but say you're coming back for her (so that she doesn't get sold, & they'll take care of her) and go to the shelter until you can find out what to do.
Call the cops though. Don't put up with his crap. Get his ass behind bars, and let him rot there.
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I hate it whn people are given the opportunity to love and all they do is abuse it... leave him he obviosuly doesnt deserve you and it enrages me that a man would even do that to his girlfreind/wife live wit your parents find a job rent a seperate flat do anything to get away from him! you deserve better than that and him
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Ugh..my heart just breaks hearing these sorts of things.
Girl, You need to leave. Trust me, I am a victim myself of a past abusive relationship and it is not pretty and doesn't become pretty. Men who hit woman have no respect for themselves yet alone there partner. You cannot make this work and he DOES NOT deserve you. You dont' have no family members that could help you? Frankly, I would rather stay at a shelter than take the abuse and I know that might be hard for you to hear but it's the truth. You don't deserve it, You didn't do anything wrong. You need to know you cannot stay in this relationship and you have tried to make it work and it didn't.. Therefore you owe yourself that much to leave. There is this saying.."There is ALWAYS a way out" even if it is staying at a shelter. There is also helplines you can call, If you don't want to go to any shelter.. than maybe look into a womans shelter.
If you continue to stay with him, He will only get worse and you are telling him that it is okay when it is NOT okay at all. Call the police, If you are scared then call when he is not around or go to a friends house, neighbors house and pick up the phone. You need to get out and please don't wait
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-BahaiMa22
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Your parents won't put up with this shit. They'll have him charged for you. You ALWAYS have somewhere to go and can rely on them and family if you need to. You can also get work at any moment or financial assistance until you do.
Tell your family what he has done repeatedly and about the broken thumb. Let them help you here and get away from him. There is no logical reason at all to stay put. If he has ZERO self-control and beats you up what's to say he won't kill you be it intentional or accidental? He's a dangerous person.
No matter what he says about "never again" or what pops in your head telling you to stay DON'T. Tell your family, friends, co-workers etc. that you need help and do it. You wont need a shelter as I know your family will assist you. I'm sure they'll find room for your dog. Shelters won't but friends etc. will.
He can't control your life unless you continue to allow him to. It's fear and trying to justify him being this way that takes over. You have to refute that and take this opportunity to get the hell out of that situation. Tell your family and the police what you told us. You need to as staying could kill you. It's that simple he has no control at all. If he can beat you up than he has no inner voice guiding him to stop racheting the violence up.
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