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Am I out of line?
Kay, so my boyfriend openly talks about girls he thinks are hot, and it sort of makes me feel awkward.
I wouldn't mind if he put it another way (e.g. 'I think *this girl* is pretty' or 'I think this girl is attractive) but he says it along the lines of "*THIS GIRL* IS SO GOD DAMN HOT" and it makes me feel awkward. He'll just bring it up too when it had nothing to do with the conversation...
e.g. I mentioned to him how I was always scared to bring home boyfriends because of my sister's good looks. He then said something along the lines of 'Oh she sounds hot' when he asked for a description of her. He also randomly went on about how "god damn hot" his friend's sister is... and just before I mentioned I lost my keys and he went on about how Alicia Keys is 'hot'...
Am I being out of line? I don't mind if he thinks other girls are attractive, just because he's with me doesn't mean feelings for others change. But I think he could either just discuss it with friends, or word it better when discussing it with me.
I'm sort of sensitive to this stuff, because my ex boyfriend did this, but ten times worse (he would constantly bring how much he wanted sex with other girls and that sort of stuff into it as well) so I feel as if I may be scarred from that experience, but it's taught me to deal with this stuff early on.
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I don't think you're out of line at all. My boyfriend & I have no problems admitting who we think is good looking (it's usually along the lines of celebrities, but can sometimes go into everyday people), BUT we don't say "OMG THEY'RE SO HOT I WANNA DO THEM LOL WOW."
Tell your boyfriend how this is making you feel. If nothing changes, dump him. You don't need to put up with that shit.
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first, you should tell him how this makes you feel. he should respect your feelings and listen to you. maybe he does this to see how much you care. he needs to know that you do care, and that you care about him. and if he doesn't care about how you feel about him saying other girls are hot, then he is NOT the right guy for you.
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Your boyfriend is an immature child.
An adult would not tolerate his inability or unwillingness to control himself. Its not "a cool part of his personality that he just can't help but it doesn't matter because its charming" or whatever justifications have let you not walk this long.
Why are you tolerating this?
Am I completely out of touch, do kids think that its normal for a guy to talk to a girl he is dating about how hot everyone but she is? Is this widespread or something?
Tell the guy that you don't date children, and his constant outbursts are childlike. Follow through, and don't date guys that act this way.
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No you are not out of line - you aren't really doing or saying things about it yet, at least not drastically. You aren't out of line for feeling this way. Definitely bring it up to him exactly how you worded it here. I'm sure he wouldn't mind toning it down a bit. Be open and communicative with him. Hope that helped and good luck.
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Hey there =)
I know how you feel,almost every guy does this without even realising it.
sometimes us girls do it too,and its perfectly okay and normal to a certain extent,to think someone is hot etc it doesnt mean your boyfriend thinks of you as any less attractive.
he probably doesnt even notice that this is making you feel awkward,what you need to do is just explain exactly to him what you have here,that your not trying to over react or be out of line but sometimes when he constantly mentions how he thinks other girls are hot it makes you feel like your not as..hot etc.
its not nice and discouraging to hear your bf go on about other girls celebrities etc constantly where as its easy to over look and have a laugh about if its just rarely you know,but it seems like your bf does bring it up alot so your best bet is to just tell him how it makes you feel.
ask him to re word,or just talk about it with his friends its probably completely harmless though and something he should come to stop doing eventually and be more sensitive towards youre feelings.
hes a guy after all it takes them a while to realise this stuff lol =)
good luck anyway I hope I helped
Much <3
Jess 15.f
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