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Ok so this is for my friend. She is 13 (yes she has her period) So she had sex with her boyfriend (and her bf also went through peburity)and so they didn't use a condom. And he said he did cum.. is there a possibility that she could get pregnant? She is just really worried and wants to know.
~Thanks :)
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Yes it is definitely possible for her to be pregnant.
The fact that they didn't use a condom makes it ten times worse. If it's been like 72 hours after they had sex, she could get plan b.
Make sure she knows the consequences before she does something like this again.
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i had a relationship with 8yrs..we are happy but then things changed..this last may 2013 he became active in his facebook he is messaging his old highschool friends..i know because i know the password of his account.one time they had a reunion knowing that this was not planned even i know that they msg on facebook he still insist that its not expected..i let it pass.but this thing last month he msg on facebook another highschool buddies.he ask about her life and what makes me shocked is that he told to girl that he misses her and if she already ate bfast and so on..and last week she message the girl again that he wants to go abroad with her and that he will cook dishes for her and that his parents really liked her...i feel ashamed,stressed,hurt ..i dont know what to do some times we talked about it i asked him why am i feeling that he is not the same man that i met before and he told me that things changed that he want a baby thats why..i really dont know what to do (link)
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So he told you that the reason why he's not the same is because he wants a baby? Is it because you don't want to have children?
If that's the reason he's going to use to excuse his bad behavior, then that's ridiculous.
No matter what the reason is, it's wrong to flirt with other girls like that. He can't pull out some excuse like that. It shows he doesn't love you the way he should.
You shouldn't stay with a guy who is talking to other girls, no matter how much you love him. This is not fair to you.
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So about a year ago my mom met some dude named Jim. One night I was at my dad's house (divorced parents) and he had trouble breathing so he tried calling my mom but she wouldn't answer. So he just drove us there (because he REALLY needed to go to the hospital) and waited for my mom to answer the door. It took about five mins of knocking and waiting before she answered. She was wearing a bathrobe and she said she was sleeping and her phone was off. There was a pair of Hanes on the floor in the living room. Jim's truck was parked behind my mom's SUV. She made me go to bed and then jim left. Do you think she had sex that night? (link)
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She probably did.
Was there something wrong with it? I mean she and your father are separated right?
Anyways, to answer your question, she most likely did. I mean I wouldn't know for sure because I wasn't there but the signs point to yes.
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So, I dated this guy 2 years ago and he recently broke up with his other ex like 2 months ago. He decided to come back to me to reclaim a friendship with me and he ranted and confessed to me.
And now, ever since summer started, he would always offer to give me a ride back home from my summer class. I've been observing his actions and he's been trying to hit on me and spoil me with food and gifts and all that. A few days ago, he told his friends that he still likes me and wants to get back together with me, and one of his friends came and told me. I kind of saw this coming, but I didn't actually think it would legitly happen.
Anyways, I kind of find it weird to date an ex, so I honestly don't know what to do now. Today he texted me, "We need to talk" and I said I was busy for today but it's probably gonna happen. What should I do? (link)
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If you're unsure, you don't have to make a decision right away. You can take your time.
If he does ask you out again, just tell him that you're not sure and you just want to be friends for now. If he wants you that bad, he'll be fine with it and wait.
So think about the pros and cons, the reasons why you two broke up, if you think you can work through those problems, ect.
Just don't rush it and it'll turn out fine.
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Okay, so there's this guy. He's really nice and funny and sweet. I met him at a camp and we really connected. He made an extra effort just to say something to me everyday. He always seemed interested in what I was saying. He even decided that his nickname for me was "wifey". We have so much in common! And he even gave me hugs when we saw each other. Well, one day, I was in the bathroom when a girl came up to me. She asked me "Do you like him?" I didn't know what to say. Whether to trust her or not. So I said no. She responded "Oh, well I have this thing where I like to hook people up but this never happened okay?" That suggested to me that he liked me and wanted to ask me out but was too shy to do it himself. Camp ended and I got his number. We text and there have been more instances where I was pretty sure he liked me. But, I found out he has a girlfriend! I don't know if they have broken up, but I don't think they have! Oh great, now I'm hopelessly crushing over him just to find out he's taken! What should I do? Maybe he's just the flirty type? (link)
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How did you find out he has a girlfriend?
If it's more like you're unsure if they're together, then try bringing it up when you talk to him.
If definitely does sound like he likes you though, so if he does have a girlfriend, he might just be the flirty type.
So try finding out if he's dating her or if it's just casual dating, ect. Then figure out from there whether you should move on or keep talking to him.
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I'm 15f and I sit in my room on certain nights crying cause I can hear my mom and dad fighting and either my dad is drunk or something else I want them to stop but i can't do anything as I'm their kid I can't tell them no I have two younger sibling who are nine and five I look out for them and I can't take it anymore I don't know what to do any more they don't get violent but they do scream at each other and I have to distract my sister and brother so they don't hear it I can't cry in front of my siblings cause they will know something is wrong I just can't do it anymore (link)
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This isn't an uncommon thing for children. I think a lot of us can remember growing up and listening to our parents argue.
The reason they argue is probably because your dad is drunk. Marriage is hard because it's two people who are completely different, living together and trying to raise kids the same way, pay bills, ect.
What you need to do is find a time when one of them or both of them are calm and not fighting and go talk to them. Tell them that you hear when they fight and you don't like it. They'll probably do their best to not fight so loud or to try to solve their problems in a better way.
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My ex-Boyfriend wants to see me. I keep on telling him excuses like-
- I cant. I have to clean my room.
-My mom said i cant...
- I already have plans.
He still just keeps on asking. I have even tried to tell him that i dont like him anymore. He just wont listen! Please help. (link)
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How is he talking to you? Is it on Facebook or through text messaging? If so, then just don't answer. He'll have to give up eventually.
If he's been coming up to you in person, then you need to straight up tell him that you are not interested in seeing him and to please stop asking.
I think by giving him excuses, he doesn't get the hint. He sees it more as, "She's busy, but she still wants to see me." So don't make up excuses, just tell him no.
I had a boyfriend when I was in high school, once we broke up he would still try to talk to me all the time and would try to walk me to all my classes. Eventually I had one of my guy friends walk with me to my classes for a little while so that he wouldn't approach us.
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how can a man die with a essay way without any pain ?
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No one on this site is even allowed to tell you how to commit suicide. We're here to help people live and work through their problems, not jump away from them.
Go talk to someone, get some help.
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okay so i've been with my boyfriend for a year and 2 months now. Everything is great. I feel like he is the one I want to spend the rest of my life with. He knows how to make me happy & he's just the sweetest thing ever. We've had our ups and downs just like any other couple. The biggest problem we have is trust. He trusts me but it's kinda hard to trust him. In the beginning of our relationship everything was amazing, just perfect I never thought things would get so badly to the point where we almost broke up. We would argue because I would find out things that he lied to me about. He's gone to parties without telling me anything and I got mad because he lied to me & told me he was going to sleep. Then later I found out he lied about smoking. He told me he quit for me but he lied. & he's lied to me about other little things which made me question him at times. There were also times where I felt like I was in competition with other girls. Ive told him about it. & hes change. He stopped with everything & things have been getting better. But is it bad that I just cant get over what he did? Like its always in the back of my head & i guess i have some anger towards him still. There are times when were talking just fine & it reminds me of the past & wat he did & i bring it up & we argue again. Can you please tell me ways to get over it ? I dont know why I just cant forget that he lied to me & hurt me. (link)
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I've been in the same situation. My boyfriend was absolutely perfect until he lied to me about smoking and going out with his friends to do all that.
I used to be at the point where even though I told him I forgave him, I'd end up bringing it up and we'd get into a fight. I was never truly over it.
I ended up having a talk with him and a talk with myself. That stuff was in the past, I needed to leave it there. When I talked to him, I was honest with him and told him that I haven't gotten over it because when I think about it, it really hurts. He understood but made it clear that he hated when I bring it up because he stopped and it just causes unnecessary arguments.
You can't really make yourself trust him. He'll have to show you. I mean it will help by not bringing it up though.
The only reason you don't trust him is because you think he's going to do all that again.
As long as he's not going behind your back or anything, you'll learn to trust him again. This is something that obviously won't be easy but you really need to stick with it and work on it.
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I'm 25 and just found out I'm pregnant... I have a huge situation here and it will be extremely easy to judge and say cruel things so if you are that type of person, leave now. I made mistakes and am ready to deal with the consequences but that doesn't mean that I am not a human being who needs help. So those of you who are real and really want to help and give advice that isn't rude, please help me.
The father of my child is married and I doubt he will be involved in any way other than child support which he has already agreed to... which is fine. I can't really blame him... his wife is aware and wants him to ditch us... again, can't really blame him.
I want to keep this baby so much. I already love it and I know I would be a good mom but at the same time I feel like the situation is too cruel to bring a child into. I know a LOT of single moms who do it alone and are great but given the circumstances... and where I don't have any schooling after high school... would it be better to place the baby for adoption? I already know how the adoption process works... I am extremely familiar with it, it's just a matter of if it's right for me and the baby.
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If you think you can take care of the baby and you're financially stable or possibly get some help from friends or family, that should help with your decision.
If you don't think you can take care of the baby, then you know you shouldn't keep the child.
You'll know if it's right for you and the baby. Think about the situation, make sure you know the pros and cons of each.
I hope this helped a little. Good luck, everything will turn out fine.
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theres this boy in my grade named cameron and ive liked him for 4 years and he says he likes me but i dont actually think he does..it really sucks because he likes a girl named savanna alot more then me and shes one of my bestfriends.. but she doesnt like him back... should i just give up on him or still like him? now for some details he makes me so shy and i cant talk around him and his smile is perfection and i actually think i love him hes so nice an funny an just amazing..How do i get him to ask me out? PLEASE HELP IM SO CONFUSED. (link)
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So he says he likes you but he likes one of your best friends?
Well you can't make someone like you.
So why does he say he likes you? Does he feel bad? Does he like both of you?
Anyways, like I said, you can't make someone like you. You should probably become better friends with him and once you become closer to him, you'll see who he really likes and then go from there.
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21/f This week I got my blood taken because I'm feeling sick and may have mono. My appointment was at 7am. My boyfriend (of one year) knows I was freaking out about it, and said he would come with me for support. I was so happy for the support, but felt bad that the appointment was so early so I told him he didn't have to to go because of the unnecessary early time. I guess I was expecting him to say time wouldn't be an issue, as I would have done for him any day; instead he took me up on my offer. I didn't express my disappointment because I offered to opt him out of it, but I still feel upset with him about it. Am I right to feel this way? Or am I over reacting? Thanks. (link)
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It's ok to feel that way. They are your feelings and they are completely valid. You shouldn't be upset at him though.
It was sweet of him to say he would go with you for support. You just assumed he'd go with you though. I've done that so many times with my boyfriend. Telling him he didn't need to do something when he offered. Then I ended up sad that he didn't do it.
Anyways, I learned that I just need to be straight up and grateful. I don't want to say things I don't mean because it might not go as I planned.
So don't be upset with him, it's ok to be a little sad. If something like that comes up again and you truly feel bad about it being too early or something, then say that he doesn't have to go BUT you'd still really appreciate it or something like that.
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My boyfriend never wants to go out when I hang out with my friends. I almost feel like I'm single because everyone is with their boyfriends/girlfriends and they are always asking where mine is and I have to make up some excuse. And then he gets mad at me for going out or gets upset. I'm 21 years old and want to live life. All he does is want to lay in bed and watch TV and have sex. I love him but is this really worth it? I'm tired of acting like a 50-something year old couple. I've already talked to him about it and alls he says is "sorry I'm not good enough." He won't even make plans to go on vacation or on a hike or whatever with me by OURSELVES. Please help. (link)
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It seems like you both aren't compatible with each other. He seems to be the type who likes to stay in and you want to go out. You can't make him change, just like he can't make you want to stay in.
Since you already talked to him about it, there isn't much you can do. Try talking to him one more time. Tell him he has to meet you half way. You guys will stay in some days and go out some days. At least try to look into some things together that you both might enjoy doing.
If he won't even at least try doing that with you, then he might not be the guy for you.
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To start out, I am 20/F. My boyfriend of 6 years is 21. We have lived together since we were really young, about 17/18 years old. Our relationship has been practically perfect, we have always been best friends and we get along great. This summer, however, I went away to work at an internship. This wasn't the first time we had been apart for long, in fact, we dated for a year long distance, so being away at camp was nothing compared to that. But at this internship, I met another guy. We became great friends, and felt a really REALLY strong connection to each other. He is married, and I of course am in a serious relationship, so we never let our relationship go further than really close friends... until the last night, we shared our feelings that we really really like each other, but we have to continue on with our "real lives" because we are both happy with our SO's. So we parted ways, and now... everything feels different. I get frustrated easily with my boyfriend, I feel like I am no longer attracted to him, and I am somewhat bored. Furthermore, I feel smothered... I guess at this camp I learned that I am still so young, and I still have so much to experience.
It's only been a week since I got back, so I know everything is still very new, but I can't stand the feeling that everything is going downhill. I still keep in contact with the other guy, and we care about each other very much. I can't stand the feeling that I am making my boyfriend jealous when I talk to this guy, even though I never cheated on him or even thought about cheating on him. My boyfriend obviously suspects that I like this guy, and that he is losing me... and the worst part is, I don't even really want a relationship with the other guy, he's married and I would never want to ruin that, but I can't help feeling this connection to him that I have never had with anyone else.
I just want everything to go back to how it was before. I feel like everything is so complicated now, when before, i had everything figured out. To make things worse, my bf and I share so much more than just a relationship, we also have an apartment together, pets, bills, debts, etc etc. This makes me feel even more tied down and I don't know what to do. I know I need to wait longer and feel the situation out a little bit more, but I can't stand the feeling that I am hurting my boyfriend in the meantime. I want to tell him everything that I am feeling, but at the same time, I feel like that would only make the situation worse, since we are not at a point where we would just break up.
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So you pretty much had chemistry with someone else. This kind of thing happens every once in awhile, even when you're in a happy relationship. That's why people cheat.
You need to get your head together and sort out your feelings. Your boyfriend already thinks you like him, so that's not good. For now, don't talk to this other guy. It won't help you figure out how you feel. Plus he's married and keeping in touch with him isn't worth it. It could just end his marriage or ruin your relationship.
So just give yourself some time and you'll figure out what you really want. Either you'll want to continue your current relationship or be single.
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Hi there, ive never done this before, asking for advice online but here goes.
Ive been broken up with my ex for about a year now, its taken me a long time to get back on my feet, im studying and life was going great! but in all honesty im finding it hard to let go!!! We hadn't talked for a while when all of a sudden he called me early hours of the morning but I purposely missed his calls cause I knew he would have been drunk. He also messaged saying that he misses me. I kinda knew he had been seeing a girl, so it shocked me when got in contact with me, but i was so happy to hear from him again. i asked him why he was calling me and he told me he was sorry and that he was just drunk! We texed for abit, and then the next day I seen photos of him and his new girl, I texd him but no reply. Im not angry at the fact he is seeing someone now, but I felt like he used me for comfort and purposely messed with my head. Everything was good up until he got in contact with me. My reaction wasn't so good, I sent him an angry txt about how he could even mess with my feelings and why he would do such a thing. I feel bad now and think that i should apologise or should i just let it be. I haven't heard from him since. He has a new gf which i am happy for him, it just hurt me that all of a sudden hes nice to me then the next day acts as if i don't exist. Now i feel like im back at square one again! Am i over reacting? im feeling like shit! (link)
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You're not over reacting, you just haven't moved on yet.
He did use you, he doesn't care much for your feelings. That can screw with a person when they haven't moved on.
You shouldn't text him again. You should really cut him out of your life though.
I liked a guy for years, we got involved and I thought I'd never be able to get over him even when we haven't talked. But once he messaged me, I fell head over heels again, but I thought I moved on. Eventually, I just had to delete his number and unfriend him on Facebook.
So delete his number and wherever else you could possibly get in contact with him, delete that too. You don't need to be reminded that he's with someone else and you won't be able to move on when you see his face pop up online.
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I'm in intermediate and I like this boy at school and he is in the next door class. I'm taller than him. I like him so much that I think about him 24/7. I dream about him everyday and I think he's ADORABLE!! I told my best friend just recently and she keeps asking me why I like him. She thinks that he looks like a rotten tomato. What should I do?? (link)
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There is someone out there for everyone. Someone who you think is unattractive, someone else thinks he's gorgeous.
So really, her opinion doesn't matter. It just shows you that she wouldn't date him. If you like him and you think he is cute, that's all that matters.
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i'm 20/f and i've recently started having sex with a new partner. i stopped using the pill 2 or 3 months ago and i was on it for 6 months. he pulls out but i'm wondering if the pill could still be in my system after this long? (link)
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I've heard tons of different answers for how long it'll stay in your system. But it doesn't prevent pregnancy unless you take it every day. So it really does nothing for you right now. Cause obviously you can get pregnant the day after you stop using the pill.
The pull out method isn't very effective either because men do have pre cum and that has sperm in it. He doesn't feel it but it pretty much acts as a lubricant. That alone can get you pregnant.
So you should probably get on some form contraceptive..at least use condoms.
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So I've had a lot of boyfriends.
but with most of them, I've never done anything like sex or oral.
just kissing or making out.
some of them I didn't do anything.
and yeah. most of them I said yes to because I felt bad saying no :( others, because I actually liked them.
but I would always end my relationships. idk why.
A lot of people say I flirt with EVERY guy I talk to, which is not true.
like to me, I see them as a friend, but people think I'm flirting when I'm really not.
that's my personality. really giggly, funny, chill, likes to make people laugh (boy or girl) always smiling, jokester. you get the picture
so yeah.
I'm a freshmen.
I'm still a virgin & not planning to lose it anytime soon.
I've NEVER even seen you know, a penis in real life.
I've NEVER gotten or gave a hickie(s)
I don't let boys touch me or my butt or boobs or anything.
not even if they're my boyfriend.
but yet, a lot of people in middle school called me a hoe and that I flirt w/ everyone!
so since everyone is saying it, I guess I am.
so how do I stop being a hoe? or stop flirting w/ almost every guy I talk to?
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You think because people say things about you it makes it true?
People are mean. If anyone calls you anything like that, it's most likely because they are jealous.
I have one friend who is really friendly with guys. When they talk to her, she'll be all giggly and laugh at anything they say. People don't really like her because she leads guys on.
You said a lot of people say you flirt with every guy you talk to, and said it wasn't true. But then you asked how to stop flirting with almost every guy you talk to.
So I'm confused. But if you do think you are flirting, you watch what you say and watch your body language. You don't want to lead guys on that you only see as friends.
Most people would say a hoe is someone who is a promiscuous woman. You haven't even had sex once, why would you believe it?
Honey, you can't be one of the girls who hear a rumor and automatically believes it.
People don't know you. They gossip, they spread rumors about lots of people, it doesn't mean it's true.
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Hi everyone! I want to just tell you what has hapoened in the past 2 weeks but im not going to give age because i do not want to be judged. Im a teen and thats all im going to say. So im a girl and i have liked this guy named sam for the past year. We've had an on and off thing where we would talk then stop then talk again. In march we started talking again after a month of not talking. We started liking eachother alot and stuff. We would text everyday and then we would hangout all yhe time and the farthest we went was makeout. So last week was the last time we madeout and hungout. So mow this other guy named matt is talking to me and hes flirting and stuff and i flirt a little back but not much.. he makes me feel special and knows almost everythig about me. He makes me smile alot and stuff too. He has started to like me and i think i may be developing a small crush on him. But i think i may love sam. Those are strong words i know but i mean it. Although sam hasnt been replying to mytexts lately. He hungout with one of my best friends the other day but nothing happened. He wont message me back though. I have sent him a bunch of messages but he wont reply. Should i just forget about him and go for mat? Or should i stick with him? Im so confused!:( (link)
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You should move on from Sam. He's not interested in you anymore. It seems like he might just be the type to hook up with girls and that's it. You expected more from him and he's just looking for fun. At least, that's what it seems like.
If this other guy is talking to you and you like him, then go for it.
Although my advice would be to wait until you are over the other guy. Don't text him, don't friend him on facebook, ect. Just move on. Then once you're over him, get with this new guy. He seems to actually like you so you might as well try.
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One of my former best friends from high school and I had a huge fight at the end of our senior year. It ended our friendship. It's hard on me because she constantly talks about me/posts things about me on her blog when this all went down over a year ago. I need to move on and not be so bitter and angry over it anymore, but I don't know how to start. How can I get over this and not allow her to affect my life and how I'm feeling anymore? (link)
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The best way to start is to let her go. You still look at her blog or at least someone is telling you about what she's posting on her blog. It's hard to let these things go, but to be able to stop being so bitter and angry about the stupid things she's done, is to just let go.
I would say the first step is to cut her out of your life, and then forgive her. You don't have to go directly to her and forgive her but just in your head. It's easier to move on when you've forgiven someone for something they've done. But take your time on that.
I had a friend in high school. I liked his best friend but he liked me while he was on a break with his girlfriend. I ended up dating his friend and he went to all our friends and talked trash on us. I was always so bitter and angry for the things he said that weren't true. I ended up going to his page and reading all the dumb things. Once I stopped doing that, I started to get over it and realize he was just immature.
His girlfriend messaged me one day because my old friend had missed us. He wanted to be friends again and hang out, ect. She was trying to convince me to be his friend again. I told her that I did forgive him, even though he said terrible things and did some awful stuff, but I didn't want to be friends with him. She told me that isn't forgiving someone. But I did, and I just didn't want a friend like him in my life.
So just cut her out, don't talk about her and move on and be happy.
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