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Am i over reacting?
Hi there, ive never done this before, asking for advice online but here goes.
Ive been broken up with my ex for about a year now, its taken me a long time to get back on my feet, im studying and life was going great! but in all honesty im finding it hard to let go!!! We hadn't talked for a while when all of a sudden he called me early hours of the morning but I purposely missed his calls cause I knew he would have been drunk. He also messaged saying that he misses me. I kinda knew he had been seeing a girl, so it shocked me when got in contact with me, but i was so happy to hear from him again. i asked him why he was calling me and he told me he was sorry and that he was just drunk! We texed for abit, and then the next day I seen photos of him and his new girl, I texd him but no reply. Im not angry at the fact he is seeing someone now, but I felt like he used me for comfort and purposely messed with my head. Everything was good up until he got in contact with me. My reaction wasn't so good, I sent him an angry txt about how he could even mess with my feelings and why he would do such a thing. I feel bad now and think that i should apologise or should i just let it be. I haven't heard from him since. He has a new gf which i am happy for him, it just hurt me that all of a sudden hes nice to me then the next day acts as if i don't exist. Now i feel like im back at square one again! Am i over reacting? im feeling like shit!
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You're not over reacting, you just haven't moved on yet.
He did use you, he doesn't care much for your feelings. That can screw with a person when they haven't moved on.
You shouldn't text him again. You should really cut him out of your life though.
I liked a guy for years, we got involved and I thought I'd never be able to get over him even when we haven't talked. But once he messaged me, I fell head over heels again, but I thought I moved on. Eventually, I just had to delete his number and unfriend him on Facebook.
So delete his number and wherever else you could possibly get in contact with him, delete that too. You don't need to be reminded that he's with someone else and you won't be able to move on when you see his face pop up online.
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Hello,your not but at the same time are it's ok to feel that way it may take you time to get over him,first things first dont you think you should probably erase his number ?
That's a great start and from social networks mabye people might belive its a little ignorante but what ever helps you stop thinking about him. start going out get your mind off thing go places explore,(keep studing) take dance clases go on a online dating chat << dont Recomend it a lot but get to know other people if you keep on thinking of him and beliving that he' really dose miss you than you'll just stay back and take the oportunity now that you havent heard from him and change your life a round. Give your life a twist. Hope everthing gose great
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I don't think you're overreacting. In fact, I think it's quite normal. It does take a LONG time to get over an ex, especially if you had lots of happy times. Is it him that you miss, or is it the relationship that you had? You should ask yourself that question in order to help you move on. I had to with my previous relationship. When things come into perspective, you will feel a lot better. It's really rude of him to text you and make the excuse that he's drunk because he did it. If you know he has a girlfriend and you know there's no hope between you two, then you have to try your hardest to be strong and to fight to let go. I'm glad you sent him an angry text about how you feel because even if he didn't reply, he surely read it and at least he knows in the back of his mind how it makes you feel. Maybe by not replying, he's realized his mistake and the best thing to do is to let you go as well. I don't think you should apologize because if you're expecting another reply, you probably won't get one. Be strong in your decision to let go. Him acting as if you don't exist is probably his way of moving on from you. It's normal and I think you should try to do the same. Focus on school and your friends and you'll eventually meet someone new with no baggage or backstories. :)
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