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My ex wants to get back together with me
So, I dated this guy 2 years ago and he recently broke up with his other ex like 2 months ago. He decided to come back to me to reclaim a friendship with me and he ranted and confessed to me.
And now, ever since summer started, he would always offer to give me a ride back home from my summer class. I've been observing his actions and he's been trying to hit on me and spoil me with food and gifts and all that. A few days ago, he told his friends that he still likes me and wants to get back together with me, and one of his friends came and told me. I kind of saw this coming, but I didn't actually think it would legitly happen.
Anyways, I kind of find it weird to date an ex, so I honestly don't know what to do now. Today he texted me, "We need to talk" and I said I was busy for today but it's probably gonna happen. What should I do?
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Correct me if I'm wrong, but it sounds like you're not really feeling it. If that is the case and you have no desire to get back together with him, then I would advise you to stop accepting his gestures. Every time you accept his food/rides/gifts, he thinks he is just that much more welcome to get back together with you.
If I am wrong and you do want to get back together, I'd advise you to wait until you are comfortable and certain, then take things slow from there. Often times when couples break up and get back together, there are a few really happy weeks, then they just rush back to the state they were in when they broke up. You get comfortable too quickly and stop making an effort. Why did you guys break up in the first place? Why did he and his ex break up? Is it possible that he still has feelings for his ex and is trying to use you to get back at her? I'm obviously in no position to judge him since I don't know him, but if your answer to those 3 questions all reassure you that dating him again would be an okay choice, then go for it!
Good luck! I hope this works out well for you.
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If you're unsure, you don't have to make a decision right away. You can take your time.
If he does ask you out again, just tell him that you're not sure and you just want to be friends for now. If he wants you that bad, he'll be fine with it and wait.
So think about the pros and cons, the reasons why you two broke up, if you think you can work through those problems, ect.
Just don't rush it and it'll turn out fine.
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Play smart
If you feel unsure then be friends for awhile. Don't rush and then end up regretting it. If he likes you as much as he says he does, Then he will wait around for you.
If this were me, I would make him work for it. I am the rype of person who would need to be reassured that this would be a smart move. Play hard and stay friends for a bit, If he stays true to his game then consider it.
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