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Many of my friends say that I am a good listener and advice giver. Because I have experienced many good and bad situations, I know what it is like to feel down or confused. I am a mother, daughter, sister, girl friend, and friend. And if I can't figure out how to answer a question, I'm sure I know someone who can. And I've come to notice that most of the questions people ask they already know the answer to, they just need a little reassurance. But I will warn you that my policy is, if you ask a stupid question, you will get a stupid answer. But i will say that it is my joy to help anyone with a real problem, so ask away!




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I met a guy the other night and he's really nice and stuff. I was going through a rough time and he helped me out and made me feel better. But then yesturday I was talking to one of my friends who is friends with him and he said "he does that with all the girls that he talks to and he's just trying to get in your pants" I don't personnally think thats what he is trying to do...but I'm naive...should I listen to my friend instead?

This could be true. But I think that your friend is just jealous. If you like the guy then go for him. DOn't go believeing everything you hear. You have to learn things for yourself. Hope i helped! :)

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Whut do u do when someone u really lykes tells u he lyks u but then gos behind ur back n tells otha ppl that he doesnt lyk u.. and other ppl r telling u thats hes playing u.. whut do i do?!

You leave the guy alone because he is playing you and you don't risk looking like a fool. Good Luck! :)

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Well ive been hurt a lot of times with guys, and i dont trust very easily. i dont usually stay with a guy very long anymore bekuz of it. i just met this guy, Cody, and i love everythin about him! hes amazing, ugh i duno what to do though. im scared, i feel like i like him to much that i shouldnt be with him or ill get hurt.... but its like should i trust him or no?? if i do and he hurts me again i dont kno what i would do, but i dont know if i should miss out on this love experiance i could have... i dont kno what to do?!?

You're right. You shouldn't miss out on this love experience. Okay, alot of guys seem the same but not all guys are the same, and you can't keep assuming that they are. You have to overcome your fear because if you don't thsi guy may be a keeper and you may miss out. Good Luck! :)

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ok well i like this guy,he dosent know it but he likes someone else anyways. And the girl that he likes and really mean and if she found out that i liked him she would probably do somehtign readlly mean to me, I want to tell this guy how i feel but i never talk to him and i barley know him! what should i do because i am really scared to tell someone that i like him when he already likes someone and the girl likes him back..!HELP PLEASE!!...thanks

If this guy likes someone else, then you should probably turn your head to someone new and get over him. It seems to me that you even mentioning how you feel about this guy will start trouble. And it really doesn't seem worth it. Hope I helped! :)

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ok well i really like this guy. i have liked him forever. we've even gone out b4 but things like happened and yeah... anyways the only thing wrong w/ this perfect guy is that hes well... kind of a loser. hes like weird and... well a dork. i dont have a problem w/ this generally but he acts all stupid and shit when i kno hes really not. and hes so shy that if he gets intimidated he acts likea moron. what do i do?!

If you like this guy for who he is than you will understand his dorkyness and leran to love it. Hope i helped! :)

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Ok my name is Tiana and I am a female and I am 14 years old. I have a boyfriend named Keith. Ok to cut a story really short my mom talked about my boyfriend behind his back and smiled in his face. I told my boyfriend what happened. He told his mom and his mom said that she was talking to my mom and she said tha what my mom was saying sort of sounded like she is using my boyfriend. Today he just dumped me and said I will still love you but I can't be with you until we become indepedent! I feel so hurt! Should I try to get him back. What should I do??????

What you need to do is talk to Keith and let him know that the love you two have is good and the relationship the two of you have is about YOU TWO. It has nothing to do with any outsiders, including your parents, and he can't let parents or anyone run the relationship you have. Make him relize he throwing away something very important to him because of other people. Good Luck! :)

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I used to be popular with a lot of friends but now I gave all that up about a year ago cuz the people were so stuck up. And now I have like no freinds....I dont even know if I have one and I have a boyfriend who I love soooooo much and weve been together for 7 months and I wish i had some real friends tho.... I am so fed up with the people in my school tho and I think I want to meet people outside of school I just want to make friends who I dont know yet....I want to start over.... what do i do?....should I stop being "friends" with the people Im sick of? i have been so stressed out lately and I dont know what to do about my depression!

You shouldn't make yourself be friends with people you can't stand. You will only become more depressed because you will feel like you are living a big lie. Go ahead and go out and make some new friends away from your school. I bet you will feel alot better. Good Luck! :)

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Ok so i am almost 15 and i lived with my dad untill i was 12 and 1/2 then i moved in with my mom but now i want to live with my dad again becuase all my family is here and i come from a big family and when i live with my mom i only had her as family so i am very lonely cuase i live in a diff state then the rest of my family and it makes me depressed and i wanted to know if any one had any suggestion on how to tell my mom i want to move back with my dad for 10th grade and mind you i need an answer soon cuase i need to tell her on thursday june 24 becuase we are having a family meeting and i want to tell her before then please help me thanks so much

Just let it out. be staight with her and don't beat around the bush. Let her know you miss your family. It may upset her but its what you want and if she cares about your happiness then she will understand. Hope I helped. :)

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alright well i was best friends w/ this one chic like really close we couldnt be seperated but then she moved like a few cities away. for a while it was no big deal in fact for about a yr and a half we still hung out and everything but then she started getting into drugs and hanging out w/ the wrong type of people u kno so we kinda ended up drifting apart. she still lives close enough that we go to the same mall so occasionally i or some of my friends would see her there. and whenever i saw her she would be all happy to see me and nice and stuff but everytime another friend sees her they tell me she talks crap about me. i recently got her AIM sn and we talk online and shes kool but im not sure i wanna let her back in my life

If you're not sure that you want her back in your life than maybe you are better off staying distant friends like you are now. Good Luck! :)

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my friend who lives far away from me is cominf to visit me foR A little while and i am worried that she will start liking the guy i like too,and that he will like her back what should i do??

Let her know straight from the door that that is the guy you are on and it would be really disrespectful if she interferred with your game. Good Luck! :)

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yo okay there is this girl leslie and she is hot and beautiful but im a 150 pounds and im a 14 year old male. and i cant stop tinking about her. but i dont have the nerve to talk to her my confidence level is really low

go for it! Be the sweetest guy you can. be confident. Girls like confidence. be yourself. And if this girl likes you she will like you, not your weight. And if she is that low than she is not worth it. Good Luck! :)

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ok, well i'm 16 ,i have a really bad depression problem i have been addicted to cutting and still have urges frequently , i have suicidel thoughts very frequently and the real problem is my parents refuse to admit there is a problem, it seems like theres nothing i can do to make them understand, the wont even get my prescribtion

it seems to me like you really need help. If you're parents don't want to help you, than you have to take matters into your own hands. Talk to a school councelor and tell them you want to go smoewhere because you really need help. Or have a friend who is concerned or yourself call one of those help lines. You can even do what I did. I called the cops on myself, and told them I needed someone to come get me because I needed help, and if someone doesn't do something than I am going to hurt myself. I did this so that they knew I was serious. The cops came to my home and 302ed me to a youth crisis clinic where I got alot of help. Hope I am helpful. good luck! :)

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Hi. im shelly. i found out that one of my best friends likes me (brian*), not just like me, but like is in love with me. ne ways he is also best friends with the guy that i like (adam*). the other night i found out that adam* likes me and wants to be more that friends with me. i do too, but i dont want to break brian's* heart and then all of us not be friends anymore. adam* and brian* are the best friends anyone could ask for and i really dont want to mess up our relationship. but then i also dont want to just sit there and not be nothing with adam*. what do you think i should do? email me at : richardvmf@stic.net your answers will be greatly apreciated. thanx
shelly

I think if these guys are really as important to you as you say than you shouldn't be with either of them. If you have to make your heart make a choice than you aren't meant to be with either one. Boyfriends may not always stay around but friends always do. Don't ruin the good thing you already have. Good Luck! :)

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my name is katie i am 14 almost 15 i like this boy named tony and he has hurt me 3 times and everyone tells me that i need to move on but i really cant do it because i like him to much to lose him!!! and i just dont know what to do i mean he is a really sweet kid!!! i mean he has had so much goin on in his life like his dad just die and he just got hit by a car!! and i just dont know what to do because i dont want what to do because i dont want to get hurt anymore but he means the world to me!! please some one help me i need some advice on what to do !!!! thanks if u can help me

It seems to me like this guy has alot of stress going on in his life. He probably doesn't mean to hurt you but he has alot of frustrations. Maybe for now you tow should cut the boyfriend girlfriend thing and you should be there to just be his friend and help him through his tough times. Maybe right now he just needs a good friend, someone he can lean on. And then once he gets gis life together, you can try the relationship thing. If you really love him though, you should give him all the time he needs. But, you are young and you shouldn't spend your life waiting for some guy, if you see that there is no future for you two, then its time to let go. Its not fair to your heart to keep hanging on someone who is playing with your feelings. Hope I helped. :)

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ok well ive been drinkin for 5 years(10-15 yrs old) its all started out with just drinkin like on the weekends or at parties, but lately ive been drinkin everynite. or at parties ill tell my self o ill just have one beer, but then i end up drinkin a 12 pack by myself! ive been arrested for drinkin and smoking, ive been to AA meetings NA meeting and everything, but i dont know wut to do... is it stress related or wut? is there any medication i could take?
*addicted, 15

You are very young to have such a serious problem. You need to let one of your parents know, and then maybe see a councelor, where you can find out just what exactly it is that is making you drink and what you can do to control yourself. Hope I helped. :)

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ok.i like this guy, but the only thing is i barely know him! but everytime im around him i like him even more. we only had 2 classes together but he would flirt with me and touch me and show all the sings of him liking me back. when i told my guy friend to talk to him he said that the guy i liked wasnt looking for a girl right now. Well, that was when school was. its summer now, should i try again at the beginning of school? and if so, can u give me some tips on how to get him to notice me/like me??? thanks so much!

First of all you can't make a guy like you. He either likes you or he doesn't. But if you are trying to get his attention try finding sometime to hang out with him this summer, that way you two can get to know each other a little more better than just flirting in two classes. Good Luck! :)

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female/13 ok ..... I have a friend who that when ever she needs me I am always there , but when it is put the other way around she doesn't do the same for me . I am sick of being in last place , whenever I ask can she go to the mall with me she ditches me to go with some other guy , but if she wants to go and I have am not able to she gets mad and gets an attitude , and when ever we fight it is always MY fault . Like last time she got mad cause I tld my other friend something that I was going through with my amily and I refused to tell her cause she wouldn't understand cause she has both of her parents. What should I do ?

Your friend is probably going through a phase or otherwise she is just growing up and adapting to some new personality. Sometimes when friends grow older they grow farther aprt. This does suck, but there is really nothing you can do about it. I'm sure if you try to talk to her about her attitude, it would probably turn into a big argument. My advice is if you're friend is making you feel upset, down and in last place, you probably just need to leave her alone, and hopefully she will come back to her sences. Hope I helped. :)

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hi, im 13 to be 14 soon and im female. anyways i have this friend who likes this guy but he only goes for looks. he says he likes her back but at the same time he likes another girl and puts "i luv ___" in his profile. my friend has even cried for him alot. i keep telling her that he's not good enough for her, but she says he's nice and funny and hot.i don't know what else to say to her. this other girl also likes him for about almost a year now but he doesnt like her back and still hasnt even told her yet! got any advice?

You have to try to find a way to prove to your friend that she is young and she does not need this guy. Maybe talking about it doesn't work because she has her heart so set on him, but she has to understand that if this guy is putting "i luv___" in his profile and its not her name that he is not intrested in her and she needs to move on. No guy is worth crying over. Try to find a way to get this guy off her mind. Are there any guys you now that do like her? Or perhaps you know a nice guy that could be good for her, someone to make her forget the other guy. Once she realizes that she doesn't have to revolve her life around this guy she will feel alot better. Hope I helped. :)

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hi, my name is dakota and im about to turn 14 years old and im a female. well me and my boyfriend, jake, went out for almost 4 months and around our 3 month anniversary...i started to like my ex-boyfriend, brandon. Well brandon and jake dont get along in the first place. and theres this girl that claims to be my friend, lindsey. and she heard i liked brandon so she went and blabbed to my boyfriend!! well he wrote me a note asking me what was going on because hes was in 9th grade(highschool) and i was in 8th grade (junior high) and then we talked about it that night on the phone and i told him i didnt like brandon anymore...and i believed i didnt. well then later on, i decided i still did. so i told my friend i was thinking of breaking up with him and jakes best friend overheard me. and that night he went over jakes and told him. jake got mad and we decided to take a break. i was ready to call him one night and tell him how i still really liked him and wanted us to go back out, thats what he wanted too..or so i thought. that night i got home from gymnastics and jake tells me he likes lindsey. so now its been over a month since hes liked lindsey (but she doesnt like him at all) and i still cant get over him. theres about 4 or 5 other guys that like me but i only want jake. and all the other guys are sooo cute, especially this one kid jordan but i dont want to go out with him because i like jake so much. jake doesnt like me at all though, he said he wouldnt go out with me for awhile but i dont know what to do...my birthday is coming up and i was thinking about having a few people over and inviting him but he might find it weird..i dont know please tell me what you think i should do. and one more question...jordan, the really cute kid, is a year younger but wants to go out. but this upcoming year i will be in highschool and he will be in junior high still. me and jake worked through it but i think its different when the guy is younger... please give me advice. if there are any guys out there, tell me what i can do to get jake to like me again. thank you sooo much!!

First of all i want to tell you that age is just a number, and it shouldn't matter what age or grade you are in if you like someone and want to make it work. It shouldn't matter what people think. Second of all you kind of did get yourself inot this jam by being so confused. While you were with Jake, you didn't know if you still liked Brandon, and then once you lost Jake, you realized how much you really only wanted him. But now it is too late. You probably had jake so confused that now he probably thinks that being in a relationship with you will turn out to be a mess, so now he lost his intrest in you. And unfortunately he likes your friend lindsay, who isn't interested. Gosh! What a mess. My advice is that once a boy sayd he doesn't like you, don't chase after him, it makes you look desperate. maybe he will come around, but you are young, don't spend your life waiting for him. I guarentee you you will fall in love a million times before you really find the right one. Right now, I think you should take some time for you to get over Jake and get yourself together. And then you can take advantage of the fact that all those other boys like you and explore your options. Good luck! :)

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My friend,say her name is Sally, has been talking about my other friend, say Suzie. Sally is really nice and all but when Suzie isn't around she talks about her. And when Suzie is around she is nice and everything to her. How can i get Sally to be nice about Suzie behind her back without making Sally mad at me?

Just tell Sally that both her and Suzie are your friends and you don't like gossiping or talking bad about your friends, so if she wants to talk about Suzie behind her back that is fine but just don't talk about her to you becuase you don't like it. Hope I helped. :)


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