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My friend,say her name is Sally, has been talking about my other friend, say Suzie. Sally is really nice and all but when Suzie isn't around she talks about her. And when Suzie is around she is nice and everything to her. How can i get Sally to be nice about Suzie behind her back without making Sally mad at me?
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Just say hey thats my friend i dont like it when you talk about her behind your back i would stick up for you if someone were doing this to you so please stop-trix
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I don't really think theres a way besides talking to her about it. I would just tell her that you don't want to here about "suzie" like that and if you have nothing good to say about her .. then just don't talk to you about her.
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friends dont talk bout their friends behind their backs!if "sally" talks bout "suzie then wont she do it bout u 2????
-jessica-
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You must talk to your friend. Tell her that you don't think it's cool that she is talking about her friend behind her back. Either she likes her or she doesn't. Tell her that since she talks bad about "Suzie" behind her back, you are worried what she says about you. If she is a good friend she will stop or at least make improvment. Good luck!
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well i have had this problem before so i know exactly what you are going through. i know it can be very frustrating and annoying to have to deal with listening to your friend talk about your other friend. well what you need to do is tell sally that she isnt being a very good friend to suzie is she does that. let her know that you are friends with suzie and you dont want to start any fights between the three of you but she needs to stop talkin about your friend. dont be mean about it but let her know what she is doing is wrong. be nice when you tell her though. hope this helps! good luck :-)
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"Sally" may feel insecure about herself and by talking about "Suzie" it makes her feel better. "Sally" might also be afraid that you are closer friends (or may become so) with Suzie and wants you to favor her more. One way to get her to back off of the gossiping and eventually stop, is to come back with, "I'm sorry you see it that way, because Suzie likes you (or thinks you're nice)". Avoid putting exact words into Suzie's mouth. Also, change the subject abruptly and start talking about something else the minute Sally begins "Suzie bashing". If she continues or goes back to gossiping after you've changed the subject, you could then leave the room to go to the bathroom, check the fridge, change the radio station, etc. Keep this up and she'll get the message that you aren't interested in joining in with her.
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Just tell Sally that both her and Suzie are your friends and you don't like gossiping or talking bad about your friends, so if she wants to talk about Suzie behind her back that is fine but just don't talk about her to you becuase you don't like it. Hope I helped. :)
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