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I'm a mother of 2 boys who are 13 months apart. Talk about a handful. I'm a wife to the best husband I could have ever dreamed of.I'm one of the very blessed.
I have Bipolar 1 Disorder. I hate taking all these medications and always going to doctors appointments, but life is too short to let mental illness get the better of me.
Often times life is a challenge, and nobody knows that better than me. I wake up wondering if this is going to be a day my illness overpowers my meds, and either sends me flying like a bat out of hell, or leaves me laying on the couch like a wet dish rag.
Thank all that is good in the world that I have an excellent support system at home.
I'm one of the lucky ones.
I'm honest, and that can either be a perk or s flaw. Depends on how you choose to look at it.
I like to see it as a perk, because it's better to hear the truth than to be told candy coated bullshit.
advice
does anyone know where i can get a neon volleyball (colored neon)like not blow up material ones or anything, like the real gym volleyball. thanks!!!!
Try this:
http://www.spalding.com/
Under the products menu, of course select volleyball. There is a drop down menu that says "Choose" scroll down and select "tie dye".
I don't know if you can purchase it from that site or not, so:
ygs-29/f
okey does age really matter ...dang im kinda sorta dating a guy 4 years older than me .i feel so lucky to b wit him .he understands me and everything i do .but everyone says that age does matter ......age is just a number right......i hope i really do like him and im falling madly in love ........help does it really matter .......but is it rape
Well, it does matter legally if he is over 18 and you are under the age of consent. I'm not sure what state you live in, but here in Kansas, it is 16.
ygs-29/f
i have a bunch of 2 minute clips of me and my best friend and i wanted to make her a video by putting them all together and stuff, does anyone know i good video maker or how do i do it? i've never done it before. thanks so much!
If you have Windows Movie Maker, that is a good program to do it. You can add background music, etc.
ygs-29/f
Someone has committed copyright infringement against my website. They said that they copyrighted my company's name, By Teens 4 Teens, and are going to sell it for $3500 to a magazine company.
He says that he's a lawyer and a website designer, although, I'm not sure if that's valid information or not, however, he has committed copyright infringement against myself and my company by using my company's name.
What should I do?
Get your own lawyer and let them sort it out.
ygs-29/f
i like tihs guy, and i think im totally his type, we're friends , but hes kinda obsessed in getting his exgirlfriend back :S eventhough shes already dating other people ..but stills dates him!!! =S and everytime i told him about this like its not worth it its like shes kissing other guys and the next day she wants you to be there for her and he gets kinda unconfortable and avoids talking about this ...how do you convince someone to get over someone else :S but not that direct cause everytime i talk aboyut that ( i dont do it usually just like 2 times i've done that ) he gets unconfortable and stop talking for a while... i want him to move on, but i dont want to push him away with any comments :S
Moving on is something you can't convince someone to do. He is just going to have to figure that one out for himself.
It makes him uncomfortable to talk to him about it, so don't. Trying to talk him out of his feelings for her is only going to make worse.
Your best bet is to either move on yourself, or wait for him to get over her. You certainly don't want him dating you while he is still wishing for her. That is just setting yourself up for heartbreak.
ygs-29/f
This past monday, my friend came over with her sister who is out of town for dinner. Well...she was with her sister on my computer talking and catching up wit her sister on things...it didn;t bother me, because i was cooking dinner and really didn't know if i could pulled a chair and just joined, thought it would be rude in some crazy sense...dinner was kool till she kept asking me if everything was okay and i told her yes. but i also told her if she meant why i was not around her or talking much because she was with her sister...she took it the wrong way and just left my house, pissed of..am i fault despite wat i did was not really wrong...plus we have a strong and messed up frienship(we told each other our strong feelings for each other and even told each other we love each other but scared to move on)wat to do????
Well, the fact of the matter is that you said something in a way she took offense. Really, you came off as sounding like you have some sort of problem with her talking to her sister, even though that isn't how you meant to sound.
Your best bet is to go see her, apologize for how you sounded, and explain to her what you meant by that comment. Assure her you never meant to say something to make her angry- you just didn't say what you felt in the right manner.
The best way to talk to her about this is face to face, so she knows that you are sincere.
Next time, join in the conversation with her and her sister. They came over to your house to see you, even as they tried to catch up with one another.
ygs-29/f
Okay, so im 15/f. Ive known a girl named...lets call her Jane. So Jane has been like, one of my best friends since third grade. But then we were in a fight, for like a half a year and then I said sorry but I didn't really do anything in the first place, she was the one who got into the fight. Well I said sorry and she said, "Well ,it's taken you a long time to say sorry." and I thought, BUT I SHOULDNT EVEN BE SAYING SORRY! JANE SHOULD BE THE ONE APOLOGIZING!! So then later that day she calls me and says, "Well, I forgive you. and I said okay,... and she didn't even say sorry for what she had done!!So now I am still kinda angry at her for that, and now when we pass each other in the hallway, we kinda give each other a strange look, like we dont know if this friendship thing is going to work out. I mean, I don't think she has any other good, best friends, but she desprately wants to be popular. she isn't even trying to be friends with me, just people who are "popular" I dont know if I should just let her go or what? I have plenty of other good friends, friends I made when we were in the fight. WHat should I do??? Some days I just get fed up with all this drama and think it would be best if I let her to find other friends. But then I think, she has been my friend since third grade!! What should I do???? Any sort of advice welcome!!
Sad fact of life: Sometimes friends come and go- even best friends since the third grade.
Been there, done that.
You deserve to have a friend who treats you like a friend. Someone who realizes when they are wrong and apologizes when they should. Someone who doesn't expect you to take the blame when they are the one at fault. Someone who respects you and your feelings.
If they can't treat you that way, they aren't a friend.
You don't keep friends who treat you like crap just because they have been your friend since grade school. The third grade has no bearing on what's going on right now.
You surely have countless good memories of the past years of your friendship, so why taint that with bad memories yet to come if this is how she plans to treat you?
Yah, trust me, I know it hurts to let her go. But sometimes it hurts more not to.
ygs-29/f
Okay so I have kinda big nipples and I know I get them from my mom. But they bother me!! They're barely even brown, they're a really light brown/pink ish and I guess they're like round and puffy. Why is this?? I'm 13/f and I'm a C-36, but my nipples bother me size wise! I find them to be to big and to have not enough color than usual. Also, I have veins showing (not popping out) on my breasts, and they kind of go into my nipple. Is there something wrong? Is there any way to make my nipples smaller and more brown? I hate having them so big. Ugh, it bothers me because I;m afraid I'll be around guys at a future pool party and my boob will like, fall outta my bikini and people will be like ew huge nipples! All my friends have tiny ones and even my friends whose breasts are the same cup size.. I'm also trying to lose 10-15 pounds, will this maybe reduce the size of my nipples/boobs? My nipples really bother me..
There is nothing you can do to change it, so you just have to learn to accept it.
They bother you, but they won't bother guys.
ygs-29/f
Let me tell you something. I laugh a lot. I love hearing jokes and my friends and i can laugh for hours on end. we have so much fun. but i dunno, can laughing too much..be a bad thing? like today, i was with my boyfriend and some friends and a friend said something funny..so i laughed...thing is..i couldnt stop. i tried really hard...but i just couldn't. i almost feel like i annoy people from laughing too much, like my boyfriend. I've asked him about it and he says he loves my laugh...and that when i laugh it makes him smile. is there any chance he could still get annoyed from it? today, i had the big case of the "giggles"...and my boyfriend said "wow, you laugh at everything!" or "what's so funny...wait..that's not funny?" but every time he would say that..he would squeeze my hand and kiss my forehead. so im not sure....can laughing too much annoy your boyfriend/girlfriend? Is he just trying to cover up or something?
im just not fully convinced that it doesnt bother him. it's pretty sad when I even get annoyed at myself!!!! :P
help is needed..and thanks in advance for those who help! =)
sincerely,
*giggles*
Have you ever heard the saying "laughter is the best medicine"?
Laughter is a healthy thing. It shows that not only do you have a great sense of humor, but that you are a generally happy person. It usually spreads happiness and cheer to those around you.
Trust what your boyfriend says. If it bothers you too much, ask him to be honest with you if you DO ever happen to annoy him.
ygs-29/f
16/f
I, like most teenage girls, am addicted to the computer. But since I just turned 16 yesterday, I can't drive. Therefore, I can't get a job. (Both of my parents work full time so they can't drive me.)
I recently visted a site dealing with "Keystokes 4 Cash." You pretty much get money for typing stuff. I'm a VERY good typist. Does anyone know of any legitimate sites that I can type things for companies and they can pay me? And another thing. Is there any way for me to get a check that isn't send to my house? Like, could I get it sent online and then I could print it and bring it to the bank and cash it? Or not?
I can't answer all of your questions, but I can tell you can't cash a check that isn't a real check, signed in ink. You can't get one printed from your computer and cash it.
ygs-29/f
In 3 days I will have been with my boyfriend for 7 months, so its semi-serious.
Yes I do love him, with all my heart,and no I couldnt imagine life without him.
I see him every evening for a few hours.
My problem is that I just cant stop shouting at him, or losing my temper, even when he hasnt done a thing wrong I find I will get in the car in a bad mood for no reason..all of these things I have no reason to do...
There is a few things which he needs to not ''change'' but flex a little with to suit my needs as well as his, so does everyone in a relationship.
Ive told him how I feel but hes stuck for what to do. He has changed SOOOOOOOOO much as I'm his first ''proper'' serious relationship. Sometimes I think it is because I feel I get more attention when Im angry or upset. But I always end up crying. I feel by doing this my feelings towards him are slighly changing. And Im scared of this because I don't ever want too lose him..
I know we should see each other less. But when I don't see him, I don't sleep, I just cry and cry, which upsets him, also I suffer from panic attacks, and hes usually there in the evening to make sure im okay...
Any suggestions as too why I am feeling this? And any solutions? or even temporary solutions to help regain my life.
I suffer from mental mood swings and cry for no reason at the best of times...
Stop focusing on what he needs to change and focus on what you need to change. You need to realize that most of the things couples argue about really aren't things WORTH fighting about, or getting angry over.
You say he has changed so much already, why should he have to change more? If he is stuck about what to do to change himself, then how can you really be sure that it is to suit him, and not just to suit yourself?
As for your mental issues, therapy never hurt nobody.
ygs-29/f
I've been invited to a Christmas family gathering by my boyfriends family. It's a family affair, i.e. his whole extended family is attending. It's not a gift-giving thing, but I'm wondering whether I should buy some presents for his family, i.e. he has some really young brothers and sisters (6, 11, and 17). Would it be the done thing to buy them a present each? We've only been together 2 months. I don't want it to be weird or anything.
Thanks.
Since you've only been together 2 months, personally I wouldn't.You haven't had much time to really get to know him, let alone his young siblings.
If you really feel you should take something, bake some cookies.
ygs-29/f
Hi, I accidentally spilled like an entire bottle of rubber cement on my beige carpet. I didn't realize it at the time, and it's dried now. There's no stain, but the carpet is... crispy? I'm not sure what to do- should I blot with water? I just don't want to mess up the carpet in an effort to make it better- my mother would have a conniption fit. Thank you all!
This link explains how to remove it from fabrics, including carpet:
http://home.howstuffworks.com/how-to-remove-rubber-cement-stains.htm
ygs-29/f
ugh i tried to sign up for mtv.com and when i click "join" nothing happens! i kept clicking and nothing happened and i filled all the forms right and im 14 years old as well. how do i fix this? and when i click Join and i dont fill in something like.. the zip code, it says that i didnt fill that in but when i get everything it wont go!!! ugh please help.
If all else fails, somewhere there should be an option to contact them. Tell them what the problem is- it could be something wrong with their site.
does anyone know of a site where you can design you own wedding?
Below are several links you can try. I don't know if they are exactly what you are looking for, but that is all I could find.
http://www.ehow.com/how_2139237_coordinate-wedding-colors.html
http://www.theknot.com/ch_article.html?Object=A40603105042
http://money.howstuffworks.com/how-to-plan-a-wedding.htm
http://couples.weddingchannel.com/account/login.action
http://www.weddingchannel.com/home.html
http://www.weddingdesignonline.co.uk/
ygs-29/f
My best friend of 5 years is Tom. Tom has always been there for me, and he's a really great guy. I (being a girl) have developed some feelings for him. Tom liked me a year ago, but I sort of just ignored that; we were still close friends. This year things are different, and I feel like I want to be with him.
He likes this girl Amber who he met a couple months ago, but we are still close friends. I'm jealous,quite frankly. Tom asked Amber on a few dates, but she turned him down. They hooked up (just kissing) and presumabely she likes him? Yet they are not going out.
I want to tell Tom that I have feelings for him, but I don't want to tread on anyone's feet. Amber is not the nicest of girls, but either way, I'm not sure if it's the best idea to suddenly drop a bomb like that on him.
I almost feel like he's just with Amber because it's just someone to like, you know? Maybe if I told him how I feel, he'll realize he likes me too...
I have no clue what to do. :/
16/f
You need to tell him. He is your friend, and you should feel comfortable discussing your feelings. Whether or not he is interested, he won't think any less of you about it.
If he is interested, then from there, you should discuss if this is something that will work out, or if you will risk your friendship. Don't just decide to jump in with both feet, but don't assume it wouldn't work, either.
ygs-29/f
I was at a bar with my bf the other day. Suddenly in walks in this Britney Spears look-a-like wearing a really low cut top with her tattoo showing on her boobs. She sits on our table with her friends (we were on one of those really, really long tables with a bunch joined together) As soon as she sat down, my bf started staring at her. I ignored it at first, I mean, she was striking and you would notice her. But then 10-15 minutes later he was still staring at her, and when I looked at the girl she gave me an uncomfortable look and then said something to her friends who looked our way and looked angrily at us. Then some guy said "Quit it, mate." I've never been so embarassed in my entire life. I asked him why he was staring at her and he said she looks like one of the Suicide Girls (it's a goth/punk erotica site) and he recognised her by her tattoo. I got up and walked out of the bar, because I felt really uncomfortable (as did the girl, I could tell)
We've fought since then. He said he is sorry and feels like a pervert for objectifying a woman like that AND for staring at another girl when with me. I'm not unreasonable in that I get mad when he looks at other girls, but he went WAY too far. Right now we're kinda on the verge of breaking up. I can't believe he would do this. Should I take him back and give him another chance? I'm so hurt and angry and feel like I'm not good enough for him. Some people say I'm being too harsh, am I? I can't believe he'd do this to me.
thanks - 19/f
To be quite honest, if a girl feels uncomfortable being stared at, then she shouldn't wear low cut tops. That's her problem, not yours.
He is a guy, and guys stare. That is nature. However, ogling another woman like that right in font of you was quite rude of him.
What you honestly need to do is sit yourself down, think long and hard coming up with an answer to this one question: Is this REALLY worth fighting over?
ygs-29/f
My best friend went out with this boy (ryan) for about 7 months and she broke up with him because they kept having arguements. She's been out with two guys since. And she is still going out with one of them. Who she claims she's in love with. Two weeks ago ryan and i started talking, just talking nothing special, then we talked more and we were getting to know eachother better. We met up and i decided i really like him...but then the other day my friend turned round to me and said she still liked him and was jealous...but she has this other boy...i don't want to go out with him because it would be mean...but at the same time i really do!!
advice anyone?
It's like this- things obviously didn't work out between them. She is with another guy. She can't have both- she needs to stick with the one she has chosen. Especially since she is so in love with him.
You deserve your happiness in this life, and if this guy will make you happy, then go for it. She may get mad and jealous, but she WILL get over it.
If she doesn't, then she really isn't that great of a best friend to begin with.
ygs-29/f
wat cani do to make our relationship have the love in it again i am 20 a female and have one 6 month old child.
Well, first off, you need to remember that it is a two way street. You can only do so much on your own, he has to be willing to meet you halfway.
Be sure to take time out of each day to not talk about the baby, work, etc., but to just talk about each other. Your hopes, dreams, desires- stuff like that. Get-to-know-you type things, because we are always changing to some degree.
Be sure that if there are problems that you both sit down and civilly discuss them. Discuss together both opinions on what can be done to improve the relationship, and don't get angry with each other about it. Be sure you both listen to one another.
If it's not worth fighting over- don't fight about it. It seems to me that many folks can't resolve their issues, and realistically, the issues are often times petty things that could have been solved if they hadn't been escalated into a huge argument. Who's right and who's wrong often times doesn't even matter.
When kids are in the picture, especially little babies (mine is 9 months) it's hard to set time aside for just one another. I know it's way to easy to talk about the little one all the time. Be sure to get alone time, and make it ALONE time- no talking about kiddies.
But like I said before, these things have to be worked out from both sides. You can't just do it all yourself.
ygs-29/f
Ok well, our house is FIVE houses down our school, safe area, and before I was born, my parents have been living there for liek probably 5 or 10 years longer!
And then one day my mom and us went to my grandma's house and when we went home, the second door was open (there's two doors in te front, a white one, and a see through one in front of it) and the lights are on.
We weren't even sure of what to do because this never happened to us or the neighborhood and frankly the visits from the police at our school to talk about us about these things didn't stick into our heads.
So..we decided to go inside.
We opened the door and there was this HUGE stick on the side of the house so we BOLTED right out of there and ran to the neighbor's house and rang the doorbell.
We aren't really close with our neighbors but still say Hi and stuff and he was nice enough to go into our house and look into every room to see if it was safe.
And there was noone there so after some re-assuring we all got the courage to stay inside.
And it was so hard for my siblings and I to go inside because we watch so many horror movies, we love them and want to see more, and while I'm in highschool they're only under grade 7 so our imaginations went wild and it was just terrible, we were on the verge of tears!
My mom called our aunts first and then I called then police.
There was a mess EVERYWHERE because everything was moved around but nothing was taken that I could see. There was even a HUGE box of coins and they didn't even take it and I'm like "wtf..maybe they're nice burglers and realized what they've done so they left it like this and left?"
The police eventually came but my aunt told us to shut our mouth until our dad comes home, cuz we'd never know what he keeps. He's the boss of the family so he must have big secret locations of his things.
The police looked around everywhere but the basement (my dad lives down there, everything is his) and when he finished my dad finally came home, and we have so much jewelery that we didn't notice but my dad did that they took all the REAL jewelery!
My mom wanted to go to her home country because our grandpa is sick. Her papers and stuff that she went through the trouble to get and fill (because her english and words aren't so Good) were taken.
We thought they didn't take anything but actaully, they took all the big stuff and MY DAD noticed!
From the basement, we have his huge desk with bills and papaers, etc. I could never find anything important there at all but those guys/that guy did! They took $5500 that secretly he's been keeping for my mom to go home and took $6000 of hsi own money. His WHOLE wallet was tooken which included all our family cards, health cards, etc and my brother's wallet with $200 and our extra money of $200 and my sister's money $100.
all my lcothes were around because they checked the pockets just in case too!
there was a big shoe print on the door because they must have kicked it (we noticed before the police came) and we found other clues too that might help them find the person and we didn't touch the door knob at all (all this we got form tv so that it would help)
Oh, when our neighbor went into our house for us, he found the back door totally open so he had to close it. So when the second police came, he couldn't check for fingerprints, which could have helped a lot, the foot prints in the snow of the back yard they said wasn't very clear or good enough so they couldn't check that and the shoe print on the door wasn't very visable so they couldn't check that either.
We found out the the 'long rod stick' we found was actually from the side of our door.
It was absolutely terrible...
All our valubles were taken and we reported to the police a lot of things and the missing items took TWO PAGES! of hsi notebook. We didn't report all the real jewelery though, theere must have been 50 but we only reported 6 to make it easier for them (which was really hard for me, other people worked hard at their job to buy it for us or our parents themselves and I won't let the robber get away with even ONE thing!)
So...what do we do now? I mean I'm so betriffied. They even took our key form our dad's desk which I dont know how they found and didn't even take my brother's key when it was visible!
Has anyone had something similar to them? Was the problem solved? What are the chances something good will happen to us?
Any chance they will show or bring the theif to us so I can punch them in the face? I'm weaker then a kindergarden but atleast one light punch on his/her/their face would do. Maybe I can bring my strong friends.
And there's noone we can think that would do it either.
What's creepy is that they broke in while we're gone and planned everything good, which to me sounds liek they've been stalking us and found out that we go to our grandma's house for certain areas every sunday.
We're so scared. My dad canceled all his cards which means now I guess we're poor. We weren't rich but had a lot of money and I just feel so..low being poor. Our school has this thing once a year where we help the community by donating money and on christmas, our Chaplin will go to the..unaffordable families' home (some can't even afford heat) and give them money. we donated A LOT! Now I feel so pathetic..I feel like i should be asking for the money back...
And I didn't tell my dad that I used up all my lunch money this week so I guess I'm starving for the whole week.
If things were so well planned out, and they pretty much knew where to find your family's valuables, then I would be willing to guess it wasn't some strange person stalking you, but more likely someone who knows you- someone who has been invited into your home as a friend.
Just because someone doesn't seem suspect, doesn't mean they didn't do it.
You don't really want to punch people in the face. I know you feel violated, but there is no sense in sinking to their level of doing things.
As for Christmas, what is most important is that you have each other- that is the whole point of the holiday. It's nice to be able to give and receive gifts, but it's priceless that you have your family to spend the holidays with.
You, personally, need to not worry so much over your parents' financial situation. I know that you feel you should, but it isn't your place. Why? Listen to you- you feel you should go hungry all week when you know your parents would NEVER want that for you.
Don't feel low and pathetic. You are a victim of a crime. The CRIMINAL is the one who is low and pathetic, not you- not your family.
ygs-29/f