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i need advice
wat cani do to make our relationship have the love in it again i am 20 a female and have one 6 month old child.
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try and find a babysitter and plan a night for just the two of you. if possible, maybe the grandma can watch the child for the weekend while you guys go away for a couple of days. even if you just spend one night together, it can be the perfect medicine. go out shopping and pick out some sexy lingerie, make his favorite meal in candle light or take him to his favorite restaurant. a romantic evening can really get the sparks going again, and i think you should try to do this once a month at least. have fun!
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Well, first off, you need to remember that it is a two way street. You can only do so much on your own, he has to be willing to meet you halfway.
Be sure to take time out of each day to not talk about the baby, work, etc., but to just talk about each other. Your hopes, dreams, desires- stuff like that. Get-to-know-you type things, because we are always changing to some degree.
Be sure that if there are problems that you both sit down and civilly discuss them. Discuss together both opinions on what can be done to improve the relationship, and don't get angry with each other about it. Be sure you both listen to one another.
If it's not worth fighting over- don't fight about it. It seems to me that many folks can't resolve their issues, and realistically, the issues are often times petty things that could have been solved if they hadn't been escalated into a huge argument. Who's right and who's wrong often times doesn't even matter.
When kids are in the picture, especially little babies (mine is 9 months) it's hard to set time aside for just one another. I know it's way to easy to talk about the little one all the time. Be sure to get alone time, and make it ALONE time- no talking about kiddies.
But like I said before, these things have to be worked out from both sides. You can't just do it all yourself.
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Plan a night out for just the two of you. Dinner and a quiet night at home by yourselves. Do this as a surprise. Find a babysitter (such as gramma or anyone close that you trust with your child) and plan everything ahead of time.
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