|
Why do I hurt who I love the most?
In 3 days I will have been with my boyfriend for 7 months, so its semi-serious.
Yes I do love him, with all my heart,and no I couldnt imagine life without him.
I see him every evening for a few hours.
My problem is that I just cant stop shouting at him, or losing my temper, even when he hasnt done a thing wrong I find I will get in the car in a bad mood for no reason..all of these things I have no reason to do...
There is a few things which he needs to not ''change'' but flex a little with to suit my needs as well as his, so does everyone in a relationship.
Ive told him how I feel but hes stuck for what to do. He has changed SOOOOOOOOO much as I'm his first ''proper'' serious relationship. Sometimes I think it is because I feel I get more attention when Im angry or upset. But I always end up crying. I feel by doing this my feelings towards him are slighly changing. And Im scared of this because I don't ever want too lose him..
I know we should see each other less. But when I don't see him, I don't sleep, I just cry and cry, which upsets him, also I suffer from panic attacks, and hes usually there in the evening to make sure im okay...
Any suggestions as too why I am feeling this? And any solutions? or even temporary solutions to help regain my life.
I suffer from mental mood swings and cry for no reason at the best of times...
[ ]
Want to answer more questions in the Relationships category?
Maybe give some free advice about: Love Life?
You are afraid of losing him and losing love. That is why you get so angry and desperate and say and do things you regret. This is the part that is missing. He is not what you want...you are trying to make him fit what you want and need, but you can't and he can't. Either he would have to magically change or you would. Neither is possible...not now, and not years from now. Let him just be a guy...not your only chance at love and happiness. Here is a big secret...they are all just a guy. There is no prince charming. That does not mean there are not a thousand other better guys out there for you though...so keep looking, keep growing, keep finding out what you really want in life and in a mate. That will bring you closer to the real love story...yours.
]
well first of all, you are trying to changing him, that is never good. if you love him, you should except him as he is. and mabey you think that he is too good to be true, so you start arguments to test the relationship. this isn't good, because if you keep doing this, it will ruin you relationship. so just except him, and have faith. and love him, and you relationship will be amazing.
]
Stop focusing on what he needs to change and focus on what you need to change. You need to realize that most of the things couples argue about really aren't things WORTH fighting about, or getting angry over.
You say he has changed so much already, why should he have to change more? If he is stuck about what to do to change himself, then how can you really be sure that it is to suit him, and not just to suit yourself?
As for your mental issues, therapy never hurt nobody.
ygs-29/f
]
More Questions: |