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please i need to know
i like tihs guy, and i think im totally his type, we're friends , but hes kinda obsessed in getting his exgirlfriend back :S eventhough shes already dating other people ..but stills dates him!!! =S and everytime i told him about this like its not worth it its like shes kissing other guys and the next day she wants you to be there for her and he gets kinda unconfortable and avoids talking about this ...how do you convince someone to get over someone else :S but not that direct cause everytime i talk aboyut that ( i dont do it usually just like 2 times i've done that ) he gets unconfortable and stop talking for a while... i want him to move on, but i dont want to push him away with any comments :S
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The guy is clinging to the ex in an unrealistic way. Sadly, it happens alot. If he will sit back and be okay with her kissing other guys, then he will allow almost anything. The best way for him to get over the girl is to find another. Luckily, you are there and wanting him. Your problem right now is just getting through to him. Honestly, I don't think words are going to do it. I know girls like to sit back and let guys make the moves and I generally wouldn't suggest leaving your comfort zone. I think what you should do is just get him alone and at some point lean in and just kiss him. I don't mean a little kiss. I mean a real one. A kiss so that he knows somebody has passion for him and that somebody is you. That would leave little question what you think of him. He will either kiss back or not. If he does, I think you have him and nothing more needs said lol. If he does not, he may stop and say something like "Why did you just kiss me?". You have that moment to say something like "I've wanted that and you for far too long and you just wouldn't open your eyes to see me here in front of you." If this guy is your friend, he surely has thought of this. Almost all guys desire their female friends to some extent. I honestly think it will open his eyes. I think at the very least it will give him lots to think about. I also think that when he knows how much you feel for him, he will realize how much more you want him than his ex.
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The very worst that can happen is he would say "let's just be friends". the worst is you stay where you are right now.
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Moving on is something you can't convince someone to do. He is just going to have to figure that one out for himself.
It makes him uncomfortable to talk to him about it, so don't. Trying to talk him out of his feelings for her is only going to make worse.
Your best bet is to either move on yourself, or wait for him to get over her. You certainly don't want him dating you while he is still wishing for her. That is just setting yourself up for heartbreak.
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