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Hi, I'm Brittney, I'm a junior in college. don't ever feel hesitant to ask me a question, I will never judge you. Be completely honest and I will give you the best answer I can give, 100% of the time. A fun fact about me- I'm a triplet!

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I sweat a lot during sports and on hot days. what is the best deodorant that is over the counter? are there any other ways to prevent sweating to much? thanks in advance

I have tried alot of deoderants, and Dry Idea works the best for me. Its a roll on liquid, and its an anti persperant and deoderant. I love it, and I have never gotten deoderant marks on any clothing!

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you welcome. and yeah we still going out.but he put pictures on myspace of him and that girl. but they aint kissing just hugging and playing with each other. right now am going to feel stupid going to his house because of those pictures on myspace.his family is going to know that he cheeted on me and they going to be looking at me weird.what will you do if this happened to you ???

Well first off, how do you know he is really cheating on you? If you know for sure, than you are too good for him, and if I were you I wouldnt want to have anything to do with him anyway. Any guy that cheats on you is a jerk and a player. If I were you I wouldnt give him the attention he wants, because I would think that he would only be getting away with what he has done, and because he knows that he would have me even if I knew he cheated, he would just keep cheating.
Thanks again for the inbox!
hope this helped :-)

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i hav a 16 yrold daughter who has been living with me for 2 mth,and she tells me last nite she is 5 months preg.she is a below average student,with out a plan for the future.she wants to keep the baby and i am against it,i have told her my reason.i also told her she cant live with me with a baby.was i to hard on her?

I know that 7 people have already answered this, but I really want to put in my 2c. Yes, ninja neer is right, you arent exactaly directly forcing her to get an abortion, but on the contrary you are basically saying "its my way or the high way." Was she irresponsible? yes. But do you ever think that theres probably a reason she didnt tell you for 5 months? Everyone knows she made a mistake, and shes known for 5 months now. At this point, you should just support her decision. Its her body quite honestly, not yours. If that sounds harsh, I really dont mean for it to be, its just the way I see it. If I were her I wouldnt get an abortion either, not because I would deliberately want a baby, but because I do feel morally like I am murdering someone. To directly answer your question, yes, I do feel as though you are being too hard on her. Right now you should just support her the best you can, its overwhelming enough that shes having a baby and about to be a mother, she doesnt need the worry of her own mother kicking her out or hating her.
Good luck, if you need any more help or advice, Im here for you if you want to talk. Just inbox me.
xosodapopx3
ps
everything will be okay, it just seems a little wierd right now.

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So around Sunday I was laying on my floor at like 12am talking to my bestfriend on the phone and on my laptop. I was really itchy on my legs, and I thought maybe a misquito bite but I hadent been outside that day.
I have tons of bites on my legs!
And I continued to get them on my ankles.
Now Monday through today (Wendsday) I spelt at my bestfriends, my legs didnt itch.
I'm now back home on my desktop in my room, and I notice my ankles and feet are now extremely itchy.

Could there be fleas or something in my carpet?
I'm not allergic, my living room carpet is the same stuff and I'm fine down there.

If they're might be bugs, what kinda, and how would I get rid of them?

It might be fleas, so I would definately first vaccum, then if you have that vaccum with the washing power, use that. There are products at the food store you can buy to put on your carpet to try to kill fleas! (and bugs)
Good luck!!!!

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Okay so the other night my girlfriend and I had sex for the first time. She is a bit younger than me, and it was her first time ever. After a little ways into it she started crying so I asked her what was wrong. She then informed me that I reminded her of her dad... what the hell do I do now??

This is a crucial time for support and comfort. She clearly has been through something extremely traumatic, and has opened herself up to you to. She needs help, this is not something someone can just get over. Just make sure you are comforting, and understanding. Listen to her, let her tell all of her emotions to you and tell a respected adult about her situation.
Just take it slow, and make sure she knows you are there for her. :-)

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well my friends are kinda weird.
i was bullied for 5 years and these 2 guys, which we will call, JA and AL.
well both of them are still mean.
but all my frineds still hang out with them and so im left to sit on my own.
everyday.

any suggestions will be acepted

First off I know exactaly what you mean, seriously the exact same thing happened to me!!! For a while I thought that I was just going to not be accepted and be alone, but the fact is, they truely arent the truest friends. You can still be friends with them, but you deserve wayyy better than that. On the contrary, try not to let those bullies bother you. Seriously, if you want to hang out with your friends, then you do that. Its one thing for the bullies to come over and join in on a conversation, its another thing if its the other way around. Dont ever feel threatened or feel like you need to leave because you are there. Just act civil around them, that doesnt mean you have to act like their best friends, just act civil. :-) If they are true friends and something happens, they will stick up for you, and leave the situation.
Good luck!!!
If you want to talk, Im here for you,
xosodapopx3

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Ok my story is a little bit long am sorry.
My boyfriend and i roke up in april 18 of 2009. then in may 03 he got with another girl. after that i made them brake up because i didnt liked the fact that he was with another girl. Ok he broke up with her in may29. Then in july 30th he got back with me.He was telling me all this stuff that he cantk with him because i really do love him. Then now in agust 1 he left to the dominican republic.Just 2 days ago i found out he has another live without me and sooo on.I whent bacgirl ovethere. at fisrt i thought his friend were just kidding but then i saw some pictures of him huggind with the girl and too closed together.there is another one with them in the pool together.right now he doesnt know that i know he has another girl. he is coming back on sunday. i dont want to call him and insult him because then he will end up staying ovethere,and i will be debastated.If you were in this position what will you do??

I understand how you feel, its definately not easy seeing someone like that. Im a little confused by your story, but Im guessing you both are still going out right? Well, thats what im going by :-).
I have always stood by my motto: trust until you cannot be trusted. Trust him until you catch him doing something wrong, which is when trust is taken away. If he wants to talk to this girl, thats okay because you cant control that, but I dont blame you for not wanting him around her much especially at a pool. Just talk to him about it calmly, tell him how you feel. communication is often the best way to solve things. :-) I will say though, when you two break up (broke up I should say), its not your place to manage who he goes out with. You dont own him, and he doesnt own you, and when you break up you both go separate ways. Just make sure to talk, and thanks for the inbox!!!!!

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ok, this is long but please help me.

my parents were out of the country and I had to rely on ppl for help and rides to work/school/food to eat (mainly my boyfriend of 2 yrs) but anyways 1day i havent ate all day and i got off work @ 2am and asked him to take me to the local fast food place.he refused. he know i didnt eat but he was mad. he says i always eat late and he cant do it for me no more. i was mad. i didnt understand why it is a problem if you know i am starving and havent eaten all day. i thought if he loved me he wouldnt want to see me hungry. so i asked to speak with him, but that didnt turn out so good. in the end, i asked for a break in the relationship and we didnt talk for 8 days. then i called him to speak again.

i asked hin do he understand why i was mad, then he explained his side of the story. we both understood each other and we comprimised. i asked him, "so what do you want to do know" he said he needs a break to think about things. another week goes by, no talking. so yesterday i called him and said. "this is childish, i dont like the break things, either you want to be with me or not, you dont need 2weeks to think of this if you really loved me" then he said. NO!! he dont

then i was very ladylike and said ok, thank you. that is all i wanted to know.
hours later, my uncle (who is very close to me and him) asked him why. his reason is that i am hard headed, and i make excuses so i wont have to do anything (such as walking 8 blocks down the street but instead i ask him for a ride) i feel that those reasons are bogus and can easily be resolved.
the reason this hurts me so bad is b/c he was my first BF and the one who took my virginity. before then, i never trusted men b/c i was molested when i was younger for 3 years by a family friend. he knows this and he is the only one. nobody knows about my past but him. i told him why i am the way i am before our relationship. i told him i am a roomantic but is have a very strong personality and i never let go of a battle/arguement b/c i dont ever want to feel defeated ever again.

i think this can be easily fixed but he does not want to. i want to be with him. what do i do. what do you think

p.s. the reason i was pissed off was b/c i felt what he did was insensitive and he always does things like that. he depends way too much on his mom (which i liked at first but it hinders him from growing as a person) he purposely picks me up late from work, he does not show any emotions, and he does not go out with me but will go out with his friends(like movies, parties, etc.)

please tell me what i should do, but do not be overboard mean and harsh. i am very sensitive right now..

i am 20 he is 21.

Okay Im going to tell it as it is:
yes, he should care about you because you both have been dating for 2 years, but at the same time, you are 20 years old, and you have a job. You should very well be able to take it upon yourself to buy yourself groceries and be able to walk 8 blocks to the store if needed. There are buses that can take you, and since you are 20 and have a job and an uncle, you should get your license if you dont have it, buy a car, or ask your family member to help you. Its not that people dont want to help you, its just that when somebody that is capable of being grown up and helping themselves doesnt take responsibility, it can get to be a bit of a hassle. I dont really blame your boyfriend for not wanting to get up at 2am to drive you to a fast food place, when you are perfectly capable of doing it yourself. I take it that you have been living this way for a while, so how about going to the grocery store, and buying a sandwhich or something for you to pack to bring with you to work, this way nobody is inconvenienced. :-) Im sorry if that was harsh, Im just trying to help. As for your boyfriend, try to be more sensitive to him. It may seem to him like all of his needs are going unheard of, because he is taking care of you all the time. Go out of your way to do something special for him, and try to be a little more understanding, you two will get along so much better. Just give him space and time, and appologize for being so needy lately, accept responsibility, that will ease his mind of thinking of you as a hard headed person.
Good luck! If you want to talk, Im here for you!
xosodapopx3



Im really glad I helped you, it makes me feel good :-). We are only humans, its important to remember that. With that said, moving onto the bag issue! :-) I know exactaly what you mean when they want to prevent theft, something you can do is ask if they will allow you to buy a clear plastic bag, which costs maybe 3 dollars (for a bunch of them) at the store. If you cant get one to buy, you can most definately ask someone (any friend or family) if you can have one, I guarantee you they will be most giving. The bag can be reused, and you can keep your lunch in there, and since its clear they can see everything inside of it. Good luck!!!

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My friend told me that she is gay and I do not want to be friends with her anymore. It's not that I don't like her as a person but I cannot grasp the fact that she has become a lesbian. Just months ago she was dating men and now she is claiming homosexuality. I don't like it and the entire thing makes me uncomfortable. I'm trying to avoid her now more than ever since she has confessed her sexuality to me and I feel that I need to just tell her to her face why I no longer have interest in our friendship. How should I tell her? What should I say? I don't want to come off as cruel by saying, "You're a homosexual and that makes me too uncomfortable to continue a friendship with you," but at the same time I think it sounds most appropriate because it is the truth.

I know it isn't fair of me to not tell her why I have been avoiding contact with her. I know I should tell her but I'm not sure how I should go about this. I was thinking a neutral setting would be most appropriate but I don't want to embarrass her if she gets upset in some form.

Does anyone have experience with this or any ideas of how I should handle this matter? Thank you.

Its not an easy thing for someone who is gay to come out. The fact that she trusts you enough to confide in you and tell you that, says alot. Its wrong of you to not want to be someones friend because of the gender they are attracted to, and its unfair to them. People like you are part of the reason that the world is so against homosexuals, and why it is so hard for gays to come out and be comfortable in their own bodies. If you were gay, you would want your friend to support you. True friends don't judge their friends by how they look or who they are, which is exactaly what you are doing.


She doesn't need you as a friend right now, or ever.

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I just started an all-natural diet since I found out by the doctor that I have ulcers in my stomach. I am now finding that I have trouble digesting my food properly since I am eating so much fiber, I guess. I am drinking plenty of water and spacing out my high fiber foods though. What I need to know is if there there are any natural ways to help me digest my food so it doesn't get stuck in my throat and I end up having chunks of undigested food in the toilet after I go. It's really strange looking and I'm concerned. It's like I put the food in my stomach and it just keeps passing through without being broken down much. This just can't be good, right?

There are these natural pills called papaya pills I buy in organic stores (its possible they are in food markets.) anyway the pill is completely organic and natural and tastes amazing and helps you so much! my entire family takes them.

Hope this helped! :-)

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i am going to see woman in black at the theatre on a saturday evening. I have been to the theatre before but as this is a little dark and mysterious and i wondered if i could wear a black dress?
Would this be too dressy? i am going with my boyfriend so would like to look good for him also..

A black dress sounds so cute, you will be the best looking one there and your bf will love it. How long is the dress though? If its really long it could be a little dressier. Dress it down without putting too much jewlery and makeup on. Also, you and your bf could always go out to eat before going to the movie! That would make the dress work out really well for both occasions.
Good luck!!!

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'venir a mi bebe'

im assuming its spanish because it looks familiar but im not completely sure. can someone translate it for me?

It means come to me baby.
:-)
Hope that helped!

http://www.spanishdict.com/translation

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Dear Adviceanators: A few years ago my mom passed away. My sister who is in her fifties received my moms house of 130,000.and most of her money (about 80,000 dollars) I got a lum sum as well but not nearly as much as my sister. The problem is this my sister is a master manipulator. She worked very hard on my mom behind my back saying things like if I would give the house away If I got it. (both of our names were always on the house my mom told me) She also told my mom she needed more money than me because she need to fix up the house. I never new my name was taken off till after she died. You have to understand my sister is a lpn nurse who used to make 20.00 an hour. Before my moms house she lived in a trailer with hole in the walls. She always had the ability to make a good living instead she only worked 2 days a week just to get by. What bother more than anything is that she abused my mother physcially and mentally and my mom enabled this bum by buying her cars and giving her money and now my mother has just enabled her after she died as well. I get so angry at this whole situation still to this day. Espcially if I ride by my moms house and see her sitting there like she worked so hard all her life to get all these things. I do have to say that GOD had truly blessed me in my journey of not getting that house. I just feel she got away with what she did. Oh and also she plans to get one of those reverse mortages to live off of. Any advice?

Im sorry for what happened, unfortunately theres not much that can be done at this point. You should talk to your sister as much as it may kill you, if you are a little low on cash, ask her to help you out. If you need to stay at the house for a few weeks, ask if she would be kind enough to let you drop by, if your sister got all of the belongings in the house and jewlery, ask her to share some with you. It would be what your mom wanted, despite what was on the will, your mother unfortunately had a weak moment where as you said she was manipulated. Try to keep an open communication with your sister, and stay calm, try not to lash out at each other. Everything will be okay, dont worry :-)
xosodapopx3

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is there a such thing as a two-way headphone set? so 2 ppl can listen to music at the same time from the same mp3 player?

The two people before me are right :-) I have seen them in target, and all electronic stores, including Best Buy. But there is also this really cool one I have seen that connects up to five!

http://images.google.com/imgres?imgurl=http://www.electricchalk.com/wp-content/uploads/2008/10/img_0836copy.jpg&imgrefurl=http://www.electricchalk.com/2008/10/31/cool-headphone-splitter-for-the-classroom/&usg=__rk9pPKmxg47cyHBh5Ax2qkBsp5g=&h=456&w=684&sz=157&hl=en&start=7&um=1&tbnid=PheDegQdS2zzHM:&tbnh=93&tbnw=139&prev=/images%3Fq%3Dtwo%2Bway%2Bheadphone%2Bsplitter%26hl%3Den%26rlz%3D1R2TSHB_en%26sa%3DN%26um%3D1


^theres the link :-)

Hope this helped!

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i recently bought a used car and was talking to my moms boyfriend about it. It pulls to the right and he said it could ither be the wheel alignment or tires. i know the back tires need to be changed but my question is whcih one is it more likely to be and if it is the alignment how long can i wait until it will start messing up my wheel barrings? im a little tight on money so i wont beable to do it right away

That recently happened to me when I was driving. You mostlikely need a re-alignment, thats what I got! Usually you feel the pull on more well traveled roads because you are going faster. I felt a pretty big pull at 60mph. To check to make sure its not your tires, you can buy a little needle looking thing with a meter at the end that measures the air pressure. But Im pretty sure you need an alignment recheck :-)
Good luck!

ps
as for how long you can wait, its going to be a harder pull the longer you wait, but if you arent being effected by it, I wouldnt worry. :-)

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what are the best quality drumsets?

send pics and websites if you can.
like from guitar center or something.
and what type of wood is best and all that jazz.

thanks a lot(:

my uncle has been playing for years and hes always used ludwigs. :-) So do some of my friends!

hope that helped!

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alright. im an asshole. its as simple as that. im 17, i get with multiple girls at a time, and then get bored and move on. thats just what i do. or did. i dont know. the thing is theres this one chick i really like, or i think i like her alot but theres a problem... she knows me haha. she knows that i play girls all the time, and because of that she wont even give me a chance - not that i can blame her... but still. shes a real good girl. as in, an innocent, clean cut, straight a's, goes to church every sunday kind of girl. not what youd call my usual type. and at first thats why i thought i liked her. she was that innocent girl that i couldnt get so of course i wanted her, but i dont think thats it.. it just doesnt feel like that. i want to protect her, and keep her innocent, ya know? and then i start thinking about doing things with her that i do with other chicks and it makes me sick. and its kind of almost freaking me out. but i really like her (because we do talk, and i think shes one of the VERY few girls that i have a for real friendship with) and i want her to give me a chance and show her that im serious. because i think i am. but i also dont want hurt her. you know, if she were to some way she would possibly give me chance, i dont want to screw up. i dont want screw up with her. god i feel like a loser. what should i do?

You need to talk to her and explain to her everything you just said in your question. Tell her theres something about her that makes you feel so much different, and you just feel so much more commited with her. All you can do is ask her to trust you. But first, you two should hang out together, build up that trust again, get to know each other more. If things work out from that point, then ask her out. If she says yes, then you need to prove to her that shes the only one for you, dont pressure her into anything, be extremely respectful, and take her out alot. Always update her on what you are doing, or where you are going (only for a couple weeks or months or so this way you can keep reassuring her that you arent the old player she once knew you as.) Your not a looser, you may have been a jerk at one point (:-) sorry) but its never too late to turn over a new leaf!
Good luck! If you want to talk, Im here for you!
xosodapopx3

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okay i already know how awful this is.. so thats beside the point.... :/


So about two summers ago, me & one of my friends started hooking up, & basically we have been ever since. When we first hooked up, he had a girlfriend, but i was single. (i know its still bad) but, a few months after we were hooking up i got a boyfriend. & we've been together ever since. Hes still with his same girlfriend. But, both of our relationships are off and on things. I do love my boyfriend alot, but i've had these feelings for my friend for so long. I get soo excited whenever he comes over, & im so happy when im around him, he just gives me this tingling feeling inside. I don't know if he feels the same though. like hes so cute when hes with me and stuff, but blahhh idk. I know this hasnt directed any certain question. But, give me some advice on what to doooo. I cant continue doing this, it has to stop somewhere.
thanks soooo much

Well, there is certaintly a huge lack of communication. For starters, you really need to talk to your boyfriend about the situation, and your friend needs to talk to his girlfriend. You already know this, but I think you need to hear it from somebody else. Its not fair what you are hiding from your boyfriend, he is 100% commited in the relationship, and you aren't. You both need to come clean, its the right thing to do. Put yourself in his shoes, Im sure it would break your heart to know he was cheating on you. Now that thats cleared up, back to the situation:
Aside from talking to your "real partners," you and your friend need to talk to each other. Ask him what he feels about your relationship together, and tell him he needs to make a decision, so do you; you shouldn't keep this cheating going on anymore. Relationships are established by honesty, trust, and love. So far this isn't a very good start. :-(
Good luck, everything will be cleared up you just need to be honest and come clean, and have open communications! :-)

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anyone have a good book?
i dont like anything dealing with murder unless its like awesome!
something like adventurous and funny and keeps you on your feet.
thank you!

The perks of being a wallflower was actually really good. Dont judge it by the title haha, its actually entertaining. I like true stories by torey hayden, but its about abused children so Im not sure it that would be your cup of tea though. :-) the first book I mentioned isnt sad I promise.
Good luck!!

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hey im trying to learn american sign language and i printed an alpherbet chart off the internet and i cant seem to find charts of words and common phrases.

does anyone know any good sites that i can find word and phrase charts on american sign language??? (with pictures of the hand movements)

i really want to learn it!! thanks xx

here you go! the first link is of the alphabet :-)

http://talkwithyourhands.com/blog/wp-content/uploads/2009/02/asl-alphabet.gif


here are some words:


http://images.google.com/imgres?imgurl=http://mykidentity.com/wp-content/uploads/2009/06/eat-food.png&imgrefurl=http://mykidentity.com/%3Fp%3D149&usg=__-dvbwWxwOGFBTrKH4_LwE4dnXBY=&h=373&w=400&sz=25&hl=en&start=9&um=1&tbnid=qJU4T7bPuA6fGM:&tbnh=116&tbnw=124&prev=/images%3Fq%3Dsign%2Blanguage%2Bword%2Bsigns%26hl%3Den%26rlz%3D1R2TSHB_en%26sa%3DN%26um%3D1



this site has soooo many words!



http://images.google.com/imgres?imgurl=http://www.manataka.org/images/Sign_Language_OF.gif&imgrefurl=http://www.manataka.org/page315.html&usg=__hgHY-HTZMvcjKUmC_xACsZ9YJ9M=&h=1368&w=864&sz=36&hl=en&start=15&um=1&tbnid=80oUMYamQuYiOM:&tbnh=150&tbnw=95&prev=/images%3Fq%3Dsign%2Blanguage%2Bwords%26hl%3Den%26rlz%3D1R2TSHB_en%26um%3D1

this site has alot of really good words too.


http://www.commtechlab.msu.edu/sites/aslweb/browser.htm


this website gives visuals and explains and has TONS of words!

http://www.handspeak.com/tour/index.php

youtube can help you out alot too! Just type in the word of phrase you want to say in the search engine.

Good luck!!!!!

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