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Friends hang out with bullys?
well my friends are kinda weird.
i was bullied for 5 years and these 2 guys, which we will call, JA and AL.
well both of them are still mean.
but all my frineds still hang out with them and so im left to sit on my own.
everyday.
any suggestions will be acepted
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i know what it is like to be in that postion i am still being bulled but my friends and i had a talked and then they picked me instead of them cuz i told them how i felt and they said ok then we r still friends
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First off I know exactaly what you mean, seriously the exact same thing happened to me!!! For a while I thought that I was just going to not be accepted and be alone, but the fact is, they truely arent the truest friends. You can still be friends with them, but you deserve wayyy better than that. On the contrary, try not to let those bullies bother you. Seriously, if you want to hang out with your friends, then you do that. Its one thing for the bullies to come over and join in on a conversation, its another thing if its the other way around. Dont ever feel threatened or feel like you need to leave because you are there. Just act civil around them, that doesnt mean you have to act like their best friends, just act civil. :-) If they are true friends and something happens, they will stick up for you, and leave the situation.
Good luck!!!
If you want to talk, Im here for you,
xosodapopx3
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Sweet heart if your friends leave you out when they are hanging around these guys then they are not great friends.
I mean you can't tell your friends who they can and cannot hang out with, but good friends would try to include you. I would not leave my friend out of the equation.
I think that you have a lot to offer and you should not settle for people who want to be your friend sometimes. If you have any friends besides the ones that leave you out I say give them a shot. And if you don't, I am sure that you will get some, just be patient.
I hope that this helps!!!
P.S. i will be your friend :)
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Have you ever told your "friends" how you feel about them hanging out with bullies? If not, talk to them, and if they're your true friends they will understand. If they do know, then they are not your real friends. Also- if they were truly your friends they will not leave you sitting alone everyday. My suggestion is that find an new friend circle and start hanging out with new people- you're least likely to be bullied if you have a good support system. See, bullies like to pick on people who are vulnerable to them (loners, passive people). Assert yourself (no violence) and tell those bullies it's over. If they continue to harrass you, talk to a teacher or a counselor or any trustworthy adult (no it is not ratting people out, it is reporting. If people are harming you emotionally and physically, it is time to speak up). Stay safe and good luck!
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The way I see it, you've got two options here. You can either talk to your friends about how JA and AL bullied you for 5 years and how you're uncomfortable sitting with them. Some of your friends might see that this bothers you and decide to sit with you instead of them so you're not left to sit alone everyday.
The other option is to directly talk to JA and AL about them bullying you. Tell them how that made you feel. You might be able to work out your differences with them and you'll all be able to hang out and sit together.
If you try this option and JA and AL make fun of you or are rude about it, your friends will see this and (if they're good friends) they'll be angry with them for being mean to you.
If your friends don't care that JA and AL are mean to you, they're not true friends. In that case, you should find better friends that will accept you for you and not choose a couple bullies over you.
Good luck,
Darby(:
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