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what am i supposed to do?
Okay so the other night my girlfriend and I had sex for the first time. She is a bit younger than me, and it was her first time ever. After a little ways into it she started crying so I asked her what was wrong. She then informed me that I reminded her of her dad... what the hell do I do now??
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This is a crucial time for support and comfort. She clearly has been through something extremely traumatic, and has opened herself up to you to. She needs help, this is not something someone can just get over. Just make sure you are comforting, and understanding. Listen to her, let her tell all of her emotions to you and tell a respected adult about her situation.
Just take it slow, and make sure she knows you are there for her. :-)
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It sounds like she needs to go to therapy because if she said that she isn't over what has happened in your past. Stay away from anything sexual because she is definitely not ready for that and you should respect that. Do some major comforting and you need to convince her to get the help she needs, otherwise every time she has sex she is going to have a painful memory. Just be there for her and take it slow.
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Wow..
I would talk to her, It sounds like she might have a history with her father that you might not know about. She could of been sexually abused. Exsplain to her that you love and care about her and that you are not her father you are her boyfriend and you would never do anything to hurt her. It sounds like she has some emotional issues and some unresolved feelings as well as anger.
If I am right and she does have a history with her father I would try and see if you could help her get some counseling as I said she could have some unresolved issues that she never spoke about. Don't blame yourself, Just try talking to her.
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