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Ok my story is a little bit long am sorry.
My boyfriend and i roke up in april 18 of 2009. then in may 03 he got with another girl. after that i made them brake up because i didnt liked the fact that he was with another girl. Ok he broke up with her in may29. Then in july 30th he got back with me.He was telling me all this stuff that he cantk with him because i really do love him. Then now in agust 1 he left to the dominican republic.Just 2 days ago i found out he has another live without me and sooo on.I whent bacgirl ovethere. at fisrt i thought his friend were just kidding but then i saw some pictures of him huggind with the girl and too closed together.there is another one with them in the pool together.right now he doesnt know that i know he has another girl. he is coming back on sunday. i dont want to call him and insult him because then he will end up staying ovethere,and i will be debastated.If you were in this position what will you do??
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Very complicated huh? But I need to know, why do you even want to beith a guy that you know and have the proff that he's with another women. Odviously you can't mean that much to him if he feels that he has to have a double life. And if you mean anything to him, it could be just him. Maybe he has sometime of sickness that involves being with multiple women and one can't sasisfy him. I mean the first time you g broke up in weeks he aleady moved on.
You know what I would really do. I would move on with my life and leave him far behind. But first I would confront him. I would wait till he's down here. An then I would ask him to meet me in a quiet place. I will confront him with the edvidence and then I would here him out. Because nothing would pleasure me more than to here his sorry story. And then I would build up the courage to kick his sorry a** to the curve.
I don't know if you have read some of my previous advice. But I also tell peoplethat's it's not so bad to be alone. I've been in your shoes, nd I know how it feels to put some much love out there and get a stab in the back BACK. You're wasting your time with a guy that proably would never give you a true sense of happiness, anduntil you realize that, things are going o continue to surface... The best of luck to you and if you shall need to talk anymore please feel free...
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Well, the first part reminded me of me and my recent ex. Not long after we broke up, he went out with another girl which bothered me but I let it go, because it's his life. But anyway.
The first thing is that you shouldn't have MADE him break up with that girl because he can do what he wants, and you can't really tell him what to do. But you're saying that you two were dating the second time only a few days before he left for Dominican Republic? and did you know that he was going there? If I knew that he was going there, I wouldn't bother trying to get with him again if I knew he was leaving, you wouldn't see him anyway. I would have just told him how I felt and see what his response was. But anyway, when he comes back, just let him know in person how you feel about him being in those pictures with all those girls and how it made you feel uncomfortable. Also, he might have just felt held down by you because (don't take this the wrong way) you seem a bit controlling which is okay because that's how some of us are in relationships. And maybe he was just having fun and getting away from things for a while and not worrying about anything. If he acts like he doesn't care about what he did and it doesn't seem to affect him that you were affected by it, then unfortunately he might not feel the same way about you and he just went out with you to make you feel better. It sounds brutal but I'm just letting you know my opinion of the situation.
Let me know what happens when you tell him when you comes back on Sunday then. I hope things work out okay! If you have any other questions, I'm here :]
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I understand how you feel, its definately not easy seeing someone like that. Im a little confused by your story, but Im guessing you both are still going out right? Well, thats what im going by :-).
I have always stood by my motto: trust until you cannot be trusted. Trust him until you catch him doing something wrong, which is when trust is taken away. If he wants to talk to this girl, thats okay because you cant control that, but I dont blame you for not wanting him around her much especially at a pool. Just talk to him about it calmly, tell him how you feel. communication is often the best way to solve things. :-) I will say though, when you two break up (broke up I should say), its not your place to manage who he goes out with. You dont own him, and he doesnt own you, and when you break up you both go separate ways. Just make sure to talk, and thanks for the inbox!!!!!
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Well,
You two broke up in April 18 2009 then he was already with someone in May? How long were you two together because for him too find someone that quickly sounds a bit fast...
If you have proof that he is seeing another girl I would leave him, Afterall that is concidered cheating and therefore he is not being honest yet alone loyal to you. This guy sounds like he likes to toy with your feelings. If you comfront him about it all he has to do is lie, That IS what he has been doing all along anyway. I think it's time to move on and get a guy that is faithful and will treat you right
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