I'm Jessie! I'm 16 years old, and I'm open for any question, and I will do my best to help you in any way possible. I'm on this site to help people as much as I can. I'll give advice the best that I can. If I'm no help, I'm terribly sorry! But I'm always here to help :]
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I am fourteen/F and my boyfriend is sixteen/M...
Annnd he has mono. Hahaha. Yeah, so for about two weeks he had this sore throat that he neglected to tell me about... so on saturday I made out with him. Today, Monday, he goes to the doctor. Heyyy... he has mono. Soo. I think I'm screwed... Hahah i mean we made out... a lot... and yeah. So this is gonna be a little tricky. I have some questions:
1. Mono lasts a long time right? He's saying like a month. How can I help HIM through this? For a month??
2. How am III going to deal with this? He said we're not allowed to kiss... for a month!! :(
3. How are WE going to deal with this? Once people find out he (and maybe even me) have mono, I feel like we're gonna get teased... for a month! Hahah.
4. ... I'm gonna get mono aren't I?
All in all, this is gonna be a long time. How do I handle this? (link)
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Well, I had mono myself and it is quite the sickness. It does last a pretty long while, you usually only experience the effects for a week or so, depending on the severity. However, the virus stays in your body for a decent amount of months, sometimes even a year! :0 (I saw that on the internet when I searched it when I had it) That kinda freaked me out but I didn't show any effects or anything but I was still cautious.
And I know mono is labeled as the "kissing disease," but it's transmitted through saliva so you can get it from sharing drinks with someone, etc.
To answer your number 1, it lasts depending on the severity, like I said. but to help him out, just be there for him and care for him when he's sick. It's basically just a really painful sore throat and fatigue. (there can be other symptoms as well).
For number two, I know its hard to not kiss, but unless you want to expose yourself to the virus even more, then I strongly suggest you resist. (as hard as it may be)
Number three, don't care about what people think, just let them know that you didn't necessarily get it from kissing! :P If people do tease you, just laugh about it, turning it into a big thing will just make things more frustrating on yourself. I got teased about it (even though I know for a fact I didn't get it from kissing!) but I just joked about it.
Number 4, ehhh.. it is most likely >_< Just hope that you didn't! If you start to get a sore throat, or any symptoms, go to your doctor right away. And get lots and lots of rest!!
Sorry this was such a long response but I hope I helped! :]
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Well to start off I am totally falling for 2 guys, guy number 1 well call D and guy number 2 we will call N. Its a few days into the school year and I have been falling for a new guy who moved here, and thats N, I think he likes me, when ever I get to my classroom he always looks at me and smiles I could even walk by him and he looks at me and smiles, does he like me? And the other boy D I have liked him ever since grade 5 and Im in Grade 9 now. He asked me out in grade 7 but I wasnt ready to date, we were talking a couple weeks ago and he said maybe if everything goes well we could date? Did I miss my chance? Every time I pass him in the halls he is always looking and smieling at me.. Can anyone tell me if they kinda lik eme or what? Should I go for one or the other?? Heellp! (link)
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I think they both might have feelings for you but I think that guy D is more into you. Do you actually talk to guy N? If you don't, then he might just think you're cute and he can't actually like you until he knows you, but I do definitely think there's at least something going on there.
As for guy D, just hearing that you knew him for that long and knowing that there was some kind of feelings at one point sounds good to me. He sounds like he really likes you and you could have a good relationship since you were previously friends for a few years, so I hope everything goes well!
Just do whatever you feel is right :]
Good Luck!
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oohh you had your heart broken too?
why? sorry to ask.. (link)
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It's alright.
But I don't really feel right telling it on the site :P
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welll thats true.am just going to lieve my life to the fullest because i was born alone. not with a boyfriend :(
i hope it dont take a long time to forget about him :( (link)
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It takes time, but you'll forget about him.
It took me a while to forget about my last ex but everyday I realized more and more about how he really wasn't meant for me and I was wasting my time being upset over him.
But you'll find someone eventually and you'll be truly happy :]
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the new one.but ahhh i checked the girl msn and my boyfriend send her a message telling her"why dont you live my love" i cant believe he called her my love.
----and then i called the new kidd and he didnt pick it up then the asnwer machine came out and some girl started talking saying she is his one and onli she doesnt cares what the haters got to say.mahh stuff there.so i thimk am better of bymyself.:( but its just that my heart hurts soo muchh.i cant deal with this no more. i cant even listen to sad songs cus thne i will start crying.nd i hardly go out because i dont have friends.they are just a waist.i dont know what to do. (link)
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Awh, well obviously you are going for the wrong guys. I would say to forget about both of them and just live your life. It doesn't matter if you don't have any friends, I barely do either and I don't get out much but I'm just enjoying doing nothing until I go out into the real world.
Try to make yourself busy around the house to forget about it. Maybe do some cleaning or take a long walk. Or maybe do some arts and crafts :P
Just try to enjoy yourself as much as possible without them.
You're better off without them, trust me, you don't need to have a boyfriend that's just going to hurt you. It's better to be on your own and making the best of it. :]
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hummm thats kinda true.so there is this other gut he has a son he is 19 and am 16 going on to 17.he wanted to go out with me but now he started working with my mom and when my mom saw him she when t up to him and told him"you know XXXXX thats my daughters boyfriend." he was kinda shooked .he just told her ooh dont worry me and you daughter are just friends. i really want to go out with that kid beacuse he actually cares about me.but now i dont know what to do. i try calling him and he dont pick it up.the thru msn he tells me to call him.then am shyt to call him back because i dont know what to tell him :( (link)
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Did your mom go up to him just to tell him that you had a boyfriend, or is it that she doesn't like him? If she just doesn't like the fact that you already have a boyfriend, tell her that you don't plan on being with him anyway (right?)
But just tell your mom how you feel about him and how he actually cares about you and stuff and you just like him a whole lot.
And do you mean the new kid doesn't answer or the other one?
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people told me he didnt liked me thats why he did it.i told my boyfriend this and he said if he didnt liked me he wouldnt be with me and that he does loves me and he is always asking me for kisses and hugs.am too confused right now.i talked to noe of his friends from dominican republic and i asked who is ruby[thats the girl my boyfriend supposeble cheeted on me with]and he said i dont know then he said thats my girlfriend.i told that kidd wow you have 2 different answers.then i guess he got scared and signed out.my boyfriend keeps telling me thats his cusin but i dont believe that. (link)
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I wouldn't believe that either, I would totally dumb his butt! It really seems like he's not that into you, he just wants you as a girlfriend but he doesn't actually want one if that makes sense?
But yeah, he's an idiot and hes not worth it :]
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see i knew it. he didi kissed a girl in dominican republic.even though he sid he didn't and also said that the girl is his cusin.he just lied to me completely.his friends told me the truth.i really love him but i dont know what to do now.
:( (link)
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So you talked to him then?
Well if he would do those things to you, then he doesn't deserve you. Don't hurt yourself and stay with him. This is kind of harsh, but I don't think he actually likes you :[
I know it's hard but you have to accept it. If he did that to you, then you really shouldn't be with him. You can find someone so much better then that and don't let this get you down, just learn from it.
There's plenty of fish in the sea! :]
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hummm . i just whent on his myspace and he sent a message to his friend saying that he already cammed so for his friend to go over to his house.
am so dissapointed because i think he should of had told me rather then his friend. :( (link)
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Wait, he said what to his friend? I don't understand what you said D:
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Thanks :)
well his family will know beacuse of the myspace. his brother has a myspace and he is going to show itto them . but itts true what you say about that. like not to care about what they say/think.i just know he went out with her because everybody is saying it. :( but iam going to tell him what you told me :) (link)
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Oh alright, I gotcha.
Well even if everyone was saying it, just ask him to be sure.
That's good to use what I said just don't try to memorize it word by word or something, speak what you want to say, and just go from what I said.
And when you say it to him, be calm about it, don't freak out. Just keep your cooool. :]
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aww thanks. i really liked that adice. i think its true what you said that he whent ovethere just to have fun and getting away from things for a while and not worrying about anything.right now am going to feel stupid going to his house because of those pictures on myspace.his family is going to know that he cheeted on me and they going to be looking at me weird.what will you do if this happened to you ???
and yeah he is coming on sunday but i really dont know what to tell him :( (link)
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You're very welcome!
But how would his family know? and don't care what they think, if they think it's weird, that's their problem, you have enough to worry about.
And just let him know how you feel about it, don't try to limit what you say. Just talk to him calmly about it, don't just be like "YOU CHEATED ON MEHADASJDLK" just be like 'hey, I wanted to talk to you about something while you away. I noticed your pictures that you put on Myspace with those other girls, I don't really feel comfortable that you were doing that and it would hurt me to know that you did anything with them, and just tell me the truth of what happened.'
I wouldn't copy those EXACT words, but you can go off of that and I'm just giving you an idea of what would be a good way of going about doing it.
Hope it helped! :]
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Basically 4 different guys liked me. All of my friends thought this was like perfect, but i hated every minute of it. I only liked one of them "in that way" and now he barely talks to me because of these other guys. I have explained over and over that i only like him. We have kinda made up now but we dont speak half as much as we used to. when he kinda "ignored" me for a week or so, i didnt contact him at all, i thought if he wants to be like that then ill leave him to it. then he soon came back to me!! He said he still really likes me, but he never calls/texts/emails me. I have imed him online before and he ignored me twice, but when he sees me he always acts like nothing is wrong, and telling me how much he likes me. except he imed me and said "hi beautiful how have you been?" i imed him back saying im good etc, and he didnt reply? and he always does this. I dont understand at all! (link)
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For the internet not replying thing, you can never tell whether they're at the computer or not. Maybe he walks away from the computer a lot and realizes your IMs later? I tend to do that a lot, and then I just never bother replying since it was so long ago that they sent it. But yet again, guys are difficult and weird sometimes.
I kind of had this situation before, too. A guy told me he really liked me but he never made the effort to talk to me. So I was like whatt? But since I didn't know if I liked him back, I didn't really care if he talked to me or not.
But the bad side to this could be that he actually doesn't like you. He maybe thinks that he does but he's not too certain of himself all the time. I know my emotions were "bipolar" for a few people. One day I would like them and the next day I wouldn't. (buttt, I'm a girl and I don't know if guys do that, hah)
I would say to ask him about it. Just be like "aye, mannn. you say you like me but you don't really talk to me, whats the dealll?" (well, in better words of course but you know what I mean.) and see what he says. He may give a good explanation but he may also give a i-don't-know-what-you're-talking-about response, or he may give an odd response buttt which ever one, don't get discouraged! If you really like him, don't give up!
Well I hope I was at least some kind of help! Any other questions, just askk. I'm always here to help :]
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Ok my story is a little bit long am sorry.
My boyfriend and i roke up in april 18 of 2009. then in may 03 he got with another girl. after that i made them brake up because i didnt liked the fact that he was with another girl. Ok he broke up with her in may29. Then in july 30th he got back with me.He was telling me all this stuff that he cantk with him because i really do love him. Then now in agust 1 he left to the dominican republic.Just 2 days ago i found out he has another live without me and sooo on.I whent bacgirl ovethere. at fisrt i thought his friend were just kidding but then i saw some pictures of him huggind with the girl and too closed together.there is another one with them in the pool together.right now he doesnt know that i know he has another girl. he is coming back on sunday. i dont want to call him and insult him because then he will end up staying ovethere,and i will be debastated.If you were in this position what will you do?? (link)
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Well, the first part reminded me of me and my recent ex. Not long after we broke up, he went out with another girl which bothered me but I let it go, because it's his life. But anyway.
The first thing is that you shouldn't have MADE him break up with that girl because he can do what he wants, and you can't really tell him what to do. But you're saying that you two were dating the second time only a few days before he left for Dominican Republic? and did you know that he was going there? If I knew that he was going there, I wouldn't bother trying to get with him again if I knew he was leaving, you wouldn't see him anyway. I would have just told him how I felt and see what his response was. But anyway, when he comes back, just let him know in person how you feel about him being in those pictures with all those girls and how it made you feel uncomfortable. Also, he might have just felt held down by you because (don't take this the wrong way) you seem a bit controlling which is okay because that's how some of us are in relationships. And maybe he was just having fun and getting away from things for a while and not worrying about anything. If he acts like he doesn't care about what he did and it doesn't seem to affect him that you were affected by it, then unfortunately he might not feel the same way about you and he just went out with you to make you feel better. It sounds brutal but I'm just letting you know my opinion of the situation.
Let me know what happens when you tell him when you comes back on Sunday then. I hope things work out okay! If you have any other questions, I'm here :]
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15/F. So the guy I am dating right now is my first boyfriend. He's sixteen, almost seventeen by the way and we've been dating for four months. Before we started dating I had no experience what so ever, like, I had never even kissed before. He on the other hand, has gone pretty far... Well he's pretty understanding about that, that I want to take it slow, and that its all really new to me but sometimes I feel like he gets a little frustrated. Because I mean, he is almsot seventeen and he's done a lot of stuff... haha... and I tense up every time things start going southern, but I do try, and he knows I do, and I think he trys really hard not to let me see how much he wants to take things further, but I'm pretty observant and I can pick up on it. Like what his body does, things he can't control whenever I stop him. I just feel bad kind of though. I mean, I want to make him happy in that way becuase every other part of our relationship is perfect but I feel like I don't satisfy him... and I don't know...Should I just get over this and start letting things move forward? I think he wants an HJ but I have no clue how to even try to do that... I think I want to start taking things furhter, I just don't know, and I don't know how. (link)
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This reminds me exactly how my best friend and her ex were. She was completely inexperienced and he was very experienced. But she can't say no, and things just happened and the relationship didn't end very well. I'm not saying that yours will if you go farther, I'm just letting you know what happened. The thing is, if you don't feel comfortable or ready to go farther, then don't. I know that you feel like you want to satisfy him, but only do things if you really want to. He should understand that you don't want to go farther and you are uncomfortable, and if he doesn't, then he obviously isn't the right boyfriend :/
Usually guys are always just looking for sexual activities, no matter what they are. It isn't true for all, but most, so I would be cautious. But don't do anything just because you feel obligated to, do whatever YOU feel is right. The time will come eventually that you are ready to do things, it just takes time.
But my friend ended up giving up her virginity to her ex, and he broke up with her a week after they starting doing it a while. He was a jerk though, and I don't want it to happen to you.
The only thing I can say is to listen to your heart. If you really like him, and really want to, then go for it. If you're having any doubts at all, then don'tt, he should understand.
So if you have any other questions, then ask. I'm always here to help :]
P.S. about the not knowing how to do things; don't worry about it. Just do whatever you think you should do, or maybe even ask someone more experienced (if it's not too awkward), or even ask me! haha (i'm not experienced, I just heard enough from my friend, fyi, hah). and if you end up doing something wrong and your boyfriend acts weird about it, then it's his problem. :]
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16/f
I know I'm messed up....
I'm in high school, which are supposed to be the best years of your life right? But I'm just feeling lost and neglected by other people, but also by myself. I don't take care of myself the way I should. And I know this. But hear me out.
I eat very little and what I do eat, I run off downstairs in the basement in the dark where we keep the treadmill. I don't want to look down and be able to see my body, so I run in the dark.
Any free time I have at home I spend in my room on the Internet. I've developed this obsession with pornography on the computer. And I just can't help myself.
I'm learning to rely only on myself. I don't need other people around. I can get sexual gratification by myself, I can hide away in the dark when I need to exercise, and I can eat all my meals in my room so others don't have to watch me cram food down my throat.
I'm beginning to suffer from insomnia.
When I'm around other people I feel uncomfortable and insecure. Even my "closest" friends.
I'm a generally awkward person around people. When I get to know a person enough, I'm "myself", which though grown-ups will tell you that's who you should be, I'm not so sure anymore. I'm a strange person, and my two best friends have pointed it out to me on more than one occasion. And when they aren't telling me what's wrong with me, they give each other looks as if to say silently "She's messed up."
I know I'm messed up. They don't need to tell me that. I know I'm engaging in unhealthy activities. I know that. But, I don't want to stop being unhealthy. I feel like me acting this way is "rebellious". I'm never rebellious about anything. People stick me to that stereotype of "straight-laced" which I don't think is normal for a teenager. So I'm silently battling myself, and I get some kind of weird satisfaction with it. I constantly need to do these things to convince myself that I'm living life how life should be led.
There's another close friend who I think is catching on, but I don't want him to know these things about me. But I feel conflicted because at the same time, I want everyone to know. That way they'll know I'm a teenager. I want to prove that I have problems, but I dug myself into the mess.
It's messed up. There's a glimpse into my head. (link)
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Hm. The first thing that caught my attention about this is that you are doing this because it's rebellious, and you're happy that people will notice that? Well you shouldn't do something just to prove to others something. Who cares if you are "straight-laced" it's usually the better way to go. And being straight-laced is definitely common in a teenager. I, myself, a 16 year old girl is so called "straight-laced" but I don't let it get to me when people call me that, I just move on. People can be rebellious if they want, that's them. If you aren't usually rebellious, you shouldn't change yourself just to please others. It's good to know that you know about your problem, but yet, you shouldn't have the problem in the first place. It seems like you're just letting others decide you're actions, and how you treat yourself whether you realize it or not. Don't let other people create your lifestyle for you. You have to do it yourself. And if you are uncomfortable with your body, eating very little isn't going to help you. If anything, it would make it worse. You need to get proper nutrition and eat healthy. It doesn't mean you only eat vegetables and stuff. Just make sure when you eat, its not only junk food. Even if you have at least some type of healthy food in your diet, its better then none at all. Overall, just be yourself. Don't listen to what other people say or think. Erase everything that anyone has said about you that brought you down, and think about the positives about you. You may think there are none, but believe me if you look hard enough there are. And all teenagers are different. Don't try to be like a "typical" teenager, because there is none. The only type of teenager is the one that YOU are, and even though you may "want" to be like the way you are, you shouldn't have to want to be like something, you should just be it without even trying. I know my advice was kind of just to the point and no really uplifting feel to it, and kind of bounced around, but i just wrote what I was thinking. What I'm saying is what I think can help. If you have any other questions, you are more then welcome to ask me. :]
Good Luck!
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me and this guy, we say were "best friends" but we flirt NONSTOP everytime we're together, and i just don't know if its us being comofortable with each other, or if we both want to be more, if we're just really attracted to each other or if its just a best friend kinda thing. i'll give you a couple examples of what we do and i'll get your opinion!(:
i took a shower, and i came out with only a towel on and he was like "daaaaaaang, i'll dry you off;)!" and i started laughing and he took my water and i was like give me my water! and he sat down on a chair and he was like come sit on me. and i shyly was like "noooo:)" and i bent over and he like lifted my towel up, but it wasnt embarassing because we do things like that to each other.
he always knows when something's wrong, and he is always looking out for me and is like "you don't smoke do you, you better not linds i'm serious!" or if i ask him a question and i feel like he's not telling me the truth he'll be like "you know you can trust me, we tell each other everything" and when i'm sad, he does everything he can to make me laugh.
everytime we hangout, and one of us leaves the other, he'll always give me a hug and won't let go for a long time, its so cute:)
he's seen me naked, i've seen him naked. we haven't done anything though not even kissed BUT doing that, was a dare kind of thing and we were totally comfortable with it.
one time i was making food and he came up from behind me, and like put his chin on my shoulder and his arms around me and i like leaned back, if you can picture that and i was like do i smell all sweaty! hahaaa because i just got done running, and he was like noo not at all you smell like your perfume!
we do things like that all the time. i can wear whatever i want around him! hes seen me with no makeup, my hair not done and grubby clothes on and he doesnt care.
i just don't know what to think about our friendship. everyone always asks me if we like each other because they say we flirt all the time but i'm just like "we're just best friends:)"
even though he is really hot! and i know he thinks i am, i just don't know about us! (link)
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Well just ask yourself "do I have feelings for him?" which I think anyone who reads this can answer that for you! :]
Your relationship with him is really cool. I have a guy friend like that but we don't hang out as much. If you're worried about ruining your current friendship with him by saying anything, don't. Since you have such a strong relationship, I don't think that it will screw it up just by mentioning feelings.
My guy friend liked me at one point and I didn't like him back, but we still stayed good friends. From what you explained I think that if you mentioned having feelings, he would feel the same way. The way he acts doesn't seem very friendly, it seems more romantic and loving which is great!
And since you guys are so comfortable around each other, you guys would have an amazing relationship because you wouldn't be afraid of showing anything around each other (physically and emotionally) which is a strong quality in a relationship.
But overall, I say to say something to him about being more then friends and see where it goes! :]
(which I am more then positive that it will turn into something!)
Good Luck!
-Jessie
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