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Should I let things progress? And how??
15/F. So the guy I am dating right now is my first boyfriend. He's sixteen, almost seventeen by the way and we've been dating for four months. Before we started dating I had no experience what so ever, like, I had never even kissed before. He on the other hand, has gone pretty far... Well he's pretty understanding about that, that I want to take it slow, and that its all really new to me but sometimes I feel like he gets a little frustrated. Because I mean, he is almsot seventeen and he's done a lot of stuff... haha... and I tense up every time things start going southern, but I do try, and he knows I do, and I think he trys really hard not to let me see how much he wants to take things further, but I'm pretty observant and I can pick up on it. Like what his body does, things he can't control whenever I stop him. I just feel bad kind of though. I mean, I want to make him happy in that way becuase every other part of our relationship is perfect but I feel like I don't satisfy him... and I don't know...Should I just get over this and start letting things move forward? I think he wants an HJ but I have no clue how to even try to do that... I think I want to start taking things furhter, I just don't know, and I don't know how.
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awwww you sound soo sweet!i luv how you say things are just perfect between you two.im really happy for you..if you really really like him then just go for it, dont talk to him about it just do it. like when your hooking up start stroking him down there and stuff, start slow. dont do anything until your very very sure your ready. and with HJ all you need to do is unjip his pants and stroke it then he should just lead you into doing what he wants you to do...itll just happen once you give him the green light in the intimate moment
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This reminds me exactly how my best friend and her ex were. She was completely inexperienced and he was very experienced. But she can't say no, and things just happened and the relationship didn't end very well. I'm not saying that yours will if you go farther, I'm just letting you know what happened. The thing is, if you don't feel comfortable or ready to go farther, then don't. I know that you feel like you want to satisfy him, but only do things if you really want to. He should understand that you don't want to go farther and you are uncomfortable, and if he doesn't, then he obviously isn't the right boyfriend :/
Usually guys are always just looking for sexual activities, no matter what they are. It isn't true for all, but most, so I would be cautious. But don't do anything just because you feel obligated to, do whatever YOU feel is right. The time will come eventually that you are ready to do things, it just takes time.
But my friend ended up giving up her virginity to her ex, and he broke up with her a week after they starting doing it a while. He was a jerk though, and I don't want it to happen to you.
The only thing I can say is to listen to your heart. If you really like him, and really want to, then go for it. If you're having any doubts at all, then don'tt, he should understand.
So if you have any other questions, then ask. I'm always here to help :]
P.S. about the not knowing how to do things; don't worry about it. Just do whatever you think you should do, or maybe even ask someone more experienced (if it's not too awkward), or even ask me! haha (i'm not experienced, I just heard enough from my friend, fyi, hah). and if you end up doing something wrong and your boyfriend acts weird about it, then it's his problem. :]
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