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Q: I have these two friends and they both lie at times. To me at times...and well one day they were asking weight. And I said I'm 160 and she said 120. now she's pretty fat and she can't in no way be 120. I was really stunned at her effort to lie. I don't want to confront her but she makes me feel like i can't trust her again.

What do I do? help me please cause it relly hurts me she lied.

there really isn't anyting that you can do, she probably is uncomfortble with her weight and lying helps her feel better. i would just let it go and if she lies again about something else, that isn't personally, comfront her about it. you never know how she really feels so, i would try adn brush it off

Q: i keep trying to make this boy jelous so he will like me more...sometimes i feel he doesnt like me even tho he really does. should i keep trying to make him jelous..help me out!!

I always try and get boys to be jelous. Sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn't. If you have been trying for awhile and it's not working, I would suggest stopping. He may just be getting annoyed at you and will like you less and less. You may look desperate. I guess it depends on the guy, but I would try stopping. But if he is doing it to you, continue with it!

Q: Okay so my best friend (of 10 years) was going out with 2 guys (wesley and rafi) and rafi had a feeling my friend liked someone else..so i told rafi that my friend was cheating on him with wesley...am i wrong for doing that? i dont think i am because it's not like she was going to marry wesley or rafi so i dont know why she is getting all worked up over it...but what do yall think? did i do the wrong thing?

I don't think you did anything wrong. Expeccially if you are freinds with both of the guys. If you are freinds with the guys then you were just looking out for them and there is nothing wrong with that. Your freind cheated.. and thats the wrong thing to do..

Q: Ever since we met, my boyfriend always had this thing about grabbing my upper arm to pull me closer to him when he wants to talk to me or something.

Sometimes it's like he isn't aware of his own strength or something because it'll hurt. And I always tell him not to do it because of that. He apologizes and tells me that he doesn't realize he does it that hard and says he'll try to stop.

Well, of course, he doesn't stop. He just did it last night and that time it left marks on my arms. I didn't even notice until my mom said something about it this morning and I had to sit that and explain to her why the guy I'm seeing left marks on my arm! NOT EASY.

I haven't showed him the marks yet but what should I say to him when I do? I mean, I know what to say but how do I make it clear to him that he NEEDS to STOP?

And by the way, he is in NO WAY abusive, if he came off that way. I'm 18/f -- He's 21/m

Just tell him that when he grabs you arm it REALYY hurts and he left marks. Tell him your mom noticed and he NEEDS to stop. If he does it again, grab his arm hard too. just make sure he knows that it needs to stop right away,

Q: I'm friends with benefits with this guy. I used to have a crush on him.
We agreed to just be friends with benefits.
We don't hang out alot and fullfill the friends with benefits but lately he's been calling alot just to talk and stuff. He comes over every now and again and we just talk.
He has never called me for a booty call. But lately there has been alot of chemistry going on between us, alot of flirting and such.
We aren't really friends (as in normal friends you know) so it confuses me as to why he calls so much to just talk. I know what friends with benefits is, and that's not what we are. I'm not sure what to do? He sends mixed signles. What is going on with us

Well, there are a lot of different reasons why he may be sending mix signals. He may like you more then a freind but he doesn't think you like him so he's trying to get you to like him (by calling and hanging out) He may just want some company also... most likely, I think he likes you more then a friend and wants to become your boyfriend. If you like him, start dropping hints and he will pick them up. If you don't wwant to be more then friends, then make sure he knows that, tell him or just keep acting how you are acting now.

Q: So this weekend I have a hockey tournament and Im playing 6 games in 2 days. But thats not the problem. It takes 1 hour to play a hockey game and I will be playing 2 games with only 10 minutes of down time. Yeah, and its tiring to play! I'm going to do this 3 times--- 2 games on friday, 4 on sunday with 10-20 minutes of downtime between each pair. OK. thats not making sence. But all I know is that my coach told me to get energy drinks. Which are really good ones that work pretty fast, like within 1 hour or so? I'll RATE!
Thanks
Cat

I like Red Bull. I also heard this new Moutain Dew kind works also.. try one of those!

Q: 13/f
well i used to masterbate but i dont anymore... i haven't started my period yet
could this of affeceted it? please help

Nope, masterbation does not affect when your period starts.

Q: My hair is really dry REALLY dry. I don't have alot of money to afford on all those expesnive hair treatments. Any natural ways to help get it back to the way it used to be?

try washing your hair with bottled water... that helps sometimes!

Q: does anybody know of any type of sun tan lotion that helps to get tanned, but not get a sunburn too?

Hev

Hawaiian Tropic and Bananna Boats have really good ones. And then there are self tanners like Jergens natural glow and Nutragena... but only use them AFTER you get a little bit of a tan cause it will be really obvious if you apply that wrong.

Q: when i run i lose my breath so easily! i'm in good shape and run a lot but after 7 yards of running, i feel like i'm going to pass out! is it normal to have to stop running for a second and catch your breath?! when i was running a mile, i had to stop to catch my breath about 8 times. is it normal to have to stop? and what can i do to stop this so i can run long distances without stopping?

Yes it is normal to stop a few times. Try breathing in through your nose and out through your mouth. That helps you and also, pace yourself don't start off sprinting unless you have to. Well, I hope that helped!

Q: All these girls in my school wear low cut shirts, and short short skirts. My school dosen't enforce the dress code at all. What bothers me is when I'm caught looking at some girl's clevage they say things like, "Hey!" I just get kinda angry because why do all these girls wear clothes like that then not like it when people stare at there ass n' stuff. I just don't get it. They get all upset when guys try to touch them and stuff. That I can understand. But they have to understand that gusy act like that becaues they dress the way they do. My question is: Why do girls dress like that, then be mad at everyone for acting the way that they do?

Most likely they are wearing it to get attention. They know that guys are going to be staring and girls and are going to be calling them sluts and whores and crap. They just want attention. They may like it when guys stare at them but they act upset cause then they get MORE atention. To be honest, they sound stupid to me, I mean if they wear that of course guys will be guys and stare and want to touch them... they need to learn that and get over it. If they don't want to be stared at and to be felt up by a guy, don't wear that crap...

Q: Hey! I'm asking a bunch of columnists to get people's opinions. I'm in 9th grade, 5'3'' && I weigh 130 pounds. I'm not fat by doctor's standards, but my stomach does have pudge on it that I'd like to get rid of! It's just so hard, so do you have any tips on getting rid of it before pool time because I really wanna wear my bikini! I only have like a week til we start going to the pool, so I need help fast! Do you think I should wear it? I'm not fat but I do have pudge that I really gotta get rid of!

My column is OMG_Julianne, so if you have anything more to say after I give you feedback that's where I'll be! Thanks a load in advance

_x0` Julianne

do situps everynight... do liek five more each night. watch what you eat.. im sure you know that. try picking up a seventeen or cosmogirl magzine... they have GREAT excercises in there that do help. lay on your back with your hands on the ground above your head, your legs straight out and roll up and touch your toes... that may help too if you do it liek 20 times a night. well, i hope i helped.

Q: My boyfriend wont fuck me hard what should i do?

tell him to fuck you harder.

Q: for the past 2 days i have constantly felt like i have had to go pee once i go pee i still have this feeling and when i pee its not alot just like a drip this is a very uncomfortable feeling what do you think might be the problem?

i've had that too. you may have UTI (urinary tract infection) i would get it checked out... cause it can be uncomfortable. go to the doctor or something..

Q: Anyone know any good summer reads. Everything I usually read is depressing. Like someone usually dies. I'd like suggestions of books that are funny and enjoyable to read. Even Harry Potter depresses me although I do love all the books. Maybe even books I can relate to. You know being a teenager and typical teenage problems. I'll rate anyone who gives any names

South Beach
Summer Boys
The Au pair
Skinny Dipping
Local Girls
Tropical Kiss
Carribbean Cruising
French Kiss
The A List series
The clique Series
Hope was Here
South Beach Sizzle
Rules of the Road
The Secret Life of Bees
California Holiday
Spanish Holiday
Faking 19
The Gossip Girl series

... i think you can find something out of that list! ;)

Q: I will rate 5s! Sorry its long. But 5s FOR ANYTHING! JUST PLWEASE HELP. ok so i wear daily contacts that you throw out every day .. wwhen i have sleepovers i just keep them in if i fall asleep and replace them in the morning - its always been fine. so on friday i did that & everything was good. during the day my left eye kind of felt irritated, but that has been ahppening a little bit lately with me and others because of spring/allergies and stuff. then when i took it out it KILLED. i couldnt open my eye it felt like there was something in it. then when i finally could open, it feels irritated and i keep crying like theres a hair or an eyelash or something in it.. so my questions is what could it be?

what is wrong with me??? is there something in my eye?? it wasn't ripped when i took it out.. is there a cahnce the one from friday could still be in there [but im positive i took it out & it doesn't look like there's a contact in my eye unless its hidden]. and whatever it is, how do i get it out??? or is it an infection? FIVES FOR ALL!

i think you should rip your eyeballs out, sara.
;)

Q: is there any thing that makes your hair grow faster?

Eat alot of proteins. The more proteins you eat, teh faster your hair will grow!

Q: next month, i have a dance rehersal, and i have stage fright. last week we had a rehersal, and i was nervous even with just people from my dance studio, and most of them were even younger than me. how am i gunna perform in front of a ton of people when im nervous just doing that?? any ideas?
thanks xo

When I have my dance recitals, I can hardly see the audience because of the lights. And that helps for me. But remember this, you aren't the only one on stage (unless you are doing a solo) So, you aren't teh only person being watched. Just live the moment cause then it's over. :( (I usually get upset) SO just enjoy it, I promise you, you will be fine. Just relax. Take a few deep breathes before going on and stretch really well. Laugh with your freinds. Good luck and have fun!

Q: what is it? is itt illegall? can you get caught? just tell me basically ab it.

iill give 5s

Hello Sara. Haha. I can ask my dad, maybe he knows, but yes, it is illegal, I know that for a fact.

Q: I have to write a Sonnet for English(14 lines each line has to be 10 syllables) and i really need some help on a topic... anyone have a good topic idea?

*thanks

Summer
Love
Friends
A sport
beautiful things
fun
faith
hope

bio

Hey! I am Marissa and I'm 16. I live in South Carolina and I love to dance and laugh. I liek to give advice and help people a lot so feel free to ask me anything and I promise I will get back to you! &hearts