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What do you think is the average weight for an 11 year old???

It really all depends on your height...

5' -90-100
5'1"-100-110
5'2"-110-120
5'3"-120-130
5'4"-130-140
5'5"-140-150

thats according to doctors charts that i researched... hope i helped..

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ok almost all the time my parents get on my nerves i dono if its hormones or wat but like my mom will yell at me just for not like putting my clothes away and i think the reason is b/c her dad did the same thing to them like ya know verbal abuse but my mom isnt verbally abusing me its just a lil bit like that and im just kinda like u dont have to yell and shes like YES I DO! and then when i try to talk back to her my dad sticks up for my mom and so i cant say wat i want to.:( and then like the next day there all like so how was ur day today and im like leave me alone and then there like y hunnie y and im like b/c u said i was acting bitchy yesterday and shes like go to ur room! and im like ok...


i need sum advice please help me!

signed,
*sigh*

Everything is normal with you... your a teenager.. yea there are some teens who get along with there parents but lets face it .. most of us dont! Maybe instead of saying leave me alone and getting fustrated you could just simply say for example :"My day was fine.. so and so got hit with a pie at lunch" or sumthin like that. Just to make them feel involved.. All parents really want to do is connect with there kids. They don't mean to seem like there parents from hell they just want to be your friend. And im not saying you have to stay up till 1 talking to your mom about things.. but maybe if you could communicate with them a little more they would feel less likely to yell at you to do things and maybe just simply ask you to do things... hope i helped...

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well ok ive never had sex before....and every guy i have ever dated always wants to have sex...ive gottin fingered before 3 times but like im scared to have sex...does it hurt really bad yer first time? like i dont know im kinda scared and i want to do it i just dont know what should i do?

Just because the guy your with wants to have sex DOES NOT mean you should... You have to be physically and mentally ready before you commit like that... Thats a big step in your life and you should definitely share it with someone special.. to most of these guys its there 10th time and it takes away it specailness so make sure your with sumone you love.. And you shouldn't be scared or nervous if its with someone you love. I heard it doesn't hurt if you've used tampons but others have told me it hurts. Just make sure your ready and this is what YOU want to do .. and not only what HE wants to do.. I hope helped.. goodluck and if you ever need me... you know where to find me ;)
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Someone told me i was..well to put it nicely..really fat and..i havent eaten for 6 hours and my stomach is killing me and ive been pressuring myself to get tons of exercise and it hurts...but i donno what to do! and i really need help!

Okay.. well for one.. DO NOT STOP eating thats the worst way to lose weight and actually eventually u will be more then you are now. Anyways..really look at yourself... are u overweight? or Are u just self conscious of what people think? And think about who told you? are they your good friend? or are they sumone who doesn't matter much in your life? Anyways.. if you want to shape up you can just Eat more healthy like you said you would and maybe take a 1/2 walk everyday. its a good way to look and feel good about yourself! :)


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hey yall i jus found out that my bf is probly cheating on me and this stuff happens to me all the time i always get used at and it really sux and wel i jus dont no how to deal with it cus wenever this stuf happens i get really depressed and shit and i think about cutting and stuff but i never actualy do it i jus need sum way to get out of this place or idk i jus idk

Im sorry that hes prob. cheating on you. But you need to find out for sure. And if he is then you should dump him right away! And Im sorry that you get used alot.. maybe thats a sign that you shouldn't be with anyone right now and just spend alot of time with your friends who are always there for you and won't hurt you. Cutting is not the answer. and if your feeling this way then maybe you should talk to a trusted friend or adult that can help you. And if your feeling down thats completely normal. Maybe you should write in a journal and express all of your feeling. Being open really helps alot. and if you feel like you need to get away for a while then go for long relaxing walks in your neighborhood. That will give you alot of time to think about how you don't need a guy who doesn't treat you with the respect that you deserve! And i think when finally the right guy comes along you'll know it and everything will get better

hope i helped..

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okay there is this guy and we are really good friends! He comes over and stuff and we just hang out and have the BEST times! We can talk to each other about anything! We have such a good friendship! I was thinking about him the other day...i might like him! I think it might be wierd though, and he hasnt given me any signs about him feeling that way... i don't think so at least. But i don't know if i should give him hints as to taking it to a higher level, and if i should then how should i do it?? HELP ME PLEASE!

If your really into this guy.. chances are hes into you too. But remember thats not always how it happens. If your as good of friends as you say you are then you should be able to tell him you like him.. and if he doesn't feel the same way then it shouldn't make the frienship awkward at all. If he ends up liking you back then thats awesome!!! You could always start with hints before actually telling him ... and see how he reacts to these hints. If your going to tell a guy you like him i think its best to just come out and say it and not to play games. Just one day while your hanging out maybe after you watch a movie or sumthing you could just go for a walk and just start off by sayin i need to tell you something. (((hint don't say " i need to tell you something but its kind of weird and i don't know how to say it " ))That makes guys think your not really sure or that your not confident.. (and to guys confidence is sexy) Anways, Just say i need to tell you something andhe'll most likely say okay sure.. then you should just be like.. " i am pretty sure i like you as more then a friend and i wanted to know if you like me the same way" ... DO NOT pressure him to answer. it may be a shock to him since your such good friends. Give him a few days .. and if he doesn't answer then just forget for now don't keep asking.. maybe eventually in time it would work out! :)

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I feel that my father is cheating on my mother. There are some obvious signs, and I'm not sure on whether or not I should confront him about it. (I'm thirteen.)

1) There have been small pieces of paper in front of the family computer with porno sites on them.

2) I have seen porno links on the computer's history.

3) At strange times of the day, his 'work' cellphone rings, and on the phone's interface it reads 'private call.'

4) I went onto the computer one day, seeing that a Singles website was completely filled out with my father's information.

My feelings are mixed--it could all just be a coincidence, and if it isn't, should I confront him about it or would I just be getting in the way? Please help me guys.

xoxoxox,
Constantly Confused

Don't do anything quite yet.You have to consider some things.

Are you sure you have all the facts right?

Could it be that your father is just a pervert and hes just looking at porn and not acting on anything?

Could the private calls have something to do with work?

About the singles website.. im not quite sure for an explanation for that. It is your fathers fault that the porno things got caught. I mean, he shouldn't be that irresponsible. I do think you should have a talk with him and bring along a trusted adult that you have already tlaked to about this , thats not your mother. And i know you may feel like yuor betraying your father if you tell your mother ,but make sure you don't get your father angry or defensive when you talk to him .. if he is cheating.. that way he won't lie to your mom and make up excuses for the things you would tell her. Or if you don't want to talk to him yourself. have a trusted adult check out the things you have been seeing and researching and then they can approach your father as if they saw it themselves when they came over your house and lets say for ex."researched something on your computer because theres broke down" But you have to trust the person completely.

Anyways.. good luck with this..
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im going to a camp in another state and my cousin is going to the same camp. (its a church camp) and i dont think my cousin likes me very much. i just move to this church so i dont know anyone but my cousin. i dont want to hang out with her cause she'll get mad! i dont know what to do.

You say you don't think your cousin likes you..? Maybe you should try talking to her about it. Or if you don't think its important enough to make a big deal out of it or if your scared she might take it the wrong way then just simply ask her if you can hang out while your at camp. if she says Sure in a non-mean way then relax and have a good time. But if shes mean about it then you'll definitely find some new friends. Camp is about making friends so i gurantee you that ;) Good luck...

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there is this girl that i love more than anything in the whole world, and i know we love each other. but she has a boyfriend that she cares bout. i dont like anybody else but her. but i figure if i wait too long i will be hurt even more. what the heck do i do

I understand how you feel. theres nothing worse then seeing somebody you love.. love someone else! it absolutely SUCKS! All i can say is let time go by.. but don't wait around for this girl. Shes playing you, keeping you on hold until shes ready for you. Try to find sumbody new so while shes with that guy your not miserable. And who knows maybe you'll find someone you like more and forget about the love u think that u have for her. But don't stop being friends. You can never have to many friends!:) Also,Have you told ehr completely how you feel. Maybe that will change her opinions on things and who knows maybe it will work out for the both of you. But i know u both will be happy in the end.

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okay..well theres this boy and its been like 2 months since he dumped me..and i just cant seem to get over him, i love him to death..and i miss him more then anything..but i wouldnt say that i was in love with him..but i guess we were pretty close..im trying my hardest to stop thinking about him..but its not all that easy..what should i do?

Of course its not easy! No break up is easy.. I understand completely how you feel though! Are you and the guy still friends? If so maybe you should stop the communication for a while so you have time to get over him. If your not on a talking basis then just focus on sumone new. I know you think its impossible now but it works! Or spend alot of time with your friends. Go shopping to the movies out to eat swimming to an amusement park and go with a huge group of your friends chances are you'll be talking and you won't even think about this guy! And if hes really on your mind alot then think about the things you didn't like about him. And if you have things of his (hats jackets etc.) pack them away or throw them away so your not reminded. And maybe who knows you'll find Mr.Right and that guy will want you back but you'll realize your better off without him

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wat does this mean:

Its a heart so im guessing it means love :)

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hey i havent had my period in may,june,and july. i THINK i had it in april im actually not sure.. im 14 years old and got my period in february of 2002. i know im not pregnant im not sexually active..

Okay well your 14 if you first got your period in 2002 you must have been 12. And according to doctors its normal for an irregular period up to the first 2-3 years you start your period. If you have basically been normal until then maybe you should talk to your doctor or ask your mother or another adult about the problem.

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how do you get stars next to your name??

you have to be rated think 5 times ;)

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Is 5'5 tall for a 16 almost 17 year old girl? I am worried that I am too tall...

Your not to tall. Im 14 and im 5'5" . If your worried about your height just stick to flip flops and sneakers. but if high heeled shoes are your things then stick to down hairstyles and not updos it maeks you look shorter. Just sum advice. But other than that I think your not to tall at all. your average.

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my bff just told me she was liking gurls. do I treat her different, or the same? help me.
signed
***/confuzzzed/***

You dont treat her different. Shes your best friend. She has the same personality no matter what. And besides , If your worried about her having feelings for you. Don't! The reason she prob. told you is because she trusts you enough to not get weirded out by it like sum of the other girls that she knows. Just give ehr support when she needs it. And always be the best friend you can be.


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im 5'5" and i weigh 140 pounds.. am I fat? and if so what ways do u know that are quick weight loss but still healthy for you. I would exercise. but its not quick. I could try cutting my portions but i can't!

YOUR NOT FAT! thats normal!!!!! and if you really want to lose weight just substitue snacks with water. Or sugarless gum! Everytime your hungary just put some gum in your mouth. And stop drinking soda. You'll lose 10 pounds a year if you take soda out of your diet. Also drink 8-10 glasses of water a day. Thats healthy for you!:)

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Well my really good friend doesnt like my new friends what should i do? she always talks bad about them.

Maybe your friend is jealous. Or maybe she doesn't like them for a reason. I know u have heard ehr reasons but have you actually ever HEARD her out. Really payed attention to why she doesn't like them. If shes your good friend you should trust her opinion more. And if its out of jealousy try spending a little more time with her. Just because you have new friends doesn't mean you should stop being friends (or drift away) with the old friends. I hope I helped..



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hey i like this guy but i dont think he likes me how can i find out?

Just talk to him. And be open. After you too are really close friends then you can share your feelings. Remember everything takes time so don't rush things. Start off by hanging out where he does and bring a friend along (one whos not interested in him ) And then casually start talking to him. After a while you'll exchange numbers and eventually become great friends. That should make it alot easier and more comforting to tell him you like him. And hopefully he feels the same way about you!

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im 13 years old and ever sence i was little ive known i was a lesbian. my parents would kill me if they found out they think its descusting even the thought and they dont know at all. but i really like this girl and i want to just run away with her and not worry what everyone keeps saying and comenting. is it so wrong to love someone so much but not be able to express it cuase of being ashamed or scared...it just really sucks! i hate it...what should i do? please HELP!

Your sexuality is your own person business. No one elses. If you choose to be a lesbian thats a choice you've made and you should NOT be ridiculed for it. Why don't you sit down your parents when there in a good mood and try to explain to them in a very adult manner that your attracted to girls. If they object or try to put you down in any way then go to a guidance counsler at school and see what they can do. Or if your not comfortable telling your parents yet. Talk to a counsler or a trusted adult or friends before you talk to your parents so they can support you and help you make all the right descions. I also suggest support groups. There are even some online that you can join. Being homosexual is NOT wrong. remember that!

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well my frend.. she likes my boii frend.. but she got uss toghether.. and now she wants to breakuss up!! and even tho my boiifrend sed that hell love me 4 ever and that he wont cut me cuz of her.. im still afraid what shood i do/?? 4give my frend.. or hate her for ever
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Xoo.HEL:P ME!!

Let me ask you something. Does your friend know how much you care for him? If she does then shes prob. not the greatest friend to have around. And if he says he cares about you then ::TRUST:: him. If he proves you wrong. Then hes not a guy that you want anyways. Friends are supposed to come before boyfriends.. Your friend needs to learn that! And if it all comes down to it where she makes you choose or trys accusing you of being a bad friend by not giving her what she wants so shes happy. Dump her. Shes not that great of a friend after all

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