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im 13 years old and ever sence i was little ive known i was a lesbian. my parents would kill me if they found out they think its descusting even the thought and they dont know at all. but i really like this girl and i want to just run away with her and not worry what everyone keeps saying and comenting. is it so wrong to love someone so much but not be able to express it cuase of being ashamed or scared...it just really sucks! i hate it...what should i do? please HELP!
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you shouldn't be afraid to tell ppl or show your feelingsz if you feel that strong about it. and your gonna have to expect ppl to tlk but thats life every body has been talked about. And for your parents they should love you how ever you are they are gonna have to face it some day soo.
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Hey hun. This is a subject I know all too well about. I am openly bisexual and I had the same problems growing up. I remember the first time I found a girl attractive I was about 8 years old. Of course at the time I didn't realize why she was so pretty to me. When I was 13 I had a school counselor tell me I was too young to be thinking that way. She didn't tell my mother and my mother didn't find out until almost a year ago. I grew up in church and was always taught that homosexuality was evil. And my mother always said she didn't agree with it. Now unfortunately she came across something I wrote online about bein bi. Needless to say she wasn't too thrilled at first. It took some time but she got used to it and now me and her even joke about it. Now what I think you need to do is tell your parents. They may not like it at first but they will have to get over it. You are their child. And I also don't recomend running away from it either. If you're not ready to tell your parents then wait till you're older and have thought about exactly what you want to say to them. A good website to go to that may help you out is www.glaad.org
Sorry for the long story but I wanted to show you that I was on the same boat.
Good Luck hun :)
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Don't run away with this girl at age 13. That's not the answer. I say tell your parents anyway. Who gives a damn what they say? I'm not big on homosexual relationships,but this is America. You can do what you want and if you like this girl,then don't be scared. Don't be ashamed,a lot of people in this country are gay,bi,lesbian whatever. Fuck what everybody says.
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Well if you are really scared to tell your parents..then just keep it a secret and tell them its your friend..and you 2 can have your lil fun..and when you get older go to some place and live a good life and tell them when you are older-trix
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well try to tell her i guess i am so not an expert at this srry
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U need to tell your parents. They will be mad but they wont kill u. And if they really love you they will try to understand. It might take them a while to warm up to the fact but one day they will understand that that is who u r.If they do hurt u, u can talk to sumone.
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hey! well tell your parents! but break it too them easily, they are probally going to find out one day. so i guess the earlier the better, the earlier they get used to the truth and can accept it, but get the timeing rite!. itz not wrong to love some one as much as you do, esp because you can't help who u fall in love with, but mayb u shouldn't run away with her. esp @ this age. if u truly think u love her, make sure she is also into u tho u don't want her to get freaked. be proud of who u are, and don't let others get to u!!!
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well your stil really young so i wouldnt suggest running away at this age(and running from your problems doesnt help anything) just tell your parents how you feel and why you feel that way. Dont be shy at all!!! just because your not like every other girl in this world doesnt mean thats a bad thing!
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If I were You I wouldn't care what other ppl think. Cuz this is what u want, and this isn't there problem. And about the running part, prolly wouldn't be the best idea, but it might if you have alot of money, so u cna go places. I hope I helped<Sarah> Don't forget to rate me
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Well you shouldnt really care whatother people think. This is how you are. As for your parents its time to be honest. You are what you are and they have to live with it because you cant change and shouldnt because you might not fit in or people dont like you. And if anyone judges you by your sexuality then they dont see the real you. Maybe a suport group will help you through this. Good Luck!
-Jacky
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Dont run away with her your so young right now. If you love her you should care what other people think. I know the things might be hurtfull that they say but you are always going to meet people that are hurtfull not matter if your bisexual lesbian or even straight. There are so many rude people out there that are always going to have a problem with you even if they dont know. You just got to keep your head up. And i know your parents say its sick now about people being lesbian, but I think at first they might be disapointed if you told them but sooner or later they are going to have to over come that and accept you for who you are. I think its best to tell them sooner or later. Follow your heart and do what you think is best. Just be careful whatever you do and keep your head up! Good luck
-holly-
Hope i helped
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Hey. Don't worry, i'm bisexual. If my parents found out, they'd be shocked at first too. But they're not homophobic. But anyways, I don't think it's wrong to love someone so much but not ever be able to express it. Don't feel ashamed. The best thing to do is tell this girl that you like that you are lesbian..see how she reacts. If she reacts just fine and doesn't mind it, then you should tell her how you feel about her. She'll understand.
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You need to tell them sometime or another, so sit them down and tell them (try to do it when there in a good mood). Your there kid and they will/should love you for ever! They proballly will get upset so be ready for it! Hope it workds out!
--Julie
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I think it is fine to be a lesbian. If thats who you are than thats who you are. If you really feel this stronly about this girl than i say you go out w/ her and not tell yur parents :X and if in some way they find out tell them its a free country and you can't help what you feel and there is nothing wrong w/ liking someone of the same sex. They should understand..
i hope i helped
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Your sexuality is your own person business. No one elses. If you choose to be a lesbian thats a choice you've made and you should NOT be ridiculed for it. Why don't you sit down your parents when there in a good mood and try to explain to them in a very adult manner that your attracted to girls. If they object or try to put you down in any way then go to a guidance counsler at school and see what they can do. Or if your not comfortable telling your parents yet. Talk to a counsler or a trusted adult or friends before you talk to your parents so they can support you and help you make all the right descions. I also suggest support groups. There are even some online that you can join. Being homosexual is NOT wrong. remember that!
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