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My father is cheating on my mother?
I feel that my father is cheating on my mother. There are some obvious signs, and I'm not sure on whether or not I should confront him about it. (I'm thirteen.)
1) There have been small pieces of paper in front of the family computer with porno sites on them.
2) I have seen porno links on the computer's history.
3) At strange times of the day, his 'work' cellphone rings, and on the phone's interface it reads 'private call.'
4) I went onto the computer one day, seeing that a Singles website was completely filled out with my father's information.
My feelings are mixed--it could all just be a coincidence, and if it isn't, should I confront him about it or would I just be getting in the way? Please help me guys.
xoxoxox,
Constantly Confused
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yu shuld confront him fo sho... becuz wha if it turns out to be tru ya kno.. how wuld it be on yu`r mom... nd im sure yu love ur rents buh i mean yu wuldnt want yu`r friend to be wid sum1 if that person was cheatin on them... ya feel me? jus ask him about it... dont jump down his throat.. jus be liek dad i need to tlk to about suttin ive had on my mind...
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Hey there. You should do what I did when I was faced with a simalar situation. Tell your mom. When you keep it to yourself it causes a lot of emotional, mental and physical stress. But yeah, talk to your mom about it. She probley is suspecting the same thing. But remember, your dad might not be having an affair. It seems to me that he might be thinking about having one ... but yeah ... still, talk to your mom about it. Confronting your dad about it might be awekard. Hope I helped. Hope everything works out for the best!
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u should confront him and tell him wat u think...and if he denies then find out more info.
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You should talk to him about it and ask him about all the things that you saw.. If he dosn't say anything confront ur mom about it and tell her.
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aww...I feel for you sweatheart. Well these signs are pointing in the wrong direction. It looks like something might be up. You have a few options
1. You can either confront him, explain how you feel, and ask for an explanation
2. You can ignore it (personally i wouldnt chose this
3. You can sit your mom and dad down and talk about it
4. You can tell your mom..and let the rest happen.
I dont think this is good..i think you should talk with your mom and dad. Maybe they can go for marriage counseling (its ok my parents went and it worked good!)
Its up to you...good luck dear
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I definitely think you should confront him if you're so worried. It doesn't hurt to share your feelings. Just let him know what you found. Also, just to let you know men sometimes are into porn. It's so hard I know but just let him know it's hurting you and you're afraid. I hope this helps and good luck!!
Crystal
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aww hun sounds really tough. The best thing is not to talk to your dad just yet. I would go to your mom first and tell her everything you've been seeing and make sure you have some proof (like visual proof) ... she might be the better one to confront and you ought to talk to her first. second this whole thing might be hard to deal with so you should definetly talk to like a psychiatrist or something just to get your feelings out, or try venting to a very TRUSTED friend and maybe things will sort themselves out. And if your really daring when the phone starts to ring (your dads work cell) pick it up and simply ask who it is and stuff. Your not doing anything wrong... if your dad does get really mad it just shows proof that you just found out some decent info.
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blue EyEs XoXo
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Don't do anything quite yet.You have to consider some things.
Are you sure you have all the facts right?
Could it be that your father is just a pervert and hes just looking at porn and not acting on anything?
Could the private calls have something to do with work?
About the singles website.. im not quite sure for an explanation for that. It is your fathers fault that the porno things got caught. I mean, he shouldn't be that irresponsible. I do think you should have a talk with him and bring along a trusted adult that you have already tlaked to about this , thats not your mother. And i know you may feel like yuor betraying your father if you tell your mother ,but make sure you don't get your father angry or defensive when you talk to him .. if he is cheating.. that way he won't lie to your mom and make up excuses for the things you would tell her. Or if you don't want to talk to him yourself. have a trusted adult check out the things you have been seeing and researching and then they can approach your father as if they saw it themselves when they came over your house and lets say for ex."researched something on your computer because theres broke down" But you have to trust the person completely.
Anyways.. good luck with this..
and if you need anymore advice you know where to find me
You can leave one in my inbox or im me oSoInLoveWithYOU
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I would just tell your mom first before you confront him about it otherwize you and your dad would probably not have much of a talk again-trix
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wow thats tough! but what i think you should do is tell your mom...but make sure she doesnt tell your dad that u told her...tell her to tell him that she found the signs. and tell her what you told me about how you think that he is but it might b a coincidence then tell her your reasons for thinking hes cheating on her. one thing make sure your dads not home when you tell her so he doesnt over hear it! xox Emily
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Hey, You're in a really tough situation, I'm sorry to say. The porno thing is normal, though. There are (sadly) alot of guys that find joy in looking at it. And the private call could've been a prankster or something. As for the singles thing then that's really suspicious. If you're really sure then confront him, but if he denies then just tell your mom. I hope everything works out and I hope I helped. ~*~KaLi~*~
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I don't know you and your family but I can tell you what I would do in your situation:
A. I would confront my dad and get him to explain to me what is going on,
-if he:
1. admits to cheating on my mother i'd tell him to tell my mother and work it out between them. if he refused to tell my mother i'd tell my mother and let it go from there.
2. if he refuses to talk to me and explain and i felt pretty confident about my suspicions(which i would if i saw all the things u listed) i would tell my mom.
But remember things are not always what they seem definiatly give your dad a chance to explain. Good Luck.
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Hey girl! Sounds like you're having it a bit rough right now. Ok, if you REALLY think that he could be cheating, you have three options.
1. Ask him about it
2. Tell your mom what you think and what you've seen
3. Don't do anything about it and leave it alone.
All 3 are very good options, but i think if i had to do it then i would choose option two, and tell mom. she might be a bit more understanding, and she would be able to find more out about it than you might be able to. hope this helped at least a little.
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Constantly Confused,
I would confront your mother and tell her what you have found, then she can confront him or tell you if you should..
XOXO
Haleigh Ann
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Well,that all doesn't necessarily mean that your father is cheating on your mom.People(both men and women) of all ages,races,shapes and sizes look at porno websites every day!How else do you think they got so popular? ;) Sometimes phone calls can read out 'Private' if the person has a private or unlisted number.I have several friends who call me and their numbers read out 'Private' on my cell phone.As for the singles site,that could all be totally innocent.I remember one night my dad jokingly filled one of those out,with my mom standing right there with him,just for a laugh!My parents have been happily married for 31 years.So it could be nothing.Your parents may have also hit a rough patch in their marriage,which is not uncommon at all,and isn't cause for alarm right away.If I were you I wouldn't confront either of them.If you suddenly see more frequent and more serious issues(like screaming matches,avoiding each other,sleeping seperately when they don't normally,etc.) going on with your parents,maybe then ask one of them if something is wrong.Until then,take a deep breath,relax,and just see what happens!Best of luck suga!!If you need anything else,feel free to write me!!
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