Hi I'm Jeannie.I would love to help you with any questions you may have, so feel free to ask, no question I would ever consider stupid or embarassing so don't worry. Also, I am a college student, and I have been through a few things, so if you would like my opinion just ask, if not then please specify. And remember that you are beautiful no matter what you feel or what you are going through. :)
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i really wanna give this guy a bj and even have sex with him but i just cant get myself around to do it. like the fact just scares me n hes asked me to do it a few times n he sed he'd eat me out too which i wanna do. i want to but im too scared to. how do i cure my scaredness? (link)
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honestly if you are scared and want to cure it is because you are not ready. And thats okay, its fine. You should never do something b/c you feel you have to or are being forced. If you are scared wait until you truly feel safe and unafraid. Tell him you just aren't ready yet, and leave it at that.
Sorry if this sin't what you wanted to hear, but if it just scares you then just take some time to figure it out. No worries.
Good luck! :)
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Alright well Im 15 and I drink and smoke. Well I have had sex with 12 people already. A few of them I really liked and most of them I was drunk. And I know thats not an excuse. But Ive been fucked over so many times by guys. Like I dont have any emotions anymore. But I can like name all of tthe people I did have sex with. But I still feel like im a slut and I dont want to be a slut or feel like one. Most of the time when im in a relationship I feel like I have to have sex with them. Or they keep bugging/begging me and I cave in sometimes. So Idk what to do. (link)
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Truthfully actions speak louder then words. From what you are saying you really are coming off as a slut. I'm sorry I know that sounds really mean, but on the plus side I can help you fix this.
Okay, first and foremost you do not have to have sex with anyone whether you are in a relationship or not. That being said if you want to stop then tell the next person you are with, that you are done. You are done trashing your repuation and hurting yourself.
Honestly, you are headed down such a dangerous, destructive path, and for you to get back on the right one, please stop having sex until you are totally ready for it and want it.
And please get yourself away from smoking and drinking. This is causing you behavior to become incredibly destructive. I know that may not be what you want to hear but you need to. The reason you have no emotion is because you are losing who you are by being something your not. I know you can do better then being a slut, drinking and smoking, I don't even have to meet you to tell you that one.
So my advice: look for ways to build yourself up, always think something positive about yourself. And please seek counseling about the drinking and smoking, if you are not able to stop cold turkey. B/c honestly when you quit that, I belive you will be able to stand on your own 2 feet. And next time you think your a slut, remind yourself that that was the old you and you can change it, use a brand new day to make a fresh start.
I believe in you, have faith in yourself b/c honestly, you are so much better then this, and the sooner you see it, the better.
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Im a freshman in college and my boyfriend is a junior in high school. should we be together?? (link)
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Age shouldn't be the issue, if you honestly care/love/like eachother then who's to say it won't work? I think its worth a shot, go for it and try it, cause youll always regret it if you don't.
Good luck :)
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okay i met this guy he looks quiet,shy and cute he's one of my class i didn't notice him before and now i do, and i started saying hi to him, but the thing is he seems really shy and he never said hi to me first like i have to do it first one time i was looking at him and he was looking back but he didn't say hi he just looked back and i was the one who waved at him and said hi, and then if i dint talk to him, he wont talk to me, but he looks at me sometimes and i said hi to him again the next day and he was laughing/smiling but he never ever talks to me at first. I saw him today after school and he saw me but he didn't talk to me or said hi to me is he just shy or just uninterested? what should i do? (link)
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Honestly he seems really shy and it may be that he really doesn't know you. He probably just knows your in his class, you say hi to him and thats about it. Next time ask him how he likes the class? something like that, start with small conversation and work your way up. Its hard to be super friendly to someone you don't know. So get to know him.
Then give me an update and I'll letcha know if i think he's into you, cause honestly its too early to tell.
Good luck :)
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This kid and I have been friends for a while and recently the subject of hooking up was brought into the conversation. He really wants to hook up but I don't know about it. I kind of do too, but I'm kind of nervous.
What would you do in this situation?
Thanksss. (link)
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Honestly you should never do something that you aren't totally comfortable with. If you are having second thoughts it means you really aren't ready, and there is nothing wrong with that. You should really tell him that you are nervous about it, maybe you should take sometime to figure out exactly what you feel and want.
Best of luck to you, and from just so you know, if you do something before you are ready it will just lead to regret. I've seen it happen. Good luck! :)
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My brother is 18 years old and works at the same place as i do. (I'm 16). Long story, very short, he and his friends easily steal money. My bosses have no clue, have no cameras, and are not very on the ball. I'm talking grand theft. He's stolen approximately 5,000 dollars I'd say. It's extremely horrible. I've SEEN him steal some money, and I've heard from a couple of his friends that he confides in tell me that he does this. My brother is basically a straight A, seemingly nice kid, and my parents are too stupid to piece together that he's a thief. He bought half of a 15, 000 dollar car, and my parents thought nothing of it. They were pleased with his "savings and hard work ethic". I work the same damn job as he does and I've saved up maybe 1500 dollars, if that. My grandma asked me how he got such a nice car, and I was THIS close from telling her about everything. I don't know what to do. (link)
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I agree with the other person that answered. You really need to talk to your brother. I know this i sa touchy subject, but its likely that he needs help and maybe by you coming by and talking to him, you can pull him out of this so called "rut" Also, you said he's a nice kid with straight A's. It is apossiblity that he just got mixed int he with the wrong crowd and can really use your help.
You really should start by telling him you love him and that you are here for him, and then confront him with the problem, tell him you know everything and you are their to help. It means more when your in trouble to have someone on your side that understands. Just follow your heart, and help your brother, he's on a bad path, but with your advice, love and support you can help him get out of it.
Best of luck to you, let me know how it goes :)
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ANYONE WHO ANSWER'S WILL RECIEVE A 5 because i thank you for reading my long situation!
im 18 years old and a female.
i have or USE to have a male best friend, whose now almost 17. we hung out alot and i secretly liked him but never told him and i think he secretly liked me too but then he got a girlfriend about three years ago and there STILL going out, without ever breaking up and they RARELY ever fight and are together pretty much 24/7 when either one doesnt have sports. recently or starting about a year ago, i go without seeing or talking to him months at a time. it kills me, but i feel like i shouldn't text him because if he missed me too he would text me right? keep in mind a few months ago he tried getting with me and i really wanted to do stuff with him, but i said i couldn't because it was so wrong but he's not like a player at all which shocked me. last time i saw him we were talking and he was like what happened to us? i was just like alot i guess..and he's like we're not like we use to be and i was like i know..and he was like i was always the one texting you asking what you were doing and i just smiled and he was like you know its true and i knew it was but i really dont see the point in texting him when he's always with his girlfriend... then my cousins and him we're gonna go back to their house and he was like i'll give you a piggy back ride :) then i was leaving my cousins and i see him outside his house waiting for me so i roll down my window and i was like.. what? and he gave me a hug and i was like i missed you... and then we just talked for like 20 min. and sometimes there were awkward silences and he just looked at me and smiled and i was like what are you thinking about...and he was like just random stuff :) and i was like, like what? and he just said ahh nothing. that night he looked at me like he wanted to kiss me and keep in mind we havent done ANYTHING physical, not even kiss. i havent talked to him since that and it's been about a month and i miss him SO much. but my friends feel it's best if i dont text him and try to keep my distance but he was my best friend... i dont want him out of my life forever but i still love him and wish every single night he could be mine. everyone in my family loves hiim and my friends do too and they're all like when is he going to break up with him girlfriend and go out with you? and i always say i dont know..never :(
i dont know what to do, i think about him 24/7 and its not an exaggeration. i think he knows im attracted to him and like him but he doesnt do anything about it. i dont think he would ever break up with his girlfriend because he's scared and also cuz she "gives it up" to him. any suggestions? i've tried moving on to other guys but NONE compare to him. they're nothing like him and i can't move on, i just cant.
ALSO, this was his first girlfriend and her first boyfriend. so there "first love's" which makes it worse. they both lost there virginity to each other too. and there both like the most popular kids in school. all the girls think's he's hot and all the boy's think's she's hot. and they go to the same school but i go to a different school....
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wow this is pretty hard. I think you should still text him, theres really nothing wrong with that, but honestly don't hold your breath either. I know that may not be what you want to hear, but if its meant to be, it will happen. Until then you can either move on, which is ridiculously hard, trust me, been there before,who hasn't? Or you can tell him you like him. Next time your with him, if he looks at you like that again, maybe you should just tell him, b/c when you didn't before, you regret it now, and if you don't tell him now youll regret it forever. Also don't keep mentioning his g/f when your with him, b/c it sounds like you don't like him like that even though you do. Sorry if this is confusing. I think you really should just follow your heart, like if the oopportunity presents itself, you should be totally be honest with him, about liking him and everything.
Good luck! sorry if this made no sense :)
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i play volleyball and i have been for a long time. like 8 years. I'm on my schools varsity team and its my first year on it. I also play on an elite junior olympic team. so basically i can just say i play the sport all year round. I only get about a month off of it. so my question is... i'm not sure if i want to keep playing the sport. I mean i love the sport and i always will. its just that i never look forward to practices, and sometimes i even cry after practices or games. Since i'm new on my high school team i dont get any playing time but i know for sure that next year i will be a starter until i'm a senior. I've already decided that when i go to college i dont want to play volleyball then. but I'm not sure if i should quit now. because sometimes i love it, but sometimes i don't. and my mom has always said that if i don't enjoy something then whats the point of doing it. and honestly, sometimes it feels like a HUGE waste of time and instead i could be doing something better. so i need help on deciding what to do now. maybe i just need a break because i have been playing for so long. but i'm not sure.... help!! (link)
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To tell you the truth I was in this position with acting. I have been acting since I was six. I am a Theatre Arts Major at my highschool and a senior. Last year, my junior year I dropped acting the first semester because I was like this is a huge waste of time, I'm sick of it. blah blah blah. Needless to say I am back into acting. You know what brought me back? The fact that I could try out so many different subjects but nothing compared to standing onstage delivering a momlogue and the final applause at the end. All I am saying is, is that if you love something, its okay to take a break from it and see if you still really love it. I love acting and I honestly cannot imagine my life without it.
The best advice I can give you is to follow your heart :) You need to find what you love to do, what honestly makes you happy, then go for it, b/c until then, youll just feel frustrated and confused. I've been there, I lived it.
Good luck!! :)
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It's taken me a long time to admit to myself that I have low self esteem and am uncomfortable in my own skin. In most social situations I worry about what I say, how I stand, how I should act, and even how to look at people. It isn't a good feeling because I feel like it's destroyed my understanding of who I am. I know what like, what my hobbies are, and what I want to get out of life, but I just feel so confused about myself. I first started to notice this when I started to like a guy at school. I couldn't even maintain a steady conversation with him for very long and found myself questioning my actions. After that, I couldn't even sit normally. And now see how in denial I've been because I am always conscious of myself. And I take out my frustration on my parents and friends. I feel like I can change and when I do, I know I'll feel wonderful, because this has been going on for a long time now. I decided that I had to let go of liking this guy because I'm not ready to pursue someone if I don't even have a clue about myself. If anyone has any ideas or experiences with self esteem, I would appreciate you help so much. Because wow, I really need help.
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Well I applaud you for realzing that you have aproblem and need help. Yes, I have gone thorugh this myself. I was just talking about this today actually to a friend of mine.
I would constantly judge myself in the light of everyone else, you can not do that. It is okay to look at people and want to be like them its called admiring them. And it is even okay to be insecure at times, everyone is. But if you are like this all the time then something is wrong. I don't know how old you are, but age does contribute a little to the insecurity, for instance, in highschool you have so many different cliques and its okay to feel lost like what group do you fit in and stuff like that. I think the reason you are so uncomfortable in your own skin is b/c you don't know who you are yet. I don't fully know who I am but I am finally comfortable in my skin, you want to know how I became like that. Its easy, I started focusing on the stuff I like to do like acting and singing and piano, and I made everything my own, thats were secruirty starts is originality. You have to be an individual. Okay so when you are talking to someone don't focus on how should I look at them, stand, talk back, just LISTEN to what they are saying, take a deep breath and answer them. I get nervous too at the times, its life its reality. But you should not be constantly judging yourself, b/c you are beautiful. I don't even have to see what you look like, because everyone is beautiful in their own way. I think another to get over this, so you don't lose it with your parents and friends is to talk about with them. Maybe they can point out all your good qualtites and get you away from the bad and negativity. Also, when you wake up in the morning say at least 3 good positive things about yourself, and I guarantee you, that youll get over this self esteem thing.
Best of luck! No more negativity, be happy!!! :)
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Ok I totally need some advice fast. Tomorrow I've been invited by my friend and few others to hang out after school. First of all I never had any REAL TRUE friends before so this kind of thing makes me happy to see that I'm finally hanging out with some people who accept me. Anyways my mom said I can't because she doesn't know them and I'm 16. I'm like WTF? All we are gonna do is hang out near a pond (I'm assuming it must be some kind of park) and do random stuff like play yugioh (yes major LOL). I am totally pissed right now. I don't know why, they are my friends, I know how they are but my mom is like everyone has a bad side. I don't want to believe that, they are my friends! Plus I really think this is a good way for me to get out more. A while ago after my check-up with the doctor, she said that I'm prone to diabetes. I can avoid that if I go out more which I'm hoping to do tomorrow with my friends. So should I go with them anyways or maybe stay pissed and just head home? (link)
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You may not like my answer, but talk to your mom. Don't give an attitude and yell and scream, b/c then your acting immature. Talk to her on an adult level, explain exactly what you said in your question, how they are your real friends, and how you need to go out more b/c your prone to diabetes. Take it from me, the whole whining thing doesn't work, b/c your mom will never take you seriously, but if you are paitent and try to understand things from her point of view, her answer just might surprise you. Don't disobey, and don't waste time being pissed, life is way to short b/c every minute you waste sad or angry is one minute of happiness you can never get back. Think about it.
Best of luck, keep me posted :)
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16/f, almost17/m. ok well itll be a year for my bf on oct. 20. and i have noo idea what to get him. were both really into art & music, but he already has every art supply under the sun =) so anyways, then his birthday is 5 days later. and i dont know what to get for THAT, either. i have $75 for both =( and tons of creative and artistic talent. i dont have a computer to make anything on, either. all ideas appriciated =)) thanks!! (link)
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Since you both are really into art and music, I think you should paint a picture of you and him together in the middle, and draw and paint stuff that means something to the both of you on the borders. Like if you have a song, put the title above you guys, and put hearts and treble clefs along the side. Money doesn't by everything, so I would put your heart into it, I'm sure he'd want something homemade any way. Congratualtions on your one year!
As for his birthday: maybe if you treat him to dinner or cook for him. Guys like that. Just have fun, b/c you guys obvisouly care alot about each other, I'm sure hell appreciate the feeling and everything.
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My friend just played me some of the new Metallica on iTunes, and one song really, really bothered me, and I don't know if I might have misheard the lyrics, or misunderstood what the song was trying to say. Is the song Cyanide (track #6) advocating suicide? If so that is really, really, really irresponsible and it makes me really angry to see any musical artist do such a thing! (link)
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These are the lyrics:
Sleep, and dream of this
Death angel's kiss
Brings final bliss
Come believe me!
Empty they say
Death, won't you let me stay?
Empty they say
Death, won't you call your name?
Oh, call your name!
Suicide, I've already died
You're just the funeral I've been waiting for
Cyanide, living dead inside
Break this empty shell forevermore
Wait, wait patiently
Your death-black wings
Unfolding sleep
Spreading on me
Empty they say
Death, won't you let me stay?
Empty they say
Death, hear me call your name
Oh, call your name!
Suicide, I've already died
You're just the funeral I've been waiting for
Cyanide, living dead inside
Break this empty shell forevermore
Say, is that rain or are they tears?
That stained your concrete face for years
Crying, weeping, shedding strife
Year after year, life after life
A narrow freshly broken ground
A concrete angel laid right down
Upon the grave which swallows fast
It's peace at last
Oh, peace at last
Empty they say
Death, won't you let me stay?
Empty they say
Death, hear me call your name
Oh, call your name
Suicide, I've already died
You're just the funeral I've been waiting for
Cyanide, living dead inside
Break this empty shell forevermore
Forevermore!
Forevermore!
It's the funeral I've been waiting for
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It sounds to me like he's talking about being dead inside, and suicide is just the funeral, its not really killing him, b/c he was already dead to begin with.
I'm not totally sure, but thats what it sounds like to me.
Best of luck, I would hope he's not promoting suicide, thats no good.
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hey,
can anyone give m some links to some good websites that can help me with pre-caculus?
need tons of help.
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hey I'm in precalc too, its so confusing!!
Here are some sites:
1.) mathforum.org
2.)wade.org
3.)ehow.com
4.)sylvanlearning.com
5.)tutorandmentor.com
6.)tutorzilla.com
Good luck!
let me know if you need more websites :)
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okay so i've never kissed a guy. i've been waiting for the right person. except, i think i found him and i don't know how i would kiss/makeout with him. i'm totally lost. any tips? (link)
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I was actually in this same position a couple months ago. I dated a couple guys, and the guy I didn't expect actually kissed me. I had no idea what I was doing either, but the best advice I can give you is, to follow your heart. When the time and moment is right, you honestly will know it. I promise, it will fall into place. You'll just feel it. And you can talk to the guy you feel is right, talk to the guy you think is right, when the moment you feel is right, tell him about how you feel about not being kissed most guys like that, I've actually met a couple. Trust your gut :)
I can write you a 354 page manual on tips, but in the moment, you honestly won't remember any of it. YOu have to trust your heart, and know that yes you will make mistakes, and that you will learn from them. We all do :)
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I just found out a week ago that a lot of my friends are sexually active. And I'm not, like at all.
I don't want to just find a random guy and do sexual things with him, but the way my friends talk about it...they kinda tell me in a condescending way. Like "Oh yes, I did this...and oh there's little Jane over there, still innocent." They aren't being mean or anything and they don't mean to say it like that I don't think, but it's just sort of shocking.
I guess that I always thought that I'd kinda be the first or something. Or that I'd at least get somewhere. I don't really want to be sexually active unless it's with someone really really special that I'm really really committed to. Like we are talking major commitment. My friends who are sexually active have boyfriends that they've been dating for years.
I guess I sort of just feel like a loser because I haven't gone very far. And I know that I shouldn't, but now knowing that my friends have makes me feel like I'm left out of something and too stupid to do any of it. I just thought that it was okay not to be sexually active because that was the normal thing, but now that the majority of my friends are, I just feel weird and prude. But then there's another part of me that now feels like stuff like that is automatically expected in a relationship at our age and I'm not sure if I'd be ready for that if I ever have another boyfriend. I don't want to make a stupid mistake OR feel like I HAVE to make a stupid mistake.
I know that you shouldn't have sex just because everyone else is doing it. I'm just confused and I can't talk to my mom about this because that would betray my friends.
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You are absolutely right you shouldn't be having sex just because everyone else is doing it.
I understand how you feel, because a majority of my friends are all sexually active. I'm not. So yes I understand what it feels like to feel like aloser or inexperienced, but good for you, you are the type of person that will get the best guy out there, b/c you are waiting, you're the type that he wants to take home to meet his mom. I'm that type too, so I know what it feels like to feel kinda outcasted, like the world is going on w/o you and you're not sure if you even fit in this era or generation. That's how I feel, but look at it this way, you can go out any night and be just like them but they can never again be just like you.
Also, I have watched my friends jump into sex, and some later regret it. Sex is also an emotional thing, if you aren't ready, you will regret it. See I'm choosing to wait til I'm married, b/c then I have the whole commitment thing and I'll be with the guy that I truely love. It may not seem like it now, but you are on the right path by waiting, don't just throw it in to be a part of the group, be an individual, stand by what you believe in, youll go a lot further in life that way.
Most guys do want just sex, but not all of them. If you meet that guy that is willing to wait, be grateful, b/c guys like that are hard to find.
Good luck, and stay true to yourself and beliefs.
And with this day and age, people have sex like theyuse the bathroom, its second nature to them, it dosen't mean you have to be like that. Hollywood, really puts that into peoples minds, that morals are degrading when its not. It's important.
Be who you are and follow your heart, don't change yourself for other people, b/c then you will lose yourself, and it takes a while to get it back.
Hope I made at least some sense, best of luck to you,
:)
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186 pounds, 5'8". I'm not obese, but I'm very overweight. What's the fastest, healthiest way to lose weight? PLEASE! (link)
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Let's see the healthiest, fastest way to lose weight is really to start eating healthier. Like if you are one of those people who likes junk food,(like the rest of us), well next time you go to eat potato chips, have a peice of cheese, or some kind of fruit, it may not exactly fill the potato chip void, but it will get you into a healthy eating pattern. Oh yea, eat salads everynight at dinner, and do not eat anything within an hour and a half before you go to bed, that screws up your metabolism.
While eating healthy, you also need plenty of exercise, you can either join a gym and go 4-5 days a week, or exercise at your home, whether that be swimming laps, or jogging, or taking a walk about a mile a day until you can walk further faster.
If you are consious of what you are eating and try your best to correct it and make it healthy, you will start to become healthier, and you will lose the unnecessary lbs.
Best of luck to you :)
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I said some things that i wish that i could take back right now but I can't and I just feel like my life isn't going to get any better right now. What do i do from here? (link)
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Ralph Waldo Emerson once said "Regrets are wasted unless you can correct the wrong or alleviate the pain."
I wish you had been a little more specific in your question, but thats alright.
What you can do since you realize you said things you didn't mean, you need to own up to it. It's like when your watching people make mistakes and they constantly blame it on other people, don't do that because that does make it worse.
Notice that you said some things, and apologize, do whatever it takes to make it right. Sometimes apologies aren't enough, if this is the case, actions speak louder than words, you have to show that you are truely sorry.
And yes your life will get better, but you have to take the initiative and make things better.
My guess, start off with an apology, it might go a long way. And you may not be able to take back what you said, but you absolutely can correct it from ever happening again, how? Learn from your mistake(s)
Best of luck! :)
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I am a 20 year old male, a full time student in college, and a successful, functioning heroin addict. Looking back now, It is hard to believe that I let myself get to this stage. I have always been a good student, my teachers would be shocked to learn whats really going on. In addition to my decent school career, I have a 3.4 gpa and am sending out applications in November, I also work part time. So I have been lucky in the fact that I haven't let my addiction turn me from my dreams to be successful, but I am still an Addict.
I have been using drugs ever since I broke my back on New year's Eve of 2006. It started with pain killers (Vicodin, Percosets, then Oxycotin), but before long it moved to black. I've been extremely successful at hiding my addiction from everyone that is close to me,(parents, friends, coworkers) but I do not want to continue to lie and steal from them. I have recently started talking to a therapist about this and have gotten medical help to quit using, they gave me Suboxone which has worked wonders for countering the withdrawl symptoms.
So I decided to quit using and was all amped up on getting clean, and after being straight for 2 weeks, I used the other day, then the next, and then the next. Now I am starting all over again from step one, and am now only 1 day clean!!!
My biggest fear in the entire world is that I will not overcome this and let myself fall back into my old ways.
After being clean for 2 weeks, it seemed harder to go about my day then it did the first week. It is extremely hard to get out of bed in the mornings, lately I've been blowing off school to just sit around in my room all day watching TV. It just feels like I am missing a part of me that only using can fill. I guess I feel that way because of how powerful opiates are and due to how long and hard I was using them for, it simply changed the biochemistry in my brain.
Has anyone here ever been through anything like this? And how were you able to do it while still keeping busy in the daily grind that is America?
I mean can I still get up at 7am every morning without taking a hit to get me through the day?
Please respond if you have anything to relate.
-Struggling
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Truthfully, I can't relate on the drug aspect, but I believe all of us have some kind of addiction or internal struggle we are either trying to run from or get over. I congratulate you for going to the therapist, admitting you have a problem is the first step in solving anything.
And being only one day clean, is not bad, you should be really excited, because it is a start. I personally have ocd and if i try anything once I can easily become addicted. I know its nasty but I have a problem with pulling my eyelashes out, I know its not as big as drugs, but it doesn't mean its not hard to quit or walk away. I know what you mean when you said you let yourself fall back, its kinda like where you are doing really well for a week or two months or whatever, but then the cycle starts all over again. YOu feel like you can't stop it. It so hard, because my self esteem is so low right now, I pulled myself down. I let myself go too far, please don't do that too. I am at the point, where I don't want to go to school, I feel worthless all the time, and I watch way too much tv. It is very bad, but like you I am a good student, but I have had years of internal struggles. I had something happen to me in middle school that I can not get over no matter how many therapists I've seen, how many nights I cried, or how many times I have told myself I am not worthless. Its at the point where I can't trust anyone around me, I stay to myself I can't let myself be with any guy that I like, yeah its pathetic.
I'm sorry, I just totally went on about myself, okay back to you, yes you are on a bad path, but you are recognizing the problem which means you can recover. What you need to do is fill the drug "void" with different activities that are not a hazard to your health. For instance when you are feeling like injecting go for a walk outside, or go meet a friend. Yes its hard, but when you break the habit, you will finally be clean. Start enriching your life with things you like to do, not things you think you need like drugs.
And one more thing, I dated this guy over the summer very briefly, and his step brother is battling drugs. Coccaine, Marijuana, Heroine, cigarettes, a lot of prebscription drugs too. I don't like what I watched him go through, you should have seen the stories he told, the pain in his face made me want to cry. His step bro, basically tore the family apart financially and physically, they have to hide everything b/c he comes back and steals and dropped out of highschool his sophmore year. I have never met you but I am asking you please find a way to stop, I have seen other's pain b/c of a someone's drug problem, I know the pain. You're better then this crap, I know you are. A 3.4 gpa, go out and follow your dreams, heroine isn't the hero, its pulling you back, get out there and kick this habit. You asked if you can get up at 7am every morn w/o taking a hit? Umm I would have to say definitley, you are your own person, you have to believe that you can stop that you are better then this. I know you can do it, so does your family. So yes you can do anything you want, you have the power to control your life. So go follow those dreams!
I hope I helped a little bit, sorry about the rambling, its what I do.
I hope you have the best life possible, and just so you know God did give us free will, I would say that you gives you the power to decide not to do drugs anymore. :)
All the best,
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Im 15/f if it helps....
when i was little my Dad moved far away and iv always had problems dealing with it but lately its been worse I havent been sleeping at all, all i ever wanna do is hide but this morning i signed onto Yahoo and there was a message from him that he will be having another kid in the spring, i dont know how to deal with it, he also says he might only have 6 years to left and i dont think i can handle this on my own i need help. (link)
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Hey there,
I am really sorry about what you are going through with your dad. I think the reason you are having trouble sleeping is because subconsiously you know that what you are going through is really hard, you miss him and the fact that he's missed a good sized portion of your childhood has left you hurt and maybe confused, that is completely understandable. I can see where you are unsure of how to handle his new child, but maybe this child is a blesing for you and him. Maybe this child is a way of reconnecting you to your father while he has six years left. Once again, I am sorry about that too, but listen to me, six years is not as long as it seems, I believe that you should try to settle things with him while you still can, because when that persons is gone, they are gone forever, and you can't bring them back. I know that may be harsh, I'm just trying to be realistic to get you to talk to your father, honestly, you have the rest of your life to be angry, hurt, mad, sad, but if you waste this time now, you may never get to fix things with him, and that leads to regret. Ralph Waldo Emerson once said, "regrets are wasted unless you can correct the wrong, or alleviate the pain" He has made the effort to email you its your turn, everyone needs a father, go and talk to him, never take the time you have here for granted because it goes by so fast. I lost someone that I cared so so much about, she's gone, and I never get to say any of the things that I left unsaid, please don't make the same mistakes I did. I'll never bring her back.
I hope everything works out for you and your father. You also might want to confide in your mom.
If you need anything else, I'm here :)
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my friend is 16 and pregnant and shes my best friend, and shes thinking about abortion but like its her fault and the fathers, that she got pregnant what can i say to her to make her listen to other options like ive tried to bring it up but she keeps saying she wouldnt feel guilty and all this stuff
what should i do or say? (link)
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Hi there, I am with you on the whole no abortion thing. I do believe personally that everyone has a chance to live. That being said, if you honestly feel in your heart that you do not want her to get an abortion, sometimes just saying it isn't enough. If you can't get through to her with words, show her statisitics of women who have problems after the abortion pyschologically.
If that doesn't work, show her pictures of babies being aborted, I know that is sick, yes it is, but just looking at them will make her see that after carrying a baby inside of her for nine months killing the baby is like killing a part of her.
Did you know that there was this one time an abortion doctor was in the process of giving an abortion, and just as he was putting the needle in, you get the picture, the baby actually took his hand and pushed the needle away. The doctor has been prolife since. So who's to say the baby doesn't want to live?
One final thing, sorry this is so long, I am trying to give you things to talk to her about, tell her to think of her favorite person in the world, that being said, tell her to imagine what if he or she had been aborted, you would never get to have jokes and laughs or feel anything with them, don't make this child miss out either. Also, making her look at her ultrasound might work too. You know what if the baby she has inside of her can find the cure for cancer? We don't know, and with abortion well never know.
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