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i havent seen him in atleast 6 yrs.
Im 15/f if it helps....
when i was little my Dad moved far away and iv always had problems dealing with it but lately its been worse I havent been sleeping at all, all i ever wanna do is hide but this morning i signed onto Yahoo and there was a message from him that he will be having another kid in the spring, i dont know how to deal with it, he also says he might only have 6 years to left and i dont think i can handle this on my own i need help.
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Hi there~
I'm very sorry for what you're going through and I understand the tough situation you're in now...the reason why you can't seem to fall asleep is mostly likely because your father isn't around you when you need him. We all want a father-figure in our lives who teaches us how to love, respect, how to be strong and be an individual. It's especially hard knowing that you're dad is going to have another kid soon. Jealousy can get the best of anyone especially when you think someone is going to replace you. It's not like that at all.
Maybe this new child is in a way a bridge to for you and your father to reunite once again. Think of it as a great thing that you're dad told you about having a new member coming along because when he sent you that e-mail, it shows that he still thinks of you always and he wants you to be also happy for the new arrival.
Knowing that someone will be leaving you soon is a heartbreaking thing to know. Six years, honestly, can pass by so fast. Take this time you have right now and use it to your advantage to communicate with your father and spend some quality time with him as much as you can. Keep in touch and let him know that you're always there for him no matter what, as he is to you.
The bond that you and your father share will always overcome any obstacles that life is going to give you.
I hope this was of some help! Always smile for him! I wish you luck =3
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Hey there,
I am really sorry about what you are going through with your dad. I think the reason you are having trouble sleeping is because subconsiously you know that what you are going through is really hard, you miss him and the fact that he's missed a good sized portion of your childhood has left you hurt and maybe confused, that is completely understandable. I can see where you are unsure of how to handle his new child, but maybe this child is a blesing for you and him. Maybe this child is a way of reconnecting you to your father while he has six years left. Once again, I am sorry about that too, but listen to me, six years is not as long as it seems, I believe that you should try to settle things with him while you still can, because when that persons is gone, they are gone forever, and you can't bring them back. I know that may be harsh, I'm just trying to be realistic to get you to talk to your father, honestly, you have the rest of your life to be angry, hurt, mad, sad, but if you waste this time now, you may never get to fix things with him, and that leads to regret. Ralph Waldo Emerson once said, "regrets are wasted unless you can correct the wrong, or alleviate the pain" He has made the effort to email you its your turn, everyone needs a father, go and talk to him, never take the time you have here for granted because it goes by so fast. I lost someone that I cared so so much about, she's gone, and I never get to say any of the things that I left unsaid, please don't make the same mistakes I did. I'll never bring her back.
I hope everything works out for you and your father. You also might want to confide in your mom.
If you need anything else, I'm here :)
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Hey there hunny okay ive bn through sumthing similar and if im being honest speaking to my dad after five years apart was at first nerve racking but then after the first couple times it was gr8. The thing thats probably keepin you awake is the fact that you r worried about hurting your mum if you c him again. I think what you need to do is speak it over with your mum and then you will feel better about this. The thing about the kid dnt look at it as a bad thing look at it as you will hav a new brother or sister. My dad had a baby wen I wasnt talking to him I missed out on those years with my siblings and it hurt like hell. Dont make the same mistake. But then again everyone is different if you dont think your ready then dont force yourself. Take it slowly even meet up once and see how it feels and after that u will know how you feel.
Hope I helped and that it all works out!!
Good Luck!!
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Hi,
because you can't sleep and you feel as if you want to hide all of the time, you are probably going through some type of anxiety about your dad. It's normal considering your situation. The fact that he's having another child probably has you feeling a little jealous and jaded since you didn't spend a good majority of your childhood with him, also normal.
I'm sorry to hear that he may not have much time left. YOu should try to mend your relationship with him. The fact that he reached out to you shows that he cares and is making the first move. Have you talked to him or anyone about the way you feel? What about your mom or a counselor? Maybe he doesn't know how his absence has affected you. You don't want to shut him out and later regret it. Give him a chance to explain his side of it. Maybe you can find a way to visit him so the two of you can spend some quality time together. I hope it works out for the two of you.
Good luck,
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