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Huge Problem
My brother is 18 years old and works at the same place as i do. (I'm 16). Long story, very short, he and his friends easily steal money. My bosses have no clue, have no cameras, and are not very on the ball. I'm talking grand theft. He's stolen approximately 5,000 dollars I'd say. It's extremely horrible. I've SEEN him steal some money, and I've heard from a couple of his friends that he confides in tell me that he does this. My brother is basically a straight A, seemingly nice kid, and my parents are too stupid to piece together that he's a thief. He bought half of a 15, 000 dollar car, and my parents thought nothing of it. They were pleased with his "savings and hard work ethic". I work the same damn job as he does and I've saved up maybe 1500 dollars, if that. My grandma asked me how he got such a nice car, and I was THIS close from telling her about everything. I don't know what to do.
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Unfortunately, I need to give you some advice that you will not want to hear but you need to hear me out.
I strongly recommend that you tell your boss and/or call the police. I know how horrible it sounds but believe me, it is the right thing to do. What your brother is doing is illegal and the only way he is going to truly learn what he is doing is not without consequence is to turn him in.
You can do this anonymously (leave your boss a note or don't give the police your name) if you don't want your brother to know it was you that did it (although you might want to tell your brother you knew he was doing it when it comes out).
The main thing you have to remember here is that it will teach him an invaluable lesson and there is a very good chance that being caught once will shock him out of ever doing it again. Turning him is not in this case an act of betrayal. Getting caught for this now means putting a stop to it before it gets even worse.
I really hope that this helps. Obviously, the ultimate choice is up to you but if you want to talk about it any more, please feel free to send me a message.
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This is a genuinely tough question.
I can't advise you on what to do except the first step.
Talk to him about it. Tell him that it makes you extremely uncomfortable that you have to know that he is stealing, the example he sets as a big brother. Tell him you've always looked up to him, and now you don't know what to think that he's just stealing from work because he can.
Beyond that...
If you have to tell someone, tell your parents. I say this because they have the best chance of altering his behavior. If nothing else, they might be able to force him to quit the job, removing the opportunity to steal. At his age he could be charged with enough in the way of crimes to ruin his life. He's putting his future on the line.
In your place, I would keep this a family matter as much as possible. Cops aren't going to help you with this, theyre just going to be happy you handed them a conviction, and they will drop as many charges on his head as they can, because thats how our criminal justice system works, it throws as much at you as it can, because they get money for convictions and such.
But yeah, I can't advise you to keep quiet. Its not your responsibility, even as family, to ignore your conscience for his sake. Talk to him first, ask him to stop, don't yell at him just try to get him to talk about it.
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you should of told your grandma that was your chance your bro will go to jail if anybody finds out and someone will find out eventually, stop this before he gets caught tell a family mamber that you can trust grandma,mother,sis, someone do not let this go on.good luck
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On one hand, if you do not want to rat out your brother, that is your choice and completely understandable. On the other, it is your duty as an employee to put this to an end.
Maybe you should consider talking to your brother about it first. Explain to him how it's morally and ethically wrong, and firmly tell him he should stop. I wouldn't say threaten him, but explain to him that if you see it happen again, you will be forced to tell your boss.
If talking with him does not help, you need to talk to your boss. If you do not want anyone to know that you told, but still feel SOMETHING needs to be done, tell your boss you want to tell him something anonymously. Then explain the situation. I am sure that him/her will understand why you want to keep your name out of it.
This is a serious problem that needs to be dealt with, no matter how you go about doing this, you need to do it. Your brother needs help, and you need to stop it before it becomes more serious.
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I agree with the other person that answered. You really need to talk to your brother. I know this i sa touchy subject, but its likely that he needs help and maybe by you coming by and talking to him, you can pull him out of this so called "rut" Also, you said he's a nice kid with straight A's. It is apossiblity that he just got mixed int he with the wrong crowd and can really use your help.
You really should start by telling him you love him and that you are here for him, and then confront him with the problem, tell him you know everything and you are their to help. It means more when your in trouble to have someone on your side that understands. Just follow your heart, and help your brother, he's on a bad path, but with your advice, love and support you can help him get out of it.
Best of luck to you, let me know how it goes :)
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Talk to your brother?
If he is otherwise a good kid, then he likely has developed a complusion that's gotten out of control.
Start your conversation out with the love you feel for him, tell him you haven't told anyone else and don't want too, but that you really scarred for him and need to understand what is going on.
He might deny it, and that is okay. The best thing you can probably do for him, as his little sister is A.) Tell him he isn't getting away with it without anyone noticing, you are noticing and B.) Tell him you love him and are terrified for him.
It's up to you if tell a parent or a boss. I know that can be a really hard descision to make. But I think you should talk to him. You never know, you might be the wake-up call he desperately needs.
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